Ingabe uzizwa ucindezelekile ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa? Ake sixoxe ngalokhu! (Impilo Yengqondo Ngesikhathi Sokukhulelwa)

Ukukhulelwa yisikhathi semizwa exubile, akunjalo? Akufani nokuthi kufanele ujabule ngaso sonke isikhathi. Uma uzizwa ukhungathekile noma ukhathazekile ngezinye izikhathi, akumangazi, futhi awuwedwa. Kuvamile ukuthi abantu abaningi babe nale mizwa, ikakhulukazi uma ungumama wokuqala noma ukhulelwe okungahleliwe. Uma uke waba nomlando wokucindezeleka noma ukukhathazeka, lokhu kungaba nzima nakakhulu. Kubalulekile ukuzinakekela impilo yakho kanye neyomntwana wakho. Lokho kusho ukudla kahle, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ukulala ngokwanele, nokuphuza amavithamini akho okukhulelwa. Uma uzizwa ukhungathekile, udabukile, noma ukhathazekile , khuluma nothile ngakho—futhi wazi ukuthi kufanele ufune nini usizo.

Yimiphi imizwa engaba khona ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa?

Kuvamile ukuba nokushintshashintsha kwemizwa ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ungase uzizwe ujabule ngomzuzu owodwa bese uzizwa udangele ngomzuzu olandelayo. Kodwa uma uhlala uzizwa udangele, ukhathazekile, noma ungenasithakazelo ezintweni, kungaba uphawu lokuthile okujulile. Ukucindezeleka kokukhulelwa, izinguquko umzimba wakho odlula kuzo, kanye nokucindezeleka kokuphila kwansuku zonke konke kungathinta isimo sakho sengqondo.

Ingabe singakhuluma ngalokhu kucindezeleka nokukhathazeka?

Manje ake sibheke ukuthi kuyini ukucindezeleka . Kalula nje, yilapho uzizwa udabukile, ucindezelekile, noma uthukuthele nje amasonto, mhlawumbe izinyanga. Abanye abantu banalesi simo ngaphambi kokuba bakhulelwe. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi singaqala ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Isibonelo, uma ungajabuli ngokukhulelwa, noma uma uphila nokucindezeleka okukhulu ekhaya noma emsebenzini, lesi simo singavela. Cabanga nje, lapho uNimali esezozala ingane yakhe yokuqala, wayenezinkinga eziningi emsebenzini, kanti umyeni wakhe wayesebenza kude. Wayezizwa edabukile futhi enesizungu ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lolo uhlobo olulodwa lokucindezeleka oluza ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.

Okulandelayo Ukukhathazeka . Yilapho unokwesaba nokukhathazeka okuqhubekayo ngezinto ezingase zenzeke – futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nezinto ezingase zingenzeki. Uma uvame ukukhathazeka ngezinto ezincane kakhulu, lokhu kungaba nzima nakakhulu ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ungase uhlale ukhathazeka ngezinto ezinjengokuthi 'Ingabe ngizoba umama omuhle?', 'Ingabe ngizokwazi ukuncelisa ingane yami?', 'Ingabe ngizoba nemali yokukhulisa ingane yami?' Uma le micabango iqhubeka iphakama, ingathinta imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke.

Ngaphandle kwalokhu, yiziphi ezinye izinkinga zempilo yengqondo ezingavela?

Ngaphandle kokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka, ezinye izinkinga zempilo yengqondo zingase ziphakame phakathi nalesi sikhathi. Ake sibheke ukuthi ziyini:

• Isifo se-Bipolar:Lokhu kubonakala ngezikhathi ezishintshashintshayo zokucindezeleka kwamandla aphansi, kulandelwe izikhathi zokucindezeleka kwamandla aphezulu, okubonakala ngokwanda okungazelelwe kwamandla nomsebenzi.
• Isifo Sokucindezeleka Ngemva Kokuhlukumezeka (PTSD): Lesi yisifo sengqondo esingakhula ngemva kokubhekana nesenzakalo esibuhlungu kakhulu (isib. ingozi enkulu, ukuhlaselwa ngokocansi). Singabonakala ngokukhumbula okwenzeka njalo ngesenzakalo, ukuba namaphupho amabi ngaso, nokugwema izinto ezikukhumbuza ngesenzakalo.
• Ukuhlaselwa Uvalo: Lokhu kuyimizwa yokwesaba engazelelwe, enamandla, njengokuthuthumela, ukuphelelwa umoya, ukushaya kwenhliziyo okusheshayo, ukujuluka, isiyezi, kanye nokwesaba ukufa, ngaphandle kwesizathu esibonakalayo. Lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka ngemizuzu embalwa bese kuphela ngemva kwesikhashana.
• Isifo Sokukhathazeka Okungapheli (OCD): Lesi yisimo lapho imicabango engafuneki, engalawuleki (obsessions) ivela khona engqondweni, okuholela esidingweni sokuphinda izinto ezithile (ukuphoqelelwa) ukuze unciphise ingcindezi. Isibonelo, ukugeza izandla zakho njalo ngoba uhlala ucabanga ngamagciwane, noma ukuhlola ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuthi umnyango ukhiyiwe yini.
• Izinkinga Zokudla: Isibonelo, izimo ezifana nokudla ngokweqile bese uhlanza (i-Bulimia Nervosa), ukunciphisa ukudla nokunciphisa umzimba, kanye nokungadli ngenxa yokwesaba ukukhuluphala (i-Anorexia Nervosa). Lezi ziyingozi kakhulu kumama kanye nomntwana ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uma unenkinga yempilo yengqondo efana nale ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa , kubalulekile ukuthola ukwelashwa okufanele ngayo. Ngoba, umuntu ohlushwa ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, noma ezinye izinkinga ezinjalo angase angakwazi ukwenza izinto ezifana nokuthola ukwelashwa akudingayo, ukuya emitholampilo, nokudla ukudla okunomsoco ngendlela efanele. Ngakho-ke, uma uzizwa ungakhululekile kanje, khuluma nodokotela wakho nakanjani . Ngaleyo ndlela, ungathola usizo oludingayo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa nangemva kokubeletha.

Ngingaluthola kanjani usizo?

Uma uzizwa ukhungathekile, ukhathazekile, noma unezinkinga zempilo yengqondo ezibalwe ngenhla, sicela ukhulume nodokotela, umeluleki, noma uchwepheshe wezokwelapha ngakho . Uma ushesha ufuna usizo futhi uqala ukwelashwa, uzoshesha ukuzizwa ungcono. Ungesabi noma ube namahloni. Lokhu akuyona into eyenzeka kuwe wedwa.

Kubalulekile futhi ukutshela udokotela wakho ngempilo yakho jikelele kanye nanoma yiziphi izinkinga zempilo yengqondo oke waba nazo ngaphambili (isib., uma uke wasebenzisa imithi noma wangeniswa esibhedlela). Kuwusizo kudokotela wakho ukwazi umlando wakho wezokwelapha ophelele uma kuvela izinkinga ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa noma ngemva kokubeletha.

Ziphathwa kanjani lezi zinkinga zempilo yengqondo?

Kunezindlela ezahlukene zokwelapha izinkinga zempilo yengqondo ezinjengalezi. Udokotela wakho uzonquma ukwelashwa okufanele kakhulu ngokusekelwe esimweni sakho. Ake sibheke ukuthi ziyini.

Umuthi kadokotela

Ngezinye izikhathi odokotela bangakunikeza imithi . Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ungaqali noma uyeke ukuthatha noma yimuphi umuthi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa ngaphandle kokubonisana nodokotela wakho. Uma uthatha imithi yesimo sempilo yengqondo futhi ukhulelwe noma uhlela ukukhulelwa, qiniseka ukuthi uyamtshela udokotela wakho. Ungayeki ukuthatha umuthi kuze kube yilapho udokotela wakho ekutshele ukuthi uyenze. Eminye imithi iphephile enganeni yakho kuneminye. Eminye imithi ingase ingafaneleki ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Udokotela wakho uzosebenza nawe ukuthuthukisa uhlelo lokwelapha olulungele wena nomntwana wakho.

Ukwelashwa ngenkulumo

Ukwelapha ngenkulumo nakho kuyindlela ephumelela kakhulu.

• Ukukhuluma nodokotela noma umeluleki wedwa kungaba yindlela enhle yokuphatha ukucindezeleka kwakho, ukubhekana nokucindezeleka, nokunciphisa ukukhathazeka. Bangakusiza uqonde imizwa yakho nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nayo.
• Futhi, ukujoyina iqembu lokusekelana nabanye omama ababhekene nesimo esifanayo nesakho nokwabelana ngolwazi lwakho kungaba induduzo. Kuyasiza futhi ukwazi ukuthi angingedwa obhekene nalesi simo.
• Mhlawumbe unezinkinga zezimali, ukwesaba ukuba nomntwana, noma izinkinga zomndeni, ukukhuluma nesisebenzi sezenhlalakahle noma umeluleki kungakusiza ukubhekana nokucindezeleka empilweni yakho.

Ezinye izindlela zokuqeda ubuhlungu

Ngaphezu kwalezi zindlela zokwelapha, kunezinye izinto ongazenza ukuze uzizwe ungcono.

• Ukuzijwayeza i-yoga, ukuzivocavoca okulula, kanye nokuzindla kungakusiza uzizwe ungcono ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Kodwa-ke, kungcono ukufuna iseluleko sezokwelapha ngaphambi kokuqala inqubo entsha yokuzivocavoca.
• Uma uzizwa ucindezelekile noma ucindezelekile, ukukhuluma nomngane omethembayo, ilungu lomndeni (isib., umama wakho, udadewenu, umyeni wakho), noma umholi wenkolo omethembayo nakho kungakusiza uzizwe ukhululekile. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukwabelana ngemizwa yakho nomunye umuntu kungakusiza uzizwe ukhululekile.
• Phumula ngokwanele. Uxolo, leli igama lesiTamil. Uma sikhuluma iqiniso, phumula ngokwanele. Ukulala kahle ebusuku, okuhlanganisa nokulala isikhashana emini, kuhle engqondweni nasemzimbeni wakho.
• Zibandakanye ezintweni ozijabulelayo nezikulethela injabulo. Ngisho nento encane njengokufunda incwadi, ukulalela ingoma, noma ukudweba ingakulethela injabulo enhliziyweni yakho.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyicabangele

Omama abaningi bazizwa bekhathazekile futhi becindezelekile ngesikhathi esithile ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Abanye bangase badinge nokwelashwa ngakho. Kodwa khumbula, inkinga yempilo yengqondo akudingeki ibe yinto enkulu kuwe noma enganeni yakho. Ukuthola usizo oludingayo ukuze uzizwe ungcono kuyinto engcono kakhulu ongayenza kuwe kanye nengane yakho. Ungesabi noma ube namahloni okufuna iseluleko sezokwelapha. Khumbula njalo ukuthi awuwedwa. Injabulo yakho, inhlalakahle yakho yengqondo, kanye nempilo yengane yakho konke kubalulekile.

Impilo yengqondo yokukhulelwa , ukucindezeleka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ukukhathazeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, umama okhulelwe, ukucindezeleka, ukubeletha, inhlalakahle yengqondo