Njengoko uNyaka oMtsha usondela, ngaba uzifumana ucinga izinto ezinje, "Andikwazanga ukwenza imali eninzi njengoko bendifuna...", "Ndizamile ukunciphisa umzimba ngeli xesha, kodwa andikwazanga...", "Andizange ndifumane ukunyuswa endandikufuna, ndizame ukufumana umsebenzi omtsha, kodwa akuzange kuphumelele...", "Andinakuze ndiphucuke..." Ngaba uzifumana uzibeka ityala ngokucinga izinto ezinje? Enyanisweni, ngelixa abanye abantu bejonge phambili ekwenzeni amatheko nokwenza izigqibo zoNyaka oMtsha njengoko unyaka usondela esiphelweni, abanye bajonga emva kunyaka odlulileyo baze bazisole ngezinto abangazange bakwazi ukuzifeza. Oku kuqhelekile kakhulu.
Ukuba sele unezinga elithile lokudakumba, ingakumbi ngeli xesha lonyaka, ukucinga ngonyaka ophelileyo ngale ndlela kunokwenza imeko yakho ibe mandundu. Ngoko ke namhlanje, masithethe ngesizathu sokuba sizibone sizigxeka kangaka njengoko uNyaka oMtsha usondela, kunye nendlela yokuyoyisa 'iingxaki zoNyaka oMtsha' nakweli xesha.
Kutheni sizigweba ngolu hlobo ekupheleni konyaka?
Ngamafutshane, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukujonga emva kunyaka ophelileyo size sicinge ngento esiyenzileyo. Ngokutsho kweengcali zengqondo, akumangalisi ukuba senza oku kule mihla. Khawucinge nje, nokuba uvula iTV, unomathotholo, okanye ungena kwi-intanethi, kukho iinkqubo ezifana ne-'Uhlolo Lonyaka' okanye "Iziganeko Zonyaka" kuyo yonke indawo. Ngoko ke xa abezindaba besikhumbuza ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokwenzekileyo unyaka wonke, sikwajonga emva ngokungazi kunyaka odlulileyo ebomini bethu.
Emva koko intetho "yezigqibo zoNyaka oMtsha" iqala. Xa sithetha ngezigqibo ezintsha, ngokungathandabuzekiyo sicinga ngeentsilelo zethu. Xa sicinga ngezinto ezinje "Ndifuna ukunciphisa umzimba," "Ndifuna ukunciphisa umsindo," "Ndifuna ukusebenza nzima," sigxila kubuthathaka bethu.
Ukongeza kuko konke oku, mhlawumbi ixesha lakho leeholide (njengoSuku lweZidenge zika-Aprili okanye iKrisimesi) belingonwabisi njengoko ubulindele. Abanye abantu bazibeka ityala ngaloo nto. Ukuba sele uxinezelekile okanye udandathekile, kunokwenzeka ukuba ugxile kwiintsilelo zakho kwaye ucinge ukuba uyasilela ngamaxesha anje, endaweni yokujonga impumelelo yakho.
Unxibelelwano phakathi komkhwa 'wokucinga' kunye nolu sizi
Ukuba uzifumana udandatheka ngakumbi ngokuhlala ucinga ngonyaka ophelileyo kwaye uzive ulusizi ngawo, usenokuba nomkhwa wengqondo obizwa ngokuba yi -'Rumination' .
Ngamafutshane, ukucingisisa sisenzo sokucinga ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngengxaki okanye isiganeko esinye, ukhathazeke ngaso, uze ubhajwe kumjikelo weengcinga ngaphandle kokufumana isisombululo. Kufana nenkomo ecinga into enye ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Uphando lufumanise ukuba lo mkhwa uxhaphake kakhulu phakathi kwabasetyhini kunamadoda.
Uphando ngabantu abanomkhwa 'wokucinga' lufumanise izinto ezifana nezi:
- Aba bantu badla ngokusebenzisa iindlela ezimbi xa bejongene neengxaki. Bayazigxeka ngokungeyomfuneko kwaye bacinge ngekamva ngendlela engafanelekanga.
- Ukucinga nzulu kunye nokudakumba kuyahamba kunye.
- Kubalulekile ukuqonda apho kufuneka uyeke khona lo mjikelo wokucinga. Wonke umntu ucinga into efanayo ukuya kwinqanaba elithile. Kodwa ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ukucinga ngale ndlela akusombululi nto, kwaye kukwenza uzive ulusizi nangakumbi, kodwa awunakuyiyeka, kulapho ingxaki ikhoyo.
- Ukudakumba kungayenza le meko 'yokucinga' ibe mandundu. Ukuba ubanjwa kolu mjikelo lweengcinga xa sele uziva ulusizi, uya kukhumbula kuphela izinto ezimbi kakhulu zengxaki.
Ukucinga nokudandatheka kufana nomxube onetyhefu. Enye iyondla enye. Le nkqubo idibene kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukufumanisa ukuba yeyiphi eqale kuqala.
Ndingaphuncula njani kulo mjikelezo weengcinga ezibuhlungu?
Ukuba uzifumana ubambeke kwezi ngcinga ekupheleni konyaka, nazi iingcebiso ezivela kwiingcali zokukunceda uphume kuloo meko.
| Icebo | Oko kufuneka ukwenze |
|---|---|
| Lungiselela kwangaphambili (Lindela) | Ukuba oku ukhe wakwenza ngaphambili, ungalindi de kube sekupheleni konyaka ukuze ukunciphise kulo nyaka, kodwa yenza isicwangciso kwangaphambili. Cinga, "Ngeli xesha andizukuvumela ezo ngcinga zindilawule." |
| Endaweni yokuthi "Kutheni ndim?" cinga "Kutheni oku kwenzeke?" | Xa kufika iingcinga ezibuhlungu, endaweni yokuhlala ucinga ngeentsilelo zakho, cinga nje ngesizathu sokuba izinto obungenakuzenza zenzeke ngendlela ezenzeka ngayo. Funda kuzo uze uqhubeke. Ukucinga, "Kutheni oku kusenzeka kum?" kuya kukwenza ube lusizi ngakumbi. |
| Tshintshela kwisenzo | Endaweni yokuba uzive ulusizi, zibuze: "Yeyiphi eyona nto incinci endinokuyenza ukutshintsha le meko?" Qala ukwenza ezo zinto zincinci. |
| Ziphazamise. | Xa uzifumana ukulo mjikelo weengcinga ezimbi, vuka uhambe, uye ejimini, okanye uthethe nomhlobo. Ufanele uqale uzive ungcono kwimizuzu eli-10 emva kokwenza umthambo. Kunzima ukucinga ngezinto ezibuhlungu nokuba ngumntu okhutheleyo ngaxeshanye. |
| Cacisa. | Ukuba uzibekela isigqibo soNyaka oMtsha, endaweni yokucinga kakhulu ngathi "Ndiza kuba ngumntu ongcono kulo nyaka," zibekele usukelo oluncinci nolucacileyo. Umzekelo: Endaweni yokuthi "Ndiza kuyeka ukukhwaza abantwana bam" okanye "Ndiza kunciphisa iikhilogram ezingama-20," cinga ngento encinci, enokwenzeka efana nokuthi "Ndiza kuzisa isiqhamo ekhaya ngomhla iofisi eza kukhupha ngawo iidonathi." |
| Cinga ngokutsha ngolindelo | Jonga ukuba ulindelo lwakho luyinyani na. Ukuba alunakwenzeka, akuthethi ukuba ufanele unikezele kwinjongo. Endaweni yoko, yahlula loo njongo inkulu ibe ngamanyathelo amancinci. Emva koko unokulufezekisa lula ngakumbi. |
Ukuba, nangona ulandela la macebiso, usenengxaki yokulawula ezi mvakalelo zibuhlungu, musa ukubandezeleka wedwa kwaye ukhathazeke ngayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubona ugqirha wosapho lwakho uze uthethe ngale nto. Uyakwazi ukuyiqonda imeko yakho, kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko, akuthumele kugqirha wengqondo okanye kumcebisi. Khumbula, njengokuba simbona ugqirha xa sigula emzimbeni, akuphosakelanga ukufuna uncedo lweengcali xa siziva sidakumbile.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Njengoko uNyaka oMtsha usondela, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukucinga ngonyaka ophelileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuhlala ucinga ngaloo nto uze uzibeke ityala akulunganga.
- 'Ukucinga ngokugqithisileyo' ngumkhwa ongengowampilo engqondweni wokuhlala ucinga ngengxaki enye ngaphandle kwesisombululo uze uzive ulusizi. Chonga oku uze uzame ukukususa.
- Iindlela ezimbini ezilungileyo zokuphelisa lo mjikelo weengcinga ezibuhlungu kukwenza izinto kunye nokuphazamisa.
- Endaweni yokubeka iinjongo ezinkulu nezingenakwenzeka zoNyaka oMtsha, zibekele iinjongo ezincinci, ezithile, nezinokufezekiswa.
- Ukuba ezi mvakalelo zinzima kakhulu ukuba ungalawuleka, musa ukubandezeleka wedwa, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo cela ingcebiso kugqirha.
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