Yu fil se yu nɔ fit fɔ du dis? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt Imposter Syndrome!

Yu dɔn ɛva fil, instead fɔ gladi fɔ di tin we yu dɔn du, di fred fɔ aks yusɛf se, "O, a rili fit fɔ du dis? A nɔ gud lɛk aw ɔda pipul dɛn tink se a fit?" We yu geht promoshon na wok, pas egzam, o pesin de prez yu, yu fil se yu de se to yusef, "A no fit dis, wan de evribodi go fain out hu a rili bi"? Dɛn kin jɔs kɔl dis filin `(Imposter Syndrome)`.

Wetin rili na Imposter Syndrome?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, `Imposter Syndrome` na we yu de dawt yu yone abiliti ɛn sakrifays . Pan ɔl we ɔda pipul dɛn tink se yu smat ɛn du tin fayn, yu de fil dip dip wan se yu nɔ smat so, yu tan lɛk pɔsin we de ful yu. Yu de fred ɔltɛm se wan de dɛn go kech dis lay.

Pan ɔl we dɛn nɔr ɔfishal wan klas dis as mental hεlth diagnosis, dis filin kin gɛt bɔrku impak pan bɔrku tin dɛm na yu layf, lɛk woke, edyukeshɔn, ɛn ivin rileshɔnship. Sɔm pipul dɛn kin kɔl am bak `imposter phenomenon` ɔ `fraud syndrome`.

Dis na lɛk saykl (The Imposter Cycle) .

Bɔrku pipul dɛm wae gɛt `Imposter Syndrome` kin si wan patɛn na dɛn bihayvya, sɔmtin lɛk saykl. Imajin se yu gɛt big prɛzɛntɛnshɔn fɔ gi na di ɔfis. If yu gɛt dis filin, yu kin bigin fɔ wɔri pasmak bɔt am, ɛn yu kin bigin fɔ wɔri se, "A go fel?" Tu tin de wae kin apun pan dis kayn tin:

1. Procrastinate to di las minit: Yu de procrastinate witout ivin stat di wok. Dɔn yu kin dɔn di wok na di las minit wit bɔku strɛs ɛn wɔri. Ivin if di wok saksesful, yu tink se, "Oh, a bin laki se dis wok aut."

2. Wok tumɔs: Yu de wok tranga wan pas aw i nid, de ɛn nɛt, de tray fɔ du ɔltin pafɛkt wan. Bɔt we yu ebul fɔ du am, yu nɔ de tek di prez fɔ am . Yu tink se, "Sɔmbɔdi we smat pas mi fɔ dɔn du dis if i nɔ bin nid fɔ wok tranga wan."

Ilɛk aw i bi, di filin fɔ gladi afta yu dɔn rich yu gol nɔ kin las fɔ lɔng tɛm. Bikɔs yu nɔ go ebul fɔ mek da sakrifays de "sɛtul in." Bifo dat, yu kin bigin fɔ fred di nɛks big tin. Yu kin bigin fɔ dawt, fɔ wok pasmak, ɔ fɔ tek tɛm du tin bak. Ɛn na so di saykl de kɔntinyu.

Udat kin gɛt dis filin?

Infakt, ɛnibɔdi kin fil dis kayn we. Insay 1978, tu pipul dɛn we de stɔdi bɔt pɔsin in maynd, we nem Suzan Ayms ɛn Pɔlin Roz Klans, bin fɔs no se na uman dɛn we dɔn du bɔku tin dɛn. Bɔt risach dɔn sho naw se i kɔmɔn fɔ bɔku pipul dɛn, ilɛksɛf na man ɔ uman, pan difrɛn wok dɛn.

Bɔku tɛm dis filin kin kam we yu fil difrɛn frɔm yu kɔmpin dɛn ɔ yu kɔmpin dɛn we yu de wok wit. Fɔ ɛgzampul, fɔ bi uman we de wok na say usay man dɛn de wok. I kɔmɔn bak fɔ di wan dɛn we fil lɛk se dɛn de na maynɔriti pan ɛdyukeshɔn ɔ wokples.

Yu saspek se yu gɛt Imposter Syndrome? Chek ɔut dɛn sayn ya

Fɔ no if yu gɛt dis filin, si if dɛn tin ya kin apin to yu:

• Tink se ɔlman no mɔ pas yu.
• Ɔltɛm tink se yu nɔ smat lɛk aw ɔda pipul dɛn tink se yu smat.
• Tink se di tin dɛm we yu dɔn du na di rizɔlt fɔ "lak", "pipul dɛm we yu sabi", ɔ di bad tin dɛm we ɔda pipul dɛn dɔn disayd.
• Fɔ fil lɛk di "imposter cycle" we wi bin dɔn tɔk bɔt de ripit insɛf na yu layf.
• Di fred se yu nɔ de pan usay yu de (na wok/skul) ɛn ɔda pipul dɛn go no am sɔmde.
• Fɔ fil lɛk ɔltin ɔltɛm gɛt fɔ du di bɛst we aw i ebul ɔ bɛtɛ pas aw dɛn bin de tink.
• Fɔ fil se yu nɔ go fil fayn we sɔmbɔdi kɔmplimɛnt yu.
• Yu na di wan we de ambɔg yusɛf fɔ mek yu nɔ ebul fɔ rich di tin dɛn we yu dɔn plan fɔ du .
• Fɔ fred fɔ mek ɔda pipul dɛn at pwɛl.
• Yu nɔ go ebul fɔ fɔgɛt ivin di smɔl mistek we yu mek ɛn kɔntinyu fɔ tink bɔt am.
• Tink se, "If a bin smat, smat, a nɔ bin fɔ gɛt dɛn dawt ya."
• Fɔ mek ɔda pipul dɛn gladi fɔ yu rili impɔtant to yu.

Wetin kin bi di rizin dɛn we kin mek dis kayn tin apin?

Bɔku rizin dɛn kin de we kin mek pɔsin fil dis kayn we.

• Pɔsin in pasɔnal kwaliti dɛn: Di kwaliti dɛn lɛk fɔ wɔri pasmak, fɔ nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ ɔnɔ fɔ yusɛf, ɛn fɔ want fɔ du ɔltin pafɛkt kin gɛt fɔ du wit dis.
• Envayrɔmɛnt we dɛn mɛn: Sɔntɛnde, dis sik kin kam pan di wan dɛn we de gro ɔp na famili dɛn we dɔn ɔlwayz de tɔk mɔ bɔt fɔ du sɔntin ɛn fɔ gɛt sakrifays. I kin kam bak we mama ɛn papa dɛn kin gɛt mɛsej dɛn we nɔ gri wit dɛnsɛf, lɛk fɔ prez dɛn pasmak sɔntɛnde ɛn fɔ kɔndɛm dɛn bad bad wan ɔda tɛm dɛn.
• Fɔ fil lɛk pɔsin we de na do: Fɔ ɛgzampul, if yu nɔ kin kɔmpit na di wokples we gɛt bɔku kɔmpitishɔn, yu kin fil lɛk se "A nɔ fit insay ya." Dɔn bak, fɔ fil difrɛn frɔm ɔda pipul dɛm bikɔs ɔf yu rays, ej, man ɔ uman, ɔr ikɔnomi stet kin mek yu gɛt `Imposter Syndrome.'
• Soshal Midia: We yu si pikchɔ dɛm fɔ ɔda pipul dɛn "pafɛkt" layf, yu kin kɔmpia yusɛf to dɛn ɛn fil se "A nɔ inof."

Wetin dɛn kin du fɔ avɔyd dis?

E tranga fɔ fɛt dɛn tin ya wae de mɔna yu, so e fayn fɔ gɛt sɔpɔt frɔm ɔda pipul dɛm.

Di advays ɛn tritmɛnt we dɛn kin gi to dɔktɔ

• Tɔk Tɛrapi: We yu tɔk to pɔsin we de gi advays ɔr pɔsin we de mɛn yu, dat kin ɛp yu fɔ ɔndastand usay dɛn tin ya kin kɔmɔt ɛn aw dɛn kin afɛkt yu layf. Dɔn, yu kin lan aw fɔ manej dɛn we dɛn kam.
• Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Dis na tritmɛnt we de tich yu fɔ no di bad tin dɛn we yu biliv ɛn riples am wit mɔ rial tin dɛn.
• Grup Tɛrapi: I kin ɛp bak fɔ jɔyn grup sɛshɔn wit ɔda pipul dɛm wae gɛt di sem `Imposter Syndrome` lɛk yu. We yu yɛri ɔda pipul dɛn ɛkspiriɛns, dat kin ɛp yu fɔ lɛ yu nɔ fil se yu wangren de. We yu de tɔk bɔt wetin yu de tink, dat kin ɛp yu bak fɔ gɛt nyu we fɔ si tin.

If yu de fil se dɛn filin ya de ambɔg yu, i rili impɔtant fɔ tɔk to yu famili dɔktɔ (GP) . I kin gi yu di gayd we yu nid.

Tin dɛn we yusɛf go ebul fɔ du

• Mɛmba di tin dɛn we yu dɔn du: Mek wan list fɔ di tin dɛn we yu dɔn du fayn, tin dɛn we yu de proud fɔ. Sev imel, not, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn we gɛt prez frɔm ɔda pipul dɛn. Luk bak pan dis we yu fil se "A na fraud."
• Separet filin ɛn tru tin dɛn: Di nɛks tɛm we yu si se yu de dawt yusɛf, mɛmba yusɛf se na jɔs filin, nɔto tru.
• Bi gud to yusɛf: Wetin yu go se if yu padi fil dis kayn we? "Yu smat, ɛn yu gɛt rayt fɔ mek mistek," nɔto so? Tɛl yusɛf di sem tin.
• Yuz fɔ aksept kɔmplimɛnt: We pɔsin se "nicely done," instead fɔ avɔyd am wit "Tɛnki, bɔt...", yus fɔ jɔs se "Tɛnki bad bad wan."
• Nɔ kɔmpia yusɛf to ɔda pipul dɛn: Ɔlman kin jɔs post in bɛst na soshal midia. So stɔp fɔ kɔmpia yusɛf to dɛn. Bifo dat, tray fɔ mek tide bɛtɛ pas yu yestede. Nɔbɔdi nɔ pafɛkt.
• Chalenj yu tinkin: We yu tink se, "A gɛt dis wok bikɔs nɔbɔdi nɔ bin want am," chalenj da tink de ɛn tink gud wan se, "A gɛt dis wok bikɔs a de wok tranga wan ɛn mi kɔmpin wokman dɛn lɛk mi."
• Ɔndastand: Rial pipul dɛn we de tif nɔ kin gɛt `Imposter Syndrome`. Di we aw yu de fil dis kayn we de pruv se yu nɔto pɔsin we de tif!