Yu kin tink sɔm tɛm se, "O, a fɔ dɔn du mɔ"? Yu fil se yu nɔ dɔn du wetin yu fɔ du to yu patna, pikin dɛn, wok, ɔ sosayti? Yu taya wit dis we aw yu de fil gilti ɔltɛm ? Na rili filin we kin rili taya. Lɛ wi si wetin mek dis kin apin, wetin i kin afɛkt wi bɔdi ɛn wi maynd, ɛn aw fɔ win am.
Wetin rili na dis filin fɔ fil gilti?
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, fɔ fil gilti na filin we rili bɔku. Sɔm pipul dɛn kin fil ‘gud’ fɔ fil gilti . Na wetin de mek wi nɔ go na di rɔng rod ɛn ɛnkɔrej wi fɔ du di rayt tin. Fɔ ɛgzampul, we yu du bad to pɔsin, i go fayn fɔ lɛ yu sɔri fɔ am ɛn aks fɔ padi fɔ padi.
Bɔt sɔm pipul dɛn kin fil bad bad wan we kin it dɛn at. Dɛn nɔ kin ɛva gɛt smɔl tɛm fɔ rilaks. Dɛn kin rigrɛt ɔltɛm ivin di smɔl tin we dɛn dɔn du.
Wetin mek sɔm pipul dɛn kin fil dis kayn we?
Bɔku rizin kin de fɔ dis, di men wan dɛn na wi pɔsin ɛn di tin dɛn we di sosayti kin du.
Di inflɛns we pɔsin in yon gɛt
Pipul dɛn we gɛt sɔm kayn abit dɛn kin gɛt dis kayn we fɔ fil gilti.
- Pipul wae nɔr kin sef ɛn wae kin shem: Pipul wae nɔr kin gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan dɛnsɛf ɛn wae kin shem smɔl kin tink tumɔs bɔt ɔltin wae dɛn de du. Dɛn kin wɔri ɔltɛm se, "A du di rayt tin? A mek mistek?" Dis kin mek i izi fɔ lɛ pɔsin fil gilti.
- Pipul dɛn we want fɔ pafɛkt: Sɔm pipul dɛn biliv se ɔl wetin dɛn de du fɔ pafɛkt, 100 pasɛnt pafɛkt. Dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ bia ivin di smɔl mistek we dɛn mek. Dis kin apin bak pan pipul dɛm wae gɛt obsessive -compulsive traits . Dɛn kin tink tumɔs bɔt wetin dɛn de du ɛn dɛn kin fil gilti fɔ dɛn.
Di lod we sosayti de put pan wi
Dis kin rili afɛkt wi pasɔnaliti, ɛn di sosayti we wi de liv insay.Frɔm we dɛn yɔŋ, dɛn kin gi gyal pikin ɛn bɔy pikin difrɛn tin dɛn we dɛn kin op fɔ we se, "Yu fɔ tan lɛk dis." We dɛn tin ya nɔ ebul fɔ apin, pɔsin kin fil gilti.
Uman dɛn ɛn gilti
Insay wi sosayti, di we aw uman dɛn kin rɛspɛkt dɛnsɛf kin bi bɔku tɛmI de bil tru rileshɔnship wit ɔda pipul dɛn. Bikɔs dɛn de fred se "ɔda pipul dɛn go tink se a de tink bɔt misɛf nɔmɔ," dɛn kin tek mɔ rispɔnsibiliti pas aw dɛn kin ebul fɔ du we dɛn nɔ tink bɔt dɛnsɛf. Haus wok, pikin wok, wok, fambul affairs... If dem set asaid likl taim fo dem sef fo midst of ol dis, dem de fil gilti fo am tu.
Man ɛn gilti
Bɔt dɛn kin tɛl bɔbɔ frɔm we i yɔŋ se i fɔ “stɔdi fayn ɛn gɛt gud wok,” ɛn “i fɔ kia fɔ in famili.” Di we aw dɛn de tink bɔt dɛnsɛf, na di tin dɛn we dɛn dɔn du. So, if dɛn nɔ gɛt sakrifays lɛk aw dɛn bin de op fɔ, if dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ fɛn gud wok, ɔ if dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ du wetin dɛn mama ɛn papa want, dɛn kin sɔfa wit bɔku gilti.
Difrɛn tɛm dɛn na layf ɛn filin fɔ fil gilti
Dis filin kin kam ɔltɛm we yu bi mama ɔ papa. Aw many mama ɛn papa dɛn de sɔfa wit tin dɛn lɛk, "A nɔ de trit mi pikin fayn? Us kayn tin di pipul dɛn we de nia dɛn de du to dɛn pikin dɛn?"
No escape nɔ de fɔ dis ivin we yu dɔn ol. Imajin wan mama ɔ papa we gɛt fɔ go na say usay dɛn de kia fɔ ol pipul dɛn. Dɛn de kray se, "O, a bin gɛt fɔ sɛl di prɔpati we a bin fɔ dɔn gi mi pikin dɛn ɛn liv ya." Na da tɛm de, di pikin dɛn we dɛn dɔn sɛn dɛn mama ɛn papa na nɔs os kin sɔfa wit big big sɛns fɔ gilti, "Wi nɔ bin ebul fɔ kia fɔ wi mama/papa."
Aw dis filin kin afɛkt wi wɛlbɔdi?
Dis kayn we aw wi kin fil gilti ɔltɛm nɔ kin jɔs bad fɔ wi maynd, bɔt i bad fɔ wi bɔdi bak. Di strɛs we kin kɔmɔt frɔm dis kin mek di kemikal chenj dɛn na wi bɔdi. Sɔm pan di tin dɛn we kin kɔmɔt frɔm dis, de na di tebul we de dɔŋ ya.
| Sektɔ we dɛn afɛkt | Di tin dɛn we kin apin to am |
|---|---|
| Mental Ɛlth | If yu de tink bad bɔt yusɛf ɔltɛm, dat kin mek yu gɛt prɔblɛm dɛn lɛk pwɛl hat ɛn wɔri . |
| Fizik Ɛlth | Ed we de at ɔltɛm, bak we de at. Risk fɔ lɔng tɛm fɔ gɛt sik dɛn we de ambɔg di at ɛn di bɛlɛ ɛn di prɔblɛm dɛn we de na di bɛlɛ . |
| Imyun Sistɛm | as tεm de go, di bכdi in ebul fכ rεsist sik, i.e. di imyun sistεm , de wik. |
Aw fɔ pul pɔsin we de fil gilti pasmak?
If yu dɔn gɛt dis filin frɔm we yu smɔl, i kin tranga fɔ pul am wan nɛt. Bɔt if yu tray, smɔl smɔl yu go fri yusɛf frɔm dis lod we yu de fil.
Yuz fɔ se ‘nɔ’.
I at fɔ se "nɔ" to pɔsin we se "yes" to ɔltin. Bɔt if yu na di kayn pɔsin we de put yusɛf las ɔltɛm, na dis yu nid fɔ du. Aks yusɛf wetin mek yu de fred fɔ se "nɔ." "Yu tink se oda pipul no go laik mi? Pipul go tok abaut mi?" We yu tink bɔt am dis we, yu go no aw da fred de nɔ gɛt ɛni bɛnifit.
Tink bɔt yusɛf bak.
Tink bɔt am, "Aw a go tek kia ɔf misɛf we a de tek kia ɔf ɔl dɛn wok ya?" Bikɔs if yu fɔdɔm, nɔbɔdi nɔ go bisin bɔt yu. Na dat mek i impɔtant fɔ mek yu tek kia ɔf yusɛf. Una sɛt smɔl tɛm ɛvride fɔ du sɔntin we yu lɛk ɛn fɔ rilaks.
Start wit smɔl smɔl tin dɛn.
Nɔ tray fɔ mek big chenj wan tɛm. I at fɔ se ‘nɔ’ fɔs. Bɔt as yu de ad smɔl smɔl win dɛn lɛk dat, i go izi fɔ yu smɔl smɔl.
Tink bak bɔt wetin yu bin de op fɔ.
Yu de chase yu drim ɔ yu mama ɛn papa dɛn drim? Wetin bin wok fɔ yu mama ɛn papa nɔ go wok fɔ yu. So tink bɔt wetin yu rili want ɛn sɛt yu yon gol dɛn .
Lan frɔm mistek dɛn.
Pipul dɛn kin mek mistek. Na nɔmal tin. Stɔp fɔ luk ɔda pipul dɛn mistek ɛn tink se, "A dɔn fel." Bifo dat, tink se, "Dis na lɛsin fɔ mi, a go du bɛtɛ nɛks tɛm."
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Fɔ fil gilti na tin we bɔku pipul dɛn kin fil, bɔt nɔ mek i kɔntrol yu layf.
- Ɔndastand se dis filin kin ambɔg yu maynd ɛn bɔdi wɛlbɔdi.
- Put wetin yu nid bifo wetin ɔda pipul dɛn de op fɔ. Nɔ fred fɔ se ‘nɔ’ we nid de.
- Mistek na chans fɔ lan, nɔto rizin fɔ blem yusɛf.
- If i nɔ izi fɔ yu fɔ dil wit dɛn filin ya yu wan, tɔk to yu padi ɔ yu fambul we yu kin abop pan. If nid de, go to yu dɔktɔ fɔ mek dɛn gi yu pɔsin we sabi du in wok.
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