Ukutyelela umntwana wakho ozelwe kakuhle oneenyanga ezili-15: Ngaba kufuneka siqaphele oku?

Njengoko ulungiselela uhlolo olulandelayo lomntwana wakho oneenyanga ezili-15 ubudala, usenokuba uzibuza, "Kuza kwenzeka ntoni? Baza kubuza ntoni?" Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Enyanisweni, olu hlolo lithuba elibalulekileyo lokufumanisa ukuba impilo yomntwana wakho ikhula kakuhle na. Ngoko ke, makhe sijonge oko kwenzeka rhoqo ngexesha lovavanyo, oko ugqirha aza kukukhangela, kunye noko kufuneka ukwazi.

Kwenzeka ntoni ngexesha lokuhlolwa? Siza kubona?

Kulungile, xa usisa umntwana wakho kugqirha, oku kuqhele ukwenzeka. Akukho nto inokubangela ixhala, konke kukulungele wena nomntwana.

Okokuqala, jonga ubungakanani bomntwana.

Okokuqala, ugqirha okanye umongikazi uza kulinganisa ubunzima bomntwana wakho, ubude bakhe, kunye nobubanzi bentloko yakhe aze azibhale phantsi. Baza kubhala ezi zilinganiso kwitshathi yokukhula ekhethekileyo abanayo. Le yindlela abanokubona ngayo ukuba umntwana wakho ukhula ngokufanelekileyo ngokweminyaka yakhe kwaye ukuba kukho naluphi na uphuculo oluye lwenzeka ukususela ekuhlolweni kwangaphambili. Cinga ngayo njengengxelo yokukhula komntwana wakho.

Emva koko, ugqirha uza kukubuza ezi zinto:

Nje ukuba kuthathwe imilinganiselo, ugqirha uza kuthetha nawe. Baza kubuza ngobomi bemihla ngemihla bomntwana wakho kunye nemikhwa yakhe. Eli lixesha elifanelekileyo lokubuza ngayo nayiphi na imibuzo onayo, naluphi na uloyiko onalo, okanye naziphi na iingxaki onokuba nazo. Musa ukuzibamba, buza neyona mibuzo mincinci. Banokubuza ngokukodwa ngezinto ezinje:

Kunjani ukutya nesiselo?

Iinyanga ezili-15 lixesha apho abantwana sele behambe indlela ende ngokutya. Badla ngokuqala ukutya iintlobo ngeentlobo zokutya kule minyaka. Baqhelana neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokutya, njengokutya okutyebileyo nokukhulu. Ugqirha ubuza ukuba unika umntwana wakho ukutya okuphambili okuthathu kunye nokutya okunesondlo oku-2 okanye oku-3 ngosuku.

Khumbula, kule minyaka, oko kukuthi, kunyaka wesibini wobomi, izinga lokukhula kweentsana liyehla kancinci xa lithelekiswa nonyaka wokuqala. Ngoko ke ungamangaliswa kukuba ukutya kwazo kwehla kancinci . Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo.

Umntwana wakho ngoku unokukwazi ukusela kwikomityi. Usenokuzama nokutya ngecephe, kodwa angakhetha ukuncancisa ngeminwe . Mvumele enze njalo, yinxalenye yokukhula kwakhe.

Ingaba kukho umahluko ekwenzeni iKakka?

Xa uqala ukwazisa ukutya okutsha, ingakumbi ubisi olupheleleyo, indle yomntwana wakho inokutshintsha umbala, ukufana (oko kukuthi, ingaba inamanzi okanye inamaqhuqhuva), kunye nokuba idlula kangaphi yonke imihla . Oku kuqhelekile. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho unesifo sorhudo esingapheliyo, ukuqhinwa, okanye ukukhala okanye ubonakala enengxaki yokuphuma indle, qiniseka ukuba uxelele ugqirha wakho .

Umntwana wakho ulele njani?

Ukulala kubalulekile ekuphuhliseni abantwana abancinci. Azifani zonke iintsana, kodwa ngokomyinge, iintsana ezimalunga neenyanga ezili-15 ubudala zifuna phakathi kweeyure ezili-12 ukuya kwezili-14 zokulala ngosuku. Oku kuquka ukulala emini. Ugqirha uza kubuza imibuzo efana nokuba umntwana wakho ulala kakuhle na ebusuku kunye nokuba ulala ixesha elingakanani emini.

Injani inkqubela yomntwana?

Le yinxalenye elindelwe ngabazali abaninzi ngolangazelelo. Ugqirha uza kuthetha ngeziganeko zokukhula komntwana wakho. Kwiinyanga ezili-15, abantwana badla ngokuqala ukwenza ezi zinto:

• Ndizama ukuthetha igama elinye okanye amabini amatsha ngaphandle kwelithi 'mama' nelithi 'tata'. Kusenokungacaci, kodwa ndiyazama.
• Ubonisa uthando lwakhe ngokukugona, ukukuphulula, nokuhlikihla intloko yakhe emzimbeni wakho.
• Uyayiqonda kwaye uyayilandela imiyalelo elula enikwa ngesandla nangamazwi athethwayo, umzekelo, "ndinike ibhola" kunye "uthi Tata" .
• Xa ubuza, "Iphi ibhola?" , bajonga ithoyi abayaziyo okanye enye into .
• Xa ufuna into ethile okanye ufuna uncedo, uyafikelela kuyo uze uyibonise .
• Xa bedlala nabanye abantwana , bajonga oko bakwenzayo baze bazame ukwenza okufanayo (ukukopa) .
• Ukuzama ukusebenzisa izinto ngendlela eyiyo, njengokubamba ifowuni endlebeni, ukusela kwikomityi, nokujika amaphepha encwadi.
• Zama ukubeka ubuncinane iziqwenga ezibini zeebhloko, iikomityi, njl.njl. phezu kwenye .
• Ndithatha inyathelo elinye okanye amabini ndedwa , ngaphandle koncedo lomntu. Ndingawa, kodwa andiyeki.
• Utya ukutya eyedwa ngeminwe yakhe .

Oku kubaluleke kakhulu: Ukuba umntwana wakho akabonisi nkqubela ithile okanye ezingaphezulu kwezi, okanye ukuba ubonakala ngathi ulahlekelwe sizakhono awayenazo ngaphambili (umzekelo, wayedla ngokuthetha amagama ambalwa kodwa ngoku akasathethi), qiniseka ukuba uxelele ugqirha wakho . Musa ukoyika, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele.

Okulandelayo, siza kuhlola umzimba womntwana, akunjalo?

Ewe, okulandelayo kukuhlolwa ngokupheleleyo komntwana. Ngeli xesha, uza kuba nomntwana. Ugqirha uza kukhupha impahla yomntwana aze enze olu vavanyo. Oku kuquka ukuvavanywa kwamehlo, ukuvavanywa kwamazinyo (ukuba izinyo lokuqala lingene), ukumamela intliziyo nemiphunga nge-stethoscope, kunye nokuchukumisa isisu. Ugqirha uza kuqwalasela kakhulu izakhono zomntwana zokunyakaza, njengendlela ahamba ngayo, indlela abamba ngayo izinto, kunye nokuziphatha komntwana.

Ngaba baza kuthetha nangemigonyo?

Ngokuqinisekileyo! Amayeza okugonya abaluleke kakhulu ukukhusela iintsana kwizifo ezinzulu ezifana ne-masisi, i-mumps, kunye ne-rubella.. Kungoko ke, kubalulekile ukubanika ngexesha. Ngeli xesha lokuhlolwa, ugqirha uza kujonga ukuba loluphi ugonyo umntwana aludingayo aze alunike. Iishedyuli zokugonya zinokwahluka kancinci ukusuka kwiofisi kagqirha ukuya kwiofisi kagqirha. Ke ngoko, buza ugqirha wakho ukuba zeziphi izigonyo ezinikwayo ngeli xesha, zeziphi izinto ezincinci ezinokubangela ukungakhululeki (ezifana nomkhuhlane kunye neentlungu zomzimba) emva kokuba zinikwe, kunye nento omawuyenze ngazo.

Masizikhumbule ezi zinto kwiinyanga ezili-18 ezizayo?

Emva kokuba ugqirha egqibile ukuvavanya umntwana, kukho izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uzinyamekele de kufike uhlolo olulandelayo (olukwiinyanga ezili-18). Makhe sithethe ngaloo nto kancinci.

Ungaqhubeka njani unyamekela ukutya kwakho nezinto oziselayo?

Ukutya okunesondlo kubalulekile ekukhuleni kakuhle komntwana wakho. Ngoko ke khumbula la manqaku:

• Nika umntwana wakho ubisi olupheleleyo ade abe neminyaka emi-2 ubudala . Musa ukunika umntwana wakho ubisi olunamafutha aphantsi okanye olunamafutha aphantsi ngaphandle kokuba ugqirha wakho ekuxelele ngokuthe ngqo. Oku kungenxa yokuba amafutha abalulekile ekuphuhlisweni kwengqondo ngeli xesha. Kodwa nciphisa ubungakanani bobisi lwenkomo olunikwa umntwana wakho lube zii-ounces ezili-16-24 (malunga nee-milliliters ezingama-480-720) ngosuku. Ukumnika ubisi oluninzi kunokunciphisa umdla womntwana wakho wokutya okunye okunesondlo.
• Nika ukutya okune-iron eyomeleziweyo kunye nokutya okune-iron etyebileyo . Umzekelo, yongeza inyama, intlanzi, inkukhu, imifuno eluhlaza ephekiweyo kakuhle (njengespinatshi, ikale), iimbotyi (ezinjengeembotyi ezimhlophe, iimbotyi ezimnyama, iimbotyi ezibomvu), kunye ne-tofu ekutyeni komntwana wakho.
• Mnike ukutya okwahlukeneyo . Kungcono ukuba nokutya okwahlukeneyo kunokuqhubeka nokumnika ukutya okufanayo. Kodwa vumela umntwana wakho akhethe ukuba uza kutya okungakanani kwaye nini na. Musa ukumnyanzela ukuba atye.
• Yeka ukuncancisa ibhotile ngokukhawuleza kwaye uzise umntwana wakho kwikomityi . Ukuba uncancisa, ungazama ukunika umntwana wakho ikomityi.
• Ukuba unika ijusi yeziqhamo eyi-100%, yinike ngekomityi. Kwaye unganiki ngaphezu kwee-ounces ezi-4 (malunga neemililitha ezili-120) ngosuku. Kungcono ukuyinika isiqhamo sonke. Ziphephe iziselo ezineswekile ezifana nesoda kwaphela .
• Kuphephe ukunika ukutya okungenampilo okuneswekile eninzi, ityuwa, ioyile, kunye nesondlo esincinci kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
• Lumka kakhulu ngokutya okunokukrwitshwa . Umzekelo, kuphephe ukunika ii-hot dog (isoseji), iidiliya ezipheleleyo, iziqwenga zeminqathe eluhlaza, amantongomane afana namandongomane, iziqhamo eziqinileyo (ezifana neziqwenga zeapile), kunye neelekese. Ukuba uyazinika ezi , zinqumle zibe ziingceba ezincinci kakhulu, uzibilise kakuhle, kwaye uzinike kuphela xa unike ingqalelo esondeleyo .

Singamnceda njani umntwana wethu ukuba afunde?

Kule minyaka, iingqondo zabantwana zifana neziponji. Bafunda kuyo yonke into abayibonayo nabayivayo.

• Abantwana bafunda ngcono xa besebenza, bethetha, kwaye bedlala nabanye.Ngoko ke qiniseka ukuba uzinika ixesha lokuthetha nomntwana wakho yonke imihla, umfundele iincwadi (iincwadi zemifanekiso zingcono), cula iingoma naye, nize nidlale kunye.
• Nciphisa ixesha umntwana wakho alichitha eskrinini (oko kukuthi, ixesha alichitha eTV, ekhompyuter, kwifowuni, kwithebhulethi) kangangoko unako. Oogqirha bacebisa ukuba lihlale lingaphantsi kweyure ngosuku. Kulungile ukuhlala nomntwana wakho ukhethe iinkqubo ezisemgangathweni nezinemfundo efanelekileyo. Ukuncokola ngevidiyo nezalamane nako kulungile.
• Yenza indawo ekhuselekileyo yomntwana wakho yokudlala ekhaya. Mnike ixesha elaneleyo lokuhlola, ukuchukumisa, nokuchukumisa izinto ezintsha. Oku kuya kunceda ekuphuhliseni umdla wakhe kunye nobuchule bakhe.

Xa uzinyamekela yonke imihla, kufuneka ucinge nangokhuseleko, akunjalo?

Ewe, oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Abantwana abancinci banomdla kakhulu, ngoko ke luxanduva lwakho ukubakhusela kwiingozi.

• Gcina amazinyo omntwana wakho ecocekile ukususela ngemini afika ngayo. Wahlambe kabini ngemini ngebrashi yamazinyo encinci kunye ne-toothpaste enomlinganiselo weenkozo . Ukuba awukamboni ugqirha wamazinyo, yenza idinga kungekudala. Ukuze uthintele ukubola kwamazinyo, ugqirha wakho okanye ugqirha wamazinyo angasebenzisa i-fluoride varnish kumazinyo omntwana wakho izihlandlo ezi-2-4 ngonyaka.
• Misela ixesha lokulala . Umzekelo, ukuhlamba umntwana wakho, ukuxukuxa amazinyo akhe, nokumbalisela ibali. Ukuba uvuka ebusuku kwaye unengxaki yokumbuyisela ebuthongweni, mthuthuzele, kodwa gcina unxibelelwano lufutshane kangangoko kwaye uphephe ukudlala kakhulu.
• Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana abancinci babe nomsindo xa besele beneminyaka yobudala. Badla ngokuba nomsindo ngakumbi xa bediniwe okanye belambile. Zama ukubanqanda ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke oko - nokuba ngokujika ingqalelo yabo (njengokubanika ithoyizi eyahlukileyo) okanye ubasuse kwimeko ebenza bazive bengakhululekanga.
• Nika umntwana wakho ukhetho olubini olufanelekileyo uze umvumele akhethe oluthandayo. Umzekelo, "Ufuna ukunxiba ihempe ebomvu okanye eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka?" Oku kuya kumnika ukuzimela kwaye kunokunciphisa ukuxakeka kwakhe.
• Mncome kwaye umgone umntwana wakho xa esenza izinto ezilungileyo . Musa ukuyityeshela nayiphi na indlela ongazithandiyo (ngaphandle kokuba iyingozi). Ungaze umbethe umntwana wakho . Abantwana abancinci abaqondi unxibelelwano phakathi kokubetha nokuziphatha ozama ukukulungisa. Endaweni yoko, ungasebenzisa ixesha elifutshane lokuphumla (oko kukuthi, ukuba wedwa okwethutyana, kwindawo ezolileyo).
• Xa uhamba ngemoto, gcina umntwana wakho esihlalweni esingasemva, kwisihlalo semoto esijonge ngasemva, ade afikelele kwimida yobunzima okanye ubude obuchazwe ngumvelisi wesihlalo semoto. Le yeyona ndlela ikhuselekileyo yabantwana abancinci.
• Ubuncinane imizuzu eli-15 ngaphambi kokuba uphume uye kudlala ngaphandleFaka i-sunscreen ene-SPF engama-30 nangaphezulu eluswini lomntwana wakho. Faka nokuba ilanga alibonakali linamandla. Phinda ufake i-sunscreen rhoqo emva kweeyure ezimbini, ingakumbi emva kokubila okanye ukudlala emanzini.
• Khusela umntwana wakho kumsi otshayayo . Oku kwandisa umngcipheko wesifo sentliziyo nesifo semiphunga. Ukuba wena okanye umntu ohlala ekhayeni lakho uyatshaya, musa ukwenza njalo phambi komntwana wakho. Umsi ophuma kwi-e-cigarettes nawo uyingozi.
• Soloko uqinisekisa ukuba imeko-bume yasekhaya lakho ikhuselekile kulo mntwana unomdla :
• Gcina kude nokufikelela: izinto zokudlala ezincinci nezinto ezinje ngamaqhosha anokunamathela; iingcingo ezifana neengcingo zetshaja yefowuni kunye neengcingo zentsimbi; izinto ezibuthathaka ezifana neekomityi zekofu ezishushu, iikomityi zeti, iimela ezibukhali, izikere, kunye neeglasi; izinto ezinobuthi (gcina onke amayeza, iimveliso zokucoca indlu, kunye nezibulali-zinambuzane kwiikhabhathi uze uzivale).
• Gcina iinombolo zengxakeko kwindawo ekulula ukufikelela kuyo (njengendawo esecaleni kwefowuni yakho, efrijini) . Bhala kwakhona inombolo yoLawulo lweTyhefu (eSri Lanka, kwiZiko loLwazi lweTyhefu leSizwe - 0112686143).
• Ukuba kukho izitebhisi, sebenzisa amasango okhuseleko phezulu nasezantsi. Jonga umntwana wakho kwizitebhisi.
• Ziphephe iingozi zamanzi : Gcina iingcango zegumbi lokuhlambela zivaliwe, izihlalo zendlu yangasese zivaliwe, kwaye iibhakethi zizaliswe ngamanzi. Ungaze umshiye umntwana wakho eyedwa, nokuba ngumzuzwana nje, xa emhlamba okanye naphi na ngamanzi (kufutshane netanki yamanzi, idama lokuqubha), kwaye hlala umjongile .
• Musa ukugcina umpu endlwini. Yeyona nto ikhuselekileyo onokuyenza. Ukuba unayo, yigcine ingenazikhuphi, itshixiwe, kwaye ikude nabantwana. Gcina iimbumbulu zivalelwe zodwa. Musa ukuvumela abantwana babambe izitshixo.

Okokugqibela, eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule

Ngoko ke, Mama noTata, ukuhlolwa komntwana wakho oneenyanga ezili-15 linyathelo elibalulekileyo kuhambo lwakhe lwempilo. Mamela ngononophelo oko kuthethwa ngugqirha, kwaye ungoyiki ukubuza nayiphi na imibuzo onayo, nokuba yemincinci. Ingqalelo yakho, uthando, kunye nesikhokelo sikagqirha zezona zinto ziya kunceda umntwana wakho akhule esempilweni kwaye onwabile.

Khumbula, umntwana ngamnye wahlukile. Umntwana ngamnye ukhula ngesantya sakhe. Ngoko ke musa ukuthelekisa umntwana wakho nabanye abantwana. Vumela umntwana wakho akhule ngesantya sakhe nangendlela yakhe. Ukuba unemibuzo okanye iinkxalabo, kungcono ukubuza ugqirha wakho.

Konke okuhle kuwe nakumntwana wakho omncinci!

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