Ðe ame sia ame le eɖokui ŋu bum fifiaa? Mina míaƒo nu tso Narcissism ŋu

Ðe nèsena le ɖokuiwò me ɣeaɖewoɣi be amewo, vevietɔ amesiwo le hadomenyatakakadzraɖoƒewo , bua wo ɖokui ŋu ko hewɔa wo ɖokui nyuiea? Ele abe "nye", "nye dzidzedzekpɔkpɔwo", "nye agbe" ƒe ƒutsotsoe aɖe le afisiafi ene, alo? Ne èlé ŋku ɖe TikTok, YouTube, kple Instagram ŋu la, edze abe nusi le edzi yim enye be nàɖe wò agbe ƒe akpa sue ɖesiaɖe afia xexeame ene. Ame aɖewo yɔa esia be ‘Nazitɔwo ƒe dɔvɔ̃’. Eyata ɖe mí katã míeva le ɖokuitɔdilawo kple ɖokuitɔdilawo vam ɖe edzia? Mina míaƒo nu tso esia ŋu wòade to vie.

Kpuie ko la, nukae nye ɖokuitɔdidi?

Kpuie ko la, ɖokuitɔdidi nye susu ƒe nɔnɔme si me ame xɔe se be ye "le etɔxɛ wu ame bubuwo, be ye ŋutɔ yeƒe nuhiahiãwo ƒo nusianu ta," eye be yedea asixɔxɔ ye ɖokui ŋu wògbɔ eme. Esia menye nu nyui alo nu gbegblẽ kokoko o. Kakaɖeamedzi vi aɖe kple dada le ame ɖokui ŋu nyo na agbe. Gake ne esia va sɔ gbɔ akpa ye kuxiwo doa mo ɖa.

Nɔnɔme sia le vovototo si toa vovo tso ame ɖeka gbɔ yi bubu gbɔ la dzi. Tagbɔdɔléle aɖe si woyɔna be Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) ate ŋu anɔ amesiwo le ƒuƒoƒoa ƒe nuwuwu si kɔkɔ wu, si le ameawo ƒe 1% va ɖo 6% dome.

Woate ŋu akpɔ Nazitɔwo ƒe nuwɔna sia le mɔ vevi eve nu. Be nàse esia gɔme la, kpɔ kplɔ̃ si le ete.

Aleke míewɔ va ɖo afisia?

Numekulawo gblɔ be susu geɖewo tae dzidziɖedzi sia tso. Ðekae nye "bubudede ame ɖokui ŋu ƒe habɔbɔ" si dze egɔme le Ɣetoɖoƒedukɔwo me le ƒe 1970-awo me. Wogblɔ na ɖeviwo tso woƒe ɖevime ke be "èle etɔxɛ" eye "àte ŋu awɔ nusianu." Togbɔ be susu nyui nɔ esia ŋu hã la, ɣeaɖewoɣi la, ena wova nɔa ɖeviwo ƒe ŋutetewo dzim ɖe edzi. Numekukuwo ɖee fia gɔ̃ hã be ne dzilawo "bu wo viwo ŋu wògbɔ eme", si fia be ne wokafu wo wu alesi woƒe ŋutetewo xɔ asi la, ɖeviwo xɔa susu mawo ke eye wotua ɖokuitɔdidi ƒe nɔnɔmewo ɖo.

Emegbe esi television dzi wɔna ŋutɔŋutɔwo va kple hadomenyatakakadzraɖoƒewo ƒe dzidziɖedzi la, nɔnɔme sia gatrɔ wu. Eva bɔ be woaɖe nusianu si ku ɖe ame ŋutɔ ƒe agbe ŋu afia le dutoƒo, aɖe foto wo ɖokui, eye woƒe susu nanɔ eƒe dzedzeme ŋu.

Ema fia be ɖewohĩ amesiwo nye Nazitɔwo ŋutɔŋutɔ ƒe xexlẽme medzi ɖe edzi le hadome o. Gake woƒe gbe kple ŋusẽkpɔɖeamedzi dzi ɖe edzi ŋutɔ le hadomenyatakakadzraɖoƒewo ta . Eyata míekpɔe be ame sia ame le nenema.

Nukae nye ŋusẽ ŋutɔŋutɔ si hadomenyatakakadzraɖoƒewo kpɔna ɖe amewo dzi?

Hadomegbenɔnɔ ƒe nyatakakadzraɖoƒe nye teƒe na amesiwo si ɖokuitɔdidi ƒe nɔnɔmewo le. Numekukuwo ɖee fia be amesiwo ƒe ɖokuitɔdidi ƒe nɔnɔmewo sɔ gbɔ la zãa ɣeyiɣi geɖe ɖe hadomenyatakakadzraɖoƒewo ŋu, woɖoa nyatakakawo ɖe amewo enuenu, xɔlɔ̃ geɖe nɔa wo si, eye anɔ eme be hadomenyatakakadzraɖoƒewo zazã zu numame na wo.

Gake ŋusẽ si esia kpɔna ɖe ame bubuwo dzi la nye afɔku.

• Tsɔtsɔ Sɔ Kple Wo Nɔewo Kple Dzimaɖitsitsi : Seselelãme si nye be nàlé blanui ahatsi dzimaɖi ɖe wò ŋutɔ wò agbe ŋu ne èlé ŋku ɖe ame bubuwo ƒe agbenɔnɔ si "woɖe" eye wòdze abe dzidzɔ le ene ŋu. Míeyɔa esia hã be FOMO (Vɔvɔ̃ na Nusiwo Woato).
• Susu ƒe lãmesẽnyawo: Nusɔsrɔ̃ sia si yia edzi ɖaa la na blanuiléle, dzimaɖitsitsi, kple akogotsitsi dzi ɖe edzi le sɔhɛwo dome.
• Nɔnɔme gbegblẽwo le ametia ŋu:Ŋutilã "deblibo" siwo wokpɔna le hadomenyatakakadzraɖoƒewo va zu nu vevi aɖe si na ŋutilã ƒe tɔtrɔ kpata, si nye nɔnɔme si me nyɔnuvi suewo kple ŋutsuviwo tsia dzi ɖe woƒe ŋutilã ƒe dzedzeme ŋu fũ akpa eye wobua vodada siwo mele wo si o la le susu me.

Nusi Dzɔna Ðe "Vulnerable Narcissists" Dzi.

Hadomegbenɔnɔ ƒe nyatakakadzraɖoƒe nye teƒe sesẽ ŋutɔ na "Vulnerable Narcissists." Wokpɔa "Grandiose Narcissists" woɖua woƒe dzidzedzekpɔkpɔ ƒe azã eye wodaa foto dzeaniwo, eye woʋãa ŋu hedoa dziku be womedea dzesi yewo nenema ke o. Esia kpɔa ŋusẽ gbegblẽ ɖe woƒe susu ƒe lãmesẽ dzi ŋutɔ.

Nublanuinya bubue nye be dzilawo gblɔa wo viwo ƒe ʋuʋu ɖesiaɖe, nu sue ɖesiaɖe tso gbesigbe wodzi wo, le hadomenyatakakadzraɖoƒewo. Enye nyabiase vevi aɖe be alesi nusianu ɖeɖefia xexeame evɔ womatsɔ teƒe aɖeke na ɖevia ƒe adzamenyawo o me tsonuwo akpɔ ŋusẽ ɖe ɖevia dzi le etsɔme.

Eyata nukae míewɔna tso esia ŋu?

Esia ate ŋu aɖi vɔvɔ̃ na wò. Gake nya nyui aɖe li. Numekukuwo ɖee fia be ne míele tsitsim, ne míele agbanɔamedzi geɖe wu xɔm (srɔ̃ɖeɖe, viwo), eye míedze ŋgɔ kuxiwo le agbe me la, le dzɔdzɔme nu la, ɖokuitɔdidi dzi ɖena kpɔtɔna. Esia le alea elabena wozi mía dzi be míabu ame bubuwo ŋu wu mía ɖokui.

Ke hã, ne nɔnɔme sia le fu ɖem na wò alo ame aɖe si nènya la, nu ʋɛ aɖewo li nàte ŋu awɔ.

• Seɖoƒe na wò hadomenyatakakadzraɖoƒewo zazã: Lé ŋku ɖe wò kple viwòwo ƒe hadomenyatakakadzraɖoƒewo zazã ŋu. Ðo ŋku edzi ɣesiaɣi be menye nusianu si nèkpɔ lae nye nyateƒe o, eye be teƒe si nu nyuitɔ kekeake koe ɖena fiana le amewo ƒe agbenɔnɔ me.
• Se wò radar ememetɔ: Ne èle nu ƒom na ame aɖe la, ne èkpɔe be ele nu ƒom tso ye ɖokui ŋu fũ akpa, ele ame bubuwo dam ɖe anyi, alo metsɔ ɖeke le woƒe seselelãmewo me o la, de dzesi "narcissism vibes" mawo. Ne anya wɔ la, te ɖokuiwò ɖa blewuu tso ame mawo gbɔ.
• Di aɖaŋu na dɔnyala: Ƒã hafi amesiwo ŋu amenyenye ƒe dɔléle si nye narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) le lɔ̃na ɖe edzi be kuxi aɖe le yewo ŋu. Esia tae ƒã hafi wodia atike ɖo. Gake ne èse le ɖokuiwò me be nɔnɔme siawo le ye ŋutɔ yeƒe nuwɔna me, alo be ame aɖe si si ɖokuitɔdidi ƒe nɔnɔmewo le le ŋusẽ kpɔm ɖe wò susu ƒe lãmesẽ dzi la, ele vevie be ŋu màkpe ŋu o eye nàdi aɖaŋuɖoɖo tso ɖɔkta alo susumedɔléle ŋuti aɖaŋuɖola bibi gbɔ. Enye nu nyuitɔ kekeake si nàte ŋu awɔ na ɖokuiwò.