E ʻike paha ʻoe ua kaumaha a kaumaha kāu keiki i kekahi mau lā. He mea maʻamau ke kaumaha no hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha lā ma muli o kekahi mea e like me kēia, e like me ka huhū me kahi hoaaloha, ke hiki mai nei kahi hoʻokolohua ... ʻAneʻane pau nā keiki i kēia mau ʻike. Akā inā ʻaʻole i emi kēia kaumaha a me ka hopohopo no nā pule, inā e hoʻopilikia ana i nā hana o kēlā me kēia lā a me ke ola kula o ke keiki, he mea paha ia e pono ai mākou e hopohopo iki. Ma ke ʻano he makua, maopopo loa iā ʻoe kēlā ʻokoʻa. Inā manaʻo ʻoe i loko o kou puʻuwai "ua loli kekahi mea me kaʻu keiki, a ʻaʻole ia e nalo," pono mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana.
Loaʻa pū kekahi i nā keiki ʻōpio ke kaumaha?
ʻAe, ʻoiaʻiʻo nō. Ua manaʻo mākou he mea kaumaha wale nō ka poʻe mākua. Akā i kēia manawa, ke ʻae nei nā kauka a me nā loea e hiki i nā keiki kula kamaliʻi a me nā keiki kula ke loaʻa i kahi maʻi i kapa ʻia ʻo ke kaumaha lapaʻau .
I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻaʻole he nāwaliwali a he mea hoʻokalakupua paha ke kaumaha. He kūlana ia e kū mai ana i nā pākeke a me nā keiki ma muli o nā loli kemika i loko o ka lolo. I kekahi manawa hiki ke loaʻa kahi predisposition genetic. ʻO ia hoʻi, ʻaʻole ia i hana ʻia e ka hewa o kekahi. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ia mea, loaʻa i kekahi mau keiki kahi hiki kupaianaha no ke mele a me nā kiʻi i ka wā ʻōpiopio, ʻeā? Pēlā nō, loaʻa paha i kekahi mau keiki kahi predisposition genetic iki e hana me nā kūlana e like me ke kaumaha.
He aha ka pilina ma waena o ke kaumaha a me ka hopohopo?
He mea nui loa kēia. ʻOi loa aku i nā keiki, aia kahi pilina ikaika ma waena o ke kaumaha a me ka hopohopo . I ka manawa pinepine, hoʻomaka mua nā maʻi hopohopo . Ma hope mai, i ka hiki ʻana o ke keiki i ka wā ʻōpio, hiki i kēia hopohopo ke lilo i kaumaha.
No laila, inā makaʻu mau ke keiki a hopohopo, he kuhihewa nui ka hoʻowahāwahā ʻana iā ia, me ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "Pēlā nō ia i ko lākou wā liʻiliʻi, e maikaʻi ana ke ulu aʻe lākou." Hiki i kēia hopohopo mau ke loaʻa ka hopena maikaʻi ʻole i ka lolo o ke keiki.
Aia kekahi mau ʻano maʻi hopohopo e loaʻa pinepine ana i nā keiki:
- Hopohopo Hoʻokaʻawale: ʻO kēia ka maʻi hopohopo maʻamau i waena o nā keiki. He makaʻu nui kēia mau keiki i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻia ʻana mai ko lākou ʻohana, ʻoiai ko lākou makuahine a me ko lākou makuakāne. Loaʻa iā lākou nā makaʻu e like me, "E pilikia anei ʻo Māmā me ka ʻole oʻu?", "E hiki mai ana kekahi mea iaʻu ma ke kula?". Ma muli o kēia, hiki iā lākou ke loaʻa i nā ʻeha ʻōpū a me nā poʻo i nā lā kula.
- ʻO ka Phobia Kaiapili : Manaʻo kēia mau keiki he ʻoluʻolu ʻole i nā kūlana pili kaiaulu, ʻoi aku hoʻi ma ke kula. ʻOiai ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi nei lākou me ko lākou mau mākua ma ka home, makaʻu lākou e kamaʻilio me nā malihini, nā kumu, a i ʻole nā keiki ʻē aʻe. I kekahi manawa noho mālie loa lākou.
- Ka Maʻi Hopohopo Laulā: Hopohopo nui kēia mau keiki no ka wā e hiki mai ana a me ke kumu ʻole. E noʻonoʻo e like me ke keiki papa ʻekolu e hopohopo nei no kā lākou ʻoihana kulanui. Ma kahi o ka hauʻoli a me ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "Ua loaʻa iaʻu ʻelua mau pahuhopu i ka pāʻani pôpeku i kēia lā," e ʻōlelo paha lākou, "Akā ke hopohopo nei au no ka hoʻokolohua pela ʻana i ka lā ʻapōpō."
Ke kaumaha nei kaʻu keiki? - E makaʻala i kēia mau hōʻailona
Ma ke ʻano he makua, ʻike maikaʻi loa ʻoe i kāu keiki. E nānā i nā loli i ke ʻano a me nā ʻano o kāu keiki. Inā loaʻa i kāu keiki kekahi a ʻoi aku paha o nā hōʻailona ma lalo nei no ka manawa lōʻihi (ʻoi aku ma mua o ʻelua pule), he mea nui e ʻimi i ke kōkua lapaʻau .
| Hōʻailona | He wehewehe maʻalahi |
|---|---|
| Kaumaha mau, uē mau | Huhū lākou i nā mea liʻiliʻi loa, uē mau lākou, a kūlou ihola ko lākou mau maka. |
| ʻAno hoka | ʻO ka ʻōlelo ʻana i nā mea e like me, "ʻAʻohe mea e holo pono ana," "ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hana i kēia." |
| Ke hoʻowahāwahā nei i kahi mea āu i makemake ai ma mua | ʻO ke keiki i hauʻoli i ka pāʻani, ke kaha kiʻi, a me ka nānā ʻana i ke TV i kēia manawa, ʻaʻohe ona hoihoi i kekahi o kēlā mau mea. He hiki ʻole ke loaʻa ka hauʻoli. |
| Luhi mau, nele i ka ikaika | Manaʻo wau ʻaʻohe oʻu ikaika e hana i kekahi mea, palaualelo mau wau, a ke hoʻāʻo nei au e noho ma kahi moe. |
| Kaʻawale ʻana o ka nohona, ka mehameha | Makemake ʻoe e noho hoʻokahi i loko o kou lumi ʻoiai inā loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa kūpono e pāʻani ai me nā hoaaloha. |
| Ka haʻahaʻa o ka manaʻo ponoʻī, nā manaʻo hewa | Manaʻo lākou a ʻōlelo i nā mea e like me, "He mea ʻole wau," "ʻAʻohe mea aloha iaʻu," a "ʻO koʻu hewa nā mea a pau." |
| Ka huhū, ka hoʻonāukiuki | Huhū koke lākou i nā mea liʻiliʻi, hoʻomaka i nā hakakā, a hana i ke ʻano kūpono ʻole. |
| Nā hōʻailona kino | 'Ōlelo pinepine lākou i nā mea e like me "He ʻeha koʻu ʻōpū" a me "He ʻeha koʻu poʻo" me ke kumu ʻole o ke olakino. |
| Nā pilikia kula | Ke kānalua e hele i ke kula, ka hele ʻole ʻana i ke kula, ka poina ʻana i ka hana kula, a me nā māka haʻahaʻa. |
| Nā loli i ka ʻai ʻana a me ka hiamoe ʻana | Ka nalowale koke ʻana a i ʻole ka hoʻonui ʻana o ka ʻai ʻana, ka hiamoe ʻole a i ʻole ka hiamoe nui ʻana. |
| Ke noʻonoʻo nei e hōʻeha iā ʻoe iho | Inā ʻoe e kamaʻilio nei e pili ana i ka lawe ʻana i kou ola ponoʻī, e noʻonoʻo he pilikia kēia a e ʻimi koke i ke kōkua lapaʻau. |
Inā he kānalua kāu, e kamaʻilio me ke kauka e pili ana i ia mea. ʻIke nā mākua maikaʻi i nā loli i kā lākou mau keiki, akā, ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike mau i ke ʻano o ia mau mea. ʻO ia ke kumu o nā kauka.
ʻO ka mea nui e hana mua: Ka hōʻoia pololei
Ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau no kāu keiki, ʻo ka mea nui e hana ai, ʻo ia ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hōʻailona pololei . I kekahi manawa ʻaʻole paha he kaumaha ponoʻī nā hōʻailona a mākou e ʻike ai. No laila, e nīnau pono i kāu kauka a kauka noʻonoʻo paha, "He aha ke ʻano o kaʻu keiki? E wehewehe iā ia ma ke ʻano e hiki ai iaʻu ke hoʻomaopopo. He aha nā koho lapaʻau?"
He nui nā mākua e hele mua i kahi kauka keiki . Pololei kēlā. Hiki iā ia ke hana i kahi hoʻokolokolo mua a, inā pono, e kuhikuhi iā ʻoe i kahi loea, e like me ke kauka noʻonoʻo keiki.
Pehea e mālama ʻia ai?
He hana hui pū ka lāʻau lapaʻau ma waena o nā mākua, ke keiki, a me ke kauka. He paʻakikī ke hoʻokele i kēia huakaʻi me ke kākoʻo ʻole o nā mākua. Hiki ke hoʻokaʻawale ʻia nā ʻano lapaʻau i ʻelua mau ʻāpana nui:
1. Psychotherapy : Ua kapa ʻia kēia he counseling. Maanei, ua aʻo ʻia ke keiki i nā mākau hoʻoponopono e hoʻomaopopo i ko lākou mau manaʻo, hoʻokele iā lākou, a hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia. Pono nō hoʻi nā mākua e komo i kēia.
2. Lāʻau lapaʻau: I kekahi mau hihia, ʻoiai inā koʻikoʻi ke kaumaha, hiki i ke kauka ke kuhikuhi i nā lāʻau antidepressants.
E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole he pōkā kilokilo ka lāʻau lapaʻau. He hewa ka manaʻo "hiki i kahi ʻōmole lāʻau lapaʻau ke ho'ōla i nā mea āpau." Loaʻa nā hopena holomua loa i ka wā e hui pū ʻia ai ka psychotherapy a, inā pono, ka lāʻau lapaʻau.
Mai hopohopo e pili ana i nā hopena ʻaoʻao o nā lāʻau lapaʻau. He palekana ke hāʻawi i kāu keiki i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ma lalo o ka nānā ʻana a ke kauka kūpono nāna i ʻike pono i ke kūlana a kuhikuhi iā ia. ʻO ka lawe ʻole ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau he hopena ʻaoʻao nō hoʻi - ʻo ia hoʻi, e hoʻomau ka maʻi o ke keiki.
He kaumaha anei nā mea a pau? - ʻO ka huhū i hoʻokumu ʻia e nā pilikia o ke ola
He mea nui hoʻi kēia no kākou e hoʻomaopopo ai. ʻAʻole nā kaumaha a pau, ʻo nā hopohopo a pau he kaumaha. Ua kaumaha kekahi mau keiki ma muli o nā pilikia maoli i ko lākou ola.
E noʻonoʻo, hiki i kahi keiki ke kaumaha a hoʻonāukiuki ʻia ma muli o nā mea e like me nā hakakā a nā mākua, nā pilikia kālā ʻohana, ka hoʻoweliweli ma ke kula, a me ka nele o ka hoʻomaha ma muli o nā papa nui. Kāhea mākou i kēia kūlana he demoralization . He pane maʻamau kēia i nā pilikia o ke ola. I nā manawa e like me kēia, ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ka hāʻawi ʻana i ke keiki i ka lāʻau lapaʻau e hoʻololi i ke kaiapuni pilikia a kākoʻo i ke keiki.
Leka Lawe-Home
- Inā ʻaʻole e nalowale ke kaumaha a me ka hopohopo o ke keiki i loko o kekahi mau lā a i ʻole hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha pule, e hopohopo.
- Hiki i ke kaumaha a me ka hopohopo ke hoʻopilikia i nā keiki ʻōpio. He kūlana ia i hoʻokumu ʻia e nā loli kemika i loko o ka lolo, a ʻaʻole ia he hewa o ke keiki a i ʻole nā mākua.
- ʻO ka makaʻu mau a me ka hopohopo paha he hōʻailona ia o ka pilikia o ka ulu ʻana o ke kaumaha i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
- Inā ʻike ʻoe i kahi loli maopopo i ke ʻano a me nā hana a kāu keiki (ʻai ʻana, hiamoe ʻana, hana kula, pilina pilikanaka), mai hoʻowahāwahā iā ia.
- Ma mua o kekahi lāʻau lapaʻau, he mea nui e loaʻa kahi hōʻailona pololei mai ke kauka kūpono.
- He hana hui ka lāʻau lapaʻau ma waena o nā mākua, ke keiki, a me ke kauka. E wehe i nā mea āpau me kāu kauka a e hahai i kāna mau kuhikuhi.
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