Ingabe nawe wesaba ukusondelana nomuntu bese uqala ubudlelwano? Ake sixoxe nge-Gamophobia!

Ingabe ngezinye izikhathi uzizwa ngale ndlela? Ingabe uzizwa wesaba futhi ungakhululekile lapho othile ezama ukusondela kakhulu kuwe, noma lapho ubuhlobo budlula kakhulu? Noma uyashaqeka kancane uma uzwa ukuthi umngane wakho uthembisene umshado? Uma lezi zinto zivamile kuwe, ungase ube nalesi simo ungaqapheli.

Kuyini i-Gamophobia?

Kalula nje, i-Gamophobia ukwesaba okukhulu ukuzibophezela. Lokhu kwesaba kukhulu kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi kungaba yinto engacabangeki ngalabo abahlushwa yilesi simo ukuba sebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside. Igama elithi 'Gamos' igama lesiGreki elisho 'umshado'. Igama elithi 'Phobos' lisho 'ukwesaba'. Ngakho-ke, lapho lokhu kokubili kuhlangana, kwakheka i-Gamophobia.

Kodwa-ke, abanye abantu bayesaba ukuzibophezela ezinhlelweni zesikhathi eside, njengokukhetha iyunivesithi, umsebenzi, noma indawo yokuhlala. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kwesaba kuhlukile ku-gamophobia, okuwukwesaba ubudlelwano bomuntu siqu.

Yini engenzeka kumuntu one-Gamophobia?

Manje bheka ukuthi unazo yini lezi zimpawu. Umuntu one-Gamophobia angase abe nalokhu okulandelayo:

• Abakwazi ukwakha ubudlelwano bothando obuhlala njalo nobujulile. Bahlala bezama ukugcina ubudlelwano obungasho lutho.
• Uma usebudlelwaneni , uzizwa ukhathazekile kakhulu. Uhlala uzibuza ukuthi, 'Lokhu kuzohlukana nini?', 'Ingabe uzongishiya?'
• Ngisho noma ngibona umbhangqwana ojabulayo nozibophezele , ngizizwa ngishaqekile futhi ngingakhululekile ngendlela exakile.
• Bayabaxosha abantu abasondelene nabo, noma baqeda ubudlelwano ngokuzumayo. Ngezinye izikhathi ngaphandle kwesizathu nhlobo.

Kuyini i-Phobia?

Sisanda kukhuluma nge-Gamophobia. Pho lisho ukuthini igama elithi 'Phobia'? I-phobia uhlobo oluvame kakhulu lwesifo sokukhathazeka . Kulokhu, unokwesaba okukhulu noma ukwesaba izinto ezingeyona ingozi. I-Gamophobia nayo iyisifo esithile sokungathandi . Lokho kusho ukuthi wesaba isimo esithile: umshado noma ubuhlobo.

Ivame kangakanani i-Gamophobia?

Kunzima ukusho ngqo ukuthi bangaki abantu abanokwesaba okuthile okufana ne-gamophobia. Abantu abaningi bagcina lokhu kwesaba kubo, noma abazi nokuthi banako. Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo e-United States lubonisa ukuthi umuntu oyedwa kubantu abadala abayi-10 kanye nomuntu oyedwa kwabayi-5 abasha uzobhekana nalokhu kwesaba okuthile ngesikhathi esithile empilweni yakhe.

Ubani osengozini enkulu yokuthola i-Gamophobia?

Abanye abantu banamathuba amaningi okuthola lesi simo. Isibonelo, abantu abanezinkinga zobuntu ezifana ne -Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) bangase bagweme ubudlelwano ngenxa yokwesaba okukhulu ukushiywa nokwenqatshwa. Bangase babe nobunzima bokuthemba abanye.

Kunezinye izici eziningana eziyingozi:

• Umlando womndeni: Uma omunye wabazali bakho noma umuntu omthandayo eke waba nesifo sokwesaba noma sokukhathazeka, nawe ungase ube nokwesaba into efanayo. Njengoba nje izingane zizuza izifo ezithile kubazali bazo.
• Ubulili: Kutholakale ukuthi abesifazane banamathuba amaningi okuba novalo oluthile kunabesilisa.
• Izimbangela zofuzo: Ucwaningo lokuqala lubonisa ukuthi abanye abantu banokuguquka kofuzo okwandisa ingozi yabo yokuba nokukhathazeka noma ukwesaba. Lokhu kusho ukuthi kungaba yinto egijima ezizakhini zakho zofuzo.

Yiziphi ezinye izinhlobo zokwesaba ezihlobene nokwesaba ukuzibophezela?

Ngokuvamile, umuntu angaba nokwesaba okungaphezu kokukodwa. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kwesaba kunokuthile okufanayo. Isibonelo, umuntu owesaba ukuzibophezela angase abe nokunye ukwesaba okufana nalokhu:

• I-Philophobia: Kusho ukwesaba uthando.
• I-Pistanthrophobia: Ukwesaba ukuthemba abanye noma ukulinyazwa ngumuntu omthandayo.
• I-Genophobia: Ukwesaba isenzo socansi noma ukusondelana ngokocansi.
• Ukwesaba ukulahlwa: Ukwesaba njalo ukuthi othile uzokulahla.

Kungani ngesaba kangaka ukuzibophezela? Yiziphi izizathu?

Abantu abaningi bathi ukwesaba kwabo ukuzibophezela, noma umshado, kubangelwa yizinto ezibuhlungu ezenzeka esikhathini esidlule. Eqinisweni, i-gamophobia ingaba yindlela yokuvikela ingqondo yakho eye yakha ukuze ikuvikele. Cabanga ngakho, uma ungazibophezeli ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside, ngeke uzizwe ngisho nobuhlungu.

Nazi ezinye izimbangela ezingaba khona ze-Gamophobia:

• Ukungezwani kwabazali: Izingane ezibone izingxabano zabazali bazo, ukulwa, noma isehlukaniso esibuhlungu zingase zesabe ukungena ebudlelwaneni obuzobangela izinkinga njengoba zikhula. Isibonelo, uNilanthi wabona abazali bakhe belwa ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho eseyingane. Ekugcineni, bahlukana. Manje, noma umuntu ezama ukusondela kuNilanthi, uyesaba, ezibuza, 'Ingabe impilo yami izofana nekaMama?'
• Ubuhlungu benhliziyo bangaphambilini:Abantu abadala abaye balinyazwa ukuhlukana, isehlukaniso, noma ukungathembeki bangase besabe ukubuyelana. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokhu kukhetha kungaba ukwesaba. Cabanga nje, uKasun walinyazwa kakhulu uthando lwakhe lokuqala. Wabe esenquma ukuthi ngeke aphinde asondele kangako kunoma ubani. Manje sekuyikwesaba kuye.
• Ukwesaba ukuphuthelwa (FOMO): Abanye abantu bayesaba ukuthi, "Uma ngizibophezela kulo muntu, ngizophuthelwa yini ukuthola umuntu ongcono?" Yingakho bengazibophezeli kunoma ubani.
• Amathonya esiko noma enkolo: Amanye amasiko akhuthaza imishado ehleliwe ngaphandle kokucabangela uthando noma imizwa. Uma ungakhethi umlingani wakho, ungase wesabe ukuzibophezela ngokugcwele ebudlelwaneni. Futhi, uma uyilungu lomphakathi we-LGBTQ+ , ungase wesabe ukushada uma inkolo noma isiko lakho liphikisana nomshado onjalo.

Ziyini izimpawu ze-Gamophobia?

Uma une-gamophobia, ungase ube nezimpawu zomzimba ezinjengalezi uma ucabanga ngokuya ocansini nothile:

• Ukuzizwa sengathi umzimba wakho uyabanda (Ukugodola).
• Isiyezi kanye nokungabi nangqondo.
• Ukujuluka ngokweqile (i-Hyperhidrosis).
• Ukushaya kwenhliziyo. Kuzwakala sengathi isifuba sakho siyashaya.
• Isicanucanu.
• Ubunzima bokuphefumula (i-Dyspnea).
• Ukuthuthumela noma ukuthuthumela.
• Isisu esibuhlungu noma ukungagayi kahle ukudla (i-Dyspepsia).

Ungayibona kanjani i-Gamophobia?

Odokotela basebenzisa ukuhlolwa kwempilo yengqondo ukuthola i-gamophobia. Akukho ukuhlolwa okuqondile kwayo. Udokotela wakho uzokubuza ngezimpawu zakho, umlando wakho wempilo yengqondo, nokuthi unazo yini ezinye izinkinga zokwesaba. Bangase futhi bakuthumele kuchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo ogxile ezinkingeni zokwesaba kanye nezinkinga zokukhathazeka.

Ungakunqoba kanjani ukwesaba ukuzibophezela? Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha?

Lena yinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Kunezindlela zokunqoba lokhu kwesaba. Abantu abaningi bathola ukuthi uhlobo lwe-psychotherapy olubizwa ngokuthi i-Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) lubasiza ukunqoba ukwesaba kwabo ukuzibophezela. I-CBT isebenza ngokubona izimbangela eziyisisekelo zokwesaba kwakho ukuzibophezela nokushintsha leyo micabango. Uchwepheshe wezokwelapha angakusiza ukuthi ushintshe le mibono engemihle ibe yimibono emihle mayelana nokuzibophezela nomshado. Ungafunda nokuthi ungakhuluma kanjani nabathandekayo bakho ngalolu valo.

"Khumbula, i-CBT ifana nomngane obona amaphethini emicabango aphithizelayo engqondweni yakho futhi akusize uwahlele."

Enye indlela yokwelapha i- Systemic Desensitization Therapy . Lolu uhlobo lokwelapha ngokuchayeka . Kuye kwabonakala kusiza abantu abaningi ukunqoba ukwesaba okuthile.

Ukwelashwa ngokuchayeka:

• Uzofundiswa ukuphatha izimpawu zakho usebenzisa amasu okuphumula njengokuzivocavoca okujulile nokuzindla.
• Kancane kancane, kancane kancane uzwa umqondo wokwakha isibopho. Lokho kusho ukuthi awucelwa ukuba wenze into enkulu ngesikhathi esisodwa, uqala ngezinyathelo ezincane.
• Uzonikezwa imisebenzi yangempela ukukusiza unqobe ukwesaba kwakho ukuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside.

Yiziphi izinkinga ezingaba khona ngenxa ye-Gamophobia?

Ukuziqhelelanisa njalo nabantu obathandayo nokugwema ubudlelwano kungaba nomthelela omubi empilweni yakho yomzimba neyengqondo. Ungase ubhekane nezimo ezinjengalezi:

• Ukucindezeleka kanye nemicabango yokuzibulala.
• Ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-Erectile (kwabesilisa)
• Ukukhathazeka nokuhlaselwa uvalo.
• Inkinga yokusebenzisa izidakamizwa. Abanye abantu baphendukela ezindleleni ezingalungile ukuze babalekele lokhu kwesaba.

Kufanele ngimbone nini udokotela?

Uma uhlangabezana nanoma iyiphi yalezi zinto, qiniseka ukuthi ubona udokotela:

• Uma kwenzeka ukuhlaselwa uvalo.
• Uma ukhathazekile njalo okuphazamisa impilo yansuku zonke noma ubuthongo.
• Uma kunezimpawu zokucindezeleka noma izinkinga zokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa .

Yimiphi imibuzo okufanele ngiyibuze udokotela wami?

Uma uya kudokotela, kuwumqondo omuhle ukubuza imibuzo efana nale:

• Yini engenza ngibe nalolu valo?
• Yikuphi ukwelashwa okungcono kakhulu kimi?
• Ingabe kufanele ngifune ukwelashwa kwengqondo?
• Kuzodingeka ngenze ukwelashwa isikhathi esingakanani?
• Ingabe kufanele ngikhathazeke ngezinkinga?

Okokugcina, khumbula lokhu (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Kujwayelekile ngathi sonke ukuba nokungabaza okuncane nokungabaza (okwaziwa nangokuthi 'izinyawo ezibandayo') lapho singena ebudlelwaneni. Kodwa-ke, kumuntu one-gamophobia, lokhu kwesaba kungaba namandla kangangokuthi kungamenza angakwazi ukuqhubeka nobudlelwano futhi akhe izibopho ezijulile nabanye.

Uma wake walimala ngaphambili, i-gamophobia ingaba yindlela yokuzivikela ekubhekaneni nobuhlungu obufanayo futhi. Kodwa khumbula, inganqotshwa. Uchwepheshe wezokwelapha angakusiza ukunqoba lokhu kwesaba. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, nawe ungaba sebudlelwaneni obujabulisayo nobuzinzile. Ungesabi ukucela usizo. Awuwedwa.

I- Gamophobia, ukwesaba ukuzibophezela, ukwesaba umshado, ukukhathazeka, i-phobia, ukwelashwa kwengqondo