Ngaba umntwana wakho uyoyika ukwahlukaniswa nawe? Okanye uyoyika ukushiya umntu? Masithethe ngeSeparation Anxiety Disorder!

Ngaba wakha waziva uloyiko olukhulu kunye nexhala xa ushiya umntu osondeleyo kuwe, nokuba ngumama wakho, utata wakho, umntwana, okanye kwaneqabane lakho, okwethutyana? Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana abancinci bangafuni ukushiya umama wabo baye esikolweni, balile. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba olu loyiko kunye nexhala lidlula amanqanaba aqhelekileyo kwaye liba likhulu kangangokuba liphazamisana nemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla? Kulapho ke kufuneka sikhathazeke kancinci ngale nto.

Yintoni i-Separation Anxiety Disorder?

Ngamafutshane, i-Separation Anxiety Disorder yimeko yempilo yengqondo enokuchaphazela abantwana kunye nabantu abadala. Umntu onesi sifo ufumana uloyiko olugqithisileyo nolungenakulawuleka kunye nexhala xa ehlukaniswe nomntu osondeleyo (umntu onamathele kuye), okanye xa ecinga ukuba uza kwahlulwa. Olu loyiko kunye nexhala lukhulu kakhulu kunesizathu, kwaye aluqhelekanga ukuba lufanele ubudala.

Mhlawumbi ukhe weva ukuba iintsana ziyakhala xa unina ehamba, kwaye oko kubizwa ngokuba "yixhala lokuhlukana." Enyanisweni yinxalenye eqhelekileyo yokukhula komntwana . Kwenzeka njengoko efunda ngehlabathi. Ihlala iphela malunga neminyaka emi-3 ubudala.

Nangona kunjalo, kwabanye abantwana abadala, olu loyiko lokuhlukana ludlula oko kuthathwa njengokuqhelekileyo kwiminyaka yabo. Kulapho oogqirha bacinga ukuba luyingxaki yokuxhalaba ngokwahlukana . Ngamanye amaxesha, abantu abadala ababengenazo ezi mpawu besengabantwana nabo banokuba nale meko.

Ingxaki Yokuxhalaba Ngokwahlukana inokuphazamisa ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Abantwana abanale meko basenokungakwazi ukuya esikolweni kwaphela. Abantu abadala basenokungakwazi ukuya emsebenzini okanye babe nobunzima bokugxila.

Kodwa ungakhathazeki, oku akufuneki kube njalo ngonaphakade. Ukuba ucinga ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo unokuba nale meko, bonana nogqirha. Bangathetha nawe baze bakucebise ngonyango okanye ngamayeza ukuba kuyimfuneko.

Zithini iimpawu zale meko?

Umntu onesifo sokuxhalaba ngokwahlukana unokuba neempawu ezintathu kwezi zilandelayo:

Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo:

• Ukuziva uxinezelekile kakhulu xa wahlukene nomntu omthandayo okanye xa ucinga ngokuhlukana.
• Uloyiko oluhlala luhleli lokuba umntu omthandayo uza kwenzakala (njengokwenzakala, ukufa) okanye agule .
• Uloyiko oluhlala luhleli lokuhlukaniswa nomntu onamathele kuye ngenxa yeengxaki zobuqu (ezifana nokulahleka, ukuthunjwa).
• Ukungafuni okanye ukwala ukuphuma endlwini, ukuya esikolweni, okanye ukusebenza ngenxa yokoyika ukwahlukana.
• Uloyiko lokuba wedwa (nokuba ukwigumbi ekhaya) ngaphandle komntu onamathele kuye.
• Ukungafuni okanye ukwala ukulala ngaphandle komntu otshatileyo naye.
• Amaphupha amabi rhoqo malunga nokwahlukana nomntu othandana naye (umz., umlilo, ukubulawa, njl.njl.).
• Iimpawu zomzimba (ezifana neentlungu zesisu, intloko ebuhlungu, ukuhlanza, isicaphucaphu) zinokwenzeka xa wahlukene neqabane lakho okanye xa uziva ngathi uza kwahlukaniswa. Abantwana abancinci kunye nabantu abadala banokuba nentliziyo ebuhlungu okanye isiyezi (ezi azixhaphakanga kakhulu kubantwana abancinci).

Indlela yokubona ixhala lokuhlukana kwabantwana abancinci?

Indlela ezi mpawu ezibonakala ngayo inokwahluka kancinci ngokuxhomekeke kubudala bomntwana. Umzekelo, umntwana ongekafiki esikolweni usenokungakwazi ukuchaza iimvakalelo zakhe. Usenokuba lusizi, uyalila, okanye ukhathazekile . Umntwana omdala unokukwazi ukuchaza amaphupha amabi kunye noloyiko.

Khawucinge ukuba nokuba umntwana wakho ukhala kangakanani na ngokungakwazi ukuya esikolweni, umnyanzela ukuba aye esikolweni. Emva koko umntwana usenokuba lusizi kwaye akanamdla esikolweni. Basenokuba nobunzima bokugxila kwizifundo zabo, kwaye banokubonakala bengenamdla wokuzibandakanya nabanye abantwana. Ezi zinto zinokubonwa ngutitshala womntwana.

Ukuba kufuneka babe kude nekhaya iintsuku ezimbalwa (umzekelo, xa besiya esikolweni okanye behlala nezalamane), umntwana onexhala lokuhlukana naye usenokuba nomsindo kakhulu ekhaya aze axhalabe de abuyele ekhaya. Ngamanye amaxesha, usenokuba nomsindo aze abe ndlongondlongo kuye nabani na oziva ngathi wahlukene nabazali bakhe.

Indlela yokubona ixhala lokuhlukana nabantu abadala?

Kuqhelekile ukuba ukhathazeke kancinci ngomntu xa uthandana. Yinto eqhelekileyo ebomini. Kodwa uxinzelelo oluza ne-separation anxiety disorder ludlula uloyiko ngokwalo. Lunokuqala nokuphazamisana nomsebenzi wakho kunye nobudlelwane bakho. Umzekelo, ungaphoswa ngumsebenzi kuba ufuna ukuba nomntu omthandayo, okanye ungaziva ufuna ukumfowunela nokumthumelela imiyalezo rhoqo ukuze ubone ukuba uphilile na, kwaye ungaziva ungakhululekanga ulinde ukuba aphendule.

Xa ukule meko, usenokungaqondi rhoqo ukuba uloyiko lwakho kunye namaxhala akho aphezulu kunesiqhelo. Mhlawumbi xa umntwana wakho okanye iqabane lakho licaphukile xa uhlala umjonga apho uqaphela khona ukuba ixhala lakho alilawuleki.

Kutheni kukho ingxaki yokuxhalaba ngokwahlukana?

Abaphandi abakayazi kakuhle into ebangela oku, kodwa bakholelwa ukuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba yindibaniselwano yemfuza kunye nezinto ezingqongileyo . Umzekelo, umntu unokuzalwa enotshintsho lwemfuza oluchaphazela indlela esebenza ngayo iikhemikhali ezithile engqondweni yakhe.

Kodwa i-genetics yodwa isenokunganeli ukubangela olu hlobo lwesifo. Rhoqo, kukho into echaphazela imeko-bume —njengotshintsho olukhulu ebomini okanye amava amabi obuntwana—nayo ebandakanyekayo. Ezi zinto zinokubangela utshintsho lwe-epigenetic , olutshintsho kwiikhemikhali ezibopha kwiijini zakho kwaye zichaphazele indlela ezisebenza ngayo. Umzekelo, ezinye iinguqu ze-epigenetic zinokuchaphazela indlela iiseli zomzimba wakho "ezifunda ngayo" iijini ezilawula uxinzelelo.

Zithini izinto ezibangela umngcipheko?

Umntwana unokuba sengozini enkulu yokufumana i-Separation Anxiety Disorder ukuba:

• Ukuba ulahlekelwa ngumntu osondeleyo kuwe (umz. ngokufa).
• Ukuba ujongene nemeko ebangela uxinezeleko efana nokuqhawula umtshato kwabazali bakho .
• Nokuba utshintsha isikolo okanye ufudukela kwenye indawo .
• Ukuba kukho nabani na kusapho onengxaki yokuxhalaba (enxulumene nebhayoloji) .

Izinto ezibangela umngcipheko wokuphuhlisa i-Separation Anxiety Disorder kumntu omdala:

• Ukulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo.
• Umntu omthandayo uyagula .
• Utshintsho olukhulu ebomini (umz. ukufuduka, ukuqala ubudlelwane, ukuba ngumzali).
• Ukufunyanwa kwakhe enesifo sokuxhalaba esengumntwana.
• Ukuxilongwa ukuba unezinye iingxaki zokuxhalaba okanye zempilo yengqondo xa sele umdala.

Zeziphi iingxaki ezinokuvela kule meko?

Ingxaki Yokuxhalaba Ngokwahlukana inokuphazamisa ubomi bakho kwaye yenze kube nzima ukwenza izinto ozifunayo nozifunayo.

Iziphumo ebantwaneni:

• Ubunzima bokugxila kumsebenzi wesikolo, nto leyo ebangela ukuba ungaphumeleli kwiiklasi.
• Ubunzima bokuhlalisana nabanye abantwana kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yoluntu .
• Ukuphoswa ngamathuba okufunda, ukuphuhlisa izakhono zentlalo, kunye nokuzimela ngakumbi .

Iziphumo kubantu abadala:

• Ubunzima bokugxila emsebenzini okanye kwezinye iimbopheleleko.
• Iingxabano kubudlelwane babo, ingakumbi nabo babandakanyeka nabo .
• Ukuphepha amathuba okuhamba okanye ukwenza eminye imisebenzi ebalulekileyo .

Isifo Sokuxhalaba Ngokwahlukana Sifunyaniswa Njani? (Ukuxilongwa)

Oogqirha bazixilonga njani izifo?

Oogqirha benza oku kulandelayo ukuze baxilonge isifo sokuxhalaba sokwahlukana kwabantu abadala:

• Ukuthetha nawe ngeempawu zakho .
• Gcwalisa uxwebhu olujolise kwiimpawu zakho kunye namava akho.Iimpendulo ozinikayo ziya kunceda ugqirha ukuba afumanise (okanye aqinisekise ukuba akunjalo) ixhala lokuhlukana.

Xa kuchongwa ingxaki yokuxhalaba ngokwahlukana ebantwaneni, abazali okanye abanakekeli bayabuzwa udliwanondlebe kunye nomntwana. Ugqirha wakho wezingane angacela wena (kunye nomntwana wakho, ukuba sele bekhulile ngokwaneleyo) ukuba nigcwalise iphepha lemibuzo. Banokukubuza imibuzo yomlomo malunga nokuziphatha komntwana wakho kunye noko ukubonileyo.

Ngamanye amaxesha oogqirha banokukuthumela wena okanye usapho lwakho kugqirha wengqondo okanye kwingcali yezengqondo ukuze ufumane uncedo olongezelelekileyo lokuqinisekisa ukuba unesifo.

Zithini iikhrayitheriya zokuxilonga? (DSM-5-TR)

Oogqirha basebenzisa i-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5-TR®) ukufumanisa isifo sokuxhalaba ngokwahlukana kunye nezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo ezinokuchaphazela wena/umntwana wakho.

Ngokutsho kwe-DSM-5-TR, zonke ezi zinto zilandelayo kufuneka zibe yinyani ukuze kufunyaniswe ukuba une-Separation Anxiety Disorder:

• Ubuncinane iimpawu ezi-3 kwezi-8 ezikhankanyiweyo ngaphambili kufuneka zibekho.
• Ezi mpawu kufuneka zihlale zikhona rhoqo - ubuncinane iiveki ezi-4 ebantwaneni, kunye neenyanga ezi-6 kubantu abadala.
• Ezi mpawu kufuneka zibangele uxinzelelo olukhulu kumntu ochaphazelekayo, okanye ziphazamise imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla (njengokuya esikolweni okanye emsebenzini) .
• Ezi mpawu azinakuchazwa nakweyiphi na enye indlela yokuxilongwa .

Kangangexesha elide, oogqirha babefumanisa isifo sokuxhalaba ngokwahlukana kwabantu abadala kuphela xa babenaso besebancinci. Kodwa i-DSM-5-TR yayisusa esi sifo kudidi lwesifo esasihlala sichongwa ngaphambi kokuba sifikelele kwiminyaka eli-18 ubudala yaza yasibeka njengesifo sokuxhalaba . Oogqirha ngoku bayayamkela into yokuba sinokwenzeka nakubantu abadala bayo nayiphi na iminyaka, nokuba kungesihlandlo sokuqala.

Ukuchonga ezinye izifo ezibangelwa zizinto ezibangela ukugula

Oogqirha basebenzisa iDSM-5-TR ukuchonga izifo ezihambisana noko . Oku kuthetha ukuba umntu unezinye izifo ukongeza kwisifo esiphambili (kule meko, ixhala lokuhlukana). Umntu unokuba nezifo zengqondo ezimbini okanye ngaphezulu. Emva koko, iimpawu zinokudibana kwaye zichaphazele omnye nomnye ngeendlela ezinzima ukwahlulahlula.

Umzekelo, kuqhelekile ukuba umntwana onesifo sokuxhalaba ngokwahlukana abe ne -Generalized Anxiety Disorder okanye i-phobia ethile .

Abantu abadala abanesifo sokuxhalaba ngenxa yokuhlukana badla ngokuba nesinye okanye ezingaphezulu kwezi meko zihambisanayo:

• I-Agoraphobia ( uloyiko olukhulu lweendawo ezivulekileyo okanye ezixineneyo)
• Ingxaki yokuxhalaba ngokubanzi
• Isifo Sokuxhalaba Okugqithisileyo (OCD)
• Ingxaki yoXinzelelo
• Iingxaki zoBuntu
• Ingxaki Yoxinzelelo Emva Kwengozi (PTSD)
• Ingxaki Yokukhathazeka Kwentlalo
• I-Phobia ethile
• Uxinzelelo

Ngokuchonga iimeko zesikhumba, oogqirha banokwenza unyango luhambelane neemfuno zomntu ngamnye . Umzekelo, unyango lunokubandakanya iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zonyango okanye iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zamayeza.

Ngaba kufuneka sicinge nangomahluko kwiinkcubeko zethu?

Ezinye iinkcubeko zixabisa ingqiqo enamandla yokuxhomekeka phakathi kwamalungu osapho. Oku kuthetha ukuba amalungu osapho asondelelene kwaye axhomekeke ngakumbi komnye nomnye kunakwezinye iinkcubeko. Olu hlobo lokuxhomekeka alufani nesifo sokuxhalaba ngenxa yokuhlukana. Oogqirha nabo bayawuqwalasela lo mahluko kwiinkcubeko xa befumanisa esi sifo.

Zithini iindlela zokunyanga oku? (Unyango)

Unyango lokuqala lwesifo sokuxhalaba ngokwahlukana yi -psychotherapy , ngakumbi uhlobo lonyango olubizwa ngokuba yi -cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) . I-CBT inceda umntu aqonde indlela iingcinga zakhe ezichaphazela ngayo izenzo zakhe.

Ezinye iindlela zonyango:

• Unyango Lokuziphatha Oludibanisayo (i-DBT) : Oku kunceda umntu afumane ulungelelwano phakathi kokwamkela ukuba ungubani na nokwamkela utshintsho.
• Unyango lweNtsapho : Oku kunceda ukuphucula ubudlelwane phakathi kwamalungu osapho. Ngeli xesha, wonke umntu kusapho lwakho uyaziswa ngeSahlukaniso sokuxhalaba.

Amayeza

Ukuba ukuthetha ngonyango akuncedi ngokwaneleyo, wena okanye umntwana wakho unokufuna amayeza. Ugqirha wakho uza kuchaza ngqo ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwamayeza olungcono kunye nexesha olifanele ulithathe.

Amayeza anikwa abantwana

Oogqirha ngamanye amaxesha basebenzisa udidi lwamayeza abizwa ngokuba yi -Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs) kwisifo sokuxhalaba sokwahlukana kwabantwana abaneminyaka emi-6 nangaphezulu. Amayeza athile acetyiswayo aquka:

• I-Fluoxetine (Prozac®)
• I-Sertraline (i-Sertraline - i-Zoloft®)
• IParoxetine (iParoxetine-Paxil®, Pexeva®)

Iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ziquka ukungalali, ukuhlanza, kunye notshintsho ekutyeni. Enye yezinto ezixhalabisayo malunga nokusebenzisa ii-SSRI ebantwaneni kukwanda komngcipheko wokufuna ukuzibulala .

Ugqirha womntwana wakho uza kujonga ngenyameko iimpawu zeengcinga zokuzibulala. Kuya kufuneka bajonge umntwana wakho rhoqo (ezibizwa ngokuba zii-follow-ups), mhlawumbi kube kanye ngeveki kwinyanga yokuqala, uze emva koko rhoqo kwiiveki ezimbini kwinyanga elandelayo. Baza kukuxelela nokuba yintoni omawuyibukele ekhaya.

Kubalulekile: Nanini na kule nkqubo, nangaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho aqale ukuthatha amayeza, ungathandabuzi ukuthetha nogqirha womntwana wakho ngayo nayiphi na imibuzo okanye iinkxalabo onokuba nazo.

Amayeza abantu abadala

Ugqirha wakho unokukunika amayeza okudakumba afana ne-SSRIs okanye amayeza okulwa nokuxhalaba afana ne -benzodiazepines .

Ugqirha wakho uza kukuxelela okungakumbi ngemiphumo emibi enokubakho kunye neengozi zamayeza athile owasebenzisayo. Umzekelo, ii-benzodiazepines zinokuba ngumlutha (zizenzela umkhwa) . Ii-SSRI zinokunyusa umngcipheko weengcinga zokuzibulala okanye ukuziphatha , ingakumbi xa uqala ukuzisebenzisa.

Onke amayeza aneengozi kunye neenzuzo. Wena nogqirha wakho ninokufumana eyona ndlela ilungileyo yonyango.

Ukuba ucinga ngokuzibulala, okanye ukuba ukhathazekile kukuba umntwana wakho ucinga ngokuzibulala, fowunela ku-1926 (uMnxeba woNcedo lwezeMpilo yeNgqondo yaseSri Lanka). Kukho umntu ofumanekayo imini nobusuku ukukunceda.

Iza kuphelela phi le meko? (Imbono)

Banjani abantwana?

Abantwana abafumana unyango—ingakumbi ukuba baqala kwangethuba—benza kakuhle . Baya esikolweni, benze abahlobo, baze bafunde ukuzimela ngakumbi. Abaninzi abaqhubeki benale mpawu baze babe ngabantu abadala, kwaye abanazo iingxaki ngexesha lotshintsho olufana nokuya ekholejini okanye ukutshata. Abanye abantwana bafuna nje uncedo olongezelelweyo ukuze baqonde ukubaluleka kokuzimela okwaziyo kubo nokukonwabela. Ngaloo nkxaso, banokubona ihlabathi njengendawo ezele ngamathuba, nokuba awukho.

Kodwa ukuba abanyangwa, abantwana abanesifo sokuxhalaba ngokwahlukana nabo banokuba nobunzima emsebenzini wesikolo. Banokumelana neemeko ezichaphazela umngcipheko okanye utshintsho, olunokunciphisa amathuba abo okufunda nokukhula. Bakwasengozini enkulu yokuhlaselwa zezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo kamva ebomini, ezifana nesifo sokuxhalaba okanye i-agoraphobia .

Injani imeko yabantu abadala?

Ugqirha wakho angakuxelela into omawuyilindele kwimeko yakho ethile. Ingxaki Yokuxhalaba Ngokwahlukana ichaphazela wonke umntu ngokwahlukileyo kancinci. Kwakhona, abantu basabela ngokwahlukileyo kunyango. Unyango lodwa lunokwanela ukulawula iimpawu zakho, okanye ungadinga amayeza, nokuba okwethutyana okanye ixesha elide.

Kunzima ukuqikelela ukuba uza kuziva njani kwiminyaka embalwa ezayo, okanye nakwinyanga ezayo. Kodwa ngokusebenzisana ngokusondeleyo nogqirha wakho ukulawula imeko yakho, uya kuba nethuba elihle lokunciphisa ixhala kunye nokulawula ngakumbi iingcinga zakho.

Landela isicwangciso sonyango esinikwe ngugqirha wakho, kwaye ubekho kuzo zonke iindibano zokulandelela. Ugqirha wakho kuya kufuneka ajonge ukuba amayeza akho asebenza njani kwaye ukuba unayo nayiphi na imiphumo emibi.

Ngaba i-Separation Anxiety Disorder ingathintelwa?

Akukabikho ndlela eyaziwayo yokuthintela ingxaki yokuxhalaba ngokwahlukana.

Njengomzali okanye umnakekeli, eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza ukuxhasa impilo yengqondo yomntwana wakho kukuthetha naye ngokukhululekileyo . Menze azive ngathi angathetha nawe ngayo nantoni na ayicingayo. Kwakhona, mqinisekise ukuba ulapho ukuze umncede kwaye ukufutshane naye, nokuba akakwazi ukukubona. Ungathetha nogqirha wakho wabantwana ngeendlela zokwenza kube lula kumntwana wakho ukuba aqhelane nesikolo neminye imisebenzi engaphandle kwekhaya.

Ufanele uye nini kugqirha?

Ukuba wena okanye umntwana wakho uneempawu zesifo sokuxhalaba sokwahlukana, bonana nogqirha.

Ukuba ugqirha unika wena okanye umntwana wakho amayeza, mxelele ngoko nangoko ukuba ubona nayiphi na kwezi zinto:

• Iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezintsha okanye ezitshintshayo .
• Utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha .
• Ukuba iimpawu aziphucuki okanye ziya zisiba mandundu .

Kwakhona, ukuba ucinga ngokuzibulala, okanye ukuba ukhathazekile kukuba umntwana wakho ucinga ngokuzibulala, fowunela ku-1926 (uMnxeba woNcedo lwezeMpilo yeNgqondo yaseSri Lanka). Kukho umntu ofumanekayo imini nobusuku ukukunceda.

Ixhaphake kangakanani le meko? (Ukuxhaphaka)

Isifo sokuxhalaba sokwahlukana sesona sifo sixhaphakileyo sokuxhalaba phakathi kwabantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka eli-12 ubudala. Sichaphazela malunga nabantwana aba-4 kwaba-100 kweli qela leminyaka.

Phakathi kwabantu abadala, isifo sokuxhalaba ngenxa yokuhlukana sichaphazela phakathi kwe-1% kunye ne-2% yabemi baseMelika. Nangona oku kunokubonakala ngathi linani elincinci, oko kuthetha ukuba malunga nomntu omdala omnye kwabangama-50 unale meko. Khawuthelekelele, ukuba ukwindawo yokutyela enabantu abaninzi, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba ubuncinane umntu omnye okanye ababini apho baphila nesifo sokuxhalaba ngenxa yokuhlukana.

Kuqhelekile ukukhathazeka ngabantu obathandayo, ingakumbi xa bejamelene neemeko ezintsha. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho usandula ukuqala eyunivesithi, kwaye ukuba akakuthumeleli umyalezo okwethutyana, usenokuzibuza ukuba uphilile na. Kodwa ezo nkxalabo zihlala zivutha engqondweni yakho kwaye ekugqibeleni zithule. Ngengxaki yokuxhalaba ngokuhlukana, kufana nokuba umthamo wazo uphezulu kakhulu, kwaye iqhosha elizilawulayo alibonakali lisebenza. Ixhala malunga nomntu omthandayo ligqiba yonke enye into.

Abantwana abanesifo sokuxhalaba ngokwahlukana nabo bayahlangabezana nale meko. Olu loyiko kunye nokuxhalaba kubabangela uxinzelelo olukhulu, okwenza kube nzima kubo ukugxila emsebenzini wesikolo, ukudlala nabahlobo, kunye nokonwaba.

Okokugqibela, umyalezo oya ekhaya

Isifo Sokuxhalaba Ngokuhlukana singasongela ubomi, nokuba siqala singakanani na ubudala. Ukuba wena okanye umntwana wakho nifumana iimpawu zesifo sokuxhalaba ngokuhlukana, musani ukuthandabuza ukuthetha nogqirha. Bakulungele ukuxilonga nokunyanga esi sifo.

Khumbula:

• Asikuko oku kuwe okanye komntwana wakho. Esi sisifo sempilo esinokunyangwa.
• Ukucela uncedo akubonisi ubuthathaka. Luphawu lokuba ukhathalele wena nomntwana wakho.
• Ngonyango olufanelekileyo, ubomi bunokubuyela esiqhelweni.
• Awuwedwa. Baninzi abantu abajongene nezi meko, kwaye kukho abo banokukunceda.

Ngoko ke, yiba nesibindi uze uthathe amanyathelo afunekayo. Wena nosapho lwakho ningaba sempilweni kwaye nibe nolonwabo!

` Ukwahlukana neNgxaki yokuXhala, iNgxaki, Impilo Yengqondo, Impilo Yengqondo yabantwana, Impilo Yengqondo Yabantu Abadala, Unyango