Wonke umzali onenkinga yokulala ebusuku futhi onamehlo abomvu uphupha ngengane yakhe encane ilele kahle ubusuku bonke. Abanye abantu banombono ongalungile mayelana 'nokuqeqeshwa kokulala', okufundisa ingane ukulala yodwa. Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi lokhu kumane nje kumayelana nokwenza ingane ikhale. Kodwa empeleni kungaphezu kwalokho. Ezinye izifundo zikhombisile ukuthi le ndlela iqinisa isibopho phakathi kukamama nengane kanye nobaba nengane.
Yiziphi ezinye izindlela zokusiza ingane yakho ilale?
Kunezindlela eziningana zokusiza wena nomntanakho nidlule kulesi sikhathi esinzima futhi nilale kahle ebusuku. Ake sibheke ukuthi ziyini. Into ebalulekile ukuthi akuzona zonke lezi zindlela ezifanele wonke umntwana . Into ebalulekile ukukhetha ukuthi yini esebenza kahle kakhulu enganeni yakho kanye nohlelo lomndeni wakho.
1. Indlela ethi "Cry It Out" (CIO)
Lena yindlela ethandwa kakhulu futhi ekhulunywa kakhulu ngayo yokuqeqesha ubuthongo. Kuhilela ukwenza izinto ovame ukuzenza ukuze ulale umntanakho (njengokugeza nokumncelisa), ukumlalisa embhedeni, ukusho ukuthi ulale kahle, bese uphuma ekamelweni. Lokhu kubizwa nangokuthi "ukuqedwa ngokuphelele," okusho ukuthi uyeka ukumsiza ngesikhathi esisodwa. Abanye omama abakwazi ukubekezelela ukuzwa umntanabo ekhala, ngakho-ke le ndlela ayisebenzi kubo. Kodwa abanye abazali bathi le ndlela isebenza ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, futhi ngemva kokukhala komntwana wabo isikhashana, bafunda ukuziduduza futhi balale bodwa.
2. Indlela yeFerber
Le ndlela ifana kancane nendlela ethi "Cry it out" okukhulunywe ngayo ngenhla, kodwa lena yenziwa kancane futhi ngendlela ehlelekile. Kulesi simo, wenza nezinto ezithile zokulalisa umntwana, umfake embhedeni bese uphuma ekamelweni. Kodwa lapho umntwana eqala ukukhala, ubuyela ekamelweni bese umduduza. Lapho umntwana ethula, uphuma ekamelweni futhi. Ngale ndlela , kancane kancane wandisa isikhathi phakathi kokuvakashela kwakho ekamelweni . Uma ekuqaleni kwakuyimizuzu, bese kuthi ngemva kwemizuzu emi-3, emi-5. Ekugcineni, umntwana uyaqonda ukuthi umama useduze, ukuze akwazi ukulala yedwa ngaphandle kokwesaba.
3. Indlela Yesihlalo
Ngale ndlela, ungahlala ekamelweni nomntwana wakho, kodwa umduduze ukude. Ulungiselela umntwana wakho ukulala, futhi uma elele (kodwa engalele ngokuphelele), umfaka embhedeni wengane. Bese uhlala esihlalweni esiseduze kombhede wengane. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukungamthinti umntwana noma ukushukumisa umbhede wengane . Uma umntwana ekhala, umduduza ngezwi lakho kuphela, uthi okuthile okufana nokuthi, "Umama ulapha, mntanami, hamba uyolala." Njalo ebusuku, kancane kancane ususa isihlalo sakho embhedeni wengane, kuze kube yilapho ekugcineni siseduze nomnyango wekamelo, bese uphuma ekamelweni. Le ndlela ingathatha cishe amasonto amabili ukusebenza.
4. Indlela ethi “Akunazinyembezi”
Lena yindlela emnene kunazo zonke. Ifana nendlela kaFerber, kodwa inomehluko omkhulu: Ungangena ekamelweni ududuze ingane yakho noma nini lapho ikhala. Kodwa into eyinhloko ukuyibuyisela embhedeni wayo ngesikhathi isavukile . Lokhu kuzosiza ingane yakho ukuthi ithole ukuzethemba kokulala yodwa futhi ihlukane nomkhuba wokufuna ukulala nomama noma nobaba.
5. Indlela ethi “Hlola futhi Ukhonsoli”
Yilokho kanye okusikiselwa yigama. Ngemva kokuba ingane isilungele ukulala futhi ibekwe embhedeni, abazali bangena ekamelweni njalo bahlole ingane - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane iyakhala noma cha . Bangena njalo ngemizuzu embalwa bese beduduza ingane ngokuyishaya emhlane noma ngezwi layo. Kufanele wandise kancane kancane izikhawu phakathi kokuhlolwa. Kodwa-ke, ezinye izingane zingase zikhathazeke kakhulu uma ufika. Ngakho-ke udinga ukubona ukuthi le ndlela iyasebenza yini enganeni yakho.
| Indlela yokujwayela ukulala | Kalula nje... | Ifanelana isikhathi esiningi. |
|---|---|---|
| "Khala Kahle" (i-CIO) | Uphuma ekamelweni, eshiya umntwana embhedeni. Ngisho noma umntwana ekhala, akaphindeli emuva. | Abazali abafuna imiphumela esheshayo banesibindi sokulalela usana lwabo lukhala. |
| Indlela yeFerber | Ngiyahamba ngiyobona ingane yami uma ikhala, kodwa kancane kancane ngiyandisa izikhawu phakathi kokuvakasha. | Kulabo abafuna ukuzijwayeza ukunakekela izingane ngendlela ehlelekile, eyodwa ngesikhathi. |
| Indlela Yesihlalo | Ehleli ekamelweni, kodwa ngaphandle kokuthinta ingane, uyayithulisa ngezwi lakhe. Ususa isihlalo kancane kancane. | Kulabo abangafuni ukushiya ingane yabo yodwa, kodwa abafuna ukuyisiza ukuthi izimele. |
| Indlela "engenazinyembezi" | Ngiyahamba ngiyoduduza ingane noma nini lapho ikhala, kodwa ngiyibuyisela embhedeni wayo kuphela uma ivukile. | Kubazali abangathandi nhlobo ukukhala kwengane yabo, futhi abanesineke kakhulu. |
| Indlela yokuthobisa ngokubheka | Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane iyakhala noma cha, bayahamba bayoyihlola ngesikhathi esibekiwe bese beyiduduza uma kudingeka. | Kulabo abafuna ukuqinisekisa ingane yabo ukuthi bayohlala belapho ngenxa yabo. |
Cabanga ngalezi zinto ngaphambi kokuqala ukuqeqeshwa kokulala
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukulandela lezi zinyathelo ukuze usize ingane yakho ilale kahle ebusuku.
- Qala eminyakeni efanele: Ochwepheshe abaningi bayavuma ukuthi izinyanga eziyisithupha ziyindlela enhle yokuqala ukuqeqeshwa kokulala. Abanye abazali baqala ezinyangeni ezingu-9 ngoba kuleyo minyaka, izingane akudingeki zivuke ebusuku ukuze zincelise, ukuze zilale ubusuku bonke.
- Hlela Isimiso Sokulala : Njengoba izingane zingaqondi umehluko phakathi kwemini nobusuku, inqubo efana nale ibalulekile. Cabanga ngakho, ukugeza ingane yakho ngesikhathi esifanayo njalo ebusuku, ukuyigqokisa izingubo ezihlanzekile, ukuyinika ubisi, nokuyibeka embhedeni ngenkathi uhlabelela iculo lokulila . Uma wenza izinto ezifanayo nsuku zonke ngokulandelana okufanayo, ubuchopho bomntwana wakho buthola isignali yokuthi 'sekuyisikhathi sokulala.'
- Khetha indlela ekusebenzelayo: Khumbula, ukuqeqeshwa kokulala kuphephile . Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi lezi zindlela azinamiphumela emibi enganeni, ngisho nangemva kweminyaka eminingi yokusetshenziswa. Ngakho khetha indlela ezwakala ilungele wena nengane yakho bese unamathela kuyo.
- Hlala uhlelekile: Ukusungula isimiso sokulala kungathatha noma yikuphi kusukela ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kuya emavikini ambalwa. Ungayeki ukuzama ngelinye ilanga futhi ungaboni imiphumela. Yiba nesineke futhi uhambisane njalo . Uma ingane yakho ikhathazekile ngokuya ekamelweni layo lokulala, yenza okuthile okuhle nokujabulisayo emini, njengokudlala kulelo gumbi.
Kuthiwani uma inkinga ivele ngokuzumayo? (Ukuxazulula izinkinga)
Wonke umntwana udinga ukulala kahle ebusuku.Ayikho indlela eyodwa yomlingo noma kuphi emhlabeni.
Ezinye izingane zithanda ukushiywa zodwa. Ezinye zingadinga ukukhunjuzwa njalo ngemizuzu eyi-10 ukuthi "Umama ulapha."
Izindlela zokuqeqesha ukulala zingase zingasebenzi cishe ku-20% wezingane. Lokhu kungaba ngenxa yento efana negesi esiswini sengane. Noma kungaba yisimo sezokwelapha esifana ne-acid reflux . Ngezinye izikhathi kungaba ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukana. Noma ezinye izingane zingase zingakulungeli lokhu ngokwengqondo okwamanje.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho ikhala njalo ngenxa yesinye isizathu sezokwelapha, khuluma nodokotela wakho nakanjani.
Ngisho nangemva kokuba usuqeqeshe ingane yakho ukulala ngempumelelo, kungadingeka uyiqeqeshe kabusha ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa. Noma uma indawo yayo ishintsha, njengalapho ihamba, amaphethini ayo okulala angase aphazamiseke futhi. Lokho kuvamile.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- 'Ukuqeqesha ukulala' kuyindlela ephephile kakhulu kunokumane uvumele ingane yakho ikhale.
- Kungcono ukuqala lokhu lapho umntwana esenezinyanga ezi-6 ubudala.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina isimiso sokulala esihambisanayo nesihambisanayo.
- Khetha indlela efanela wena, ingane yakho, kanye nendlela yokuphila yomndeni wakho.
- Bekezela. Kungathatha izinsuku noma amasonto ambalwa ukubona imiphumela. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuhambisana.
- Uma unokungabaza noma ukukhathazeka ngokukhala noma impilo yengane yakho, qiniseka ukuthi uthintana nodokotela womndeni wakho ngaphambi kokwenza noma yini enye.
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