Indaba yokunqoba ukucindezeleka: Awuwedwa, ake sixoxe.

Cabanga nje, unakho konke empilweni yakho kuphelele. Ushade nomuntu omthandayo, unendlu yakho, futhi usuthole umsebenzi obuwuphupha iminyaka eminingi. Ngakho-ke, kufanele ujabule kakhulu, akunjalo? Kodwa kuthiwani uma uzizwa udabuke kakhulu, ungenalutho, futhi unesizungu? Namuhla ngizokutshela ngowesifazane onamandla owadlula kulesi sigameko futhi waphuma kuso. Lena indaba eyiqiniso. Ngale ndaba, sizoxoxa ngokujulile ngalesi simo esibizwa ngokuthi ukucindezeleka, esithinta abantu abaningi abahlupheka buthule.

Kuyini ukucindezeleka? Ingabe kumane nje kuwukudabuka?

Lona wesifazane esikhuluma ngaye, eneminyaka engu-27 ubudala, wabhekana nalolu sizi olungavamile ngesikhathi okwakufanele ngabe ujabule kakhulu empilweni yakhe. Into ekhethekile ukuthi, wayesebenza njengomelaphi wezempilo yengqondo. Lokho kusho ukuthi wayenolwazi ngalesi sifo. Kodwa njengoba esho, yilapho aqaphela khona ukuthi lesi sifo sibi kangakanani, kunokuba afunde ngaso encwadini.

Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi ukucindezeleka kumane nje kuwumuzwa wokudabuka, ukushintshashintsha kwemizwelo okunyamalala ngemva kwesikhathi esithile. Abangane, umndeni, futhi ikakhulukazi umyeni wakhe ekuqaleni bamtshela ukuthi, "Khipha engqondweni yakho," "Ungacabangi ngakho." Kodwa lokho akuyona into engenziwa.

Kalula nje, kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kokudabuka okuvamile nokucindezeleka. Ake sibheke lo mehluko ngokucacile.

Uhambo olunzima lokuthola ukwelashwa

Lona wesifazane wayesiqonda isimo sakhe futhi wafuna ukwelashwa. Wahlangana nabeluleki abaningana. Waqala nokubona udokotela wezifo zengqondo ukuze athole imithi. Udokotela wezifo zengqondo ungudokotela ogxile ezifweni zengqondo.

Iminyaka emithathu nengxenye eyalandela yaba yisikhathi esinzima kakhulu kuye. Nakuba anikezwa izinhlobo ezingaphezu kweshumi nambili zemithi ehlukene kanye nenhlanganisela yemithi ehlukene, akukho lutho olusize ngempela. Isimo sakhe saya siba sibi kancane kancane.

Ukubhekana nesimo esibi kakhulu

Isimo saba sibi kakhulu kangangokuthi waqala ukucabanga ngokuzibulala . Wayenomuzwa wokuthi izimpawu zakhe ziya ziba zimbi kakhulu ngenxa yokucindezeleka kokusebenza emkhakheni wezempilo yengqondo lapho ayesebenza khona, ngakho kwadingeka ayeke umsebenzi wakhe. Walaliswa esibhedlela izikhathi eziyisikhombisa ngoba wayengasakwazi ukuzibamba.

Ngalesi sikhathi, odokotela basikisela ukwelashwa okusha kuye. Kwakubizwa ngokuthi i-Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT) . Leli gama lingase lizwakale liyesabisa kuwe, kodwa manje sekuyikwelashwa okuthuthuke kakhulu futhi okuphephile.

• Kuyini i-ECT? Kalula nje, kuhilela ukufaka isiguli ngaphansi kwe-anesthesia ejwayelekile (ukusenza singakwazi), ukusinika imithi yokuphumula imisipha, bese sinikeza ugesi omncane olawulwa kakhulu ebuchosheni. Lokhu kusiza ukubuyisela izinqubo zamakhemikhali zobuchopho esimweni esijwayelekile. Kuyindlela yokwelapha engenabuhlungu .

Kodwa naphezu kwezikhathi eziningana ze-ECT, akazange athole impumuzo enkulu. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, umyeni wakhe, umndeni wakhe, nabangani bakhe bonke badumala kakhulu. Kodwa kancane kancane baqala ukuqonda ukuthi lokhu kwakungeyona nje imizwa, kodwa kwakuyisifo esibi ayengenakusishintsha noma nini lapho ethanda.

Ukukhanya kwethemba novuko

Njengokungathi uthi akukho ubusuku obuphelele, kwavela ukukhanya kwethemba ekugcineni. Ngesikhathi ehlala esibhedlela okokugcina, odokotela bashintsha ngokuphelele imithi ayeyisebenzisa base bemqala futhi nge-ECT.

Njengokungathi ngomlingo, ukucindezeleka kwakhe kwaqala ukunyamalala kancane kancane. Njengoba yena ngokwakhe esho, "Kwakuzwakala sengathi idemoni elingaphakathi kimi selinqume ukungishiya."

Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, uqhubekile nokuthatha imithi nokuya kokwelulekwa. Kodwa isimo sakhe siye sathuthuka kancane kancane. Uthole umsebenzi omusha njengomeluleki futhi, futhi manje usebenzisa ulwazi lwakhe ukusiza abanye abahlupheka ngendlela efanayo.

Isifundo esikhulu esingasithola kule ndaba ukuthi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima futhi kunzima kangakanani ukulwa nokucindezeleka, abantu bangalulama . Izici ezintathu eziyinhloko zaba negalelo ekululameni kwakhe:

1. Isifiso sakhe esinamandla sokululama.

2. Isiqondiso esivela kodokotela abanekhono.

3. Ukusekelwa okungantengantengi kwabathandekayo, ikakhulukazi umyeni.

Uma wena noma othile omaziyo edinga usizo...

Uma ufunda lesi sihloko, noma uma ucabanga ukuthi othile omaziyo ubhekene nalezi zimpawu, sicela ungahlupheki wedwa. Ukucela usizo akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka, kuwuphawu lwamandla.

• Okokuqala, khuluma nomuntu omethembayo. Kungaba umngane, ilungu lomndeni, noma uthisha. Ukwabelana ngemizwa yakho kungaba impumuzo enkulu.
• Okubaluleke kakhulu: Bonana nodokotela ngokushesha. Bonana nodokotela womndeni wakho bese uchaza isimo sakho. Angakuhlola kahle bese enquma ukuthi lokhu ukucindezeleka noma esinye isimo.
• Funa ukwelashwa okufanele. Uma kudingeka, udokotela wakho uzokudlulisela kudokotela wezifo zengqondo noma kudokotela wezifo zengqondo. Ungadinga imithi, ukwelulekwa, noma inhlanganisela yakho kokubili.

Khumbula, awuwedwa. Kunezindawo nabantu ongaphendukela kubo ukuze uthole usizo. Ngokwelashwa nokusekelwa okufanele, nawe ungadlula kulesi sikhathi esinzima.