Umsindo wokuhlafuna ukudla kakhulu, umuntu okhuluma kakhulu kangangokuthi ibhasi lonke lingawuzwa uma ethola ucingo, umuntu eshiya ithawula elimanzi elisetshenzisiwe embhedeni... Ingabe uke uthukuthele kakhulu futhi ucasuke ngisho nezinto ezincane kakhulu nezingenamsebenzi? Khona-ke awuwedwa. Abaningi bethu banomuzwa wokuthi lezi zinto ezincane ziyizinkinga ezinkulu. Pho kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Ingabe lesi yisifo? Ake sixoxe ngalokhu ngokwesayensi, kalula.
Ziyini lezi 'Peeves Zezilwane Ezifuywayo'?
Kalula nje, 'i-Pet Peeves' yizinto ezincane ezisicasulayo, ezisicasulayo, kodwa ezingabalulekile kwabanye. Cabanga ngomuntu endlini yakho ephelelwa yiphepha langasese futhi engakhiphi elisha. Akuyona inkinga enkulu emhlabeni. Kodwa ngaleso sikhathi, ungathukuthela kakhulu. Ungazizwa ukhathazekile kakhulu, "Kungani wenza lokhu?" Yilokho okushiwo yi-'Pet Peeves'.
Abanye abantu abakwazi ukubekezelela umsindo womuntu ohlafuna ukudla kwabo. Abanye bayacasuka lapho omunye umuntu esecingweni ngenkathi bekhuluma. Abanye bayacasuka lapho othile ehlafuna ushungamu bese ethi "ushunga". Kunezizathu zengqondo nezebhayoloji ngemuva kwakho konke lokhu. Umuzwa ovamile oyisisekelo sakho konke lokhu intukuthelo nokungahlaliseki.
Empeleni, umuzwa wentukuthelo awuyona inkinga. Intukuthelo iwumuzwa ojwayelekile womuntu. Kodwa inkinga iqala lapho ungakwazi ukuyilawula.
Kungani sithukuthela ngezinto ezincane kanje?
Kunezizathu eziningana zalokhu. Ake sibheke ngasinye.
Okuthile okwavela ekuziphendukeleni kwemvelo
Kusukela ngesikhathi sokhokho bethu, imizwa yentukuthelo isize abantu ukuba baphile. Kwenzeka kanjani lokho?
1. Uma umgomo uphazamiseka: Zicabange ushayela emgwaqweni oya endaweni ethile, bese kuthi ngokuzumayo othile akuvimbe indlela. Uyathukuthela, akunjalo? Isizathu ukuthi uhambo lwakho, okungukuthi, umgomo wakho, luphazanyiswa yilowo muntu. Ngokufanayo, uma othile edlala umculo ophakeme ngenkathi usebenza, uphazamisa ukunaka kwakho. Ngaleso sikhathi, nawe uyathukuthela.
2. Uma sizwa ingozi: Ubuchopho bethu buklanyelwe ukuphendula ngentukuthelo lapho sizwa ingozi noma usongo. Lokhu kwenzelwa ukuxwayisa abanye ngengozi nokusishukumisela ukuba siyigweme. Umsindo womuntu oluma izinzipho zakhe empeleni awuyona ingozi kithi. Kodwa ngenxa yale ndlela yasendulo ebuchosheni bethu, sisabela ngokungazi ezintweni ezisenza sizizwe sikhathazekile.
Njenge-Allergens Yomphakathi
Lona umqondo othakazelisayo kakhulu. Cabanga ngomuntu one-allergy othulini. Ekuqaleni, uthuli oluncane alubangeli lutho. Kodwa njengoba uqhubeka nokuvezwa othulini, i-allergy yakho iyanda kancane kancane, bese kuthi ngisho nothuli oluncane emzimbeni wakho lubangele ukusabela okukhulu.
' PE t Peeves' injalo. Ekuqaleni, into encane eyenziwa ngumuntu ingase ingakukhathazi kangako. Kodwa uma into efanayo iphindaphinda, uba nesifo sokungezwani komzimba nayo. Khona-ke, ngokushesha nje lapho leyo nto encane isiphelile, uthukuthela kakhulu.
Izinto ezenza lesi simo sibe sibi kakhulu
Ngezinye izikhathi, intukuthelo evela kulezi zinto ezincane ingaba yinto engalawuleki. Ithebula elingezansi libala ezinye zezizathu zengqondo ezibangela lokhu.
| Isizathu sengqondo | Indlela okuthinta ngayo |
|---|---|
| Amazinga Okucindezeleka Okuphezulu | Uma sicindezelekile, izinga lethu lokubekezelela liyancipha kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, singashesha sithukuthele ngezinto ezincane ebesingenandaba nazo ngokuvamile. |
| Umphumela Wokuqongelela | Akuyona inkinga encane nje kuphela, kodwa izinkinga eziningi ezincane ziyanqwabelana ngokulandelana, futhi kuzwakala njengomthwalo omkhulu ezingqondweni zethu. Kufana nebhakede lamanzi eligcwalisa ithonsi elilodwa ngesikhathi. Kuyithonsi lokugcina elichithekayo. |
| Ukuzizwa ungenakho ukulawula (Izinkinga Zokulawula) | Uma sizizwa sengathi asikwazi ukulawula into ethile, kungabangela ukukhungatheka nokukhathazeka. Siyathukuthela ngoba asikwazi ukulawula izinto ezincane ezenziwa abanye abantu. |
| Ithonya Lomndeni | Lokho esikubona sisebancane kuthonya ukuziphatha kwethu. Uma abazali bethu noma abantu abadala esakhula nabo bengabantu abathukuthela ngezinto ezincane futhi bengakwazi ukubhekana nokucindezeleka, cishe sizolandela leyo ndlela. |
Ingabe lokhu kungaba okungaphezu nje kokuthi 'i-Pet Peeve'?
Yebo. Ngezinye izikhathi lesi kungaba yisimo esidinga ukwelashwa, kunokuba kube ukucasuka okuvamile. Esinye salezo zimo yi- misophonia .
I-Misophonia yisimo lapho umuntu eba nentukuthelo enkulu, ukunengeka, noma ukukhathazeka lapho ezwa imisindo ethile (isib. ukuhlafuna ukudla, ukuphefumula, ukuthayipha). Kubi kakhulu kunokuhuda okuvamile kwesilwane ngoba kuphazamisa impilo yomuntu yansuku zonke (umsebenzi wesikole, umsebenzi wasehhovisi, ukuxhumana nabantu ).
Cabanga ngalokhu: Akuwona wonke umuntu oguliswa ukuphuza utshwala obuncane. Kodwa uma uphuza kakhulu ngaphandle kokulawula, kuba yisimo sempilo. Kuvamile ukuzizwa udangele, kodwa uma kuqhubeka futhi ungakwazi ukukulawula, kuyisimo sempilo esibizwa ngokuthi ukucindezeleka. Ngokufanayo, kuvamile ukuthukuthela kancane ngomsindo owenziwa ngumuntu. Kodwa uma ungakwazi ukulawula lowo msindo bese uqala ukuvimba indlela eya ezindaweni lapho lowo msindo uvela khona, ulwe nabo, futhi ugweme ukuya kulezo zindawo, kungaba yisimo esidinga ukwelashwa.
Ngakho-ke senzani?
Kunezinto eziningana ongazenza ukuze ulawule intukuthelo ngezinto ezincane njengalezi.
1. Bhekana nenkinga ngqo
Uma kukhona okukukhathazayo, thola ikhambi esikhundleni sokulibalekela. Isibonelo, uma othile ebukela amavidiyo efonini yakhe ngokuzwakalayo ebhasini, ungabuza ngenhlonipho ukuthi, "Uxolo, ngicela ufake ama-earphone?"
2. Ukuzivocavoca kokuphefumula nokuzola ingqondo
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukunciphisa izinga lakho lokucindezeleka. Lokhu kungenziwa ngokuthatha umoya ojulile, ukwenza izivivinyo zokuphefumula , ukuzijwayeza ukuqaphela, kanye nokwenza izinto ezinjengokuzivocavoca kanye nokuzibandakanya nomsebenzi wokuzilibazisa owuthandayo.
3. Khuluma ngokuqondile, kodwa ngomusa.
Ngezinye izikhathi ukukhuluma ngqo kuyisisombululo esingcono kakhulu. Isibonelo, ungathi into efana nokuthi, "Ngiyaxolisa, kungenzeka ukuthi kwakuyiphutha lami, kodwa ngizizwa kabi kakhulu ngebala olishiye enkomishini yakho yekhofi." Lokhu kungaba usizo kubo bobabili abantu abathintekayo. Omunye umuntu angashintsha indlela aziphatha ngayo, futhi nawe ungase uzizwe kangcono ngawe ngoba uveze imizwa yakho.
4. Hlola ukuthi impendulo yakho idlula umkhawulo
Uma uzithola ucabanga ukuthi, "Akufanele ngithukuthele ngale nto encane kangaka," noma uma ibangela ukucindezeleka ngokomzimba noma iqhubeka ithinta ubudlelwano bakho, kungaba uphawu lwenkinga enkulu. Ezimweni ezinjalo, kubalulekile ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe nolwezokwelapha. Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu. Angakusiza ukuthi ungene endleleni efanele. Ukwelashwa okufana ne -Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) kungakusiza ukuthi uphathe lezi zinhlobo zezinkinga.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukungazihloniphi ngale mizwa, ukuyiqonda, nokucela usizo uma kudingeka.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- 'Izinja Ezifuywayo' yizinto ezikwenza uthukuthele ngezinto ezincane. Kuvamile kubantu abaningi.
- Ngemuva kwale mizwa kunemizwa evamile yabantu efana nentukuthelo nokukhathazeka. Izizathu zokuziphendukela kwemvelo nazo zidlala indima kulokhu.
- Lesi simo singaba sibi kakhulu ngenxa yezinto ezifana nokucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka njalo, kanye nomuzwa wokungakwazi ukulawula.
- Uma ukusabela kwakho ngokweqile emisindweni ethile kuthinta impilo yakho yansuku zonke, kungaba yisimo esibizwa ngokuthi iMisophonia.
- Lokhu kungalawulwa ngokuzivocavoca kokuphefumula, inkulumo enenhlonipho, kanye nokunciphisa ukucindezeleka.
- Uma impendulo yakho idlula izinga elijwayelekile, ungangabazi ukubonisana nodokotela wakho ukuze uthole iseluleko.
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