Injani ingqondo yakho yeemvakalelo? Masithethe ngayo ngokulula!

Sonke sithetha ngobukrelekrele, akunjalo? Ukuba umntu ufunda kakuhle, ukuba uphumelele iimviwo, sithi, "Owu, unengqondo entle." Kodwa ubusazi na ukuba i-IQ yodwa ayanelanga ukuba uphumelele kwaye wonwabe kweli hlabathi? Kukho obunye ubukrelekrele obukhethekileyo, kwaye loo bubukrelekrele beemvakalelo, okanye oko sikubiza ngesiNgesi, "Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo."

Xa sisithi ubukrelekrele, ngaba yi-'IQ' nje kuphela?

Mhlawumbi ukhe weva abantu besithi, "Owu, akufuneki ndifunde kakhulu, i-'IQ' yam iphezulu kakhulu." I-'IQ' imele i-'(Intellectual Quotient)'. Olu luvavanyo lokukwazi komntu ukufunda nokuqiqa . Ingakuxelela ngandlela ithile ukuba uza kwenza kakuhle kangakanani esikolweni naseyunivesithi. Nangona kunjalo, i-'IQ' ayisiyonto yodwa elinganisa izakhono zethu. Cinga nje, zingaphi ezinye izakhono ezikhoyo kweli hlabathi?

• Kukho abantu abanobuchule kakhulu ekucingeni ngeendlela ezintathu (ubukrelekrele bendawo) , njengabayili bezakhiwo nabapeyinti.
• Kwabanye , ubukrelekrele bomculo yinto ezalwa nayo. Banesakhono esimangalisayo sokubona isingqisho, umculo kunye nesandi.
• Ngokufanayo, ubuchule bezemidlalo, ubuchule bobugcisa, ubuchule boshishino... zonke ezi ziintlobo ezahlukeneyo zezakhono zobukrelekrele.

Ngoko ke, phakathi kwezi, kukho obunye ubulumko obukhethekileyo obubaluleke kakhulu ebomini bethu, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha esingabuthatheli ngqalelo. Obo bubukrelekrele beemvakalelo, okanye "Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo" .

Ngoko ke yintoni le ngqondo? (Ubulumko Beemvakalelo - EQ)

Ngamafutshane, `(Ubulumko Beemvakalelo)` bubuchule bethu bokuqonda, ukusebenzisa, nokulawula iimvakalelo zethu . Abanye bathi oku `EQ` (Emotional Quotient), ngelixa abanye bakubiza `EI` (Emotional Intelligence). Njengokuba umntu one-`IQ` ephezulu efumana amanqaku aphezulu kwiimviwo, umntu one-`EQ` ephezulu uphumelela kakhulu kubudlelwane bezentlalo nakwiimeko zeemvakalelo. Cinga ngale ndlela, ukuba ne-`EQ` elungileyo kufana "nokukwazi ukuqonda abantu, ukuhlala kakuhle nabantu" . Xa sithetha nomntu, xa sisebenza, ukuba singamqonda kwaye sibe nobubele kuye, kuya kuba luncedo olukhulu ukuphumelela kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi. Enyanisweni, ezinye izifundo zibonise ukuba i-`EQ` ngamanye amaxesha ibaluleke ngaphezu kwe-`IQ` ukuze wenze kakuhle esikolweni kwaye uphumelele emsebenzini.

Ngaba unabahlobo abaninzi abalungileyo? Ngaba kulula kuwe ukuqonda iingxaki zabanye abantu? Ngaba ungakwazi ukulawula umsindo wakho? Zonke ezi zinto zinxulumene ne- 'EQ' yakho.

Abanye abantu bazalwa benezi zakhono ze-'EQ'. Kodwa kwabanye , kufuneka baqeqeshwe kwaye baphuhliswe. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba wonke umntu angayiphucula! Ngokungafaniyo ne-'IQ', i-'EQ' yinto esinokusebenza kuyo size siyiphucule kancinci kancinci. Kodwa, kufuneka wazi ukuba wenze ntoni ngayo, akunjalo?

Uyonyusa njani ingqondo yakho yeemvakalelo (EQ)?

Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo, okanye 'i-EQ', asinto inye. Ludibaniso lwezakhono ezahlukeneyo. Makhe sijonge ukuba ziyintoni kwaye singaziphuhlisa njani.

1. Lumka ngeemvakalelo zakho.

Zingaphi iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo esizivayo sonke imini yonke? Ezinye iimvakalelo (ezifana nokumangaliswa) ziyadlula ngokukhawuleza, ngelixa ezinye (ezifana nolonwabo nosizi) zihlala engqondweni yethu okwethutyana, zibumba isimo sengqondo sethu. Ukukwazi ukuchonga nokubiza ezi mvakalelo zemihla ngemihla yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kwi-EQ. Ukuqaphela iimvakalelo zethu ngale ndlela - oko kukuthi, ukucinga nje, "Owu, ndiziva ngolu hlobo ngoku, akunjalo?" - kusinceda silawule iimvakalelo zethu. Kusinceda siqonde indlela abanye abantu abaziva ngayo. Kodwa abanye abantu, nokuba emva kosuku, ababonakali bekhathalele ukuba baziva njani. Zama ukuqaphela imvakalelo kwangoko nje ukuba uyive. Yinike igama engqondweni yakho (umzekelo, "Ndiziva ndinombulelo kakhulu ngoku," "Ndiziva ndidanile kakhulu ngoku"). Yenza oku kube ngumkhwa wemihla ngemihla. Emva kwexesha elithile, uya kuqonda ukuba uyazi kangakanani iimvakalelo zakho.

2. Zama ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye (Uvelwano)

Sonke sizalwa sinokukwazi ukuqonda abanye abantu. Enye inxalenye ebalulekileyo ye-EQ kukukwazi ukucinga indlela abanye abantu abanokuziva ngayo ngexesha elithile. Kwaye, ukuqonda isizathu sokuba bazive ngaloo ndlela. Nokuba singazi ukuba umntu uziva njani ngokwenene, sikubiza ngokuba luvelwano . Olu velwano lusinceda sikhathalele abanye, sakhe ubuhlobo obuhle, kunye nobudlelwane. Luvelwano olusikhokela kwinto esimele siyithethe kumntu xa eziva kakubi, nendlela yokuziphatha phambi kwakhe. Khawuthelekelele, umhlobo wakho ulusizi emva kokungaphumeleli kuvavanyo. Usenokungaziva olo sizi nge-100%. Kodwa ukuba unokucinga, "Ndingaziva njani ukuba bendikule meko?", uqonde usizi lwabo, kwaye uthethe ilizwi elithuthuzelayo kubo, eso sisakhono kwi-EQ.

3. Lawula iimvakalelo zakho kwaye uphendule ngokufanelekileyo.

Sonke siyacaphuka. Sonke siyacaphuka. Kubalulekile ukuveza into esiyicingayo nesizivakalelwa ngayo ngamanye amaxesha. Kodwa ukulawula impendulo yakho kuthetha ukwazi ukuba uza kuyiveza nini, phi, kwaye njani iimvakalelo zakho. Ukuba uyaziqonda iimvakalelo zakho kwaye uyazi indlela yokuzilawula, ungahlakulela ukuzibamba.Ukuba ixesha alifanelekanga lokubonakalisa loo mvakalelo, yeka impendulo. Umntu one-EQ elungileyo uyazi ukuba ukuphendula iimvakalelo zakhe ngendlela engenantlonelo, engenangqiqo, erhabaxa, okanye ebuhlungu kunokonakalisa ubudlelwane bakhe. Umzekelo, khawucinge ukuba unomsindo kumphathi wakho eofisini. Ngaba kulungile ukukhwaza ngoko nangoko, uvale ucango, uze uhambe? Okanye kulungile ukulinda ixesha elithile, emva kokuba umsindo uphelile, uhambe ngokuzolileyo uye kuthetha ngengxaki yakho? Umntu one-EQ elungileyo ukhetha ukhetho lwesibini. Kuba uyazi ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe nokuphendula ngokufanelekileyo. Oku kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo lwengqondo kwaye, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, kukhusele kwizifo zomzimba ezifana noxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu.

4. Khetha indlela ovakalelwa ngayo.

Enye inxalenye yokulawula iimvakalelo kukukhetha iimvakalelo zethu. Iimvakalelo ziimeko zeemvakalelo ezihlala ixesha elifutshane. Sinamandla okugqiba ukuba loluphi uhlobo lweemvakalelo olufanelekileyo kwimeko ethile size singene kuloo meko. Ukukhetha isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kunokunceda umntu ahlale ekhuthazekile, egxile, okanye azame kwakhona endaweni yokunikezela. Abantu abane-EQ elungileyo bayazi ukuba iimvakalelo aziyonto nje esingena kuyo. Ukwazi ukuba loluphi uhlobo lweemvakalelo olufanelekileyo kwimeko ethile kunye nendlela yokungena kuloo meko kunokusinceda sizilawule. Khawuthelekelele, unentetho ebalulekileyo. Ngaphambi kwayo, uziva unexhala elincinci. Kodwa, ukuba unako, ngabom wenze inkolelo kuwe ethi, "Hayi, ndiyenza kakuhle le nto, ndingayenza," kwaye ungene kwimeko yeemvakalelo evuya kancinci, oko kukwayinxalenye ye-EQ.

Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo (EQ) yinto ekhula kancinci kancinci.

Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo yinto ephuhlayo njengoko sikhula. Ngaphandle koko, bonke abantu abadala bebeya kwenza ngathi ngabantwana abancinci! Babeya kukhala, balile, baqengqeleke, babethe, baze balahlekelwe kukulawula iimvakalelo zabo. Ezinye zezakhono ezenza ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo ziphuhla kwangethuba. Zisenokubonakala zilula. Umzekelo, ukuqonda iimvakalelo kulula xa usazi ukuba ugxile phi. Nangona kunjalo, ukulawula indlela ophendula ngayo kwiimvakalelo nokukhetha indlela ovakalelwa ngayo, njenge-EQ, kunokubonakala kunzima ukuyiqonda. Isizathu soku kukuba inxalenye yengqondo yethu ejongene nokuzilawula ayivuthwa de sidlule kwiminyaka yethu yobutsha. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuziqhelanisa, ezo ndlela zobuchopho ziyaphuhla.

Kanye njengokuba isityalo esincinci sikhula sibe ngumthi omkhulu, i-'EQ' yethu ikhula ngokuhamba kwexesha, amava, kunye nomzamo.

Sonke singabuqinisa ubulumko bethu bangaphakathi ngokuqaphela indlela esivakalelwa ngayo, ukuqonda indlela esifike ngayo apho sikhoyo, ukuqonda indlela kunye nesizathu sokuba abanye bazive ngendlela abavakalelwa ngayo, kunye nokuveza iimvakalelo zethu xa kufuneka. Oku akuyi kwenzeka ngobusuku obunye, kodwa kufanelekile umzamo.

Isishwankathelo kunye nezinto ekufuneka uzikhumbule

Kulungile, nazi izinto ekufuneka uzikhumbule koko sithethe ngako namhlanje:

• Ayisiyo-'IQ' kuphela, kodwa ne-'EQ' ikwabaluleke kakhulu ebomini: '(Ubulumko Beemvakalelo)' kukukwazi ukuqonda nokulawula iimvakalelo zethu, nokuqonda abanye.
• I-`EQ` ingaphuculwa: Ngokungafaniyo ne-`IQ`, i-`EQ` yinto esinokuyandisa ngomzamo.
• Ziqhelise ezi zinto ukuze wandise i-EQ yakho:
• Qaphela iimvakalelo zakho.
• Qonda iimvakalelo zabanye ( uvelwano ).
• Lawula iimvakalelo zakho kwaye uphendule ngokufanelekileyo.
• Khetha indlela ovakalelwa ngayo.
• I-'EQ' yinto ekhula kancinci kancinci: ithatha ixesha kwaye iqhelise. Musa ukoyika, zama kancinci kancinci.

Khumbula, ukuphuhlisa izakhono zakho zengqondo akuyi kukunceda uphile ubomi obonwabisayo nobunempumelelo ngakumbi, kodwa kuya kukunceda ugcine impilo yakho yengqondo kwaye uqinise ubudlelwane bakho nabanye. Ngoko ke, masiqale ukucinga ngale nto kancinci size sisebenzele kuyo namhlanje, akunjalo?

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