Ingabe ngezinye izikhathi uzizwa ucindezelekile kakhulu futhi uthwele kanzima engqondweni yakho kusukela ngesikhathi uvuka ekuseni? Umsebenzi wasehhovisi, izinkinga zasekhaya, umsebenzi wabantwana, izinkinga zemali... Uma lezi zinto ziza ngokulandelana, ukhathala yikho konke futhi uzizwe sengathi ikhanda lakho lizoqhuma, akunjalo? Sonke sizwa lolu hlobo lokucindezeleka, okungukuthi, ukucindezeleka , ngesikhathi esithile empilweni yethu. Kuvamile kakhulu. Kodwa into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi sifunde ukulawula lokhu kucindezeleka futhi sibhekane nakho esikhundleni sokukuvumela ukuthi kusilawule. Namuhla, sizoxoxa ngalokhu.
Kungani kubaluleke kangaka ngathi ukufunda ukubhekana nokucindezeleka?
Kalula nje, 'ukubhekana' nokucindezeleka kusho ukuzama ukugcina ingqondo nemizimba yethu ilinganisela ngangokunokwenzeka, ngaphandle kokuyivumela iwe, lapho sibhekene nezinselele, izinkinga, noma izinto ezinzima kithi ekuphileni. Lokhu kufana nokuzama ukulawula umkhumbi ngesikhathi sesiphepho.
Sivame ukusebenzisa igama elithi 'ukucindezeleka' maqondana nezinto ezimbi empilweni. Cabanga ngakho, lapho silahlekelwa umsebenzi, lapho silahlekelwa othandekayo, noma lapho sibhekene nokugula noma inhlekelele enkulu, sizizwa sicindezelekile kakhulu. Kuyiqiniso.
Kodwa bewazi ukuthi ngisho nezinto ezinhle kakhulu empilweni zingaba yingcindezi ? Akumangalisi yini? Cabanga ngokushada. Nakuba kujabulisa kangaka, ukuhlela umshado, ukuzivumelanisa nomndeni omusha, ukuthatha imithwalo yemfanelo emisha... konke lokhu kuza nengcindezi enkulu. Kuyafana nokuba nomntwana omusha. Kuyinjabulo enkulu emhlabeni. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuhlala ulele kuze kube sebusuku, ukunakekela umntwana, kanye nokuthatha imithwalo yemfanelo emisha konke kubeka ingcindezi enkulu kubo bobabili abazali.
Pho kungani lezi zinguquko zisicindezela? Ngoba, kufanele sizivumelanise nanoma yiluphi ushintsho olukhulu noma oluncane empilweni yethu. Kudinga amandla engeziwe kanye nomzamo engqondweni nasemzimbeni wethu. Uma sibhekana nezinguquko eziningi kakhulu esikhathini esifushane, siqala ukucabanga, "O, angikwazi ukulawula lutho."
Lo muzwa wokuthi "akukho ukuzilawula" uyingozi kakhulu. Unciphisa ukuzethemba kwethu, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kungaholela ezifweni zengqondo njengokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka . Akukhona lokho kuphela, kodwa ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo kungadala ngisho nokugula ngokomzimba, noma kube kubi kakhulu ukugula okukhona.
Ezinye izinto ezibangela ukucindezeleka ziyenzeka okwesikhashana. Isibonelo, ukuthuthela endlini entsha. Uma umsebenzi usuqediwe, ukucindezeleka kuzophela. Kodwa ezinye izinto ezibangela ukucindezeleka ziyenzeka isikhathi eside. Izinto ezifana nobuhlungu obungapheli, ukugula okungelapheki, noma izinkinga zezimali eziqhubekayo. Uma siphila nokucindezeleka okunjalo kwesikhathi eside, ama-hormone emizimba yethu ahlobene nokucindezeleka ahlala ephezulu, okungenza imizimba yethu ibe buthaka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi kusenze sibe sengozini yokugula.
Kulungile-ke, yiziphi izindlela esingazisebenzisa ukubhekana nalokhu kucindezeleka?
Ukubhekana nokucindezeleka kufana nebhokisi lamathuluzi. Kunezindlela ezahlukene zokuxazulula izinkinga ezahlukene. Akuwona wonke amathuluzi asebenza ngendlela efanayo. Nazi ezinye zezindlela esingazisebenzisa. Ngizozichaza etafuleni.
| Indlela yokubhekana nesimo | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Yehlisa okulindelwe. | Ungacabangi ukuthi konke kufanele kuphelele ngokuphelele. Ngezinye izikhathi kuyaduduza kakhulu ukumane uthi, "Lokhu kwanele." |
| Cela usizo kwabanye. | Ungabi namahloni okubuza, "Nginenkinga yokwenza lokhu ngedwa, ungangisiza?" Akusibo ubuthakathaka, kungamandla. |
| Yamukela isimo bese uthatha umthwalo wemfanelo. | Esikhundleni sokubalekela inkinga, cabanga, "Kulungile, lesi yisimo, ngenzenjani manje?" bese ugxila kulokho ongakwenza. |
| Zama ukuxazulula inkinga. | Khomba kahle ukuthi inkinga iyini, yenza uhlu lwezixazululo ezingaba khona, bese uzama ngayinye ngayinye. |
| Gcina ubudlelwano obuhle. | Khuluma nabangani bakho nomndeni wakho abakuthandayo nabakuqondayo. Yabelana ngalokho okusengqondweni yakho. Umuthi omkhulu kunayo yonke. |
| Lawula (noma ukhulule) imizwa | Ngezinye izikhathi kubalulekile ukuhlala uzolile. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuveza ukudabuka nentukuthelo yakho kumuntu omethembayo. |
| Suka kancane enkingeni. | Esikhundleni sokuhlala ucabanga ngento efanayo, yeka ukucabanga ngezinto okwesikhashana. Bukela i-movie, ulalele ingoma, ufunde incwadi. |
| Umbono ngombono wenkolo | Uma ungumuntu othanda inkolo, ungathola ukuthula kwengqondo okukhulu ngokuzindla, ukuvakashela amathempeli/amasonto/amathempeli, kanye nokuhlanganyela emikhosini yenkolo. |
Indlela efanayo ayisebenzi kuyo yonke into, akunjalo?
Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukubhekana nokucindezeleka akuyona into eyenzeka kanye kuphela. Kuyinqubo . Ngisho noma unenkinga efanayo, kungadingeka usebenzise izindlela eziningana ezishiwo ngenhla ngokulandelana ngezikhathi ezahlukene.
Futhi, njengabantu, sonke sihlukile. Abanye abantu bafuna ukuxazulula inkinga uma iphakama. Abanye bafuna ukukhuluma nomngane futhi baveze imizwa yabo. Akukho okubi ngalokhu. Okubalulekile ukuba nezimo . Okusho ukuthi, ukukwazi ukukhetha indlela engcono kakhulu yokubhekana nesimo.
Ake sibheke isibonelo. Ake sithi ucindezeleke kakhulu ehhovisi ngoba awukwazi ukuqeda iphrojekthi. Indlela efanele kakhulu lapha indlela 'yokuzama ukuxazulula inkinga'. Okusho ukuthi, ukuhlukanisa umsebenzi ube izingxenye, ukwenza uhlelo, nokusebenza kulo. Kodwa ake sithi othile emndenini wakho unesifo esingelapheki. Awukwazi ukushintsha lokho. Akukho sizathu 'sokuxazulula inkinga' kuleso simo. Esimweni esinjalo, izindlela ezifanele kakhulu 'ukugcina ubuhlobo obunobungane' kanye 'nokuveza imizwa'. Uyawuqonda umehluko?
Isivikelo sakho esihle kakhulu sokumelana nokucindezeleka
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zingaki izindlela esikhuluma ngazo, into engcono kakhulu nenamandla kakhulu esingayenza ukuze sizivikele ekucindezelekeni ukuba nobudlelwano obuhle nabanye abantu. Izinkulungwane zezifundo ziye zafakazela ukuthi umuzwa wokuthi kukhona umuntu ozokutshela imizwa yakho, ocela usizo, okuqondayo, okuvikela emiphumeleni emibi yokucindezeleka.
Ngakho-ke, ungalokothi ukhohlwe ubudlelwano onabo nomndeni wakho nabangane bakho abaseduze. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi impilo yakho imatasa kangakanani, thola isikhathi sokukhuluma nabo futhi uhlangane nabo okungenani kanye ngesonto. Yilona utshalomali olukhulu kakhulu ongalwenza kuwe.
Ake siqale ngendlela yakho yokuphila?
Uma ubhekene nokucindezeleka okukhulu, kubalulekile ukubheka yonke indlela yakho yokuphila. Ngoba imikhuba yethu yansuku zonke inomthelela omkhulu ekhonweni lethu lokubhekana nokucindezeleka. Nazi ezinye izinto ezilula, kodwa eziphumelelayo kakhulu ongazengeza empilweni yakho.
| Okufanele ngikwenze | Kungani lokho kubalulekile? |
|---|---|
| Lala kahle, ulale kahle. | Ukulala yisikhathi sokuba ingqondo nomzimba 'bavuselele'. Kubalulekile ukuthola okungenani amahora angu-7-8 okulala kahle ngosuku. Yeka ukubuka ifoni yakho ne-TV ihora ngaphambi kokulala. |
| Yidla ukudla okunempilo. | Uma ukucindezeleka kukhuphuka, ungase uzizwe sengathi udla ukudla okumnandi nokunamafutha. Kodwa lokhu kudla kwengeza isisindo emzimbeni nasengqondweni yakho. Phuza imifino eminingi, izithelo namanzi ahlanzekile. |
| Vivinya umzimba njalo. | Uma sizivocavoca, imizimba yethu ikhipha ama-hormone asenza sizizwe sijabule. Ukuhamba ngokushesha, ukugijima, noma ukudansa imizuzu engama-30 kuphela ngosuku kungenza umehluko omkhulu. |
| Thatha ikhefu elifushane emini. | Esikhundleni sokusebenza ngokuqhubekayo, vuka uhambe imizuzu emi-5 njalo ngehora, vala amehlo akho bese uphefumula kakhulu. Nika ikhanda lakho inkululeko encane. |
| Yenza okuthile okujabulisayo. | Chitha okungenani imizuzu eyi-15 ngosuku wenza into oyithandayo. Kungaba ukulalela umculo, ukudlala nesilwane sakho sasekhaya, noma ukutshala imbali engadini. |
| Prakthiza izivivinyo zokuzola. | Izinto ezifana ne-yoga, ukuzindla, kanye nokuzivocavoca ngokuphefumula zingaba nokuthula okukhulu. Ungazifunda ngisho naku-inthanethi. |
| Gwema i-caffeine notshwala. | Ngisho noma lezi zisetshenziselwa ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka, empeleni zandisa ukucindezeleka. Lezi zinikeza impumuzo yesikhashana kuphela, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi zibangela umonakalo omkhulu. |
Khumbula, uma usakwazi ukubhekana nokucindezeleka futhi uzizwa ukhungathekile, noma ungakwazi ukwenza imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke, akukaze kube sekwephuzile ukubona udokotela ukuze akunike iseluleko . Akuyona into okufanele ube namahloni ngayo. Njengoba nje sibona udokotela lapho imizimba yethu igula, kubalulekile futhi ukufuna usizo lapho izingqondo zethu zikhathazekile.
Impilo iwuhambo olugcwele izinselele. Ukucindezeleka kuyinto esizohlala sibhekana nayo kulolo hambo. Asikwazi ukukubalekela. Kodwa singabhekana nakho, siphile nakho, futhi sifunde ukukusebenzisa njengamandla ethu.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucindezeleka kuyindlela evamile yokusabela ezinguqukweni empilweni. Ngisho nezinguquko ezinhle zingaba yingcindezi.
- Ukucindezeleka kwesikhathi eside kungakulimaza ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba.
- Ayikho indlela eyodwa yokubhekana nokucindezeleka. Guquguquka futhi usebenzise izindlela ezahlukene ukuze uvumelane nesimo.
- Isivikelo sakho esingcono kakhulu umndeni wakho nabangani bakho abathembekile. Gcina lobo budlelwano kahle.
- Izinto ezilula njengokulala kahle, ukudla okulinganiselayo, ukuzivocavoca, kanye nokuphumula kungasiza kakhulu ekulawuleni ukucindezeleka.
- Uma uzizwa sengathi ubhekene nobunzima bokubhekana nalokhu kucindezeleka wedwa, ungalokothi unqikaze ukubona udokotela ukuze akunike iseluleko.
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