Whakaarohia kei te kōrero poto koe me tō hoa rangatira . Ka huri haere te kōrero hei pakanga. Kātahi ka rongo koe me te mea kei roto i tō mahunga te pōrearea, kāore e taea e koe te whakaaro, engari kei te toe koe me te riri, te pōuri, te wehi. Me te mea kua pakaru te tāke, ā, kei te waipuke mai ngā kare ā-roto ki a koe... Kāore e taea e koe te kimi kupu, kāore e taea e koe te whakaaro me aha koe. Ko tō hiahia kia puta atu koe i reira. Kua pāngia koe e tētahi mea pēnei? Koinei te mea e kīia nei e tātou ko te Waipuke Hinengaro .
He aha te Waipuke Hinengaro?
Ehara te waipuke o ngā kare ā-roto i te mate. He āhua hinengaro e pāngia ana e tātou. Ki te kī māmā noa, ko te wā tēnei e kore ai e taea te whakamanawanui i ō kare ā-roto (pēnei i te pouri, te riri, te wehi) nā tētahi huihuinga, ā, ka ngaro tō mana whakahaere i ō kare ā-roto. Pērā i te tāpiri wai ki roto i te peere wai ka puea ake, ina nui rawa ō kare ā-roto kāore e taea te whakahaere, ka puea ake.
He rite ki te tihore i ngā paparanga o te riki. Ki te tihore tātou i ngā paparanga, he nui ngā mea e tupu ana i muri i ngā whakaaturanga. Ko te kaupapa, ko te āhua o tō tirohanga ki te kaupapa, ko ō kare ā-roto mōna, me te āhua o tō urupare ki taua kare ā-roto... ka huihui katoa ēnei mea hei hanga i te wheako o te Waipuke Hinengaro. Ahakoa ngā tohunga hinengaro kua roa e tohe ana ki te tautuhi i ngā taipitopito tika.
He aha ngā tohu matua ka pā ki a koe i ngā wā pēnei?
Kāore ngā tohu o te waipuke kare ā-roto e ōrite mō te katoa. He uaua hoki te wehewehe i ēnei tohu nā te mea he rite tonu ki ngā tohu o ētahi atu āhuatanga ahotea. Me titiro tātou ki ngā tohu matua.
| Āhuatanga | Hei whakarāpopototanga... |
|---|---|
| Te whakaaro hē, te whakaaro kino ki ngā mea (Te pānga ki te aromatawai) | Koinei te wā e titiro ana koe ki te whanonga o tētahi, ki tētahi huihuinga rānei i roto i te huarahi kino, hē rānei. Hei tauira, ki te patupatua e tō hoa te tatau, ka whakaaro tonu koe, "Kei te tino riri ia, ā, e ngana ana ki te riri i ahau." Ko te tikanga o tēnei ka hē tō whakamārama i ana mahi. Ka kite koe i te huihuinga he mea e kore e taea te whakaaro, e kore e taea te manawanui, ā, he mea whakapoauau. |
| Ngā whanonga mawhiti | Ka tino hiahia koe ki te mawhiti, ki te oma, ki te huna rānei i te āhuatanga kare ā-roto. Tērā pea ka hamama ohorere koe, ka tangi rānei, me te ngana ki te whakamutu i te āhuatanga i te wā e taea ai. He rite tonu tēnei ki te urupare parepare i roto i tō tātou roro e kiia nei ko (whawhai, rere, tūpato rānei) . Arā, kei te ngana te roro ki te whakaora i a koe i tētahi āhuatanga morearea, ahotea. |
| Ngā mahi koretake | Ina uru tō roro ki te 'aratau ora', arā, ka tīmata ia ki te mahi i ngā mahi tiaki, ka ngaro tō kaha ki te whakaaro mārama. Ka ngaro tō kaha ki te whakatau whakaaro tika, ki te whakatakoto tautohetohe mārama, ki te noho marino rānei. Ko tēnei momo pōhēhē hinengaro he tohu matua anō hoki o te Waipuke Hinengaro. |
He aha ngā āhuatanga ka puta pea i tēnei āhuatanga?
Ahakoa i te tīmatanga i kōrerohia te waipuke o ngā kare ā-roto mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua mārenatia, kua kitea ināianei e ngā rangahau ka taea tēnei te tupu i roto i ngā whanaungatanga katoa.
Kua mārena, kua aroha rānei
He maha ngā wā ka kitea tēnei āhuatanga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, inā koa i ngā wāhi e puta ai te tutu a te hoa piripono (IPV) . Engari kāore i te herea ki ēnei whanaungatanga anake. He mea noa anō hoki ngā pakanga i waenga i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine noa. Heoi, ko te tangata e pāngia ana e tēnei momo waipuke kare ā-roto, ka nui rawa atu pea tōna tauhohenga ki te riri iti noa iho o tōna hoa. Kātahi ka pakaru rawa te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i waenganui i te tokorua. He iti ake hoki te kaha o ēnei tāne me ngā wāhine ki te whakatau i ngā pakanga.
I waenganui i ngā mātua me ngā tamariki
Ka kitea hoki tēnei i waenga i ngā mātua me ngā tamariki. Ina koa ka pāngia ngā tamariki e ngā raruraru whanonga. Ka nui ake te kaha o ngā raruraru whanonga o te tamaiti, ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka kaha te whakautu a ngā mātua e pāngia ana e te Waipuke Hinengaro ki te tamaiti. Tērā pea ka whakamahia e rātou ngā tikanga kino hei whiu i te tamaiti, ka riri tonu rānei rātou ki te tamaiti. Ko te mea e tupu ana i konei ko te whakamāori hē a ngā mātua i te whanonga a te tamaiti , ka riri mōna, ka whiu kino i te tamaiti hei whakamutu i te whanonga.
I roto i te taiao noa
Kāore tēnei e herea noa ki ngā whanaungatanga. Whakaarohia kua taka e koe tētahi pereti ki te kīhini, ā, kua pakaru. Ahakoa ehara i te mea nui, ka rite ki tētahi aituā nui. Tērā pea ka riri nui koe, ā, ka hiahia koe ki te mawhiti atu i te āhuatanga, ā, ka hiahia koe ki te haere atu me te kore e kohi i ngā pereti pakaru.
Te whanaungatanga i waenga i te waipuke kare ā-roto me te mamae
He hononga kaha kei waenganui i ngā mahi mamae o mua me te Waipuke Hinengaro.
Ko te hunga i tukinotia, i tukinotia rānei i mua, he nui ake te tūponotanga ka pāngia rātou e tēnei mate. Ka taea hoki e ngā whara tinana, pērā i ngā whara roro, te whakarerekē i te wairua me te whanonga o te tangata, ka arahi ki te waipuke o ngā kare ā-roto.
Ehara i te mea koinā anake, ko ngā tamariki i whiua kinotia e ō rātou mātua i a rātou e tamariki ana, he nui ake te tūponotanga ka pāngia rātou e ngā āhuatanga waipuke kare ā-roto pēnei i a rātou e pakeke ana.
Me pēhea te mawhiti me te whakahaere i tēnei āhuatanga?
He take uaua te waipuke o ngā kare ā-roto, nō reira kāore he otinga kotahi e tau ana ki te katoa. Engari he mea anō kei a tātou hei whakahaere i tēnei.
1. Whakatā mō tētahi wā.
Koinei te mea māmā rawa, te mea tere rawa hoki ka taea e koe te mahi. Ina pā mai ēnei kare ā- roto ki a koe, ki tō hoa rānei, me matara atu i te āhuatanga mō tētahi wā. I muri i te 20 meneti pea o te noho wehe me te marino, ka memeha haere te kaha o aua kare ā-roto.
Ka taea hoki e ngā mātua te whakamahi i tēnei tikanga. Mēnā kei te pēnei ō whakaaro i a koe e noho tahi ana me tāu tamaiti, i mua i tō urupare tonu ki te tamaiti, me matara atu koe i te āhuatanga mō tētahi wā. Whakanohoia te tamaiti ki tētahi wāhi haumaru, haere ki tētahi atu rūma ka marino. He mea tino nui kia whai āwhina koe i ngā wā pēnei. Tonoa he hoa pono, he whanaunga rānei kia tiaki i tāu tamaiti kia marino rā anō koe.
2. Akohia ngā pūkenga manawanui ki te mamae
Mena ka tupu pinepine tēnei, he mea nui kia rapu āwhina ngaio . Ka taea e koe te kōrero ki tō tākuta me te tiki i tētahi tohutoro ki tētahi tohunga hauora hinengaro whai tohu. Mā te whakaora hinengaro, mā te tohutohu rānei, ka taea e koe te ako i ngā huarahi hei whakahaere i ō kare ā-roto me te whakamarie i tō hinengaro i ngā wā pēnei.
Ka nui ngā painga ka puta mai i te tohutohu a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, ā, ka āwhina tēnei i ngā taha e rua ki te mārama ki te āhuatanga me te ako i ngā huarahi pai ake hei whakatau i ngā tautohe.
3. Whakarērea ngā whanaungatanga tukino.
Mena kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga tukino, ko te mea nui rawa atu hei mahi i mua i tō whakaaro ki te Waipuke Hinengaro ko te rapu āwhina hei puta atu i te whanaungatanga . He uaua pea tēnei ki te mahi ko koe anake. Me rapu āwhina hei puta atu. He hoa pono, he mema whānau, he tākuta rānei.Kōrero ki tētahi mō tēnei, kia whiwhi ai koe i te tautoko e hiahiatia ana e koe.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Ko te waipuke o ngā kare ā-roto he wheako e tino kaha rawa ai ngā kare ā-roto, ā, kāore e taea e koe te whakahaere i ō kare ā-roto. Ehara i te ngoikore nōu.
- Ka taea tēnei te tupu i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, ahakoa i a kōrua ko kōrua anake.
- Ko te mōhio ki ngā tohu te taahiraa tuatahi (te whakaaro hē, te hiahia ki te mawhiti, te pōhēhē).
- I ngā wā pēnei, ko te "wā okioki," arā, ko te mawehe atu i tēnei wāhi mō tētahi wā, te huarahi pai me te huarahi tere ki te whakamarie i tō hinengaro.
- Mena kei te pā tonu tēnei āhuatanga ki tō oranga, rapua he āwhina ngaio. Kaua e mangere ki te kōrero ki tō tākuta, ki tētahi kaitohutohu rānei.
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