Chumi chungchangah chuan tu emaw chuan a tisual che em? (Guilt Trip) - Hemi chungchang hi han sawi ila!

Office-a i thawhpui pakhatin, "Khawngaihin he thilah hian min pui rawh, nangmah bak chu tu dang nge awm?" A nih loh leh chhungkaw member pakhat thusawi avanga mahni hlimna atana i khawlkhawm pawisa engemaw zat i hman a ngai tawh em? Chutiang chu pressure nasa tak leh sualna hnuaiah i tih a ngai a nih chuan "Guilt Trip" victim i ni mai thei. Hei hi kan nunah kan tawn fo thin a ni.

A awlsam zawngin ‘guilt trip’ tih hi eng nge ni?

‘Guilt trip’ chu mi pakhatin a duhzawng thil tih tir tumin, a sualna emaw, inchhir emaw tih tir a, a thunun tumna a ni. A dik tak chuan mi tha lo ang maia an awm tir a, an thusawi i tih loh chuan i hrethiam lo tihna a ni.

Hetiang method hian hna a thawh chhan ber a awm. Kan nunah mi pawimawh (nu leh pa, unau, nupui/pasal, thian hnai tak) te beidawng kan duh loh vang a ni. Chu inzawmna chu kan zah hle. ‘Guilt tripping’ mektu hian i thinlunga he hmangaihna leh inzawmna hi a target a ni. Chumi hmang chuan an duhzawng hmu turin emotional takin an manipulate che a ni.

Thianghlimna dik tak chu thil tha tak a ni. Kan chhia leh tha hriatna ang a ni. Mi kan tihnat emaw, kan tihpalh emaw chuan lungngai leh inthiam lohna kan nei thin. Chu rilru put hmang chuan siam ṭhat leh ngaihdam dîl tûrin min chêttîr a ni. Kan inlaichinna a tichak a ni.

Mahse ‘guilt trip’ chu thil dik lo ti lo mah la, sualna nei tura in nawr luih hi a ni. Hei hi hrisel a ni lo.

Engvangin nge hetiang hian mi an awm?

‘Guilt trip’ hi inbiakpawhna kawng buaithlak tak a ni. Hetianga nungchang nei hian an mamawh chu direct-in a hrilh thei lo mai thei. A nih loh leh, inlaichînna kawngah harsatna tawk niin an inhria thei bawk.

Hetiang method hi direct-a sawi lovin i duh lohna lantir nan pawh hman a ni. Hun rei tak chhunga i biak loh uncle i nei ang tih han ngaihtuah teh. "Kan ngai che, fapa, chuvang chuan kan inbia a," tih ai chuan, "Eng nge? Tuna kan in awmna hi i theihnghilh tawh em?", tih ai chuan, thil thleng chu a tisual a, thunun che a tum a ni.

Miin ‘Guilt Trip’ a pe che em tih engtin nge i hriat theih ang?

Hei hi chi hrang hrangin a lo thleng thei a ni. A chang chuan tlang takin an sawisel thin che. Vawi dang chu tanpui ngai lo ang maiin an che thin. A châng chuan ṭawngkam engmah sawi lovin, an kut an hniam a, an thaw halh a, an tawng lo mai mai a, i kekawr lum chu an pe che a ni.

He table-ah hian ‘guilt trip’ tih ziarang thenkhat hi han thlir ila.

Chûngte chu thil tê tê, tithinur thei ang maiin a lang thei a, mahse inlaichînna chu a tichhe vek thei a ni. A chhan chu pressure hnuaia "no" i tih a ngai a nih chuan i stress ang. A nih loh leh, duh lo taka "ni e" i tih chuan chu mi chungah chuan thinrimna leh thinrimna i nei ang. Chumi avang chuan zawi zawiin chu mi chu i pumpelh tan ang. Hetianga pumpelh hian i stress leh lungkhamna a tipung thei a ni .

'Guilt Trip' tihtawp nan thil 5 i tih theih.

Hetiang dinhmun atanga chhuak tur, in inzawmna vawng nung tur leh rilru lama nghet taka awm tur chuan fing taka chhan let a ngai a ni.

1. Mahni inngaihtuah hmasa phawt ang che.

Miin thil a zawh che chuan, chu chu pawm i ngaihtuah hian i pum chhungah pil bo, i kawr ruhte a tikhauh tih i hria em? Heng zawhnate hi inzawt rawh: " Emotional takin ka chhang let em? Ka thutlukna hi a dik em? He thil hi 'ni lo' tih hi dikna ka nei tak tak em? " Heng zawhnate hi dik taka i chhan hnuah chuan engmah sualna nei lovin thutlukna chiang tak i siam thei ang.

2. Thil awmdan chu a awm ang angin sawi rawh.

Chu mi hnenah chuan, "Hei hi i tan a pawimawh hle tih ka hria. Chuvang chuan he thil hi min tihsual tir i tum a ni," tiin hrilh rawh. Tichuan, chiang takin sawi rawh, "'Ni lo' ti tura nawr ka nih ka duh lo va, chu chu ka hrethiam lo va, duh lo taka 'ni' i tih avangin thinrim ka duh lo bawk. Chuvangin khawngaihin min nawr suh ang che," tiin.

3. A bul tan thar turin hrilh rawh.

Anmahni chu, "Ka rilru put hmang chu nawr luih lovin, ka hnen aṭanga in duh chu direct-in min hrilh rawh ," tiin zawt rawh . Sawiselna leh puhna tel lovin, ngenna awlsam tak ang maia hlan turin hrilh rawh.

4. ‘Ni lo’ tih theihna i neih chu zah rawh.

Hei hi in inzawmna humhalh nan a pawimawh hle. Chu mi hnenah chuan, "'Ni lo' ka tih hian min zah rawh. Tichuan, 'ni' ka tih ngai a nih chuan, duhthusamin ka ti a, nawr luihna hnuaiah ka ti lo tih i ring thei ang." Hei hian i ramri chu chiang takin a tarlang ang.

5. Hmangaihna leh ngilnei takin chhang rawh

‘Guilt trip’ tihdanglam dan tha ber pakhat chu ngilneihna hi a ni. Chu mi chu i tana an pawimawh zia hrilh rawh. Entîr nân, i sawi thei ang:

• "I chungchang hi ka ngaihtuah nasa hle a, mahse hei hi ka ti harsa khawp mai."
• "I thinrim duh lo tak zet a, mahse hei hi ka thutlukna a ni."
• "I beisei ka tihlawhtling thei lo a, mahse tun dinhmunah chuan ka ti thei lo."

Heng thilte hi i nungchang a inthlak hma loh chuan i sawi nawn leh a ngai mai thei. Chutiang a nih chuan, "He thil hi kan sawi tawh a..." tih emaw, dik zawka sawi chuan, "Hetiang hian min tisual a ni. Kan inzawmna a ti na a ni. Ka thinrim tir che a, ka duh lo," tih emaw hmangin i ramri chu inhriat nawn tir rawh.

Hetianga i inngaihtuah a, i ramri chiang taka sawi a, direct leh ngilnei taka inbiakpawhna hmang hian ‘guilt trip’ chu i titawp thei a, i rilru hriselna leh i inzawmna hlu tak takte pawh i humhim thei bawk.