Sikul-ah pawh ‘clique’-ah i tang ve em? Heng ‘cliques’ te hi engtin nge kan hmachhawn ang tih hi han sawi ila!

Thiante bula awm hi kan duh vek. Ṭhiante nena kan inhmukhawm emaw, kan inbiak emaw, kan inkhelh emaw, hun kan hman dun mai mai hian rin loh takin kan hlim hle a ni lawm ni? Chutiang pawl nena kan awm lai chuan nunah thil tam tak chu a awlsam zawkin a lang a, himna nei ang maiin kan inhria. Ṭhian pawl ṭhenkhat an awm a, mi dangte tan pawh an inhawng hle a, an inthlak danglam thei hle bawk. Lo kal a, ‘Lo kal rawh, min rawn zawm rawh’ titu apiang an lo hmuak thin. Mahse, vawiina kan sawi tur ‘cliques’ tia koh pawlte hi a danglam hle. An khap tlat a, mi zawng zawngin an zawm thei lo tih chiang takin an lantir a ni. ‘Hei hi kan pawl a ni a, midang tan chuan khap a ni’ tih ang chi rilru put hmang an nei a ni. Mahse, i tan chanchin lawmawm ka nei a, a tam zawkah chuan heng ‘clique’ te hi sikul tawp lamah an bo vek thin. Chuvangin, chumi hma chuan heng ‘clique’ te hi tlem han sawi ila, engtin nge kan hmachhawn ang?

Ṭhian pawl pangngai leh ‘clique’ an tih hi eng nge an danglamna?

Awle, tunah chuan heng chi hnih hi engtin nge an danglam tih kan en ang. Hei hi i hriatthiam phawt chuan thil tam tak a chiang tawh ang.

Ṭhian pawl pangngai chu kan thil neih inang vek, kan infiamna, kan hobby , class, a nih loh leh kan chenna hmun, leh a châng chuan chhûngkaw inzawmna ang chite a\angin kan din a ni. Sikul-ah chess team-ah i tel ve a, chu team-a tlangval dangte nen chuan in inhmelhriat mai mai ang tih han ngaihtuah teh, a dik em? Chutiang chu a ni. Chutiang pawla mite chuan zalen takin pawl pawn lama mite nen an inzawm thei a, an inbia thei bawk . Chutianga an tih avang chuan tumahin an ostracize dawn lo va, an exclude lo vang. Engkim an ti dun lo mai thei - chu chu a pawi lo. I chess ṭhianpa hian cricket a khel lo mai thei, mahse chu chu harsatna a ni lo. An inzah tawn a.

Mahse, clique hi a chang chuan duhthusam inang tlang atanga din ni mahse, a tam zawkah chuan an ngaih pawimawh ber chu anmahni ‘status’ emaw ‘popularity’ emaw a ni. Sikul-a mi pawl pakhat, pawl ‘cool ber’ nia inngai chu han mitthla teh. An inchei dan te, an tawng dan te, an kalna hmun te... an tha ber tih lantir an tum a ni. Heng ‘clique’ te hi hruaitu ang maia mi pawl khatin an thunun tlangpui. Tute nge ‘in’ tih leh tute nge ‘out’ tih reltu an ni. He ‘clique’-a mite hian thil tam tak an ti dun a.Miin pawl pawn lama mi a ṭhian a nih chuan hnawl a ni thei a, nuihzat pawh a ni thei. ‘Aw... chu mi pawh chu i biak ve em? Kan group-ah hian a inmil lo hle.' A châng chuan heng ‘clique’ te hi an ngilnei hle thei a, mi dangte hnawhchhuahnaah pawh nuam an ti hle.

A awlsam zawngin:

• Ṭhiante pawl hrang hrang:
• Thil ngaihven insem, infiamna , thiltih, class, veng, leh chhungkaw inzawmna ang chi thila siam a ni.
• Group member-te hian pawn lam mite nena inpawh tawnna zalenna an nei a. Tumah chhuahsan hlauh a ngai lo.
• Engkim in tih dun a ngai lo. Chu chu thil pangngai a ni.
• Mi tharte tan hawn a ni tlangpui.
• ‘Cliques’ tih te hi:
• Common sense-a innghat ni mah se, mi tam zawk chuan ‘status’ emaw ‘popularity’ emaw an en thin.
• Hruaitute ang bawkin mipui pawl khatin an thunun a ni. Tu nge ‘in’ a, tute nge ‘out’ tih chu an rel thin.
• Team member te hian thil tam tak an ti ho thin.
• Group pawn lama mi i pawl chuan hnawl leh nuihzat i nih a rinawm zawk.
• Mi thar tan pawh a harsa hle a, a tam zawkah chuan an phal lo.

Heng ‘cliques’ te hi eng thilin nge i hmachhawn?

Hetiang 'clique'-ah hian i lut emaw, i chhuak emaw pawh nise, heng thilte hian i nun a ti harsa deuh thei a ni. Mahse, lungngai suh, hei hi hmachhawn dan tur a awm. Eng nge an nih i en ang u.

Nangmah leh nangmah inhriat rawh – i hmingthanna nen.

Clique-ah i awm ang tih han ngaihtuah teh. A hmasain, he pawla tel i duh chhan hi pawm i duh vang nge, mahni chauha i inhriat vang nge, an ngaihdan leh hlutna i pawm tak tak vang? A chang chuan hriat lohvin pawl dik loah kan lut thin a ni lawm ni? I ṭhian pawlte chu i duh loh pawl an lo ni ta em? Entîr nân, mi dangte ṭanpui ai chuan mi nuihzat leh hnawhchhuahtu pâwl an lo ni ta em? Mite chuan i ṭhiante a\angin a \ha emaw, a \ha lo emawin an en che em? ‘Chu group-a naupang chu a fel tak zet a ni,’ tih ang chi nge, ‘Aw, midang tithinurtu nalh tak’ tih ang chi hi? Hei hian engtin nge i rilru a put tir? Nang leh i ṭhiante in mi dangte i cheibâwl dân hi i chhuang thei ang em? Heng zawhnate hi inzawt rawh. Darthlalang atanga in en ang mai a ni. A pawimawh ber chu i thinlung anga nun hi a ni.

I hlim theihna tur thil ti zel ang che.

I duhzawng thilte bânsan turin eng pawl mahin nghawng che suh la, i tana pawimawh lo thilah i hun leh sum khawhral suh. Draw hi i ngaina hle a, mahse i ‘clique’-a mite chuan an nuihzat a, ‘Eng atan nge chu chu?’ an ti ang tih han ngaihtuah teh. Chumi avang chuan lemziak kha bansan suh. I hlutna leh i ta nia inhriatna tur thilah inhmang rawh. A chhan chu, thil i thiam lai te, i duhzawng thil i tih hian i inrintawkna leh hlimna nasa tak i nei thin. Chu chu ‘mahni inngaihhlutna’ an tih chu a ni. Chuvângin, infiamna lama thiam tak i ni thei a, hla i sa thei a, instrument i tum thei bawk a, draw i thiam bawk a, drama-ah i tel ve thei bawk. A nih loh leh sikulah academic club hrang hrang - science club, literary club, debate club, etc. zawm la , heng thilte hian i rilru a ti nuam mai bakah nangmah ang bawka duhtu ṭhian thar i tawng thei bawk. Sikul pawnah volunteer theihna hmun a awm. Ran humhalhna hmun, damdawi in, tar enkawlna hmun, emaw khawtlang huan ang chi hmunte tlawh rawh. Midangte kan tanpui hian ropui takin kan inhria bawk.

I ṭhian nihna chu inhawng tak leh chi hrang hrangah awm reng ang che.

Ṭhian pawl khata inkhung tlat hian i khawvel a tikhawtlai thei a ni. Mi pâwl khat nêna awm reng tûrin han mitthla teh. Tichuan ngaihtuahna thar i nei lo ang a, thil thar i zir lo ang a, khawvelah hian mi chi hrang hrang engzat nge an awm tih pawh i hre lo ang. Chuvângin, hmun hrang hrang aṭanga lo kal, pianphung inang lo, thil chi hrang hrang duhtute nên ṭhian siam rawh. I class-a naupang ngawi reng hi artist thiam tak a ni mai thei. I bula i unau upa zawk hian i ngaihtuah phak loh thil tawn a nei mai thei. Mi hrang hrang nena kan inpawh hian nun leh mihring chanchin kan hre thin. I ngaihtuahna, thiltum , leh nungchang nena inmil mi zawng rawh. Thian \hate \anpuina hi i lungngaih emaw, i lungkham emaw laia chakna petu ropui tak a ni a, thim zinga khawnvar eng ang maiin.

Nangmah leh midang tan ding rawh.

Midang rilru put hmang chu fimkhur takin awm rawh. Negative peer pressure-ah hian inpe suh. Thil dik lo nia i hriat chu mi dangin an ti a nih pawhin ti suh. Ṭhian dik tak chuan engtikah mah an nawr luih ngai lo vang che a, ṭul lova thil an phut ngai lo vang che tih hre reng ang che. I thutlukna siamte chu an zah ang. Nangmah emaw i hriat mi emaw tihduhdah i nih chuan – mimal emaw online emaw pawh nise – i nu leh pate emaw, school counselor emaw, zirtirtu emaw hnenah hrilh ngei ang che.Hei hi zah tur a ni lo, i himna hi a pawimawh ber a ni. Midang chanchin sawiseltu leh midangte tichhe thinte nena hun i hman chu tihtlem rawh. Hetianga mi nungchang i hmuh chuan i theih chuan ding rawh. A châng chuan i thumal pakhat hian danglamna nasa tak a thlen thei a ni.

Online-a i post-ah fimkhur rawh.

Tunlai hian social media hi kan nunah hmun lian tak a lo ni ta a ni. Chuvangin, social networking site hmangtu online group leh clique te lakah fimkhur rawh. Chûngte hmang chuan miten an ṭhian duh ber tlemte chauh party-ah an sawm thei a, comment tenawm tak tak an hnutchhiah thei a, post an siam thei a, mi dangte pawh an hnawl thei bawk. Ṭhenkhat phei chuan midang tihthinrim nan profile lem an siam hial. Chuvangin, i profile private-a dah reng hi a finthlak hle ang. Post leh thlalak i post te hi ngaihtuah nawn leh teh. Chûngte chu i tân harsatna a lo ni ang em tih ngaihtuah rawh. Cyberbullying hi heng pawl hlauhawm dang a ni bawk.

Heng ‘Cliques’ chungchang hi eng nge hriat belh i duh?

Thil dang hriat tur a awm bawk. A chang chuan clique chhunga mite ngei pawhin chhuah an duh thin. A chhan chu pawl danah an tang tlat a, midangte inhlat tir leh mi tihnat an duh loh vang a ni. Mi zawng zawng hi tum tha lo nei pawlah an awm vek lo va, a chang chuan an hriat loh pawhin an inhnamhnawih thin. An chhuah chuan an awm mai mai ang tih an hlau pawh a ni mai thei.

Chuvangin, eng social group-ah nge i tel tih ngaihtuah lutuk ai chuan mi zawng zawng tan thian tha tak nih tum ang che. Chu chu mi dangte chunga zah, ngaihsak, rinawm, leh ngilnei nih tihna a ni. I ṭhian neih duh ang chi chu ni rawh. A pawimawh ber chu nangmah nih hi a ni a, i hlutna ang taka nun hi a ni. Nangmah leh nangmah i rinawm a, i rinawm chuan ṭhian ṭhate chuan an hual vel ang che.

A tawp berah chuan i hriat reng tur thil pawimawh thenkhat

Okay, chuvangin kan sawi tawh atang hian thil tlemte i rilruah i dah tur a awm. Chûngte chu i zin kawng kawhhmuhtu chhinchhiahna ang mai a ni.

• Tu nge i nih leh i hlutnate chu theihnghilh ngai suh. ‘Clique’-a in fit turin in thlak danglam suh. I thinlung hian dik leh dik lo a hre chiang hle.
• Thian dik tak zawng rawh. I thlawptu, nangmah hrethiamtu leh nangmah chhunga thil tha ber ber chhuah chhuahna tura puitu che mite nen in hual vel rawh. Thian nihna hi mi pahnih inkara inzawmna mawi tak a ni a, pressure a ni thei lo.
• Mi dangte chu ngilnei tak leh zah takin cheibâwl rawh. Mi pakhat chu hnawhchhuah a nih i hmuh chuan ding chhuak hlau suh. I hnen atanga tanpuina tlemte pawh hi mi pakhat tan chuan tanpuina lian tak a ni thei.
• Online khawvelah pawh fimkhur rawh. I privacy humhim rawh. I post zawng zawng hmutu mipui te kha han ngaihtuah teh.
• Hrereng,Sikul-a ‘clique’ i neih tam tak chu rei vak lo hnuah a bo vek ang. Chu aia nunna chu a lian zawk daih. Chuvangin hei hi khawvel tawpna ni suh se. I hmalam hun, i hlimna tur ngaihtuah rawh.

Mi hlu tak i ni. Eng ‘clique’ pawhin i hlutna a tihniam tir suh! Nangmah ni la, khawvelin a hmangaih ang che.

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