No ke aha he mea maikaʻi ke kōkua ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe no kou olakino? (ʻO ka ʻEpekema o ke Aloha ʻĀina)

Ua hana anei ʻoe i kahi mea liʻiliʻi e kōkua i kekahi a ua manaʻo ʻoe i kahi hauʻoli nui a me ka hōʻoluʻolu ma hope? Malia paha i kou kū ʻana a hāʻawi i kou noho i kahi ʻelemakule ma ke kaʻa, i kou hāʻawi ʻana i nā kuhikuhi i kahi mea i nalowale ma ke alanui, a i ʻole i kou hele ʻana e kipa i kahi hoaaloha maʻi... ʻO kēlā 'manaʻo maikaʻi' kupaianaha e hiki mai ana i ka noʻonoʻo i kēlā manawa ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo wale nō. Ua ʻike anei ʻoe he nui ka ʻepekema ma hope o ia mea? I kēia lā e kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i ia mea. E nānā kākou pehea e pili ai ke kōkua ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻo ia hoʻi ka manaʻo ponoʻī ʻole, i ko mākou kino a me ko mākou ʻano.

He aha kēia 'kōkua kiʻekiʻe'?

I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻo ka hana maikaʻi no nā poʻe ʻē aʻe me ka manaʻo ʻole i kekahi mea i ka hoʻihoʻi ʻia ua kapa ʻia ʻo altruism. ʻO ka hauʻoli, ka ʻoluʻolu, a me ka manaʻo mehana a mākou e ʻike ai ke hana mākou i kahi mea e like me kēia ua kapa ʻia ʻo 'helper's high'.

E noʻonoʻo wale, pehea ka nui o ka hana manawaleʻa a kekahi poʻe e hana ai i ko lākou manawa kaʻawale? Mai ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka meaʻai i ka poʻe nele, a hiki i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i ke kaiapuni, a hiki i ke kōkua ʻana i ka poʻe ʻelemakule, a hiki i ka hana ʻana i kekahi mea no ko lākou mau hoalauna. No laila, ua hoʻomaka nā kānaka ʻepekema e nānā i kēia. No ke aha e hana ai ka poʻe i kēia? Aia kekahi pono olakino no ka mea e loaʻa ana ke kōkua, a me ka mea e hāʻawi ana ? Wahi a ka noiʻi hou loa, "ʻAe, ʻoiaʻiʻo."

ʻO ka pilina ma waena o ka lokomaikaʻi a me ko mākou olakino

Ua ʻike kākou a pau ʻaʻole maikaʻi ke kaumaha mau no ke kino. Ke manaʻo kākou i ke kaumaha, pane mai ko kākou kino ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana "hakakā a holo paha". I kēia manawa, hoʻokuʻu ʻia nā hormones e like me "cortisol", piʻi ka helu o ko kākou puʻuwai, a wikiwiki ka hanu ʻana. ʻAʻole kēia he pilikia no ka manawa pōkole. Eia naʻe, inā hoʻomau kēia kūlana no ka manawa lōʻihi , hoʻomaka ko kākou ʻōnaehana pale , ka puʻuwai, a me nā kīʻaha koko e nāwaliwali.

Ua hana ʻia kekahi mau noiʻi e pili ana i kēia.

• He noiʻi e hoʻohana ana i nā wahine: Ua nānā ʻia kahi hui o nā wahine no 30 mau makahikiʻO ka mea kupanaha, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā keiki a lākou a i ʻole ke kiʻekiʻe o ko lākou hoʻonaʻauao ʻana, ua hoʻopilikia ʻia ko lākou ola e ko lākou manawaleʻa a i ʻole. ʻOi aku ka haʻahaʻa o ka pilikia o nā wāhine i manawaleʻa i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā maʻi koʻikoʻi ma mua o ka poʻe i hana ʻole.
• He noiʻi ʻana i nā mākua ʻelemakule: Ua ʻike ʻia e ʻelua mau noiʻi nui ʻē aʻe he olakino a lōʻihi ke ola o nā mākua ʻelemakule e hana manawaleʻa ana ma mua o ka poʻe i hana manawaleʻa ʻole. Ua hōʻike kekahi noiʻi ʻoi aku ka nui o ka hana manawaleʻa ʻana e hōʻemi i ka pilikia o ka make mua ʻana ma ka 44% ma mua o ka hoʻoikaika kino ʻana i ʻehā lā o ka pule.

Pehea e pili ai ko kākou lolo a me nā genes i kēia?

ʻAʻole kēia 'manaʻo maikaʻi' he mea wale nō e hana ʻia ana i loko o ka noʻonoʻo. He kumu olaola kona.

Pane o ka lolo

Ua ʻike nā kānaka ʻepekema ma o nā scan e like me ka 'fMRI' i ka wā e ʻike ai mākou i nā manaʻo hohonu e like me ke aloha a me ka lokomaikaʻi, e hana nā ʻāpana kikoʻī o ko mākou lolo. E like me ka nānā ʻana o ka makuahine i ke kiʻi o kāna pēpē ponoʻī, e hana ka ʻāpana '(prefrontal lobe)' o ka lolo. ʻO kēia ka ʻāpana o ko mākou lolo e kuleana no ka mālama a me ke kūkulu ʻana i nā pilina . ʻOkoʻa loa ka hauʻoli e loaʻa mai ana mai kēia mai ka hauʻoli e loaʻa mai ana mai kahi hana mīkini e like me ke kākau ʻana i kahi hōʻoia. Loaʻa ia mai ka pilina maoli me nā kānaka, ke kōkua ʻana iā lākou me ka minoʻaka, ka leo mahana, ka pā ma ka poʻohiwi.

Ka hopena o nā hormones

ʻO nā kemika i loko o ko mākou kino, ʻo ia hoʻi, nā hormones, pili nui i kēia.

Nā Genes a me ke ola lōʻihi

ʻO nā pāpale pale ma nā wēlau o kā mākou mau genes ua kapa ʻia ʻo '(Telomeres)'. E noʻonoʻo iā ia e like me ka ʻāpana palakiko liʻiliʻi ma ka wēlau o ke kaula kāmaʻa. Hoʻōki ia i ke kaula mai ka pau ʻana. Pēlā e pale ai ʻo 'Telomeres' i kā mākou mau genes. Hiki i ke kaumaha lōʻihi ke hoʻopōkole i kēia mau 'Telomeres' , ʻo ia ke kumu o ka ʻelemakule mua a me nā maʻi. Akā manaʻoʻiʻo nā kānaka ʻepekema e kōkua nā manaʻo maikaʻi e like me ka lokomaikaʻi a me ke aloha i ka pale ʻana iā lākou.

He mea hoʻoilina anei kēia lokomaikaʻi iā kākou?

He hui holoholona kaiapili nā kānaka. He mea nui ke kōkua ʻana kekahi i kekahi a me ka noho pū ʻana no ko kākou ola ʻana. Ua ʻōlelo pū ʻo Darwin ʻo "Lomilomi" ka mea nui no ke ola ʻana o ka lāhui kanaka ma mua o "Ola o ka mea kūpono loa."

A he hopena nui ko ke kaiapuni a mākou e ulu ai ma kēia. ʻO nā keiki i aloha nui ʻia a mālama ʻia e ko lākou mau mākua a me nā mākua i ko lākou wā kamaliʻi, ʻoi aku ka nui o ko lākou lokomaikaʻi a me ka lokomaikaʻi i ko lākou wā makua. Kōkua kēlā mālama i ka hoʻomohala ʻana i nā ʻāpana o ko lākou lolo e pili ana i ke aloha. Inā ʻoe e hakakā nei me ke kaumaha mau, he mea nui e kamaʻilio me kāu kauka e pili ana i ia mea.

No laila, ʻo ke kōkua ʻana i kekahi ʻaʻole ia he mea maikaʻi wale nō no ia kanaka. He lawelawe waiwai nui ia āu e hana ai nou iho. ʻO ka hauʻoli noʻonoʻo a me ke olakino kino e loaʻa mai ana mai ia mea, he mea waiwai ʻole ia.