Uma umuntu oseduze kakhulu nawe, mhlawumbe umyeni wakho, umkakho, ingane, umama, noma ubaba, eshona ngokuzumayo ngesikhathi esingenakucatshangwa... Ubuhlungu obuzwayo abuchazeki, akunjalo? Kuzwakala sengathi umhlaba wonke uwile phezu kwakho. Uqala kanjani impilo yakho futhi ngemva kokushaqeka okukhulu kangaka nosizi olungabekezeleleki? Uvuka kanjani futhi ubeke ingqondo yakho ikhululeke ngenxa yabanye? Namuhla sizokhuluma ngezinto ezimbalwa ezingakusiza ukuthola lawo mandla.
Izindaba zomama abaguqula usizi lwaba amandla
Nakuba lezi zindaba zivela komama baphesheya, usizi alwazi izwe, uhlanga, noma inkolo. Lowo muzwa uvamile kuwo wonke umuntu. Futhi kunjalo nangamandla umuntu anawo okunqoba usizi. Bheka indlela laba mama, ngemva kokulahlekelwa abayeni babo ekuhlaselweni kwamaphekula okungazelelwe, abakhuthazelela ngayo lolo sizi futhi bamela izingane zabo kanye nomphakathi.
Indaba kaLaura: Ukumela Ingane
ULaura wayenendodana eneminyaka engu-4 ubudala enezidingo ezikhethekile, eyaziwa nangokuthi i-autism, egama layo linguWillie. ULaura nomyeni wakhe bamnakekela uWillie ndawonye. Kodwa ngemva kokushona komyeni wakhe ngokuzumayo, umthwalo wemfanelo kaWillie ophelele wawela emahlombe kaLaura.
Indodana yayiphatheke kabi kakhulu ngokulahlekelwa nguyise. Yakhohlwa izinto eyayizifundile noyise, isibonelo, indlela yokuya endlini yangasese yodwa. Yayinethemba lokuthi uyise uzobuya. Njengoba yayingakwazi ukukhuluma, yayingaqhubeka nokusho ukuthi “ngidabukile” ngolimi lwezandla.
Ngalesi sikhathi, into ebaluleke kakhulu uLaura okwakumelwe ayenze kwakuwukufaka indodana yakhe esikoleni esihle. Wakwenza, yize kwakunzima kakhulu. Kancane kancane, indodana yakhe yalulama. Manje usekhumbula uyise ngenjabulo. ULaura manje usebenza ukwakha isikole esikhethekile sendodana yakhe kanye nezinye izingane ezine-autism. Kwakuyiphupho lakhe nomyeni wakhe.
Uma ubeka eceleni usizi lwakho bese wenza okuthile kumuntu othembele kuwe, lokho ngokwako kuba umthombo omkhulu wamandla okuphila.
Indaba KaPatricia: Ukusiza Abanye Bahlupheke
UPatricia wayeshonelwe enye yamadodakazi akhe ngenxa ye-pneumonia ye-bronchial eminyakeni eyisithupha ngaphambi kwalesi sigameko. Indodana yakhe nayo yashona kule nhlekelele efanayo. Engakwazi ukuthwala ubuhlungu, waya kudokotela wezifo zengqondo , noma umelaphi. Udokotela wamnikeza imithi yokucindezeleka kanye nemithi yokudambisa ukucindezeleka.
Akagcinanga lapho. Wanquma ukuthi ufuna ukusiza abanye ababehlupheka njengaye. Waqala iqembu lokusekela endaweni yakubo leminye imindeni eyayilahlekelwe abathandekayo bayo. Manje, ngenxa yalokho, abantu abaningi bathole ithuba lokwabelana ngosizi lwabo nokuthola ukuthula kwengqondo.
"Ukube indodana yami ibilapha, ibizoziqhenya kakhulu ngami," kusho uPatricia. Uzimisele ukwenza okuthile okuhle kuphume ekufeni kwezingane zakhe .
Yiziphi ezinye izindlela zokusiza ukubhekana nosizi?
Kusukela kulezi zindaba, singabona ukuthi laba omama babhekana nosizi lwabo ngezindlela ezahlukene. Kodwa bonke bathole injongo ethile. Ake sifingqe lokhu etafuleni.
| Indlela yokubhekana nenselele | Incazelo kanye nesibonelo |
|---|---|
| Ukuthola inhloso entsha | Ukuzinikela kukaLaura endodaneni yakhe enezidingo ezikhethekile kanye nemizamo yakhe yokuqala isikole sabanye abantwana abanjengaye. |
| Ukusiza abanye | UPatricia waqala iqembu lokusekela labo ababedabukile njengaye, enomuzwa wokuthi wayengeyedwa futhi ethola induduzo ekukhonzeni abanye. |
| Ukulwela ushintsho | Abanye omama ababili (uSally noDomenica) bakha iqembu lokulwela izinguquko emithethweni yokuphepha yokwakha ukuqinisekisa ukuthi abanye abahlupheki ngendlela efanayo nezingane zabo. |
| Ukuhlala uqinile emndenini | UDiana, ezama ukuba namandla phambi kwezingane zakhe. Lapho kudingeka zikhale, wayekhala yedwa ukuze abe umhlane oqinile (umhlathi oqinile) wazo. |
| Ukuthola usizo kwabanye | UDiana uthi ukusekelwa abanye besifazane emphakathini kwaba umthombo omkhulu wamandla kuye. Akukuhle ukuba wedwa osizini, futhi akudingeki ube wedwa. |
Ingabe uzizwa udangele kakhulu ngezinsuku ezikhethekile?
Uma ushonelwa othandekayo, kungaba buhlungu kakhulu ngezikhathi ezikhethekile njengezinsuku zokuzalwa, uSuku Lonyaka Omusha, kanye noSuku Lomama. Kuvamile kakhulu. Nazi ezinye izinto ezingakusiza ngezikhathi ezinjalo.
- Yamukela imizwa yakho: Uma uzizwa udangele futhi ufuna ukukhala, yeka kube njalo. Ungayivaleli imizwa yakho ngokucabanga ukuthi, "Ngidinga ukuba namandla." Usizi luyinqubo ethatha isikhathi. Akuyona into ongathi nje, "Kulungile, kwanele."
- Hlangana nomndeni: Esikhundleni sokuba wedwa, hlangana namanye amalungu omndeni. Uma ungumama onezingane, umthwalo wokuzama ukudlala "umama ojabulayo " uyancipha kancane uma unabanye abantu.
- Zenzele okuthile: Yenza okuthile okukuthandayo. Geza kahle, funda incwadi, uye endaweni ephumuzayo, uhlikihlwe. Kubalulekile ukuthi uzinakekele.
- Khumbula umuntu omlahlekile ngothando: pheka ukudla akuthandayo bese umnikeza izipho, buyela endaweni owaya kuyo naye, ubuke izithombe zakhe, bese wabelana ngezinkumbulo ezinhle ngaye nabanye.
- Funa iseluleko sezokwelapha: Ngezinye izikhathi lolu sizi lungaba lukhulu kakhulu. Uma ungakwazi ukulala, ungazizwa sengathi uyadla, noma ungakwazi ngisho nokwenza imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke, qiniseka ukuthi ubonana nodokotela wakho ukuze akunike iseluleko. Uma kudingeka, uzokudlulisela kuchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo . Ukucela usizo akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka, kuwuphawu lwamandla.
Ukushonelwa okubangelwa ukushaqeka okungazelelwe kungaba nzima kakhulu ukubhekana nakho kunosizi oluvamile, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthola usizo ngezikhathi ezinjalo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Kuvamile ukuzizwa udabukile uma ushonelwe othandekayo. Akukubi ukuzizwa udabukile noma ukhala. Zivumele uzizwe ngaleyo mizwa.
- Isikhathi esithathwayo ukuze ululame osizini sihlukile kuwo wonke umuntu. Ungazicindezeli ukuthi ucabange ukuthi, "Ngidinga ukudlula ngokushesha kulokhu."
- Ungahlupheki wedwa. Yabelana ngosizi lwakho nomndeni wakho nabangani. Kuyimpumuzo enkulu.
- Ukuthola injongo entsha, njengokusiza abanye noma ukunakekela labo abathembele kuwe, njengezingane, kungaba umthombo omkhulu wamandla okuphila.
- Uma uzwa ubuhlungu obungabekezeleleki noma ucindezelekile engqondweni, ungangabazi ukubona udokotela wakho bese ucela iseluleko sezokwelapha. Kuwuphawu lwamandla.
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