Iindlela ezi-3 zokuphucula iimvakalelo ezilungileyo!

Sonke sifuna ukonwaba nokuphumla imini yonke, akunjalo? Uyazi ukuba nokuba lusizi oluncinci lunokusichaphazela kangakanani. Kodwa iimvakalelo ezintle, okanye iimvakalelo ezintle, azipheleli nje ekusenzeni sizive sonwabile, zilungile kakhulu emzimbeni nasengqondweni yethu. Enyanisweni, ezi mvakalelo ezintle zinciphisa uxinzelelo, zisinceda sicinge ngezinto ezintsha, kwaye zisinika amandla okujongana neengxaki. Uphando lufumanise ukuba sikwimeko entle kwaye sisebenza ngcono xa sifumana iimvakalelo ezintle ubuncinane kathathu rhoqo kunaxa sifumana iimvakalelo ezimbi. Oko kukuthi, ukuba uziva ulusizi kube kanye ngemini, kufuneka ube nento ekwenza wonwabe ubuncinane kathathu ngemini. Ngoko ke, ngaba ufuna ukongeza ulonwabo olungakumbi kunye neemvakalelo ezintle ebomini bakho? Ngoko makhe sijonge iindlela ezintathu ezilula onokukwenza ngazo.

Zithini iimvakalelo ezintle onazo? Masizibhale phantsi kancinci?

Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenze kukuchonga iimvakalelo ezintle osele uzinazo kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Yenza uluhlu oluncinci. Bhala phantsi zonke iimvakalelo zolonwabo ozikhumbulayo, iimvakalelo zothando, amaxesha owaziva unebhongo ngawo, iindawo apho wonwabele khona... Ukuba uneemvakalelo ezintsha ezilungileyo, zongeze kuzo.

Ngoku jonga uluhlu olwenzileyo. Cinga (okanye ubhale ukuba unako) ngezenzo, iimeko, okanye abantu obadibanisa nezi mvakalelo. Umzekelo, cinga ngale:

• Imvakalelo yokuzingca oyifumanayo xa uphumelela ukhuphiswano lwezemidlalo.
• Uvuyo owalufumanayo xa abahlobo bakho bekukhumbula kwaye bekuvuyisana nawe ngomhla wakho wokuzalwa.
• Ulonwabo olufike xa uhlekisa ngembali yakho, mnumzana, uze wenze iklasi yonke ihleke.
• Uvuyo olungenatyala oluza entliziyweni yakho xa umntwana omncinci ekujongile aze ancume.
• Ulwaneliseko oluvayo xa unceda umntu.
• Uvuyo oluza xa ufumana impendulo entle ngomsebenzi wakho onzima.
• Uxolo oluza engqondweni xa ubona intyatyambo entle okanye ukutshona kwelanga.

Ukugcina umkhondo weemvakalelo zakho ezintle ngale ndlela kusenza siqaphele ngakumbi izinto ezintle esisele siziva.Kwakhona, singazibona ngokucacileyo iimeko, abantu, kunye nemisebenzi esizisela ezo mvakalelo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba sicinga kancinci ngaphambi kokuba silale ebusuku emva kosuku, singakhumbula izinto ezinje, 'Owu... ndizive ndonwabile namhlanje ngenxa yento enje, akunjalo?', 'Ndizive ndizingca kakhulu,' njl. Le yindlela elungileyo yokwenza oku. Khawuthelekelele, ekupheleni kosuku, uthatha incwadi encinci uze ubhale izinto ezinje, 'Kusasa, ndizive ndithandwa xa umama ethetha nam,' 'Ngobusuku obu, ndihleke kakhulu ngelixa ndithetha nomhlobo wam, bekumnandi kakhulu,' 'Ndizive ndanelisekile xa usapho lwam lusithi ukutya endikuphekileyo kumnandi.' Emva kwexesha elithile, uya kuqonda ukuba zingaphi izinto ebomini bakho onokuvuya ngazo, mhlawumbi awuzange ucinge kangako ngazo ngaphambili.

Masikhethe uvakalelo oluhle ofuna ngakumbi kulo size silwenze lube lukhulu?

Ngoku ekubeni unombono omncinci weemvakalelo ezintle ozivayo, inyathelo elilandelayo kukukhetha imvakalelo ethile elungileyo ongathanda ukuyongeza ebomini bakho. Khawuthelekelele ufuna ukwandisa imvakalelo 'yovuyo'. Okanye imvakalelo 'yombulelo', okanye uvuyo 'lobuchule'. Khetha enye oyithandayo. Emva koko, cinga kuqala ngamaxesha owaziva ngawo loo mvakalelo, kunye nento owayenzayo ngelo xesha. Bhala phantsi izinto ezininzi kangangoko unako.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe zizinto ezinkulu ngeli xesha. Cinga ngezinto ezincinci nezilula. Mhlawumbi kukho ingoma ekwenza wonwabe. Ngalo lonke ixesha uyimamele, ikwenza uzive wonwabile kancinci, akunjalo? Yiloo nto leyo. Ngalo lonke ixesha uziva wonwabile, cinga ngento ebangele oko, kwaye ukuba kunokwenzeka, yongeza loo nto kolo luhlu.

Wakuba uchongile into ofuna ukuyikhulisa kunye nento eyibangelayo, gqiba ngendlela onokuyibandakanya ngayo loo misebenzi, okanye izinto ezifanayo, kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukukhetha izinto ezinokwenzeka onokuzenza yonke imihla. Mhlawumbi awukwazi ukuhambahamba elunxwemeni yonke imihla. Kodwa, ungamamela ingoma ekukhumbuza ngeholide kwaye wonwabele olo vuyo, akunjalo? Khawuthelekelele, ukuba uva intaka entle icula ngelixa usela iti kusasa, oko kunokuzisa ulonwabo oluncinci. Okanye, izinto ezinjengokupheka nokutya ukutya okuthandayo, ukutyala isityalo esincinci, okanye ukufowunela umhlobo kwaye uthethe imizuzu embalwa. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuqonda ukuba olu luhambo lwakho. Okukuzisela uvuyo kusenokungaziseli omnye umntu uvuyo. Ngoko ke, zama ukufumana oko kukuzisa uvuyo noxolo, endaweni yokujonga oko abanye abantu bakwenzayo.

Oku kufana nokuthi masitye iziqhamo nemifuno ezi-5 ngosuku. Kulungile kwimpilo yethu yomzimba. Ukwenza into enye okanye ezimbini ezincinci nezimnandi ngolu hlobo ngosuku kutyalo-mali oluhle kwimpilo yethu yengqondo !

Khetha umsebenzi omnye okanye engaphezulu yemihla ngemihla enokunyusa imvakalelo yakho yokufuna okungakumbi ebomini bakho kwaye uzibophelele kuyo..Beka ecaleni ixesha elincinci emini yakho ukuze ufumane la mava. Oku kufana 'nevithamini' engqondweni yakho. Emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa, uya kuwuva umahluko.

Masenze eyakho 'ibhokisi yoBugcisa obuhle'?

Ngamanye amaxesha siyalibala indlela yokubuyela apho sonwabile khona, akunjalo? Xa siziva sidakumbile okanye siphoxekile, sicinga izinto ezinje, 'Owu, andisoze ndonwabe na?' Kulapho 'ibhokisi yento entle' okanye 'ibhokisi yento entle' inokusinceda kakhulu.

Uyazi ukuba yintoni le 'bhokisi yolonwabo'? Yingqokelela yezinto ezisikhumbuza ngamava amnandi namnandi esiye sawafumana. Ezi zikhumbuzo zisikhumbuza amaxesha amnandi ebomini bethu, amandla ethu, uvuyo esiye sawafumana, impumelelo esiye sawafumana, ulonwabo esiye sawafumana, iincwadi neengoma ebezibalulekile kuthi, kunye nabantu ebebebalulekile kuthi. Ifana kakhulu 'nebhokisi yobutyebi' apho sinokufumana khona ulonwabo ezintliziyweni zethu.

Qala ukuqokelela izinto ebomini bakho ezikuzisele iimvakalelo ezintle nezikushiye neenkumbulo ezintle. Nazi ezinye zemizekelo:

• Iifoto zohambo oluhle oluthathileyo okanye izikhumbuzo ezincinci (njengetikiti eliya eSigiriya, ifoto yohambo oluthathileyo nabahlobo).
• Ibhaso okanye isatifikethi esikukhumbuza ngempumelelo oyifezileyo.
• Ikhadi okanye inqaku elincinci elivela kumntu okhethekileyo kuwe (ikhadi lokubulisa loNyaka oMtsha, amagama amnandi abhalwe ngumhlobo).
• Isicatshulwa okanye umgca ovela kwingoma oyithandayo nekukhuthazayo .
• Into ekubuyisa inkumbulo entle yobuntwana bakho (njengethoyi encinci, incwadi, into owayinikwa ngumhlobo wakho esikolweni).
• Umzobo, indalo oyenzileyo okanye oyizobileyo.
• Akunamsebenzi nokuba umntu ukunika isipho , nokuba sincinci, okubalulekileyo lixabiso laso.
• Ifoto yomntu omhloniphayo nomjongayo.

Gcina zonke ezi zinto kwifayile, kwi-binder, okanye kwibhokisi entle apho unokuzifumana khona ngokulula. Abanye abantu bazigcina zibotshelelwe kakuhle ebhodini apho banokuzibona khona ngalo lonke ixesha. Okanye ungenza i-collage okanye ipowusta ngezi zinto. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukukhetha kuphela izinto ezikwenza uzive ulungile kwaye zikuzisele uvuyo. Ungongeza izinto ezintsha kwezi nangaliphi na ixesha, ususe izinto, okanye uzitshintshe.

Xa uziva uxinezelekile okanye udanile, zinike imizuzu embalwa ujonge le 'bhokisi yobutyebi'. Njengoko uchukumisa ezo zinto kwaye ukhumbula iinkumbulo ezinxulumene nazo, uya kuqala ukuziva uvuyo, ikratshi, nothando owawunalo ngelo xesha kwakhona. Oku kuya kukunceda ukhulule iimvakalelo ezimbi onazo engqondweni yakho.Kuya kukunceda uzive ungenaxhala kangako kwaye uzive unethemba. Nokuba awukwenzi oko, ngokubukela oku nje, ungongeza uvuyo oluncinci kusuku lwakho.

Ngoko ke, yintoni eyona nto iphambili ekufuneka uyikhumbule kwinto esithethe ngayo?

Xa uzama ukongeza iimvakalelo ezakhayo ebomini bakho, oko kukuthi, izinto ezilungileyo ezinje ngolonwabo, ulwaneliseko, nothando, uya kufumanisa ukuba wonwabile , unamandla ngakumbi, kwaye uphumelele ngakumbi . Ukucinga ngezinto ezakhayo yonke imihla, ukwenzela izinto ezincinci, kufana notyalo-mali oluncinci. Kodwa iingenelo oza kuzifumana ebomini bakho zinkulu kakhulu.

Khumbula, ulonwabo entliziyweni yakho yinto onokuyihlakulela. Kuthatha umgudu omncinci kunye nokuzinikela! Zonke ezi ndlela zintathu zilula kakhulu, kwaye ungaqala namhlanje. Zama, uza kumangaliswa!

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