Iingenelo ezintle zokugcina umntwana wakho osandul’ ukuzalwa ekufutshane nawe (Igumbi lokuhlala)!

Ingaba ungumama omtsha? Okanye usandul' ukuba nomntwana ? Ukuba kunjalo, siyavuyisana nawe nomntwana wakho! Eli lixesha elimnandi, kodwa linokuba yinto edinisayo. Ingakumbi emva kokuba nomntwana, kuyacaca ukuba ukulala kakuhle ebusuku kubalulekile. Ngoko ke, abanye oomama bacinga ukuba kungcono ukuthumela umntwana kwigumbi lokugcina abantwana esibhedlele uze umvumele alale okwethutyana. Kodwa, ubusazi na ukuba ukugcina umntwana wakho kufutshane nawe kuneengenelo ezininzi kuwe nakumntwana wakho? Namhlanje, siza kuthetha ngale ndlela ebizwa ngokuba yi- "Rooming-In" .

Yintoni "Indawo Yokuhlala"? Kulula kakhulu!

Ngamafutshane, "Ukulala" kuthetha ukugcina umntwana wakho egumbini lakho, ecaleni kwakho iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku, kwiintsuku zokuqala emva kokuba ufumene umntwana wakho, endaweni yokumshiya kwigumbi lokukhulisa abantwana elahlukileyo. Khawucinge indlela ekuya kuthuthuzela ngayo ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci ecaleni kwakho, evumba ivumba lakho kwaye esiva ukubetha kwentliziyo yakho!

Izifundo ezininzi zifumanise ukuba akukho mahluko mkhulu kubungakanani bokulala umama akufumanayo nokuba ugcina umntwana wakhe kunye naye okanye kwigumbi elahlukileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukugcina umntwana wakho nawe kwasekuqaleni kuvumela wena nomntwana wakho ukuba nilale kakuhle ebusuku kwaye kukunceda ukuba nikhawuleze nibe nolwalamano oluhle kunye nesiqhelo. Olu lolona khetho lufanelekileyo kuni nobabini.

Eli lelona xesha lixabisekileyo lokuba umazi umntwana wakho omtsha kwaye unxulumane naye. Iintsana ziyaliqonda kakuhle ilizwi likanina, ivumba lakhe, kunye nokubetha kwentliziyo yakhe. Ngoko ke, umntwana wakho uzive ekhululekile kwaye ekhuselekile xa unaye. Indlela ethi "Indawo Yokuhlala" ikuvumela ukuba uqhele ukunyamekela umntwana wakho ngaphambi kokuba ugoduke. Oku kukwakunceda uqonde indlela aziphethe ngayo umntwana wakho kunye neempawu zakhe ezincinci.

Zithini iingenelo ze "Rooming-In" kumama?

Njengomama omtsha, nawe unokuninzi onokukuzuza kule ndlela. Jonga ezi zibonelelo:

• Lala kakuhle kwaye ulale kakuhle: Usenokucinga, "Owu, ungalala njani nomntwana wakho?" Kodwa eneneni, xa uhleli nomntwana wakho, unokuziva kwangoko xa evuka. Emva koko ungenza ngokukhawuleza oko umntwana wakho akufunayo kwaye nobabini ningabuyela ebuthongweni. Ukubeka umntwana wakho kwigumbi lokugcina abantwana, ulinde ukuba athethe nawe, uze uvuke uhambe kunokuphazamisa ngokupheleleyo ubuthongo bakho.
• Uza kuzuza ukuzithemba ekuphatheni nasekunyamekeleni umntwana wakho: Kuqhelekile ukuba novalo xa uhlamba, ulila, kwaye utyisa umntwana wakho kwiintsuku zokuqala. Kodwa xa umntwana wakho ehlala enawe, uya kuba nethuba lokumchukumisa, ukumphakamisa, nokuthetha naye ngalo lonke ixesha. Ngenxa yoko, emva kwexesha elithile, uya kumangaliswa bubuchule bakho bokunyamekela umntwana wakho.
• Qonda iimpawu zomntwana wakho: Nangona iintsana zingathethi, zisixelela iimfuno zazo ngokusebenzisa iimpawu ezincinci. "Ukuzalisana" kukunceda ukuba uziqonde ngokukhawuleza ezi mpawu.
• Ingaba umntwana ulele?
• Ingaba ulambile?
• Ngaba kukho nayiphi na ingxaki okanye uziva engonwabanga?
• Ufuna ukuthula okwethutyana?

Uza kuqala ukuziqonda ezi zinto ngokukhawuleza. Khawucinge nje, umntwana wakho umane eshukuma kancinci, eshukumisa umlomo wakhe kancinci... yiza, oko kuthetha ukuba sele eza kulamba! Ukuba ukwigumbi lokugcina abantwana, usenokuphoswa lolu phawu luncinci, akunjalo?

• Ungaziqonda iimpawu zokutyisa umntwana wakho kwangethuba kwangoko xa uqala ukuncancisa: Iintsana zibonisa iimpawu ezincinci ngaphambi kokuba ziqale ukukhala xa zilambile kakhulu. Umzekelo:
• Evula umlomo wakhe, ekhupha ulwimi lwakhe.
• Izandla, iminwe, imilebe ziyadumba.
• Zikhangela ivumba lobisi ngokushukumisa iintloko zazo ukusuka kwelinye icala ukuya kwelinye (ukuhluza iingcambu).

Xa uncancisa umntwana wakho kwangoko xa ubona ezi mpawu, uya kuzola aze ancancise kakuhle.

• Ukuncancisa kuyimpumelelo enkulu: Ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho uhlala ekufutshane, ungancancisa nanini na umntwana wakho efuna, nanini na umntwana wakho ecela. Oku kukwabizwa ngokuba "kukondla xa ufuna." Oku kunceda ubisi lwakho lwebele ukuba lukhule kakuhle, kuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ufumana ubisi aludingayo, kwaye kunokunciphisa iingxaki ezininzi ezinokubakho ngexesha lokuncancisa.
• Ukukhala nokungazoli komntwana kuyancipha: Enyanisweni, iintsana zithanda ukuba noonina kakhulu. Ivumba lakho, ubushushu bakho, ukubetha kwentliziyo yakho kuyabathuthuzela kakhulu. Ngoko ke, bakhala kwaye abathethi kakhulu xa benomntwana wabo.
• Inciphisa umngcipheko "wokudandatheka komntwana" kunye nokudakumba emva kokuzalwa: Emva kokuba nomntwana, abanye oomama banokuba nosizi, ixhala, kunye nokucaphuka. Oku kudla ngokuphela kwiintsuku ezimbalwa. Nangona kunjalo, kufunyenwe ukuba amathuba ezi meko ayancipha xa umntwana esondelelene kwaye ubudlelwane nomntwana buyanda.
• Abazali baphumle kakuhle kwaye baphumle kwiveki yokuqala bebuyela ekhaya: Ekubeni beqhelene nokunyamekela umntwana esibhedlele, ukuya ekhaya akubonakali ngathi lutshintsho olukhulu. Ngenxa yoko, abazali banokukhawuleza baqhelane nobomi babo obutsha baze baphumle.
• Ukwandisa ukudibana komntwana wakho nolusu: Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kumama nakumntwana. Ukubamba umntwana wakho esifubeni sakho, nokuba unxibe iimpahla ezingenanto okanye ezibhityileyo, kunceda ekulawuleni ubushushu bomzimba womntwana, kunceda ekulawuleni ukuphefumla, kwaye kunceda umntwana ukuba azole. Oku kukwamenza umama azive onwabile kakhulu kwaye edibene.

Iingenelo "zokuhlala" nomntwana wakho omncinci

Njengomama, intombi okanye unyana womntwana wakho naye uya kuzuza kule ndlela:

• Usana lulala ngcono: Ekubeni iintsana ziziva zikhuselekile xa zikunina, zilala ngcono. Kwakhona, umjikelo wazo wokulala nokuvuka uba yinto eqhelekileyo. Oku kwenza kube lula ukuba ziqhelane notshintsho oluphakathi kwemini nobusuku.
• Inceda ukugcina ubushushu bomzimba:Iintsana ezisandul’ ukuzalwa zinobunzima ekulawuleni ubushushu bomzimba wazo. Xa zikufutshane nonina, zinokugcina ubushushu bomzimba buzinzile kuba zifudunyezwa bubushushu bomzimba kamama.
• Bahlala bonwabile kakhulu kwaye abalili kakhulu: Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, iintsana ezihlala noonina bazolile kakhulu. Ekubeni iimfuno zabo zikhawuleziswa, abalili kakhulu.
• Amanqanaba eswekile egazini azinzile: Ingakumbi kwiintsana ezincanciswayo, amanqanaba eswekile egazini alawulwa kakuhle kuba bafumana ubisi rhoqo.
• Uncancisa ibele ngokukhawuleza, ixesha elide, kwaye kulula: Iintsana zincancisa ngomdla ngakumbi kwaye ixesha elide kuba zifumana ubisi kwangoko xa zibonisa iimpawu zendlala. Oku kukwanceda ukuba zityebe.
• Amanqanaba ehomoni yoxinzelelo ayancipha: Xa behlukene nonina, amanqanaba ehomoni yoxinzelelo lweentsana anokunyuka. Nangona kunjalo, kuba ziziva zikhululekile xa zikunina, la manqanaba ehomoni aphantsi.
• Usana lukwachatshazelwa ziintsholongwane eziqhelekileyo nezisempilweni eluswini lukanina. Oku kunokunceda ekukhuseleni kwiintsholongwane eziyingozi: Ulusu lwethu luneentsholongwane ezilungileyo ezisincedayo. Xa umntwana ekufutshane nomama, ezi ntsholongwane zilungileyo nazo zingena eluswini lomntwana, zinceda ekuqiniseni amasosha omzimba wakhe kwaye zimkhusele kwiintsholongwane eziyingozi.

Icebiso elincinci kubazali abatsha

Icebiso elihle esinokulinika abazali abatsha kukuba baqhele ukulala nokuphumla nanini na xa umntwana wakho elele kwiintsuku zokuqala ezimbalwa. Nokuba kusemini okanye kusebusuku. Iintsana ezisandul’ ukuzalwa zincancisa rhoqo, kwaye ziziva zikhululekile kwaye zikhuselekile xa zikufutshane nawe.

Wakuba uqhele ukuqonda iimpawu zomntwana wakho zokulamba, imeko yokulala/yokuvuka, kunye nokondla nokunyamekela umntwana wakho kuya kuba lula kakhulu. Ukuba nomntwana wakho nawe ngelixa usesibhedlele yindlela entle yokufunda konke oku. Kwakhona, ukuba unemibuzo okanye ufuna uncedo, abasebenzi abangoomongikazi abangochwephesha esibhedlele bahlala bekulungele ukukunceda. Ungoyiki ukucela uncedo kubo.

Kubalulekile nokulawula abantu abaze kukubona!

Kwinkcubeko yethu, kuqhelekile ukuba izalamane nabahlobo batyelele usana olutsha. Nangona kwenziwa ngothando, ukuphumla kubaluleke kakhulu kumama omtsha nakwisana elisandul’ ukuzalwa . Ingakumbi kwiintsuku zokuqala.

Ngoko ke, xa usesibhedlele, licebo elihle ukucinga ngokuba ngubani oza kukutyelela kwangethuba. Ngaba ufuna ukuvumela iindwendwe nanini na xa ufuna? Okanye ufuna ukubekela bucala ixesha elithile yonke imihla kwaye uvumele amalungu osapho asondeleyo ukuba atyelele?

Eli lixesha elibaluleke kakhulu lokuba wena nomntwana wakho niphumle nize nibe nolwalamano oluhle, ngoko ungaze ungathandabuzi ukubeka iimfuno zakho kuqala.

Abanye oomama babeka inqaku elincinci emnyango wegumbi labo lokulala, elifana nelithi "Umama nosana balele, nceda ubuye kamva." Elo licebo elihle. Abanye oomama banegama elithi "ikhowudi" kubayeni babo okanye kumalungu osapho ukubanceda bacele iindwendwe ukuba zihambe xa ziziva zidiniwe. Izinto ezincinci ezinje zinokunceda kakhulu. Umyeni wakho unokuba yinkxaso enkulu ngeli xesha, elawula iindwendwe ngothando.

Okokugqibela, khumbula oku.

Injongo yethu ephambili kukubonelela wena nosana lwakho ngononophelo olungcono kangangoko, ngelixa sikulungiselela ukuba niye ekhaya niyokhathalela umntwana wenu. "Indawo yokuhlala" yindlela entle yokunceda kuloo nto.

Khumbula:

• Endaweni yokuba uzive udiniwe kukuba kufutshane nomntwana wakho, ungaziva ukhululekile ngokwenene.
• Le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuqonda iimpawu zomntwana wakho nokwenza ukuncancisa kube yimpumelelo.
• Ukuba unemibuzo, buza abasebenzi bonyango.
• Cinga ngokuphumla kwakho. Lawula iindwendwe ngothando.

Sikunqwenelela wena kunye nenjana yakho ikamva elisempilweni neliyonwabisayo!

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