Ngexesha leeholide ezifana noNyaka oMtsha neKrisimesi, wonke umntu wonwabile kakhulu, akunjalo? Kukho umculo kuyo yonke indawo, ivumba lokutya, ukuhleka... Kodwa phakathi kwako konke oku, ngaba kukho amaxesha apho uziva umthwalo onzima, usizi, okanye isizungu? Ngaba wakha wazibuza ukuba kutheni ndim ndedwa oziva ngolu hlobo xa wonke umntu evuya? Ukuthetha inyani, olu luvo alukho kuwe kuphela. Abantu abaninzi baziva ngolu hlobo loxinzelelo ngexesha leeholide.
Ingakumbi ukuba ungumntu onengxaki yokudakumba , okanye okhe wahlangabezana nako ngaphambili, kufuneka ulumke kakhulu malunga noxinzelelo oluvelayo ngeli xesha. Kodwa ungoyiki. Ngomzamo omncinci, unganciphisa olu xinzelelo kwaye ufumane ulonwabo ngexesha leeholide. Makhe sijonge ezinye iindlela ezilula ezinokunceda.
Uzilawula njani iimvakalelo zakho?
1. Musa ukulindela lukhulu.
Musa ukucinga ngexesha leeholide njengexesha apho yonke into kufuneka igqibelele , njengekhadi lokubulisa okanye imuvi. Ukuba uzinyanzela ukuba ucinge, "Ndimele ndonwabe," uza kongeza uxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo. Ngoko ke, ungalindeli okuninzi kakhulu, kwaye ujongane nosuku njengoko lufika.
2. Zama into eyahlukileyo.
Ngaba udiniwe kukwenza izinto ezifanayo imihla ngemihla? Emva koko yenza utshintsho ngeli xesha. Mhlawumbi endaweni yokupheka uNyaka oMtsha ekhaya, yitya kwindawo yokutyela entle. Yiya kubukela imuvi nosapho lwakho ngeKrisimesi. Endaweni yokupha izipho, qokelela loo mali uze uyinike umntu osweleyo, njengekhaya leenkedama.
3. Fumana uncedo 'kwinkqubo yakho yenkxaso'
Kungumthombo wamandla ukuba nomntu onokuthetha naye nokuqonda xa uziva udakumbile. Ngokufanayo, ukuba unabahlobo okanye usapho olusondeleyo, thetha nabo rhoqo kule mihla. Ubuncinane tsalela umnxeba kwaye uhlale unxibelelana nabo.
4. Musa ukucinga ukuba yonke into iza kuhamba gwenxa.
Abanye abantu baxhalabile nangaphambi kokuba ixesha leeholide liqale, becinga, "Owu, kuza kubakho iingxaki ezininzi nakweli xesha." Ukucinga ngolo hlobo kuya kukwenza uzive udandathekile nangakumbi. Ngoko zama ukuhlala uzolile, ungalindeli okuninzi, okuhle okanye okubi.
5. Libala izinto ezingeyomfuneko
Musa ukuzikhathaza ngokucinga ukuba kufuneka ugcine amasiko. Kulungile ukuba awukwazi ukubeka izibane endlwini ngeli xesha. Kulungile ukuba awukwazi ukufumana izipho ezikhethekileyo zomntu wonke. Zinike ikhefu. Ukuxhalaba ngezinto ezincinci ezinje kuya kukususa ulonwabo lwakho.
6. Nceda ngokuzithandela
Usenokuba sele uziva uxinezelekile kwaye udiniwe. Kodwa zama ukufumana ixesha elincinci lokunceda abo basweleyo kunawe. Yiya kwikhaya labalupheleyo uze uncede, okanye uthengele usapho olusweleyo ukutya. Uya kuziva ukhululekile xa ucinga , "Ubuncinane ndizise uncumo ebusweni bomntu."
Wenza ntoni ngeengxaki onazo namalungu osapho?
Kuqhelekile ukuba kubekho ukungavisisani okuncinci xa usapho ludibana. Kodwa ukuba oku kuchaphazela impilo yakho yengqondo, zama ezi zinto.
| Ingcebiso | Yintoni enokwenziwa? |
|---|---|
| Ziphephe imibuzo | Ukuba akunyanzelekanga ukuba uye kwitheko apho kukho umntu (umz. isalamane), musa ukuya. Okanye hamba uye kulinda ithutyana ngaphambi kokuba ubuye. Cinga ngezinto onokuzilawula. |
| Cela uncedo | Musa ukuzama ukuzenzela yonke into ngokwakho. Cela uncedo kwabanye ngemisebenzi yasekhaya, ukupheka, kunye nokuthenga. Buza ngokucacileyo, "Ungandinceda ngale nto?" |
| Yeka into ongenakukwazi ukuyilawula. | Awunakulawula izinto ezifana nokulwa phakathi kwezalamane. Eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza ngelo xesha kukuyeka imeko okwethutyana. Endaweni yokuzama ukuyitshintsha, lawula indlela osabela ngayo. |
| Qala amasiko amatsha. | Akukho mfuneko yokunyanzelisa ukuqhubeka nezithethe zakudala ezingasekho mntu uzonwabileyo ngazo. Qala into entsha ekufaneleyo wena nosapho lwakho kwaye ikwenze wonwabe. |
Kuqhelekile ukuba buhlungu ngexesha leeholide xa ucinga ngabantu obathandayo olahlekelwe ngabo. Endaweni yokuba buhlungu nje, yenza into eza kukukhumbuza ngothando. Umzekelo, phekela umntu isidlo osithandayo uze wabelane naye ngaloo nkumbulo.
Uhlangabezana njani namaqela nemibhiyozo?
Iminyhadala exakekileyo kunye namatheko anokuba ngumthwalo omkhulu kwabanye abantu.
- Musa ukuthi "ewe" kuyo yonke into:Ixesha leeholide lihlala iiveki ezininzi. Ukuba uya kuyo yonke indawo ekumema kuyo wonke umntu, ungadinwa kwaye uxinezeleke. Khetha iindawo ofuna ukuya kuzo ngokwenene.
- Buya nanini na emva kokuba umkile: Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ulinde de itheko liphele kuba nje uhambile. Unelungelo lokubuya emva kwexesha elithile uthi, "Ndinomsebenzi omninzi ekufuneka ndiwenze." Ukuba ucinga ukuba, "Ndiza kubuya emva kweyure," ngaphambi kokuba uhambe, akuyi kuba naxhala kangako.
- Hamba nomhlobo: Ukuba uyoyika ukuya kwindawo efana nepati yaseofisini wedwa, hamba nomhlobo, okanye uthethe naye malunga nokuhlangana. Kuya kuba ngcono kakhulu ukuba nomntu onokuthetha naye.
Okona kubaluleke kakhulu: Zikhathalele (Ukuzinakekela)
Kule mihla ixakekileyo, kulula ukuzilibala, kodwa ukuzikhathalela yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kwimpilo yakho yengqondo.
- Ukulala: Zama ukuphepha ukuphazamisa iindlela zakho zokulala eziqhelekileyo kangangoko unako. Ukuhlala ulele kude kube sebusuku kwiipati okanye ukusonga izipho kude kuse kunokubangela ukuba imeko yakho ibe buthathaka.
- Ukuzilolonga: Usenokuba uzibuza, "Liphi ixesha lokuzilolonga?" Kodwa ukuzilolonga kuye kwabonakala ukuba kunempembelelo enkulu kuxinzelelo kunye nokudakumba. Hamba umgama omncinci xa usiya evenkileni. Hamba ngenyawo uye eposini endaweni yokuqhuba ukuze ushiye iposi yakho.
- Ukutya Neziselo: Kunzima ukulawula ukutya kwakho ngexesha leeholide. Kodwa zama ukutya okunempilo kangangoko unako. Kodwa ungaziva ungonwabanga ngokutya ikeyiki eninzi ngenye imini. Akuyonto inkulu, yilawule kwakhona ngosuku olulandelayo.
- Musa utywala: Ukusela utywala kuphezulu ngexesha leeholide. Abanye abantu basebenzisa utywala ukuze boyise uloyiko lwabo lokunxulumana nabantu. Kodwa khumbula, utywala buyadandathekisa. Bunokukwenza uzive ulusizi kwaye uxinezelekile ngakumbi. Ukuba usela amayeza okudakumba, ukusela utywala kunokuba yingozi. Qiniseka ukuba ubuza ugqirha wakho ngayo loo nto.
- Sela amayeza akho ngokufanelekileyo: Ukuba usebenzisa amayeza alo naluphi na uhlobo lwesifo, ingakumbi ukudakumba, musa ukuwayeka amayeza akho kule mihla ixakekileyo. Fumana elinye ngaphambi kokuba liphele.
- Funa uncedo lweengcali: Ukuba ubonana nogqirha okanye umcebisi, cwangcisa iseshoni eyongezelelweyo ngaphambi kweeholide. Oku kuya kukunika amandla amaninzi okumelana nalo mbandela ngeli xesha.
"Eli lixesha elinzima kubantu abaninzi. Ngoko ke yiba nobubele kuwe. Zixolele." Eli lixesha lobubele nokuxolela. Zibekele ecaleni ezinye zazo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive ulusizi kwaye uxinezelekile ngexesha leeholide. Musa ukuba neentloni ngaloo nto okanye ucinge ukuba nguwe wedwa.
- Musa ukulindela ukuba yonke into igqibelele. Zama ukuphumla kwaye ungabi namathemba aphezulu.
- Zikhathalele. Ukulala ngokwaneleyo, ukutya kakuhle, kunye nokwenza umthambo kubaluleke kakhulu ngeli xesha.
- Thetha nabantu abanokukunceda baze bakuqonde. Musa ukubandezeleka wedwa.
- Ukuba ezi mvakalelo zinzima kakhulu ukuba ungalawula, ungakhathazeki ngazo kwaye ubone ugqirha okanye ugqirha wengqondo ngokukhawuleza. Ukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha akubobuthathaka, ngamandla.
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