Nang pawhin hetiang hian i inhria em? I thil tih zawng zawng, a te ber atanga a lian ber thlengin 100% a famkim taka tih a ngai a ni. Thil tihsual tlemte i tih chuan phurrit rit tak leh sualna i nei em? Chutiang a nih chuan rilru lam natna ‘ Perfectionism ’ tih i vei a ni mai thei. A awlsam zawngin sawi ila, hei hi i thil tih zawng zawng hi a famkim vek tur a ni tih rinna nghet tak a ni a, tihsual engmah a awm lo. Hetianga ngaihtuah hi i rilru leh taksa hriselna atan a tha vak lo.
Engtin nge perfectionism i nei tih i hriat theih ang?
Mi tam zawk chuan kan nunah kawng khat emaw kawng dangah emaw ‘Perfectionist’ kan ni thei. Chaw siamah chuan chutiang chu i ni mai thei a, i hnathawhnaah pawh i awm a ni mai thei. Mahse i thil tih apiangah he ‘ famkimna’ hi i zawng a nih chuan he natna hi i nei tam zawk tihna a ni. A zia ber chu eng nge ni tih i lo en ang u.
- Procrastination: Hna thawh tur chu tihsual nei lovin tihfel theih loh hlauvin tihkhawtlai.
- Hun tul lo tak lak: Midang aiin thil inang tih nan hun i hmang rei zawk a, a chhan chu 'perf ECT ' tih hun i neih loh vang a ni.
- A tawp berah chauh ngaihtuah: A kalphung nuam ti ai chuan a tawp ber tur chauh ngaihtuah chungin hna i thawk thin.
- Lungawi lohna: "Tunlai hian hei hi a tha tak zet a ni" tih i ngaihtuah hma chuan hna i thawk zo lo ang maiin i inhria.
A pawimawh ber chu perfectionism hi natna a ni lo. But if left unchecked , i rilru hriselnaah nghawng lian tak a nei thei.
Perfectionism chi hrang hrang lian ber ber a awm em?
Ni e, perfectionism chi thum kan sawi ber a ni. Chûngte chu inanna awm mah se, inthlauhna tlem a awm bawk. Hengte hi he table-ah hian eng nge ni tih i lo en ang u.
| Perfectionism type a ni | A awlsam zawngin... |
|---|---|
| Mimal tehfung perfectionism (mahni tehfung atanga innghat) . | Hei hi a hrisel hle. A chhan chu i tan thil tum sang tak i siam a, chu chu hlen chhuah tumin i infuih a ni. Hei hian lungngaihna leh lungngaihna i neih loh phah a ni. Mi dangin, "Hengte hi thil tum lian lutuk, tihhlawhtlin theih loh" an tih pawhin a tichak ang che. |
| Mahni inngaihtuahna (self-critical perfectionism) tih hi a ni | Hei hi a hlauhawm deuh. Hemiah hian hlauhna leh beiseina nei lo i nei a, i thil tum chu i hlen chhuak thei ngai lo ang. Hei hian lungkhamna, lungkhamna, mahni inpumkhatna, leh hnathawh lohna te ang chi thil a thlen thei a ni. |
| Khawtlang nunphung (socially prescribed perfectionism) (khawtlang atanga nawrna atanga innghat) . | Hetiang dinhmunah hian thil thleng chu nangmah atanga nawrna i nei lo va, pawn lam atanga nawrna hnuaiah i awm a, ‘engkim ti famkim taka ti’ tur a ni. Entirnan, doctor emaw, ukil emaw ang chi profession-ah chuan tihsual tlemte pawh hi tihsual theih a ni lo. Tin, nu leh pa leh khawtlang thenkhatte nawrna pawh hi a chhan a ni thei bawk. |
Perfectionism hian hriselna a nghawng dan
Research atanga a lan dan chuan perfectionism hi rilru lam harsatna engemaw zat nen a inzawm tlat a ni. Heng nghawngte hi eng nge ni tih hi han thlir ila.
- Rilru hriselna lama harsatna nei: 1.1.
- Burnout (hnathawh lutuk avanga rilru leh taksa hahna) .
- Rimtawng
- Lungngaihna
- Hlauhthawnna
- Mahni intihhlum tumna
- Ngaihtuahna leh thiltih duh loh ( Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder - OCD) .
- Ei leh in lama harsatna nei
- Nunphung nena inzawm harsatna: 1.1.
- Mahni inngaihhlutna hniam
- Beidawnna a ni
- Hnathawh hun sawn a ni
- Mihring inkara inlaichinnaah harsatna awm thei
Engvangin nge he ‘Perfectionism’ hi kan neih?
Hei hi a chhan pakhat chiah hriat a harsa khawp mai. A chhan tam tak a awm thei. A bulpui berte han thlir ila.
- Hlawhchham hlauh lutuk.
- Nu leh pa emaw, upate emaw tihlawm a tulna nasa tak chu.
- Midangte hmangaihna leh pawmpuina hneh duhna.
- Rilru lam harsatna dang, lungkhamna leh OCD nei.
- Mahni inrintawk lohna leh tling lo anga inhriatna.
- Naupan laia nu leh pa nena inlaichinnaah harsatna awm thin.
- Sikul kal lai emaw, tleirawl lai emawa talent sang tak lantir thin mi nih.
Perfectionism hneh theihna tur enkawlna a awm em?
Ni e, a dik tak zet. He thil hi nangmah chauha hmachhawn tum ai chuan, rilru lam hriselna lama mi thiam tak , i doctor kaltlangin rilru lam doctor emaw counselor emaw te hmuh a pawimawh zawk. I natna bulpui ber hriatchhuah nan leh enkawlna dik tak tan tir turin an pui thei che a ni.
Enkawlna hmanraw pawimawh tak tak engemaw zat a awm.
Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) hmanga tih a ni.
Hei hian engkim hi 100% a famkim a ngai lo tih a zirtir che a ni. Thil tihsual chu thil pangngai a ni tih a zirtir che a, i zinkawngah a titawp lo che a ni.
Hypnotherapy hmanga enkawl a ni
Hei hian ‘engkim emaw engmah lo emaw’ rilru put hmang atanga inthiarfihlim turin a pui a ni. Hei hian he rilru put hmang khauh tak hi a thlak danglam thei a ni.
Chhungkaw systems therapy hmanga enkawlna
Hetah hian i chhungkuaah famkimna (perfectionism) a lo chhuah dan te, mimal anga a nghawng dan te kan en a ni. He harsatna chinfel dan tur zawng turin chhungte nen kan thawk ho thin.
Mahni chauha i enchhin theih tur thil
Damdawi lam thurawn bakah hian he natna hi nangmah ngeiin i enkawl tum theih tur thil engemaw zat a awm.
- A thatna leh that lohna ziak rawh: Perfectionist nihna hi i tan a thatna leh that lohna chu lehkhabuah ziak rawh. Chutianga i hriat leh hunah chuan chu cons chu en la, i rilru siam rawh.
- Thiltum dik tak siam rawh: I tihhlawhtlin theih tak tak thiltum dik tak siam rawh. Tichuan thil theih loh zawng zawng i um zui thin kha i chau tawh lo ang.
- Hun bituk siam rawh: Hnathawh tur tinte tan hun tiam dik tak siam la, chu hun chhung chuan tihfel tum ang che. Hei hian thil pakhatah a tul lova hun i khawhral loh nan a titawp ang che.
- Hun sawn hlat loh: A tawpah a rah chhuah tur ngaihtuah ai chuan hna chu a ṭhenin ṭhen la, a ṭhen khat i tih zawh hnuah hma la rawh. Chutiang chuan i rilru a buai lo ang.
- Thil tihsual pawm: Thil tihsual chu a chhe hauh lo tih hre reng ang che. Dik tak chuan an hnen atangin i zir thei a ni. Chûngte chu awm reng ai chuan nun pêng pakhatah pawm rawh.
- Thil dang ngaihtuah rawh: Thil pakhat tih famkim tum ai chuan, i hlimna tur leh i tana pawimawh thil chi hrang hrang tih nan hun hmang la.
Take-Home Thuchah a ni
- Perfectionism hi natna a ni lo va, mahse, i rilru lam natna a ni a, i rilru hriselna a nghawng ṭha lo thei a, i enkawl loh chuan i rilru hriselna a tichhe thei a ni.
- Thil tihsual hi nun peng pakhat a ni. Engkim hi 100% a famkim a ngai lo tih hrethiam rawh.
- Hetiang dinhmunah hian i rilru a hah emaw, i lungkham emaw a nih chuan mahni chauha hrehawm tawrh ai chuan doctor pan a, thurawn lak a pawimawh hle.
- Tum tak tak siam la, hun sawn suh la, i hlim theihna tur thil atan hun siam rawh. I chungah ngilnei rawh.
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