Ngezinye izikhathi, lapho izinto zenzeka ekuphileni kwethu, ikakhulukazi uma zenzeka kumuntu esimethembayo, asikwazi ngisho nokuzibuza, ‘Ingabe lokhu kwenzekile ngempela?’ Ngisho noma sizizwa singakhululekile futhi sesaba, sizama ukuzikholisa, ‘Cha, ngicabanga ukuthi kungenzeka.’ Lesi sihloko singesabo bonke abantu, ngemva kokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu nokungathandeki kangaka, abathola isibindi sokukhuluma nokufuna ubulungiswa.
Kungani kuthatha isikhathi eside kangaka ukukhuluma ngemva kokuhlaselwa?
Abantu abaningi bayazibuza ukuthi kungani bengakhulumi ngakho noma bakhononde ngakho ngokushesha lapho kwenzeka into efana nokuhlaselwa ngokocansi. Kodwa akulula kangako. Cabanga ngomuntu ogqekeza indlu abese eba i-TV noma imali. Kuyinto eyenzeka ngaphandle kwethu. Kodwa ekuhlaselweni ngokocansi,
indawo yobugebengu iyimizimba yethu. Lokhu kuyinhlekelele enzima kakhulu futhi ejulile ukuyithwala. Lapho kwenzeka
ingozi enkulu kangaka, indlela ubuchopho bethu obusebenza ngayo nayo iyashintsha. Njengengilazi ewela phansi bese iphuka ibe yizicucu, izinkumbulo ezihlobene naleso sigameko zihlakazeke ngaphakathi kobuchopho. Ubuchopho buzama ukusivikela kulolo buhlungu obubi. Ngakho ngezinye izikhathi isigameko singakhohlwa ngokuphelele. Noma sisikhumbula kuphela ngezicucu.
"Umuntu othunjiwe angakhumbula kuphela umsindo awuzwile noma iphunga alizwa ngaleso sikhathi. Umzimba uzwa lokho okuhlangenwe nakho, kodwa ukulandelana kwezenzakalo kungase kulahleke."
Lesi ngesinye sezimpawu ze
-Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) . Yingakho kwabanye abantu, ngisho nangemva kweminyaka, lezo zinkumbulo ziqala ukuvela ngezikhathi ezingalindelekile nangezindlela ezingalindelekile.
| Uhlobo lomthelela | Izimpawu ezingaba khona |
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| Imiphumela yengqondo | Ukwesaba okukhulu, ukucindezeleka , ukukhathazeka , i-PTSD, ubunzima bokuthemba abanye, ukubuya kwezehlakalo zangaphambilini. |
| Imiphumela yomzimba | Ukungalali, ingozi eyengeziwe yesifo senhliziyo, izinguquko endleleni yokudla, ubuhlungu bomzimba, ukwesaba ukubona odokotela. |
Izithiyo emthethweni kanye namathemba amasha
Emazweni amaningi, kunesikhathi esithile sokufaka icala ngemuva kokuba ubugebengu sebuqediwe. Lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi
umthetho wemikhawulo . Kunzima kakhulu ukuthatha isinyathelo sezomthetho ngemuva kokuba lesi sikhathi sesidlulile. Ezimweni ezifana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, ngenxa yokulimala kanye nemiphumela yengqondo esikhulume ngayo ngaphambili, abantu abaningi abakwazi ukukhuluma noma ukukhononda phakathi nalesi sikhathi. Kodwa izindaba ezinhle ukuthi amazwe amaningi emhlabeni ayasiqonda lesi simo futhi ashintsha izinhlelo zawo zomthetho. Amanye amazwe angenise umqondo
"wokubheka emuva" . Kalula nje, kusho ukuthi labo abahlukunyezwe esikhathini esidlule banikezwa isikhathi esikhethekile sonyaka owodwa noma emibili sokufaka icala, noma ngabe umthetho wemikhawulo usuphelelwe yisikhathi. Ithuba elibaluleke kakhulu elinikezwa yimithetho enjalo yikhono lokuthatha isinyathelo sezomthetho hhayi kuphela ngokumelene nomenzi wobubi, kodwa
futhi nanxa nezikhungo ezivumele ubugebengu ukuba bube khona futhi zasiza ekubufihleni . Isibonelo, uma isibhedlela, isikole, isonto noma esinye isikhungo besazi ukuthi othile osebenza ngaphansi kwabo wenza ubugebengu obunjalo kodwa engathathi sinyathelo ngokumelene nabo, lezo zikhungo nazo zinesibopho.
Njengoba nje umenzi wobubi ejeziswa, izikhungo ezivumele ubugebengu ukuba bube khona futhi zehluleka ukuvikela izisulu nazo kumele zibhekane necala. Lena yingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yobulungiswa.
Amandla ezwi lakho okuvusa nokuphulukisa
Ukufaka icala noma ukuya enkantolo kungase kungabi yinto wonke umuntu angayenza noma afuna ukuyenza. Kodwa
ukuphulukiswa kuyinto yomuntu siqu kakhulu. Ayikho indlela eyodwa efanela wonke umuntu. Kwabanye, ukufuna ubulungiswa ngomthetho kungaba yingxenye yokuphulukiswa kwabo. Kwabanye, ukwabelana ngendaba yabo nomuntu abamethembayo kungaba impumuzo enkulu. Khumbula, ukuxoxa indaba yakho, ukuphakamisa izwi lakho, akukhona nje ukuphulukisa wena. Kungenza:
- Ukwazisa ubuhlungu bakho: Okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kungokoqobo futhi umonakalo okukubangele wona uyaqashelwa.
- Ukushintsha umthwalo wemfanelo: Umthwalo wecala ususwa esisulwini uye kumenzi wobubi kanye nezikhungo ezinesibopho.
- Ukunika amandla abanye: Khuluma nezinkulungwane zabanye abahlupheka buthule, futhi indaba yakho izokunikeza isibindi sokuziveza.
- Ukwenza umehluko: Izwi lakho lingasiza ekudaleni izinguquko zomphakathi nezomthetho ezidingekayo ukuvimbela izinto ezinjengalezi ukuthi zenzeke esikhathini esizayo.
Uhambo oluya ekululameni lungaba lude. Kodwa awuwedwa kulolo hambo. Kunabantu abangakusiza.
Khuluma nodokotela wakho, noma ucele usizo kumeluleki wezempilo yengqondo.Kuzoba yisinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu nesinesibindi okufanele usithathe.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi akulona iphutha lakho. Kuhlala kuyiphutha lomhlukumezi.
- Kuvamile ukungakwazi ukukhuluma ngokushesha ngemva kwesigameko. Ukulimala okukhulu kungabangela ukuba inkumbulo iphazamiseke futhi icindezelwe.
- Ukululama kuyindlela eyingqayizivele neyomuntu siqu, futhi akukho sikhathi noma indlela emisiwe.
- Ukukhuluma nomngane omethembayo, ilungu lomndeni, umeluleki, noma udokotela wakho kungaba isinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekile ohambweni lokululama.
- Ngokufuna ubulungiswa nokulandisa indaba yakho, awugcini nje ngokuzinika amandla, kodwa futhi nabanye abaningi abahlupheka buthule.
Ukuhlaselwa ngokocansi, impilo yengqondo, ubulungiswa, ukuhlukumezeka, i-PTSD, osindile, umthetho
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