Isifo Sokudlwengulwa: Awuwedwa, masithethe ngale nto!

Ndiyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuthetha ngolu hlobo lomxholo obuthathaka. Nangona kunjalo, ufunda eli nqaku kuba wena, okanye umntu omaziyo, ube lixhoba lokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kwaye ulwa noxinzelelo lweemvakalelo nolwenyama oluhambisana nalo. Eli liva elibi kakhulu nelibuhlungu. Kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukwazi ukuba awuwedwa kwaye kukho uncedo olufumanekayo lokukunceda uphile kwakhona kule meko.

Yintoni iRape Trauma Syndrome?

Ngamafutshane, iRape Trauma Syndrome ligama elinikwa iziphumo zengqondo, zemvakalelo, zomzimba, kunye nezokuziphatha zokudlwengulwa okanye olunye uhlaselo oluqatha ngokwesondo. Ngokwenene luhlobo oluthile lwesifo sengqondo esibizwa ngokuba yiPost-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) , eyiPTSD ebangelwa luhlaselo ngokwesondo.

Khumbula, ayinguye wonke umntu osabela ngendlela efanayo. Usenokuziva unomsindo kakhulu, udidekile , okanye ungcatshiwe. Ngamanye amaxesha ungazama ukukhanyela, uthi, "Oko akwenzekanga kum." Okanye ungakhala ngequbuliso ngomsindo nangentlungu ngelixa usenza into oqhele ukuyenza, njengokusonga impahla okanye ukuhlamba amazinyo akho.

Xa udlula kwimeko ebuhlungu efana nale, ichaphazela impilo yakho yengqondo kunye nempilo yakho yomzimba. Oko uvakalelwa kukuba kusenokufana okanye kungafani noko abanye abantu bakuvakalelwayo. Kodwa yonke imvakalelo oyivayo iyinyani. Okwenzekileyo kuwe kuyinyani. Awunaxanduva ngako konke konke. Kukho oogqirha kunye nabacebisi ngempilo yengqondo abanokukunceda kule meko.

Yintoni "inkohlakalo"?

Ukudlwengula luhlobo lohlaselo ngokwesondo. Kuxa umntu ekunyanzela ukuba wenze izenzo zesondo (ezifana nesondo sangasese, sangasese sangasese, okanye somlomo) ngaphandle kwemvume yakho, ngaphandle kwemvume yakho. Rhoqo, umntu udlwengula ngokusebenzisa amandla omzimba. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha, ukunyanzela umntu ukuba enze izenzo zesondo ngokusongela ngogonyamelo, ngokusebenzisa uxinzelelo lwengqondo, okanye ukusebenzisa ukuxhaphaza nako kuthathwa njengodlwengulo.

Lonke urhwaphilizo alulunganga kwaye alukho mthethweni. Akufuneki ube noxanduva ngento eyenziwa ngomnye umntu.

Ixhaphake kangakanani le meko?

Ukudlwengulwa nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kuxelwa kwihlabathi liphela. Ngokwedatha evela eMelika, abantu abangaphezu kwama-433,000 abaneminyaka engaphezu kwe-12 ubudala bayadlwengulwa okanye baxhatshazwe ngokwesondo minyaka le. Le meko inokuchaphazela nabani na walo naliphi na ubudala nesini:

• Omnye kubafazi abathandathu uza kuzama ukudlwengulwa okanye ukudlwengulwa ngokoqobo ebomini bakhe.
• Indoda enye kwi-33 nganye iza kuzama ukudlwengulwa okanye ukudlwengulwa ngokoqobo ebomini bayo.
• Malunga nabantwana abangama-60,000 baxhatshazwa ngokwesondo minyaka le.

Ngenxa yokuba ukudlwengulwa okanye ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kudla ngokungaxelwa kwaye amaxhoba adla ngokungayi kufuna uncedo lwezonyango, kunzima ukutsho ukuba iqheleke kangakanani iRape Trauma Syndrome. Nangona kunjalo, kuqikelelwa ukuba abasetyhini abangama-94% bafumana iimpawu zePTSD kwiiveki ezimbini emva kokwenzakala ngokwesondo.

Zithini izigaba zeRape Trauma Syndrome?

Izigaba ezintathu eziphambili zale syndrome zinokuchongwa:

1. Isigaba esikhawulezileyo okanye esikhawulezileyo: Esi sisigaba esenzeka kwangoko emva komothuko nasemva koko. Ngeli xesha, ungaziva ngathi ingqondo yakho inenkungu kwaye umzimba wakho awusasebenzi. Kufana nokuba uphambene. Abantu abakweli nqanaba badla ngokuxinana ziimvakalelo ezigqithisileyo, abakwazi ukuqonda ukuba benze ntoni ngokulandelayo, kwaye abakwazi ukwenza imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla. Ukuxhalaba, ukutshintsha kweemvakalelo, kunye nokudideka ziimpawu eziqhelekileyo zeli nqanaba.

2. Isigaba esingaphantsi komhlaba: Eli lixesha apho uzama ukuqhubeka ukusuka kumava abuhlungu. Abantu abakwesi sigaba banokuzama ukucima isiganeko kwinkumbulo yabo, benze ngathi "akuzange kwenzeke kum," okanye bazame ukunciphisa ubukhali baso. Esi sigaba sinokuhlala iinyanga ukuya kwiminyaka.

3. Isigaba sokuhlengahlengisa okanye sokusombulula: Eli nqanaba lenzeka xa uqaphela ingozi oye wayifumana kwaye uthatha amanyathelo okuziqhelanisa nayo. Kweli nqanaba, utshintsha ekubeni "lixhoba" uye ekubeni "ngumntu osindileyo." Kusenokufuneka ujongane nengozi yakho kwaye ujongane nezinto ezibangela loo nto. Oku kunokuba nzima kakhulu kwaye kube noxinzelelo. Kodwa ufunda ukulawula ingozi kwaye uphile nayo.

Isigaba ngasinye kwezi sineempawu zaso, kwaye zinokuhluka kumntu nomntu. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba udlule kwezi zigaba ngokulandelelana kwazo - ungade uziphinde ezi zigaba. Khumbula, akukho ndlela "inye" okanye "ichanekileyo" yokuphendula kwingozi. Abaphandi bazibize kwaye bazihlela ezi zigaba ngokusekelwe ekubonweni kwamava afanayo kubantu abaninzi.

Zithini iimpawu zoku?

Iimpawu zeRape Trauma Syndrome ziquka:

• Ukuxhalaba rhoqo.
• Ukudideka okanye ukudideka.
• Uxinzelelo.
• Ubunzima bokugxila kwinto ethile.
• Ukubuyela umva kwezinto ezenzekayo (ukukhumbula okuphindaphindiweyo kweso siganeko njengamaphupha asemini).
• Ukuba neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo ('ukutshintshatshintsha kweemvakalelo').
• Amaphupha amabi kunye nokungalali.

Olu luhlu aluphelelanga, kwaye unokufumana ezi mpawu okanye ezinye nangaliphi na inqanaba. Ezi mpawu zinokuphazamisana nokukwazi kwakho ukusebenza kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Ayingabo bonke abantu abaya kufumana iimpawu ezifanayo.

Kwakhona, kuqhelekile ukuziva ungaphilanga emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu esifana nesi:

• Intlungu engapheliyo.
• Ukudinwa okanye ukuquleka.
• Iingxaki zesisu (ezifana nokudumba kwesisu, ukudumba).
• Intloko ebuhlungu.
• Ukulahlekelwa yintliziyo.
• Ukuqina kwemisipha.
• Ukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo.

Injani iRape Trauma Syndrome?

Njengoko ujongene nale meko, unokuba neemvakalelo ezinamandla kakhulu. Umzekelo:

• Umsindo
• Ukuziva uhlazekile (`Ukwehla kwesidima`)
• Ukungakholwa
• Uloyiko
• Ukuziva unetyala (`Unetyala`)
• Ukuphelelwa lithemba
• Ukuziva uthotyiwe (`Uthotyiwe`)
• Usizi
• Ihlazo
• Umothuko
• Ukuziva ungento yanto

Ezi mvakalelo zinokuba nzima kakhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha zinokuvela ngequbuliso ('isizathu') ngaphandle kwesilumkiso . Ezi mvakalelo azipheli ngobusuku obunye, kwaye kusenokufuneka uhlale nazo ubomi bakho bonke. Ezinye zezi mvakalelo zinokwenza kube nzima kuwe ukufuna unyango ekuqaleni. Nokuba iimvakalelo zakho ziyinyani, musa ukuzivumela ukuba zikuthintele ekufumaneni uncedo okanye unyango.

Abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho lwakho banokufumana kunzima ukuqonda into ojongene nayo. Basenokubona kuphela iimvakalelo zakho baze basabele kuzo. Ubudlelwane bakho nabanye bunokuphazamiseka emva kokwenzakala. Oku kusenokuba kungenxa yokuba awufuni ukuphinda uphile amava abuhlungu kwaye uwachazele nabani na. Amava akho ngawakho, kwaye akufuneki wabelane ngawo nabanye ukuba awuziva ukhululekile ukwenza njalo.

Xa usebenza nogqirha okanye umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo , ungathetha ngamava adlulileyo xa sele ukulungele. Kodwa akukabi lixesha lokufuna uncedo.

Yintoni ebangela oku?

I-Rape Trauma Syndrome ibangelwa kukuhlangabezana noxinzelelo ngokwesondo. Oku kuquka nasiphi na isenzo okanye ukuziphatha ngokwesondo okwenziwa ngaphandle kwentando yakho. Umzekelo:

• Ukuzama urhwaphilizo.
• Ukudlwengula (ukungena ngokwesondo).
• Ukunyanzelwa ukubamba ngokwesondo.
• Ukunyanzelwa ukuba ulale ngesondo.

Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kunokwenzeka nakubani na, nakubani na. Kungaba ngumntu omazi kakuhle (indoda, umfazi, umhlobo) okanye umntu ongamaziyo. Ukwabelana ngesondo akulolungelo. Akuyonto omele uyiboleke komnye umntu.

Khumbula, awunaxanduva ngento eyenzekileyo kuwe. Asikuko ityala lakho. Ukudlwengula nezinye iindlela zokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo zizenzo zolwaphulo-mthetho.

Zithini iingxaki zale meko?

Iziphumo zokudlwengulwa nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo zinokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwimpilo-ntle yakho yengqondo kunye nokuziva ukhuselekile. Abantu abaninzi abaneRape Trauma Syndrome banokufumana oku kulandelayo:

• Ingxaki yokusebenzisa iziyobisi.
• Ingcamango yokuzibulala.
• Ukuzenzakalisa.
• Ukuzibulala.

Ukuba uziva ngathi ufuna ukuzenzakalisa okanye ucinga ngokuzibulala, nceda uxelele umntu omdala othembekileyo, ilungu losapho, umhlobo, okanye ubone ugqirha okanye umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo ngokukhawuleza. ESri Lanka, ungaya kwisikhululo samapolisa esikufutshane (inombolo yongxamiseko 119) okanye esibhedlele. Ungafowunela neenombolo zoncedo lwezempilo yengqondo ezifana neSumedha, CCC Line 1333, kwaye ufumane uncedo.

Ifunyanwa njani iRape Trauma Syndrome?

Ukuba ukhe waxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, usenokuba neempawu ze-rape trauma syndrome, nokuba awazi ukuba iimpawu zakho ziyafana nemeko yezonyango.

I-Rape Trauma Syndrome ifunyanwa ngugqirha, ingakumbi ingcali yezempilo yengqondo, njengengcali yezengqondo okanye ingcali yezengqondo . Baza kufunda ngakumbi ngeempawu zakho kunye namava akho kunye nomothuko ngaphambi kokuba bafumanise ukuba unesifo.

Ugqirha wakho angasebenzisa izixhobo ezahlukeneyo zovavanyo ukuze abone ukuba zeziphi iimpawu onazo, ukuba zinzima kangakanani, kwaye zitshintsha njani ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ezi vavanyo zibuza imibuzo emininzi malunga nempilo-ntle yakho yengqondo.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukunyaniseka nokuvula amehlo koogqirha bakho. Oogqirha bakho abakugwebi okanye bakugxeke. Injongo yabo kukukunceda, kungekhona ukukwenzakalisa . Usenokuvakalelwa kukuba indlela ekuphela kwayo "yokudlula kule meko" kukuzityeshela ezi zinto zinzima uze wenze ngathi azizange zenzeke. Nangona kunjalo, udinga indawo nexesha lokuphiliswa ngokukhuselekileyo ngenkxaso yoogqirha bakho. Baza kukunceda ujongane nazo zonke iimvakalelo zakho namava akho.

Ndingenza ntoni xa ndidlwengulwa okanye ndixhatshazwa ngokwesondo?

Okokuqala, phefumla nzulu. Usenokuba uziva iimvakalelo ezininzi emva kwento ebuhlungu efana nale. Ukuba awukafiki kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, fumana indawo ekhuselekileyo ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba awukwazi ukufika kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, fowunela amapolisa ngenombolo yongxamiseko u-119 ngoko nangoko, okanye uxelele umntu omthembayo.

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna uncedo lwezonyango ukuba uxhatshazwe ngokwesondo. Yiya kwigumbi likaxakeka lesibhedlele sikarhulumente esikufutshane. Esibhedlele, ugqirha uza kwenza oku kulandelayo:

• Ukulimala kwakho emzimbeni kuya kuhlolwa kwaye kunyangwe.
• Kuza kwenziwa uvavanyo lomzimba. Oku kuza kuquka ukuvavanywa kwamalungu akho esini, kwaye ukuba ungumfazi, uvavanyo lwesinqe.
• Ukulimala kwakho kuza kufotwa kwaye kubhalwe phantsi.
• Kuqokelelwa igazi, amathe, ulwelo oluphuma kwisini nakwimpundu, iinwele eziphuma kwiimpahla, iinwele eziphuma entlokweni nakwindawo yangasese, kunye neesampuli eziphuma phantsi kweenzipho. Kuqokelelwa ikhiti ekhethekileyo yokudlwengula (efana ne-'Rape Kit') ukuze kuqokelelwe kwaye kugcinwe obu bungqina. Ezi zibalulekile kwiinkqubo zomthetho.
• Kuza kwenziwa uvavanyo lwegazi ukuze kubonwe ukuba kukho usulelo na.
• Baza kujonga izifo ezidluliselwa ngesondo (ii-STI) baze bakufundise ngokuthintela ukukhulelwa okungxamisekileyo .
• Ungathatha nesampulu yomchamo uze uvavanye iziyobisi zokudlwengula ukuze ubone ukuba ubunxilile na waza wenza ulwaphulo-mthetho.

Ukuba nolu hlobo lovavanyo emva kokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo kunokuba yinto ebangela uxinzelelo olukhulu kwaye ingathandekiyo. Uya kubuzwa imibuzo emininzi, kwaye usenokungakwazi ukucinga kakuhle nokuyiphendula. Usenokuziva ukhathazekile xa umntu echukumisa umzimba wakho. Oogqirha bakho baya kukuchazela uvavanyo, baze bakuxelele kanye into abayenzayo kunye nesizathu. Ukuba ufuna ixesha, ukuba ufuna indawo, xelela ugqirha wakho ngayo ngokukhululekileyo. Bafuna ukukugcina ukhuselekile.

Zithini iindlela zonyango zoku?

Indibaniselwano yale mithi idla ngokusetyenziswa ukunyanga iRape Trauma Syndrome:

• Unyango lwengqondo: Olu luhlobo lonyango lokuthetha. Umzekelo, lusebenzisa iindlela ezifana neCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) okanye iPsychodynamic Therapy .
• Amayeza: Amayeza anikwa ukulawula iimpawu ezifana nokuxhalaba kunye nokudakumba.

Ukuthetha nogqirha kunye nomcebisi wezempilo yengqondo yindlela entle yokufumana ukhathalelo kunye nenkxaso oyifunayo emzimbeni nasengqondweni yakho. Unokufumana kunzima ukuthemba abanye nokuthetha ngokukhululekileyo. Iqela lakho lezonyango lingakunika indawo ekhuselekileyo ukuze ukwazi ukujongana nemingeni yakho yemihla ngemihla kunye namava akho ngesantya sakho, ngaphandle kokugweba.

Ukunyanga iRape Trauma Syndrome akuthethi ukuba ungayinyanga ngokupheleleyo uze uyilibale. Endaweni yoko, ikunceda ukuba ujongane namava akho, uwaqonde, kwaye uqhubeke phambili. Ubomi bakho buza kutshintsha emva kokuba ufumene i-trauma, kodwa akufuneki ukuba ikuchaze okanye ikulawule ubomi bakho. Lukho uncedo.

Ihlala ixesha elingakanani iRape Trauma Syndrome?

Akukho xesha limiselweyo lokuba iRape Trauma Syndrome ihlala ixesha elingakanani. Iimpawu zinokufika ziphinde ziphele. Kungathatha ixesha ngaphambi kokuba uzive uphilile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ufune uncedo kugqirha okanye kumcebisi wezempilo yengqondo . Nokuba sele uzinze, iimpawu zinokuphinda zibuye. Uyaphola ngesantya sakho, kuba ulawula umzimba nengqondo yakho.

Ungazikhusela njani kudlwengulo nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo?

Ukudlwengulwa kuyenzeka nakubani na, nangaliphi na ixesha. Kunzima ukuqinisekisa ukuba uza kukhuselwa ngokupheleleyo kudlwengulo okanye ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo. Nangona kunjalo, ukunyamekela ukhuseleko lwakho, ukuphepha iindawo ezinobungozi, kunye nokuthetha nabantu obathembayo malunga nendawo okuyo kunokunceda kakhulu. Kodwa khumbula, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni na, ayilotyala lexhoba.

Ufanele ufune nini ingcebiso kagqirha?

Ukuba uhlaselwe ngokwesondo, bona ugqirha ngokukhawuleza kwaye uthethe nomcebisi wezempilo yengqondo . Thembeka kwaye uthethe ngokukhululekileyo ngento ojongene nayo. Baza kukugcina ukhuselekile kwaye bakunike zonke izixhobo ozidingayo ukuze uphile.

Ukudlwengula nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kunokushiya amanxeba ahlala ixesha elide emzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, kodwa awachazi ukuba ungubani. Emva kwesiganeko, ungaziva uloyiko, unetyala, okanye umsindo ngoko nangoko. Okanye ungazama ukuzityhalela ecaleni ezo mvakalelo uze ubuyele kwimisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla.

Nokuba uziva "ulungile," ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kufuneka uthethe nogqirha kunye nomcebisi wezempilo yengqondo . Ukuphiliswa kuthatha ixesha, kwaye akusoloko kwenzeka ngendlela esiyiqondayo. Kodwa kufanelekile, nawe unjalo. Ungaya kunyango, nokuba wedwa okanye kwiqela, ukuze uphiliswe kwintlungu.

Ukuba ufuna uncedo olukhawulezileyo, okanye uziva ufuna ukuthetha nomntu ngokukhawuleza, nceda utsalele umnxeba kwiinombolo zongxamiseko ezikhankanyiweyo ngaphambili (Amapolisa 119, Sumedha, CCC Line 1333), okanye uxelele umntu omthembayo, okanye uye kwisibhedlele esikufutshane.

Okokugqibela, eyona nto ibalulekileyo

Akulula ukuba nabani na adlule kumava amabi kangaka. Kodwa kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba awuwedwa kwaye kukho uncedo olufumanekayo lokukunceda kule meko. Okwenzekileyo kuwe akusilo ityala lakho. Kwaye, musa ukuvumela le ntlungu ilawule ubomi bakho ngonaphakade.

Ngeengcebiso ezifanelekileyo zonyango, unyango lwengqondo, kunye nenkxaso yabo bakuthandayo, ungadlula kweli xesha linzima kwaye ujongane nobomi uqine. Musa ukubandezeleka uthule, cela uncedo. Ufanelekile.

Isifo Sokudlwengulwa Kweentlungu, ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo, i-PTSD, impilo yengqondo, ukwenzakala, ukuchacha