We yu kam fɔ no se yu wɛf de wet fɔ bɔn pikin, yu go mɔs dɔn fil fayn we yu nɔ go ebul fɔ ɛksplen, nɔto so? Bɔt pan di sem tɛm, yu go dɔn fil se yu de fred smɔl ɛn yu go dɔn fil se yu gɛt bɔku wok fɔ du. Dat na rili nɔmal tin. Jɔs lɛk aw uman in bɔdi kin chenj bɔku tɛm we i de rɛdi fɔ bi mama, na so yu maynd ɛn layf kin chenj bak we yu de rɛdi fɔ bi papa . Tide, wi go tɔk bɔt di chenj dɛn we go apin to yu maynd ɛn layf insay dɛn nayn mɔnt ya as yu de rɛdi fɔ bi papa.
Yu tink se bɛlɛ na sɔntin we jɔs apin to uman dɛn?
Dis na lay lay stori we bɔku pipul dɛn biliv. Di tru tin na dat, na di mama de kɛr di pikin na in bɛlɛ. Na in de gɛt di chenj dɛn we de apin na in bɔdi, di tin dɛn we di ɔmon dɛn kin du, ɛn di tin dɛn we i nɔ kin fil fayn lɛk we i de vɔmit. Na dat mek, as papa, yu nɔ go notis bɔku difrɛns fɔs. Yu kin tink se, "Dis nɔto natin we difrɛn na mi bɔdi."
Bɔt nɔto dat na di tru. We yu bi papa, dat kin chenj yu maynd bak.
- A go bi gud papa ?
- A go lɔs mi fridɔm we a gɛt pikin?
- A go ebul fɔ pe fɔ ɔl dɛn tin ya?
- Aw a go balans mi wok ɛn mi famili layf?
Yusɛf kin gɛt dɛn kayn kwɛstyɔn ya, fred, ɛn wɔri. Sɔm stɔdi dɔn sho se sɔm man dɛn kin gɛt sik dɛn bak na dɛn bɔdi lɛk fɔ nɔs ɛn fɔ chenj dɛn maynd we dɛn wɛf gɛt bɛlɛ.
Di impɔtant tin na dat, dɛn filin ya rili nɔmal. Bɔt na wi sosayti, man dɛn kin shem smɔl fɔ tɔk bɔt wetin dɛn de fred ɛn wɔri, so bɔku tɛm dɛn kin kip dɛn filin ya insay bɔtul insay. Dis kin mek yu strɛs we yu nɔ nid.
fכ bכku papa dεm, di rial stat fכ fil dis bεlε na we dεn de yεri di pikin in at bit, fil di pikin de kik insay dεn bεlε, כ si di pikin pan skan (wan `ultrasound`). Na da taim de di rialiti of "I'm a father" hit dem hard.
Yu tink se di wɔd we dɛn kin se ‘papa nɔ kin ebul fɔ kia fɔ bebi’ na tru?
Wan ɔda big lay lay stori na dat "papa nɔ kin ebul fɔ du bebi wok fayn fayn wan, mama dɛn bɛtɛ pan dɛn tin dɛn de." Wi dɔn yɛri fayn fayn stori dɛn bɔt papa dɛn we kin strɛs we dɛn de chenj dayapɛt ɔ go was dɛn pikin. Dis na di rizin we mek bɔku papa dɛn kin fred fɔ du dɛn wok dɛn de we dɛn gɛt pikin , ɛn dɛn kin tink se dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ du dɛn fayn.
Bɔt na di tru tin ya.Fɔ kia fɔ pikin nɔto sɔntin we dɛn bɔn ɛnibɔdi wit. Na sɔntin we dɛn kin lan ɔltogɛda tru ɛkspiriɛns (`on-the-job-training`). Ilɛksɛf una na mama ɔ papa, una ɔl tu de lan dɛn tin ya smɔl smɔl, wit di pikin.
Stɔdi dɛn dɔn ivin sho se we papa dɛn de wit dɛn pikin dɛn we dɛn jɔs bɔn, dɛn kin tɔk to dɛn, ɔg dɛn, rɔk dɛn, ɛn smayl jɔs lɛk aw mama dɛn kin smayl. Papa dɛn kin ebul fɔ ɔndastand ɛn ansa di pikin in kray (ilɛksɛf dɛn angri, dɛn nid fɔ slip, ɔ dɛn kin kɔl am).
Dis na wetin kin apin: We Papa step na sayd, tink se, "A nɔ ebul, a nɔ no," Mama bigin fɔ du ɔl dat. Afta sɔm tɛm, Mama kin bɛtɛ pan dɛn tin dɛn de, ɛn Papa kin bigin fɔ fil se i nɔ ebul fɔ du natin. So, nɔ fred , jɔs bigin fɔ du biznɛs frɔm di biginin. Afta sɔm tɛm, yu go sɔprayz fɔ si wetin yu ebul fɔ du.
Aw yu go yuz dis tɛm as chans fɔ mek yu padi biznɛs tayt?
Bɛlɛ na tɛm we nɔ izi, bɔt na golden tɛm we yu go ebul fɔ mek yu padi biznɛs wit yu wɛf strɔng. Di men tin fɔ dat na fɔ tɔk to pipul dɛn opin wan.
Mek yu wɛf tɔk to yu bɔt di chenj dɛn we de apin na in bɔdi ɛn di chenj we di ɔmon dɛn kin mek i de fil. Lisin gud wan to wetin i gɛt fɔ tɔk. Dɔn bak, tɔk to am bɔt wetin yu de fred ɛn wɔri. Aks, "A de fil dis we, aw yu de?" go ɛp una ɔl tu fɔ fil se una nɔ de go tru dis joyn yu wan.
Bɔku we dɛn de we yu go ebul fɔ put an pan di wok we yu de du as papa. Pan ɔl we dɛn tin ya smɔl, dɛn kin mek big difrɛns.
| Wetin yu kin du as papa | Di bɛnifit we i go gɛt |
|---|---|
| Go na dɔktɔ apɔntinmɛnt wit yu wɛf. | Yu go gɛt di chans fɔ mek dɛn no bɔt di bɛlɛ prɔses ɛn fɔ involv dairekt wan pan am. |
| Aks yu wɛf bɔt aw i de fil ɛn tek tɛm lisin to am. | I kin fil se nɔto in wangren de, ɛn di tayt padi biznɛs bitwin dɛn tu kin strɔng mɔ ɛn mɔ. |
| Rid buk dɛn we de tɔk bɔt bɛlɛ ɛn bɔn pikin ɛn no mɔ bɔt am. | Di fred fɔ di tin dɛn we dɛn nɔ no kin stɔp ɛn di kɔnfidɛns fɔ bi papa kin bɔku. |
| εp fכ pripia di pikin in nid dεm (klos, krib). | Fɔ sheb di wok ɛn fɔ yus to di wok we papa de du na prɔsis. |
| Tɔk to yu wɛf ɔ yu padi we yu kin abop pan bɔt aw yu de fred ɛn aw yu de fil. | I kin ɛp fɔ mek yu nɔ strɛs ɛn mek yu nɔ fil se yu wangren de. |
Fɔ mek padi biznɛs wit di pikin
Bɔku pipul dɛn tink se fɔ gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit yu pikin na fɔ du big tin. Bɔt wetin rili impɔtant na di smɔl smɔl tin dɛn we yu de du ɛvride. Fɔ chenj yu pikin in dayapɛt, was am, mek milk we i angri , ɛn kɛr am go na di stoa na di tin dɛn we de mek yu kam nia yu pikin. Nɔ tink bɔt dɛn tin ya as "responsibilities," bɔt bifo dat, tink bɔt dɛm as "privileges" we yu kin gɛt fɔ spɛn tɛm wit yu pikin. Di mɔ yu de put yusɛf pan yu pikin in layf frɔm di biginin, na di mɔ yu padi biznɛs go strɔng.
Dɔn bak, as mama, di wɛf gɛt big wok fɔ du na ya. We di papa kam fɔ ɛp di pikin in wok, i impɔtant fɔ lɛ i du tin in we, ɛn nɔ ambɔg ɔltin bay we i se, "Dis nɔ rayt, dis nɔ rayt." We dɛn ɔl tu go tru dis waka togɛda, ɛp dɛnsɛf, dat go mek di wan ol famili gladi.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Bɛlɛ na tɛm we rili impɔtant, we kin mek pɔsin fil bad, ɛn we kin chenj di uman ɛn di uman we want fɔ bi papa.
- Tɔk wit yu wɛf opin wan bɔt di tin dɛn we yu de fred, di tin dɛn we yu de wɔri bɔt, ɛn di tin dɛn we yu de gladi. Gud kɔmyunikeshɔn na di men tin.
- Mek shɔ se yu atɛnd mɛdikal tɛst, skan (ultrasounds) , ɛn ɔda tin dɛn Dɛn tin ya go ɛp yu fɔ yus to di wok we papa de du.
- Fɔ mɛn pikin na sɔntin we yu kin lan tru ɛkspiriɛns. Nɔ tink se, ‘A nɔ go ebul fɔ du am’, nɔ fred, ɛn ɛp yu pikin wit in wok dɛn frɔm di biginin.
- Yu maynd wɛl bɔdi bak rili impɔtant insay dis tɛm. If yu de fil strɛs, tɔk to pɔsin we yu biliv. If nid de, aks yu dɔktɔ fɔ advays .
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