Kunzima kakhulu ukuthwala usizi oluvelayo lapho silahlekelwa umngane noma ilungu lomndeni. Esikhathini esidlule, okungukuthi, ngesikhathi sabazali bethu, kwakunemikhuba emihle kakhulu yokunikeza amandla emndenini ngezikhathi zosizi olunjalo nokuveza amazwi enduduzo. Omunye wayevakashela ikhaya lomngcwabo, abeke umqhele, ngezinye izikhathi alungiselele ukudla bese ekunikeza, bese ethumela incwadi eveza amazwi enduduzo. Konke lokhu kwakunikeza labo abasosizini amandla amakhulu nomuzwa wokuthi babengebodwa.
Kodwa izinto zishintshe kakhulu kulezi zinsuku. Cishe konke kwenzeka ezinkundleni zokuxhumana manje. Uma umuntu eshona, sivame ukubona izindaba kuqala ku-Facebook noma ngesimo se-WhatsApp. Le ndlela inezinzuzo nezinkinga zayo. Njengoba kungekho mithetho ecacile okufanele ilandelwe lapho sizwakalisa amazwi enduduzo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, ngezinye izikhathi ukuphawula esikuthumelayo noma umbuzo esiwubuzayo kungalimaza kakhulu umuntu ososizini. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi siqaphele lokhu kancane.
Ingabe izinkundla zokuxhumana zenze kwaba lula ukuveza amazwi enduduzo?
Eqinisweni, ngokusho kukaJocelyn DeGroot, uchwepheshe wezokuxhumana ocwaninga ngalokhu, izinkundla zokuxhumana azikashintshi kakhulu indlela esiveza ngayo usizi lwethu. Abantu babevame ukubhalela abathandekayo babo izincwadi, bagubhe izinsuku zabo zokuzalwa, futhi bakhumbule usuku abashona ngalo. Okwenzekayo manje ukuthi izinto ezifanayo zenzeka ezindaweni ezifana ne-Facebook ne-Instagram.
Empeleni kunezinzuzo eziningi kulokhu.
- Ukwazisa wonke umuntu ngesikhathi esisodwa: Cabanga ukuthi kunzima kangakanani ukushayela wonke umuntu ucingo ubatshele ukuthi, "Siyaxolisa ukuzwa ukuthi ushonile" ngenkathi usadabukile. Ngokuthumela izindaba ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kanye, wonke umuntu odinga ukwazi angazizwa. Lokho kuyimpumuzo enkulu.
- Ukusekelwa yiqembu elikhulu: Ngesikhathi esinjengalesi, amazwi enduduzo kanye nokuphawula okutholwa kubangani abavame ukungakhulumi kakhulu kunikeza umndeni amandla amaningi. Bazizwa sengathi "sinawe."
Kodwa khumbula, kanye nalezi zinzuzo, kunamathuba amaningi okwenza izinto ezizosenza singakhululeki futhi zilimaze imizwa yethu.
Yimaphi amaphutha esiwenzayo singaqapheli?
Ngenxa yokuthi izinkundla zokuxhumana ziyindawo evulekile, ngezinye izikhathi ukuziphatha kwabantu kungenza umuntu ososizini azizwe engenakuzisiza nakakhulu.
Into yokuqala ukufuna imininingwane engadingekile.Kukhona abanye abantu, ababona ngempela abangane bakho abaseduze, kodwa bangabangane ku-Facebook. Kodwa bacabanga ukuthi banelungelo lokwazi yonke imininingwane. Babuza imibuzo efana nokuthi "Ulahlekelwe kanjani?", "Kwenzekani?", "Kwenzekeni ekugcineni?" njengokuphawula lapho wonke umuntu angakubona khona.
Njengoba uNkk. DeGroot esho, "Uma ungumngane oseduze kakhulu nalowo muntu, cishe uzokunikeza imininingwane ngenye indlela (njengokufona) ngaphambi kwe-Facebook. Uma kufanele umbuze esidlangalaleni ukuthi, 'Kwenzekeni?', lokho kusho ukuthi akuyona indaba yakho."
Into yesibili ukusho izinto ezingafanele nezibuhlungu . Abantu abaningi emphakathini wethu abafundiswa ukuveza usizi ngendlela efanele. Ngakho abanye abantu basho izinto ezibuhlungu bengazi. Isibonelo, lapho othile elahlekelwa nguyise , omunye umuntu uthi, "O, nami ngiyakuzwa ubuhlungu bakho, inja yami nayo ishone ngesonto eledlule." Lokho kwenza ukufa kukayise walowo muntu kube lula. Kungamlimaza kakhulu.
| Okufanele ukwenze | Okungafanele ukwenze |
|---|---|
| Veza amazwi akho okuzwelana nawe kalula nangobuqotho. Into efana nokuthi, "Ngiyaxolisa ukuzwa ngalokhu. Kwangathi ungathola amandla." kwanele. | Ungabuzi imbangela yokufa noma imininingwane yomuntu siqu engadingekile emphakathini. |
| Yabelana ngenkumbulo enhle owawunayo nalowo muntu. (Isibonelo: "Wayengumuntu onomusa kakhulu, ngiyakhumbula ngelinye ilanga...") | Unganikezi iseluleko njengokuthi, "Usesendaweni engcono manje," noma "Kungcono ukuhamba ngaphandle kokuhlupheka." |
| Uma kungenzeka, thumela ucingo noma umyalezo wombhalo ngaphezu komyalezo wezokuxhumana. | Ungaqhathanisi ukudabuka kwakho nokudabuka kwalowo muntu, uthi kuyindaba engahlobene naleso sigameko. |
| Buza, "Ingabe kukhona engingakusiza ngakho?" | Qaphela uma usebenzisa i-emoji. Gwema ukusebenzisa i-emoji emomothekayo noma engafanele. |
Ngakho-ke, sizwakalisa kanjani ngempela amazwi ethu okuzwelana?
Kunezinto ezilula esingazenza ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ukuze sisize abanye ngaphandle kokulimaza imizwa yabo.
1. Khuluma kalula nangokwethembeka
Awudingi amagama amakhulu noma imisho emide. Ukusho nje into efana nokuthi, "Ngiyaxolisa kakhulu ukuzwa lezi zindaba. Lokhu kumele kube nzima kuwe ukukuthwala. Ngilapha uma udinga ukukhuluma." Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukukusho ngobuqotho.
2. Nikeza iseluleko, ungazigabisi.
Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi lokho abakushoyo kuzokwenza usizi lomuntu luphele. Ungasho izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Usesendaweni engcono manje," "Konke kuzolunga ngesikhathi," "Ungakhali, yiba nesibindi." Njengoba uNkk. DeGroot esho, "Awukwazi ukujabulisa muntu. Kufanele umvumele azizwe usizi lwakhe." Umsebenzi wethu awukona ukwenza usizi lwakhe luphele, kodwa ukumenza azizwe sengathi akayedwa osizini lwakhe.
3. Ungathuli.
Ungakhuluma nalowo muntu ku-Facebook kuphela. Kodwa ungasho lutho ngoba nje ungafuni. Ngisho nokushiya inothi elincane, ukuphawula okufana nokuthi "Ngiyaxolisa ngokulahlekelwa kwakho," kuwusizo olukhulu kulowo muntu ngaleso sikhathi. Okuwukuphela kwento enhle ukuzizwa sengathi othile uyamcabanga.
Okokugcina, ungagcini lapho ngoba nje ushiye amazwana ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Kuyisiqalo nje. Uma kungenzeka, bashayele ucingo ezinsukwini ezimbili noma ezintathu. Shiya umlayezo bese ubuza, "Unjani?" Buza, "Ingabe kukhona engingakwenza? Ingabe udinga ukuya esitolo? Ingabe udinga usizo ngokuthile ekhaya?" Njengoba nje abantu bakithi babevame ukupheka ukudla komngcwabo, ukwenza umusa omncane kubaluleke ngaphezu kwemibono eyikhulu ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Uma uzwakalisa amazwi enduduzo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana , gcina kulula, kufushane, futhi kuqotho. Asikho isidingo sezincazelo ezinde.
- Gwema ukubuza imbangela yokufa noma eminye imininingwane yomuntu siqu esidlangalaleni. Kungaba namahloni kakhulu kulowo muntu.
- Gwema ukunikeza iseluleko njengokuthi, "Konke kuzolunga." Kunalokho, bavumele bakhale futhi ubabonise ukuthi unabo.
- Ngisho noma ungasondelene nalowo muntu, ngisho nomyalezo omfushane othi “Ngiyaxolisa” ungaba namandla amakhulu kuye.
- Ungazigcini nje ngomyalezo othunyelwe ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, kodwa uma kungenzeka, bonisa ukwesekwa kwakho okuqotho ngokushaya ucingo noma ukusiza mathupha.
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