Ngaba nawe uvakalelwa kukuba awufanelekanga koku? Masithethe nge-Imposter Syndrome!

Ngaba wakha waziva, endaweni yokuba wonwabe ngempumelelo yakho, uloyiko lokuzibuza, "Ngaba ndifanelwe yile nto? Andilunganga njengoko abanye becinga?" Xa ufumana isikhundla esiphezulu emsebenzini, uphumelele uviwo, okanye unconywa ngumntu othile, ngaba uziva ngathi uthi kuwe, "Andifaneleki oku, ngenye imini wonke umntu uza kufumanisa ukuba ndingubani ngokwenene?" Olu luvo lubizwa nje ngokuba `(Imposter Syndrome)`.

Yintoni kanye kanye i-Imposter Syndrome?

Ngamafutshane, i-'Imposter Syndrome' kuxa unamathandabuzo malunga nobuchule bakho kunye nempumelelo yakho. Nangona abanye becinga ukuba ukrelekrele kwaye wenza izinto kakuhle, uziva nzulu ngaphakathi kuwe ukuba awukrelekrele kangako, ukuba ufana nomkhohlisi. Uhlala usoyika ukuba ngenye imini olu buxoki buza kubhaqwa.

Nangona oku kungachazwanga ngokusemthethweni njengokuxilongwa kwempilo yengqondo, olu luvo lunokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwiinkalo ezininzi zobomi bakho, kubandakanya umsebenzi, imfundo, kwanobudlelwane. Abanye abantu babiza ngokuba yi-'imposter phenomenon' okanye 'fraud syndrome'.

Oku kufana nomjikelo (Umjikelo Womkhohlisi)

Abantu abaninzi abane-'Imposter Syndrome' babona indlela yokuziphatha kwabo, into efana nomjikelo. Khawuthelekelele ukuba unentetho enkulu oza kuyinika eofisini. Ukuba unale mvakalelo, uqala ukukhathazeka kakhulu ngayo, uze uqale ukukhathazeka, "Ngaba ndiza kusilela?" Kukho izinto ezimbini ezinokwenzeka kule meko:

1. Ukulibazisa kude kube ngumzuzu wokugqibela: Ulibazisa ngaphandle kokuqala umsebenzi. Emva koko uwugqiba ngomzuzu wokugqibela uxinezelekile kwaye uxhalabile. Nokuba umsebenzi uphumelele, ucinga, "Owu, bendinethamsanqa ukuba oku kuphumelele."

2. Ukusebenza nzima kakhulu: Usebenza nzima kunokuba kuyimfuneko, imini nobusuku, uzama ukwenza yonke into ngokugqibeleleyo. Kodwa xa uphumelela, awuzithathi udumo ngaloo nto . Ucinga ukuba, "Umntu okrelekrele kunam ebenokwenza oku ngaphandle kokusebenza nzima kangaka."

Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, uvuyo emva kokuba ufezekisile usukelo lwakho aluhlali ixesha elide. Kuba awunakuyivumela loo mpumelelo "ihlale." Endaweni yoko, uqala ukoyika into enkulu elandelayo. Uqala ukuthandabuza, ukusebenza kakhulu, okanye ukulibazisa kwakhona. Ngoko ke umjikelo uyaqhubeka.

Ngubani ofumana olu luvo?

Enyanisweni, nabani na angaziva olu luvo. Ngo-1978, iingcali zengqondo ezimbini, uSuzanne Imes kunye noPauline Rose Clance, baqala ukulubona phakathi kwabasetyhini abaphumelele kakhulu. Kodwa uphando ngoku lufumanise ukuba luqhelekile kubantu abaninzi, nokuba bangobani na ngokwesini, kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo.

Olu luvo ludla ngokuvela xa uzive wahlukile koontanga bakho okanye osebenza nabo. Umzekelo, ukuba ngumfazi osebenza kwintsimi elawulwa ngamadoda . Kuqhelekile nakwabo baziva ngathi bambalwa kwimfundo okanye kwindawo yokusebenza.

Ngaba ukrokrela ukuba une-Imposter Syndrome? Jonga ezi mpawu

Ukuze ufumane ukuba unayo na le mvakalelo, khangela ukuba ezi mpawu zilandelayo ziqhelekile na kuwe:

• Ukucinga ukuba wonke umntu wazi ngaphezu kwakho.
• Usoloko ucinga ukuba awulumkanga njengoko abanye becinga.
• Ukucinga ukuba impumelelo yakho ibangelwa "yithamsanqa", "ngabantu obaziyo", okanye izigqibo ezimbi zabanye abantu.
• Ukuziva ngathi "umjikelo wokukhohlisa" okhankanywe ngasentla uphinda-phinda ebomini bakho.
• Uloyiko lokuba awufanelekanga apho ukhoyo (emsebenzini/esikolweni) nokuba abanye baya kuyiqonda ngenye imini.
• Ukuziva ngathi yonke into kufuneka yenziwe kangangoko inako okanye ngcono kunokuba bekulindelwe.
• Ukuziva ungakhululekanga xa umntu ekuncoma.
• Nguwe othintela wena ekufikeleleni usukelo lwakho.
• Ukoyika ukuphoxa abanye.
• Awunakulibala neyona mpazamo incinci oyenzileyo uze uhlale ucinga ngayo.
• Ukucinga, "Ukuba bendikrelekrele, ndikrelekrele, bendingenazo ezi ntandabuzo."
• Ukufumana imvume kwabanye kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe.

Zithini izizathu zale meko?

Kunokubakho izizathu ezininzi zolu luvo.

• Iimpawu zobuntu: Iimpawu ezifana nokuxhalaba okuphezulu, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, kunye nokuthanda ukugqibelela zinxulunyaniswa noku.
• Indawo yokukhuliswa: Ngamanye amaxesha, le meko inokuvela kubantu abakhulela kwiintsapho ebezisoloko zigxininisa impumelelo nempumelelo. Ingabangelwa kukufumana imiyalezo engqubanayo evela kubazali, njengokunconywa kakhulu ngamanye amaxesha kunye nokugxekwa kabukhali ngamanye amaxesha.
• Ukuzive ngathi ungumntu wangaphandle: Umzekelo, ukuba awukhuphisani ngokwemvelo kwindawo yokusebenza enokhuphiswano olukhulu, ungaziva ngathi "Andifaneleki apha." Kwakhona, ukuvakalelwa ngokwahlukileyo kwabanye ngenxa yohlanga lwakho, ubudala, isini, okanye imeko yakho yezoqoqosho kunokukhokelela kwi-'Imposter Syndrome'.
• Imidiya yoluntu: Xa ubona imifanekiso yobomi "obugqibeleleyo" babanye abantu, unokuba nethuba lokuzithelekisa nabo uze uzive ngathi "Andinelanga."

Yintoni enokwenziwa ukuze kuthintelwe oku?

Kunzima ukulwa nezi ngcinga zikhathazayo wedwa, ngoko ke kubalulekile ukufumana inkxaso kwabanye.

Iingcebiso zonyango kunye nonyango

• Unyango Lokuthetha: Ukuthetha nomcebisi okanye ingcali yonyango kunokukunceda uqonde apho ezi ngcinga zivela khona kunye nendlela ezichaphazela ngayo ubomi bakho. Emva koko, ungafunda indlela yokuzilawula xa zivela.
• Unyango Lokucubungula Ingqondo (CPT): Le yindlela yonyango ekufundisa ukuba uchonge iinkolelo zakho ezimbi uze uzithathele indawo ngeengcinga eziyinyani ngakumbi.
• Unyango Lwamaqela: Kunganceda ukujoyina iseshoni yeqela nabanye abane-'Imposter Syndrome' efana neyakho. Ukuva amava abanye abantu kunokukunceda uzive ungedwa. Ukwabelana ngeengcinga zakho kunokukunceda ufumane umbono omtsha.

Ukuba uziva uxinezelekile yile mvakalelo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha nogqirha wakho wosapho (GP) . Yena angakunika ulwalathiso olufunayo.

Izinto onokuzenza ngokwakho

• Khumbula izinto ozifezileyo: Yenza uluhlu lwezinto ozenzileyo kakuhle, izinto oziqhayisa ngazo. Gcina ii-imeyile, amanqaku, njl.njl. ezinconywa ngabanye. Zijonge emva xa uziva ngathi "ndingumkhohlisi."
• Iimvakalelo kunye neenyaniso ezahlukeneyo: Ngexesha elizayo xa uzifumana uzithandabuza, zikhumbuze ukuba yimvakalelo nje, ayiyonyani leyo.
• Yiba nobubele kuwe: Ubungathini ukuba umhlobo wakho ebevakalelwa ngolu hlobo? "Ukrelekrele, kwaye unelungelo lokwenza iimpazamo," akunjalo? Zixelele into efanayo.
• Ziqhelise ukwamkela ukunconywa: Xa umntu esithi "wenze kakuhle," endaweni yokukuphepha ngokuthi "Enkosi, kodwa...", ziqhelise ukuthi "Enkosi kakhulu."
• Musa ukuzithelekisa nabanye: Wonke umntu ubhala kuphela okona kulungileyo kwimidiya yoluntu. Ngoko ke yeka ukuzithelekisa nabo. Endaweni yoko, zama ukwenza inamhlanje libe ngcono kunelo langaphambili. Akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo.
• Cela umngeni kwiingcinga zakho: Xa ucinga, "Ndifumene lo msebenzi kuba akukho mntu wawufuna," cel' umngeni kuloo ngcinga uze ucinge ngendlela eyakhayo, "Ndifumene lo msebenzi kuba ndisebenza nzima kwaye abanye abasebenzi bayandithanda."
• Qonda: Abantu abakhohlisayo bokwenyani abanayo i-'Imposter Syndrome'. Inyaniso yokuba uvakalelwa ngolu hlobo ibonisa ukuba awungomntu okhohlisayo!