Injani imini yakho? Ziphe ixesha lokuphumla ucinge ngamava akho namhlanje. Ukuba unako, thatha ipeni nephepha uze ubhale phantsi iziganeko ezimbalwa ezingalibalekiyo. Makhe sibone ukuba ubhale ntoni.
Ngoko ke, ubucinga ntoni? Ngaba usuku lwakho luzaliswe zizihlandlo ezintle kakhulu? Mhlawumbi into efana nokuthi, “Namhlanje ibimnandi kakhulu! Umakhulu wenze i-pittu emnandi kwisidlo sakusasa, ndichithe ixesha nabahlobo esikolweni, kwaye ixesha lesiNgesi belimnandi!” Okanye ngaba ingqondo yakho yagxila kwizinto ezingahambanga kakuhle? Njengokuba, “Ukupheka kukamakhulu kundenze ndafika emva kwexesha, ndiphoswe yibhasi, kwaye abahlobo bam baqhubeka bethetha ngenkqubo yeTV ekruqulayo ngexesha lesidlo sasemini. Ngaphezu koko, besinesiNgesi! Andithandi kakhulu ngoLwesine!” Indlela otolika ngayo ezi ziganeko inentsingiselo ebalulekileyo.
Sithetha ukuthini xa sithi "Optimism and Pessimism"?
Ngamafutshane, ukuba nethemba kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba ziindlela ezimbini ezahlukeneyo zokuqonda nokucinga ngehlabathi. Ziindlela ezahlukeneyo zokucinga .
Umntu onethemba uhlala ekhangela icala elihle lezinto. Balindele iziphumo ezilungileyo kwaye bakholelwa ukuba banezakhono kunye nobuchule bokuphembelela iziganeko zibe ngcono. Kukho ingqiqo engaphantsi yokuba, “Ndingakwazi ukumelana nale nto,” kwindlela abayisebenzisayo.
Kwelinye icala, abantu abagxila kwiziphene okanye ababona yonke into ngeliso elibi ngabo sibabiza ngokuba “ngabalibaliyo.” Umntu ohlala ecinga ukuba izinto ziza kungahambi kakuhle aze agxile kwiingxaki okanye kwimiqobo. Ingcinga engapheliyo yokuba “oku akuyi kuphumelela” idla ngokuhlala engqondweni yakhe.
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba akukho mntu unethemba okanye ongenathemba ngalo lonke ixesha. Sonke siwela kwenye indawo. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba nokuba utyekele ekuphelelweni lithemba, akufuneki uhlale apho! Sonke singafunda ukutshintsha indlela esibona ngayo izinto size sihlakulele umbono onethemba ngakumbi. Sisakhono esinokusifunda.
Kutheni ukucinga ngendlela enethemba kuluncedo kangaka kuwe?
Abaphandi kunye noososayensi baye bafunda ngabantu abanethemba kangangeminyaka. Ngokweziphumo zabo, ukugcina isimo sengqondo esinethemba kukunceda uhlale wonwabile , uphumelele ebomini, kwaye uhlale usempilweni.
Cinga ngezi ngenelo zokucinga ngendlela enethemba:
- Impilo Yengqondo : Ukuba nethemba kusebenza njengekhaka elinokukukhusela kwiimeko ezifana nokudakumba . Nokuba unengxaki enjalo, indlela ocinga ngayo inokuba yinto ebalulekileyo ekukhuseleni.
- Ukumelana noxinzelelo: Ukuba nembono entle kukunika amandla okumelana noxinzelelo lobomi, okanye uxinzelelo . Xa kuvela ingxaki, endaweni yokuxhalaba, ingqondo yakho ifumana indlela eyahlukileyo yokujonga imeko.
- Ubude bexesha: Usenokumangaliswa, kodwa uphando lubonisa ukuba ukucinga ngendlela enethemba kunokuba negalelo ekuphileni ubomi obude. Sisixhobo esihle kakhulu sobomi obusempilweni nobonwabisayo.
- Sisakhono Esinokufundeka: Eyona nto ingcono kukuba, nokuba iindlela zakho zokucinga bezisoloko zingenathemba, ithemba yinto onokuyifunda uze uziqeqeshe ukuyamkela.
"Ukuba nethemba akuyondlela yokucinga nje kuphela; sisitshixo sobomi obusempilweni."
Abantu abanethemba kunye nabantu abacinga ukuba izinto azihambi kakuhle bazijonga njani iziganeko?
Ukuba nethemba akuthethi nje ukubona icala elihle okanye ukulindela iziphumo ezilungileyo, kodwa kuxhomekeke kwindlela esizijonga ngayo nesitolika ngayo iziganeko esele zenzekile.
Cinga ngale ndlela: Xa kwenzeka into elungileyo, abantu abanethemba bathi oku kungenxa yemizamo nezakhono zabo. Babona amandla abo njengezinto ezihlala zihleli, ezizinzileyo kubo. Bakwacinga ngendlela le mpumelelo enokuvulela ngayo iingcango zeziphumo ezilungileyo. Umzekelo, ukuba uphumelele uviwo, umntu onethemba unokucinga, “Ndiphumelele kuba ndisebenze nzima. Ndiyakwazi ukufezekisa ezi zinto, kwaye oku kuya kundinceda ndifumane umsebenzi olungileyo kamva.”
Ngokwahlukileyo koko, xa izinto zingahambi njengoko bekucwangcisiwe , indlela abantu abasabela ngayo yahlukile. Abantu abanethemba abazigxeki. Babona iingxaki njengento yexeshana . Xa into ihamba gwenxa, umntu onethemba uyidibanisa nemeko ethile endaweni yokusilela komntu. Ngenxa yokuba engaziqondi ezi ngxaki, bangcono kakhulu ekubuyeleni emva kokuphoxeka kunabantu abanethemba.
Cinga ngalo mzekelo: UNimal noSupun bobabini bayazama kwiqela lebhola yomnyazi lesikolo. Akukho namnye kubo ophumeleleyo. Bobabini badanile, kodwa iimpendulo zabo zahlukile.
UNimal unethemba. Ucinga oku: “Bekukho abantu abaninzi abanetalente kwii-tryouts, kwaye bekukho iindawo ezimbalwa kuphela. Ndizilolonge nzima kwaye ndizive ngathi ndidlale kakuhle! Umqeqeshi undinike ingxelo entle. Ndiza kusebenza kwiindawo azikhankanyileyo kwaye ndibukele yonke imidlalo kule sizini. Oko kuza kundinika ithuba elingcono kunyaka ozayo.”
Uyabona loo nto? UNimal ugxila kwimeko ethile, kungekhona kukubaluleka kwakhe. Akakuboni oku njengombuso osisigxina. Ulindele ukuba abe yinxalenye yeqela kunyaka ozayo kwaye sele eceba indlela yokwenza oko.
USupun uthambekele ekubeni nethemba. Ucinga oku: “Akumangalisi ukuba andizange ndiphumelele—ndandingumdlali ombi kakhulu kwii-tryouts, kwaye umqeqeshi mhlawumbi akandithandi. Akukho nto indihambela kakuhle. Ndifanele ndamkele ukuba andingomdlali olungileyo.” Ngokungafaniyo noNimal, uSupun uthatha le ngxaki ngokwakhe. Uzigxeka kwaye uvakalelwa kukuba amandla angaphandle (umqeqeshi, ubomi) ayasebenza kuye. Okubi nangakumbi, esi siganeko simenza azibuze ngayo yonke italente yakhe kwezemidlalo.
Ngoku, ndixelele: ngubani onokuthi ahlale edanile ixesha elide? Ngubani onokuthi aqeqeshe aze azame kwakhona? Ngubani onokuthi ayeke? Impendulo icacile, akunjalo?
Ukucinga ngendlela enethemba kukwakha njani ukuqina kwakho?
Ukucinga ngethemba kusenza sikwazi ukubona iziganeko ezidimazayo njengeemeko zexeshana , kusinika inkolelo yokuba singazoyisa. Oku kuqinisa ukuzimisela kwethu ukuzama kwakhona endaweni yokunikezela. Kugcina iinjongo namaphupha ethu ephila kwaye kusinika amandla okuzimisela. Ngenxa yoko, abantu abanethemba baziva belawula ngakumbi iimeko zabo, kwaye ukuzithemba kwabo kuphezulu kakhulu. Banemvakalelo yokwenene yokuzikholelwa.
Kwelinye icala, ingcinga yokuphelelwa lithemba isishukumisela ekubeni sithathe ukuphoxeka kunye nokungamkeleki. Isenza kubonakale ngathi zizinto ezihlala zihleli endaweni yeziganeko ezidlulayo. Ingcinga yokuphelelwa lithemba iyawandisa amacala amabi emeko, idla ngokugubungela naziphi na izinto ezintle. Xa izinto zingahambi njengoko bekulindelwe, le ndlela yokucinga yenza kube nzima kakhulu ukumelana nayo.
Ingaba ukuba nethemba kukubona yonke into ngeglasi ezinombala obomvu? (Ithemba Eliqinisekileyo)
Hayi, ayikuko oko kuthethwayo. Ukuba nethemba akuthethi ukuba ujonge yonke into ngeeglasi ezibomvu okanye ukwenza ngathi ubomi buyinto nje engaqhelekanga. Abantu abanethemba abazityesheli iingxaki zobomi, kwaye abazenzi ngathi yonke into igqibelele. Endaweni yoko, bagxila ekuboneni okulungileyo kuyo nayiphi na imeko baze baqonde amanyathelo abanokuwathatha ukuphucula izinto.
Abantu abanethemba lokuphumelela banentembelo yokwenene , ebangelwa kukulungiselela. Bayaqonda ukuba ukuphumelela uviwo olunzima kufuna ufundisiso olukhutheleyo, kanye njengokuba besazi ukuba ukwakha iqela lebhasikithi kufuna ukuziqhelanisa ngokuzinikela.
Ngamafutshane, ukuba nethemba kuxhomekeke kwisenzo. Kumalunga nokufumana ulungelelwano oluphilileyo phakathi kokucinga okulungileyo kunye nokuqonda izinto ngendlela eqinisekileyo.
Ngaba kuyimfuneko ngokwenene ukubonakalisa ukungabi nathemba?
Nangona ukucinga izinto ezingalunganga kunokukuthintela—kwaye kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ungayitshintsha loo ndlela yokucinga—akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ucime yonke ingcinga engalunganga ngokupheleleyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukubuza okuthi “Yintoni engalunganga?” kusinceda sifumane ingxaki ngokuchanekileyo. Ukucamngca ngeengozi ezinokubakho kunokukukhusela kwiingozi ezingeyomfuneko.
Cinga ngale ndlela: Umntakwenu uthumela imiyalezo ngelixa ekuqhubela kwenye indawo. Ingqondo yakho engalunganga neyokulumkisa iyakulumkisa: “Oku akukhuselekanga!” Emva koko umcele ukuba ayeke, kungekuphela nje ngenxa yokhuseleko lwakhe, kodwa nangenxa yakho. Okwangoku, udibanisa ingcinga yokuphelelwa lithemba (“Ukuba uthumela imiyalezo ngelixa eqhuba, sinokufumana ingozi”) kunye nesenzo esinethemba (“Ndiyazi ukuba kukho into endinokuyenza ukuze ndiyeke oku.”)
Sonke sidlula kwiingxaki apho kungekho nto ibonakala ihamba kakuhle. Xa uziva udimazekile, kuyanceda ukuvuma iimvakalelo zakho nokuxoxa ngento engalunganga. Ukuthetha nomntu omthembayo kunokunceda unciphise umthwalo wakho wengqondo kwaye kukuncede uphinde ugxile kwizinto ezintle ezinokwenzeka. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukungabambeki kwingxaki ngokwayo. Ukuba uyayilawula le nto, nokuba neengcinga ezimbi zingasebenza njengesikhuthazo sokuqhubeka phambili.
Ungaba njani nethemba elingakumbi?
Ukuba uzifumana uthambekele ngokwemvelo ekubeni nembono engalunganga, ungaziqeqesha ukuba ubone okulungileyo. Nazi izinto ezimbalwa onokuzama:
- Qaphela kwaye uxabise izinto ezilungileyo. Ekupheleni kosuku ngalunye, zinike imizuzu eli-10 ukucamngca kwaye uchonge izinto ezimbalwa ozibulelayo. Zibhale phantsi kwijenali okanye usebenzise usetyenziso olukhuthazayo kwifowuni yakho okanye kwithebhulethi. Nezinto ezincinci ziyabaluleka—njengomntu oncumayo kuwe namhlanje.
- Qeqesha ingqondo yakho ukuba ikholelwe ukuba unokuba nefuthe kwiziphumo ezilungileyo. Ziqhelise ukuzixelela amanyathelo athile onokuwathatha ukuze uphumelele. Umzekelo: “Ukuba ndiyafunda, ndinokufumana amanqaku amahle.” “Ukuba ndiyaqhelisela, ndiza kudlala kakuhle kwikonsathi.” “Ukuba ndijoyina elo qela lamavolontiya, ndiza kudibana nabahlobo abatsha.”
- Musa ukuzibeka ityala xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle. Xa izinto zingahambi njengoko bekucwangcisiwe, mamela intetho yakho yangaphakathi. Endaweni yokucinga, “Ndingaphumelelanga uvavanyo kuba ndingakwazi kakuhle izibalo,” zama ukuthi, “Ndingaphumelelanga kuba andifundanga ngokwaneleyo. Andiyi kuphinda ndivumele oko kwenzeke kwakhona.” Endaweni yokucinga, “Bandishiyile kuba ndingento yanto,” zama: “Ndiyayiqonda isizathu sokuba oku kuhlukana kube buhlungu, kodwa ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo bam kuya kundinceda ndizive ndingcono.”
- Xa into ihamba kakuhle, zinike udumo. Cinga ngento oyenzileyo ukuze ufumane iziphumo ezilungileyo. Ngaba ulungiselele kakuhle? Ngaba uziqeqesha ngokuzinikela? Qaphela amandla akho nendlela akuncede ngayo waphumelela. Ungoyiki ukuthi, “Ndikwenzile oku!”
- Zikhumbuze ukuba iingxaki zezokwexeshana. Xa kukho into engahambi kakuhle, zikhumbuze ukuba iza kudlula—kwaye wenze isicwangciso sokwenza oko kwenzeke. Umzekelo: “Iziphumo zam zeemviwo azizange zibe yile nto bendiyilindele, kodwa ndingafunda ngakumbi ndize ndibhale kwakhona iimviwo.”
- Jonga indlela abanye abathetha ngayo ngabo. Ngaba abahlobo bakho nosapho lwakho banethemba okanye abanathemba? Umzekelo, ngaba utata wakho uthi, “Nditshise ii-hot dog, ndingumpheki ombi kakhulu!” okanye uthi, “Nditshise ii-hot dog kuba ndiphazamisekile ndibukele inja isukela unomatse!”
Zama ukufaka le mikhwa ebomini bakho. Kusenokuvakala kunzima ekuqaleni, kodwa ngokuziqhelanisa, uya kuqala ukubona umahluko.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
Njengoko ubona, ukuba nethemba yindlela yokucinga enokufundwa. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuphelelwa lithemba yinto onokuyifunda !
Le nkqubo ithatha ixesha, ngoko ke musa ukudimazeka. Njengoko usiya uqonda ngakumbi ezi ndlela zimbini zokucinga, uya kufumana ezinye iindlela zokuhlakulela ithemba. Qhubeka uzixelela oku, “Ndingaba nethemba ngakumbi, kwaye ndiza kuqhubeka ndiziqhelisa!”
Khumbula, inyathelo ngalinye elincinci libalulekile. Yonke imizamo oyenzayo yokutshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo ikukusondeza kubomi bolonwabo, impumelelo, kunye nokuphila kakuhle . Ngoko ke, ngaba singaluqala olu hambo lunethemba namhlanje? Unayo le nto!
