Ingabe nawe unokwesaba okungavamile ngezingane ezincane? Ake sixoxe nge-pedophobia!

Wake wezwa ukuthi abanye abantu bazizwa besaba futhi bengakhululeki ngendlela exakile lapho bebona izingane ezincane, izinsana, noma beya endaweni lapho bekhona? Mhlawumbe nawe uzizwa kanjalo, noma mhlawumbe wazi umuntu onjalo. Lokhu akuyona into elula, empeleni lesi yisimo esaziwayo kwezokwelapha. Namuhla sizokhuluma ngalokhu kwesaba okungavamile kwezingane ezincane, okubizwa ngokuthi i-pedophobia .

Kuyini i-Pedophobia?

Kalula nje, i-pedophobia ukwesaba okungavamile nokungenangqondo kwezinsana nezingane ezincane. Igama elithi "pedophobia" lisuselwa emagameni amabili esiGreki. Igama elithi "paida" lisho ingane, kanti elithi "phobos" lisho ukwesaba.

Umuntu onalesi simo wenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukuze agweme izindawo lapho kukhona khona izingane ezincane. Kwabanye abantu, ukucabanga nje ngokuhamba eduze kwengane kungababangela ukwesaba okukhulu nokukhathazeka . Lokhu akuyona nje into encane yokuzonda, kodwa kuyinto ejulile kakhulu kunalokho.

Kuyini ukwesaba?

Manje ungase uzibuze ukuthi iyini "i-phobia". I- phobia isifo sokukhathazeka . Kulapho unokwesaba okungavamile, okungenangqondo ngento engenakukulimaza ngempela. I-Pedophobia isifo esithile sokwesaba. Okusho ukuthi, umuntu wesaba into ethile, kulokhu, izinsana nezingane ezincane, noma uzizwa ekhathazekile kakhulu lapho eseduze nabo.

Sivame kangakanani lesi simo?

Kunzima ukusho ngqo ukuthi bangaki abantu abanezinkinga ezithile zokwesaba njenge-pedophobia. Abantu abaningi bangase bagcine lokhu kwesaba kubo, noma bangase bangazi nokuthi banalo. Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo luthole ukuthi umuntu oyedwa kubantu abadala baseMelika abayi-10 kanye noyedwa kubantwana abancane aba-5 uzobhekana novalo oluthile ngesikhathi esithile empilweni yakhe.

Uyini umehluko phakathi kwe-Pedophobia kanye ne-Pediophobia?

La magama amabili afana kakhulu ekupeleni, ngakho kulula ukudideka. I-Pediophobia ukwesaba onodoli, okungukuthi, izinto ezingaphili ezibukeka zingokoqobo. Kodwa-ke, i-Pediophobia ukwesaba izingane zangempela.

Kodwa kukhona futhi lokhu, abanye abantu bangaba nazo zombili lezi zimo zokwesaba. Okusho ukuthi, umuntu owesaba izingane (pedophobia) angase esaba nokubukeka konodoli (pediophobia) okufana nokwengane. Ngokufanayo, umuntu one-pedophobia angase abe nesimo esibizwa ngokuthi i-pedophobia.

Ubani onamathuba amaningi okuthuthukisa i-pedophobia?

Abanye abantu bathambekele kakhulu ekuthuthukisweni kwalolu hlobo lokwesaba.

• Isifo Sokucindezeleka Okungapheli (OCD)Abantu abanale: Laba bantu bathanda yonke into ukuba icoceke futhi ihlanzeke. Babona izingane njengezingcolile futhi zingahlaliseki. Bangase besabe isimo sokungahlaliseki nokungahlelekile esihambisana nokuba phakathi kwezingane ezincane. Cabanga ukuthi umuntu one-"(OCD)" angazizwa ekhathazekile kangakanani uma ingane encane ingangena endlini iphonse amathoyizi yonke indawo futhi ichithe ukudla phansi, okwenza kube nokungcola.
• Ubulili: Kutholakale ukuthi abesifazane banamathuba amaningi okuthola ukwesaba kunabesilisa.
• Umlando womndeni: Uma omunye wabazali bakho noma umuntu oseduze nawe eke waba nesifo sokwesaba noma sokukhathazeka, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi nawe ube nokwesaba okufanayo noma olunye uvalo.
• Izici zofuzo: Ezinye izifundo zisikisela ukuthi izinguquko zofuzo (njengokushintsha kwezakhi zofuzo) zingenza abanye abantu babe namathuba amaningi okuthuthukisa izinkinga zokukhathazeka noma ukwesaba.

Ingabe zikhona ezinye izinhlobo zokwesaba ezihlobene ne-pedophobia?

Kuvamile ukuba nokwesaba okungaphezu kweyodwa. Ukwesaba kuvame ukuhlobana. Isibonelo, umuntu owesaba amagciwane ((Mysophobia) noma (Germaphobia)) angase abone izingane ezincane njengabathwali abancane bamagciwane. Bangase babe nokwesaba izingane ezizalwa nazo. Ngokufanayo, umuntu owesaba izingane ezincane angase abe nokwesaba izingane ezindala kancane, ezincane ((Ephebiphobia)).

Kungani lokhu kucwaswa kwabantwana? Ziyini izimbangela?

Ungase wesabe izingane ngenxa yesipiliyoni esibi nomntwana omncane. Lesi sipiliyoni esibi kungenzeka ukuthi senzeke ngesikhathi sobuntwana bakho noma njengomuntu omdala.

Kungenzeka ukuthi uke wakubona ngqo, noma kungenzeka ukuthi uke wabona isenzakalo:

• Ukuzibonela ukuhlukunyezwa kwengane noma okuthile okuhlobene nakho.
• Ukuxhashazwa kwengane, ukuthukwa, izehlakalo zobudlova , noma ukucasuka okukhulu.
• Ukubona noma ukufunda ngokufa kosana noma ingane encane .
• Ukuhlangenwe nakho kokulahlekelwa ukukhulelwa, njengokuphuphuma kwesisu noma ukuzalwa komntwana eseshonile . (Lezi yizinkinga ezibucayi kakhulu, ngakho-ke lokho okuhlangenwe nakho kungabangela lokhu kwesaba.)

Cabanga nje, ngesikhathi udlala useyingane, omunye umntwana wakushaya kanzima, noma waphula elinye lamathoyizi akho. Noma, wabona umuntu omdala ethethisa noma eshaya ingane encane kakhulu. Izehlakalo ezinjalo zingagxila kakhulu engqondweni futhi zingadala ukwesaba izingane kamuva.

Yini ngempela abantu abane-pedophobia abayesabayo?

I-pedophobia ayithinti wonke umuntu ngendlela efanayo. Ungase ubhekane nalokhu:

• Ungase ukwazi ukuhlala nezingane ozaziyo, isibonelo, izingane zezihlobo, kodwa ungase ungakwazi ukuhlala nezinye izingane.
• Kungase kube nzima ukuphila ngaphandle kwezimpawu zokwesaba nanoma yimuphi umntwana.
• Ungase uzizwe ukhathazekile ngisho nalapho ucabanga ngokuba seduze nezingane, noma uma ubona izithombe zezingane.
• Ungase uzizwe wesaba futhi ukhathazekile nganoma yisiphi isimo esikusondeza ezinganeni.

Ziyini izimpawu ze-Pedophobia?

Izimpawu zokwesaba zingahluka kusukela kokuncane kuya kokukhulu. Ngisho noma uqonda ukuthi ukwesaba kwengane yakho akunangqondo, ungase ungakwazi ukulawula ukusabela kwakho ngokomzimba.

Izimpawu ze-pedophobia zingafaka:

• Isiyezi
• Umlomo owomile
• Umuzwa omkhulu wokwesaba noma ukwesaba
• Isicanucanu, ukuhlanza noma isifo sohudo
• Ukujuluka okukhulu
• Ukuphefumula okusheshayo kanye nokushaya kwenhliziyo
• Ukuthuthumela noma ukuthuthumela
• Ukuphelelwa umoya

Uma ubona lezi zimpawu, ungabona ukuthi lokhu akusikho nje ukwesaba okuncane, kodwa kuyinto umzimba uqobo oluyizwayo.

Ungazi kanjani ngokuqinisekile ukuthi une-Pedophobia? (Ukuxilongwa)

I-American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) isiza ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo, njengososayensi bezengqondo, ukuhlonza ukwesaba ngokusekelwe ezimpawini zabo nokuthi zithinta kanjani ikhwalithi yempilo yakho.

Odokotela basebenzisa lezi zindlela zokuxilonga ukwesaba okuthile, njenge-pedophobia:

• Ukwesaba okukhulu ezinsaneni nasezinganeni ezincane okuhlala okungenani izinyanga eziyisithupha.
• Izimpawu ziqala ngokushesha nje lapho usondela ezinganeni, noma uma ucabanga ukuthi useduze nezingane.
• Ukwesaba okukhulu noma ukukhathazeka okukwenza ugweme izimo lapho ungase ube khona eduze kwezinsana noma izingane.
• Izimpawu ezithinta ikhwalithi yempilo yakho .
• Imizwa yokwesaba okukhulu, ukukhathazeka, noma ukwesaba okungalingani nengozi yangempela.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi, uma uzizwa kanje, ungakufihli, khuluma nomuntu omethembayo, futhi ufune iseluleko sezokwelapha uma kudingeka.

Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha lesi simo?

Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi umeluleki wezempilo yengqondo angakusiza ukunqoba lokhu kwesaba ukuba seduze nezingane ezincane. Ukwelashwa kwengqondo (ukwelashwa ngokukhuluma) kuvame ukuphumelela kubantu abane-pedophobia.

Izindlela zokwelapha zingaba kanje:

• Ukwelashwa ngokuchayeka (noma ukudambisa ukusabela komzimba): Lokhu kuhilela ukubhekana nokwesaba kwakho kancane kancane nangendlela ehlelekile. Uvezwa kancane kancane ezinganeni ngokukhonjiswa izithombe noma amavidiyo ezingane, bese uthuthela endaweni lapho ingane ikude khona, bese usondela. Umgomo uwukuqeda ukwesaba kwakho ngokuvezwa ngokuphindaphindiwe. Kubantu abaningi abane-phobia ethile, ukwelashwa ngokuvezwa kunciphisa kakhulu izimpawu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
• Ukwelashwa Kokuziphatha Kokuqonda (i-CBT) : Lokhu kwelashwa kukusiza ukuthi uhlaziye ukuthi kungani wesaba izingane. I-CBT ikusiza ukuthi ukhulume ngezenzakalo ezibuhlungu okungenzeka ukuthi zibangele lokhu kwesaba. Uma usuthole imbangela, ufunda ukuthi ungayishintsha kanjani imicabango yakho kanye nokusabela kwakho uma kukhulunywa ngezingane.
• Imithi : Ngesikhathi uthola ukwelashwa kwengqondo, imithi yokulwa nokukhathazeka noma imithi yokucindezeleka ingaba usizo. Le mithi ingasiza ekunciphiseni izimpawu, okwenza kube lula ukuba nezingane. Kodwa khumbula, le mithi akuyona yodwa ikhambi, futhi ivame ukusetshenziswa kanye nokwelashwa.

Yiziphi izinkinga ezingaba khona ngenxa ye-pedophobia?

Lokhu kwesaba okukhulu ezinganeni kungenza kube nzima ukusebenza ngendlela evamile emphakathini. Ungase uphuthelwe yimicimbi yomphakathi, ube nezinkinga emsebenzini, futhi uze ucindezeleke . Abanye abantu bahlaselwa ukwethuka . Lokhu kungazwakala njengokuhlaselwa yinhliziyo. Inhliziyo yakho ingase ishaye ngokushesha, futhi ungase ube nobuhlungu esifubeni (hhayi ngenxa yokuhlaselwa yinhliziyo).

Imithi yokulwa nokukhathazeka ingakusiza ukuthi uphathe isimo sakho ngenkathi uthola izindlela zokunciphisa ukwesaba kwakho.

Kufanele ubonane nini nodokotela?

Uma uhlangabezana nanoma yiziphi zalezi zinto, xhumana nodokotela ngokushesha:

• Ukuhlaselwa uvalo ((Ukuhlaselwa uvalo))
• Ukukhathazeka okuqhubekayo okuphazamisa impilo yansuku zonke noma ubuthongo.
• Izimpawu zokucindezeleka (ukuzizwa udabukile ngaso sonke isikhathi, ungenasithakazelo kunoma yini).
• Izinkinga zokusebenzisa izidakamizwa (uma umuntu engakwazi ukubhekana nalokhu kwesaba futhi ephendukela otshwaleni noma kwezinye izidakamizwa).

Yimiphi imibuzo okufanele uyibuze udokotela wakho?

Ungabuza udokotela wakho imibuzo efana nale:

• Yini eyangenza ngaba nalolu valo?
• Yikuphi ukwelashwa okungcono kakhulu kimi?
• Ingabe kufanele ngizame ukwelashwa ngokuchayeka?
• Ngizodinga ukwelashwa isikhathi esingakanani?

Okokugcina, izinto okufanele uzikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Sonke siyazi ukuthi izingane ezincane zikhona yonke indawo: ezitolo, ezindaweni ezingomakhelwane, emabhasini, emigwaqweni. Kunzima ukungaziboni lezi zingane ezincane. Ukwesaba izinsana nezingane ezincane kungenza kube nzima ngawe ukuthenga, ukuhamba, ukuhlangana nabantu, ukuya emicimbini, nokwenza izinto abantu abaningi abazijabulelayo.

Ukugwema izingane ngokuphelele akulona iqiniso futhi akunampilo.

Khumbula, awuwedwa. Umeluleki wezempilo yengqondo angakusiza ukunqoba i-pedophobia yakho esebenzisa amasu okwelapha ingqondo njengokwelashwa ngokuchayeka kanye nokwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo (i-CBT). Ngosizo olufanele, ungalawula lokhu kwesaba futhi uphile impilo evamile nejabulisayo. Ungesabi ukucela usizo.

I- Pedophobia, ukwesaba izingane, i-phobia, i-phobia, ukukhathazeka, impilo yengqondo