Uyazi ukuba umntwana wakho oneenyanga ezili-1 ukuya kwezi-3 ubudala "uthetha" njani nawe (Unxibelelwano lomntwana)?

Njengoko umntwana wakho ephuma kancinci kancinci kwinqanaba losana olusandul’ ukuzalwa, kuqala "incoko" entle phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho. Oko kukuthi, niqala ukunxibelelana ngokuhleka nangezandi. Njengoko umntwana wakho eba ngumntu othanda ukudlala nonomdla, uqala ukuphuhlisa ubuntu bakhe obahlukileyo. Ayiloxesha limnandi eli?

Nithetha njani nathi bantwana bam?

Nangona iintsana zingathethi ngamazwi njengathi, zisathetha nathi kakhulu ngendlela yazo. Makhe sibone ukuba oko kusebenza njani.

Ukulila - ulwimi lwabo oluphambili!

Ukulila yindlela ephambili abantwana abanxibelelana ngayo xa besebancinci. Bayakhala xa befuna into ethile, xa belambile, xa belele, xa beziva bengakhululekanga (mhlawumbi inabukeni yabo imanzi, okanye ishushu). Ngamanye amaxesha bayakhala xa yonke into kweli hlabathi, ingxolo, ukukhanya, njl.njl., ibonakala inzima kakhulu kubo, oko kukuthi, "baxinezelekile". Cinga ngezinto ezininzi ezintsha ezenzeka kumntwana omncinci ngaxeshanye! Ngoko ke ukulila ngolo hlobo kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Njengomama, uya kukwazi ukubona ukuba yintoni engalunganga ngomntwana wakho emva kwexesha elithile ngendlela alila ngayo.

Iimpendulo zabo kwilizwi lakho nakuncumo lwakho

Xa uthetha, umntwana wakho uza kujika intloko yakhe akujonge, akujonge okwethutyana aze athule, mhlawumbi ancume, okanye ame nje apho iingalo nemilenze yakhe ivuleke kakhulu ngovuyo. Xa uncuma, umntwana unamathuba amaninzi okuncuma nawe. Ayilonto intle leyo? Xa ubona loo ncumo incinci, uyalibala ngehlabathi liphela, akunjalo?

Isandi sika-'Koo', isandi sika-'Guru Guru'... amazwi abo!

Iintsana ziyafumanisa kancinci kancinci ukuba zinokwenza izandi. Ngelixa ubukele, indlu yakho iya kuba njengomatshini omncinci owenza 'coo', 'guru guru', kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zezandi! Baza "kuthetha" nawe ngazo zonke iintlobo zezandi. Ezinye iintsana zide ziqale ukwenza izandi zezandi ezifana no-'a-a', 'u-u', kunye no-'o-o' ngeli xesha. La ngamanyathelo azo okuqala ekufundeni ulwimi.

Ngoko ke ndingenza ntoni njengomama?

Zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukuze uphucule ngakumbi izakhono zonxibelelwano zomntwana wakho. Ezi zizinto ezilula kakhulu, ezinothando.

• Thetha nomntwana wakho rhoqo, dlala. Umntwana wakho uyalithanda ilizwi lakho. Ngoko ke kwezi nyanga zimbalwa zokuqala, thetha nomntwana wakho, funda iincwadi (akunamsebenzi nokuba ziincwadi zemifanekiso, bayayithanda isingqisho sokufunda kwakho, utshintsho kwilizwi lakho), cula iingoma, kwaye ucule 'coo'. Phendula izandi nokuhleka okwenziwa ngumntwana wakho ngomdla. Thetha izinto ezinje, 'Jonga umntwana wam encumile', 'Uthini kuMama?' Xa uthetha nomntwana wakho, ucula iingoma, kwaye ufunda iincwadi, awuchithi nje ixesha. Lonke igama, lonke isandi, lonke ukuhleka kunceda uphuhliso lwengqondo yomntwana wakho. Nokuba abayazi intsingiselo yamagama ngelo xesha, bafunda ukuqaphela isingqisho, iipateni zesandi, kunye nomahluko kumazwi olwimi. Esi sisiseko sokuba bathethe kakuhle kamva baze baqonde oko kuthethwa ngabanye.

• Xelela umntwana wakho into ayijongileyo, into ayenzayo, nento oyenzayo. Xela amagama ezinto azaziyo xa uzichukumisa okanye uzinike umntwana wakho. Xela izinto ezinje, 'Jonga le bhola ibomvu,' 'Umama uza kwenzela umntwana ubisi ngoku,' 'Khangela, nyana/ntombi yam, kukho intaka entle ehleli efestileni.' Oku kubanceda ukuba benze unxibelelwano phakathi kwamagama nezinto.

• "Thetha" nomntwana wakho. Ukuba umntwana wakho wenza isandi, sitsho kwakhona ulinde impendulo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho wenza "uboya," yithi "uboya" ulinde okwethutyana. Mhlawumbi uza kwenza esinye isandi. Ngale ndlela, ufundisa umntwana wakho izifundo ezibalulekileyo malunga nethoni yelizwi, isantya, kunye nokutshintshana. Oku kufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ubaluleke ngokwaneleyo ukuba amamele. Musa ukumphazamisa okanye ukumjonga xa umntwana wakho "ethetha." Mxelele ukuba unomdla kwaye umntwana wakho angakuthemba.

• Ziqhelise ukufunda 'ulwimi lomzimba' lomntwana wakho. Ngamanye amaxesha baya kukunika izikhokelo malunga nento abayifunayo nendlela abaziva ngayo ngendlela abashukumisa ngayo iingalo zabo, abazenza ngayo ubuso, okanye abakujonga ngayo. Ukuqonda ezi 'mpawu ezingezizo ezomlomo' kuya kuqinisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho.

• Qonda ukuba kukho amaxesha apho iintsana kufuneka zithule. Ngamanye amaxesha iintsana azifuni kuthetha okanye ukwenza ingxolo. Zifumana ukukhuthazwa kakhulu zizinto ezizingqongileyo, izandi, kunye nezibane, kwaye zifuna ikhefu. Ngamaxesha anjalo, iintsana zinokujonga kude, zivale amehlo azo, okanye zicaphuke zize ziqale ukukhala. Ukuba oko kuyenzeka, vumela umntwana wakho aphumle okwethutyana, kwaye uzame ukumbamba ukuba ufuna. Musa ukuzama ukumkhuthaza rhoqo ukuba adlale.

Imbonakalo yobuso bakho ibaluleke kakhulu kumntwana!

Iintsana zithanda ukujonga ubuso bakho njengokuba zithanda ukuva ilizwi lakho. Zibukela imbonakalo yobuso bakho xa uncuma, xa umangalisiwe, xa uzijonga ngothando. Le yenye indlela yokuba ziqonde iimvakalelo kwaye zifunde ukuba yintoni unxibelelwano. Ngoko ke xa uthetha nomntwana wakho, xa umshukumisa, ungalibali ukumjonga ngothando kwaye umncumele kakhulu. Ubuso bakho 'yincwadi' yakhe yokuqala!

Ingaba umntwana wam ukhala kakhulu? Masifunde nge-colic.

Uninzi lweentsana luba "nexesha lokuxakeka" malunga nexesha elifanayo yonke imihla, ngesiqhelo ngokuhlwa. Oku kuqhelekile. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha oku kukhala kunokuba nzima ngakumbi.

Nangona kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba zonke iintsana ezisandul’ ukuzalwa zilile kwaye zixakeke, ukuba umntwana osempilweni ukhala ngaphezu kweeyure ezi-3 ngosuku, ngaphezu kweentsuku ezi-3 ngeveki, okanye ubuncinane iiveki ezi-3 zilandelelana, loo meko siyibiza ngokuba yi-'(Colic)'.Ukuchaneka, oku kukwabizwa ngokuba 'ngumthetho wabantu abathathu'. Umntwana one-colic kunzima kakhulu ukumthuthuzela. Xa ekhala, anokuba bomvu aze aphakamise imilenze yakhe iye esiswini.

Oku kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu kwaye kudinise abazali bobabini. Kodwa iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba kuninzi lweentsana, le meko iya kuphela ngokwayo xa zineenyanga ezi-3 okanye ezi-4 ubudala. Ngoko ke, uninzi lwexesha, yinto yexeshana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unesikrokro malunga nokukhala komntwana wakho, okanye ukuba ucinga ukuba kukho enye into engalunganga ngaye, kungcono ukubona ugqirha.

Ndifanele ndimbone nini ugqirha?

Ukuba unamathandabuzo okanye uxhalabile malunga nezakhono zokunxibelelana okanye ukuva komntwana wakho, ngokuqinisekileyo thetha nogqirha wakho wosapho okanye ugqirha wabantwana. Yiyo loo nto ilungileyo onokuyenza. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukususa nawaphi na amathandabuzo engqondweni kamama.

Malunga neli xesha, malunga neenyanga ezi-3, abantwana abaninzi baqala ukwenza ezi zinto:

• Uphendula kwingxolo enkulu (umz., uqala ukukhala, uyeke ukukhala, ujonge kwicala lesandi).
• Wenza ezinye izandi (ezifana nokukhonkotha, ukugquma, ukuhleka) ngaphandle kokulila.
• Xa uthetha nayo, iyakujonga ize incume.
• Xa ubancumela, nabo bayakuncumela.

Kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba kukho uluhlu olubanzi lwezinto ezithathwa 'njengeziqhelekileyo'. Oku kuthetha ukuba ezinye iintsana zenza ezi zinto kwangethuba, ngelixa ezinye zizenza kamva kancinci. Umntwana ngamnye wahlukile. Umntwana wakho usenokungayenzi into eyenziwa ngumntwana womhlobo wakho eneminyaka efanayo. Ngoko ke ungakhathazeki ngokungeyomfuneko, kwaye ungazithelekisi nabanye. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uqhubeka unamathandabuzo, kububulumko ukuthetha nogqirha.

Ngoko ke, zeziphi izinto ekufuneka sizikhumbule koko sithethe ngako?

Umzuzwana ngamnye owuchitha nomntwana wakho oneenyanga ezili-1 ukuya kwezi-3 uxabisekile. Zama ukuqonda oko bazama ukukuxelela kona ngokukhala kwabo, ukuhleka nokubhomboloza kwabo.

Ilizwi lakho lothando, uncumo lwakho, ukuphulula kwakho zezona zinto zibalaseleyo kwihlabathi lomntwana. Yiyo eyona nto ikhuthaza kakhulu izakhono zakhe zonxibelelwano.

• Thetha nomntwana wakho rhoqo, cula iingoma, kwaye uhleke. Iimpendulo zakho zibaluleke kakhulu kuye. Mxelele ukuba akayedwa.
• Qala "incoko" ngokulinganisa izandi ezenziwa ngumntwana wakho. Oku kuya kumnceda afunde lukhulu ngolwimi nonxibelelwano.
• Ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ikhefu, mvumele. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba udlale ngalo lonke ixesha. Qonda iimpawu zakhe.
• Ukuba urhanela imeko efana ne -colic , okanye ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nokukhula komntwana wakho, ungaze ulibazise ukufuna ingcebiso kagqirha.
• Khumbula ukuba umntwana ngamnye wahlukile. Musa ukuzithelekisa nabanye abantwana. Umntwana wakho uza kufunda ngesantya sakhe.

Xa unothando kwaye unomdla ngolu hlobo, uya kukwazi ukubukela umntwana wakho eqala ukunxibelelana kakuhle nehlabathi kancinci kancinci! Luhambo olumangalisayo.

Unxibelelwano losana, Usana lweenyanga ezi-1-3, Unxibelelwano losana, (Unxibelelwano losana), (Isifo sokuqaqamba kwamathumbu), Ukukhala kosana, Uphuhliso losana, Ingcebiso yobuzali