He pēnei rānei ō whakaaro i ētahi wā? "Ko wai ahau? He aha te tikanga o tēnei ao? He tino aro nui rānei ahau ki taku mahi? He aha ngā mea ka puta i muri i taku matenga?" Mena kei te rere ēnei pātai i roto i tō hinengaro, ehara i te mea ko koe anake. He āhua hinengaro tēnei e pāngia ana e te tini o te tangata i tētahi wā o ō rātou oranga, ā, e kiia ana e tātou i roto i te rongoā he "raruraru oranga." Ehara i te mate, engari he taumahatanga nui ki ō tātou hinengaro.
He whakarāpopototanga noa iho, he aha tēnei raruraru oranga?
Ahakoa te āhua hohonu o tēnei kupu, he tino māmā noa iho te tikanga. Ko te raruraru oranga tonutanga he huinga pātai me ngā whakaaro whakararuraru e ara ake ana i roto i ō tātou hinengaro mō ō tātou oranga, tō tātou tuakiri, te kaupapa o te ao, me ngā mea ka mahue iho i muri i tō tātou matenga.
Ki te kī ngāwari, e rua ngā pātai matua e pā ana ki ēnei whakaaro katoa: "Ko wai ahau?" me "He aha te kaupapa o tōku ao?"
Whakaarohia kei te pātai koe i ēnei pātai ki a koe anō:
- Ko wai rā ahau?
- He aha ahau i whānau mai ai ki tēnei ao? He aha te tikanga o tōku ao?
- Ka aha ahau ki te wā e toe ana i roto i tōku ao?
- Kei te ora ahau i te ara e tino hiahia ana ahau ki te ora, i te ara rānei e hiahia ana ētahi atu kia ora ahau?
- He tika rānei ngā whakatau i mahia e au i roto i te ao?
Ki te mea kei roto i tō hinengaro ētahi o ēnei pātai, he mea noa iho tēnā. Engari ki te mea kei te whakararuraru tonu ēnei pātai i a koe, ki te mea ka pā ki ō mahi o ia rā me tō harikoa, koinā te wāhi me whakaaro ake tātou ki tēnei.
Āhea ka puta mai ngā whakaaro pēnei?
Ka pā tēnei momo raruraru ki te tangata ahakoa te pakeke, engari he mea tino noa i ngā wā o ngā huringa nui o te ao.
- I te wā taitamarikitanga: Ka puta ake pea tēnei āhuatanga, inā koa i muri i te whakawhiwhinga i te tohu kura tuarua, me te wā e whakatau ana mō te heke mai, me ngā pātai pēnei i te "He aha te momo tangata e hiahia ana ahau kia noho?" me te "He aha te mahi me mahi e au?"
- I te mutunga o ō tau 20: Ina whakaaro koe ki tētahi mahi, ki te marena, ki te whakatau rānei i te ao, ka pātai pea koe, "Kei te ara tika ahau?"
- I te pakeketanga waenga me tua atu: Ina pakeke āu tamariki, ka wehe atu i te kāinga, ina reti rānei koe i tō mahi, ka ara ake pea ngā whakaaro pēnei i te "Me aha ahau i te toenga o tōku ao?" me te "He aha taku i whakatutuki ai i roto i tōku ao?".
Ko te mea nui, ehara tēnei raruraru oranga i te mate e kiia nei ko te "Pouri" me te "Manukanuka" rānei. Ehara i te mate e mōhiotia ana e te rata. He tauira noa iho o ō tātou whakaaro. Heoi anō, ka taea e tēnei raruraru te whakaputa i ngā āhuatanga e kiia nei ko te pouri, ko te manukanuka rānei, ā, ka taea hoki e te tangata whai i aua āhuatanga te whakawhanake i tēnei raruraru.
He aha pea te take o tēnei raruraru?
He maha ngā wā ka puta ake ēnei pātai hohonu i roto i tētahi huihuinga nui, mamae hoki o te ao. Engari i ētahi wā, ka puta mai anō hoki i tētahi huihuinga harikoa. Me titiro tātou ki ngā take matua.
| Take/Takahanga | Hei tauira |
|---|---|
| He mate kino | Ina rongo koe kei te pāngia koe e te mate morearea pēnei i te mate pukupuku. |
| Te matenga o tētahi e arohaina ana | Te matenga o tētahi mātua, hoa rangatira, tamaiti, hoa pai rānei. |
| Ngā huringa nui o te ao | Te ngaromanga o te mahi, te marena, te whānau tamariki, te neke whenua. |
| Te āhua tawhito | Ngā tamariki e wehe atu ana i te kāinga, te reti, ngā huringa tinana. |
| He wheako tino mamae | He rite ki tētahi aituā nui i mawhiti tata mai i te mate. |
Ehara i te mea ko tēnei anake, engari i ētahi wā ka puta ake ēnei whakaaro ki te hinengaro me te kore he take motuhake. Waihoki, ka puta pea te pouri, te mate bipolar, te mate obsessive-compulsive (OCD) rānei.Ko te hunga whai mate hinengaro pēnei i te Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka pāngia e tēnei momo raruraru oranga.
Me pēhea koe e mōhio ai mēnā kei a koe anō tēnei raruraru?
He rerekē tēnei i ia tangata, i ia tangata, engari he maha ngā tohu noa. Me wehewehe ēnei kia rua ngā wāhanga: te hinengaro me te tinana.
| Ngā āhuatanga noa o tētahi raruraru ā-ao | |
|---|---|
| Ngā tohu hinengaro | |
| 1. | E whakaaro tonu ana mō te mate i tētahi rā, e wehi ana hoki. |
| 2. | Te whakaaro kāore he tikanga o ngā mea o ia rā. |
| 3. | E noho mokemoke ana koe i te ao i ngā wā katoa. |
| 4. | Kāore e taea e koe te mōhio ko wai koe, ko wai tō tuakiri. |
| 5. | Te whakaaro kāore e taea e koe te whakarerekē, te whakahaere rānei i tōu ao. |
| Ngā Tohu ā-Tinana | |
| 1. | Te ngoikore o te ngenge, te ngenge tonu. |
| 2. | Te ngaronga o te hiahia kai, te kore rānei e taea te whakahaere i te kai. |
| 3. | Te kore moe, te nui rawa rānei o te moe. |
| 4. | Kāore e taea e koe te whiwhi i te harikoa mai i ngā mea i pai ai koe ki te mahi i mua. |
Engari kia maumahara, he maha ngā wā ka hono atu ēnei tohu ā-tinana ki ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te pouri, te manukanuka rānei ka puta mai i tēnei raruraru. Mena he ruarua āu mō tēnei, ko te mea pai ko te kōrero ki tō tākuta. Ka taea e ia te kōrero tika ki a koe he aha tāu i pā mai i runga i ō tohu me ō tauira whakaaro.
Āe, me pēhea tā tātou whakatau i tēnei?
He wheako whaiaro tēnei, ā, he rerekē te huarahi e aro atu ai te katoa ki tēnei raruraru. Heoi anō, he tohutohu whānui hei āwhina i a koe ki te wikitoria i tēnei raruraru.
- Kōrero ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe: I ēnei wā, he maha ngā wā ka whiriwhiri tātou ki te noho motuhake. Engari ka nui ake te kino o te raruraru. Ka taea e koe te kōrero mō ō whakaaro, kōrero ki tētahi hoa, hoa rangatira, mātua rānei e whakawhirinaki ana koe. Mā te whakamōhio atu ki a rātou mō tō āhuatanga ka whai kaha koe ki te rapu āwhina ngaio mēnā e tika ana.
- Ngāna ki te whakarerekē i tō tirohanga: Kāore pea i te ngāwari, engari ngana ki te whakaaro pai mō te ao me ō wheako o mua, kaua ki te whakaaro kino. Engari ki te whakaaro, "I rahua ahau," whakaarohia, "I ako ahau i tētahi akoranga mai i taua wheako." Ki te mea he uaua ki a koe te mahi i tēnei mea ko koe anake, rapua te āwhina a tētahi kaiārahi.
- Whakaaroaro: Mā te whakaaroaro me te mahi aro nui ka taea e koe te arotahi i tō hinengaro me te whakahaere i ngā whakaaro kāore e hiahiatia. Ka akiaki i a koe ki te kimi i te harikoa i roto i ngā mea iti o tō oranga o ia rā.
- Puritia he pukapuka tuhi, he rātaka rānei: He huarahi pai te tuhi i ō whakaaro me ō kare ā-roto ki te pepa hei whakawātea i tō hinengaro. Ngāna hoki ki te tuhi i ngā otinga ka taea e koe te whakaaro ki ngā raruraru e whakararuraru ana i a koe.
Ahakoa ēnei mea katoa, ki te mea kei te raru tonu koe ki te whakakore i ēnei whakaaro, kaua e whakama. Kaua e mamae ko koe anake.He mea tino nui te rapu awhina i tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro/kaitohutohu whai tohu. Ko tētahi o ngā mea nui rawa atu tēnei ka taea e koe te mahi māu ake. Ka taea e tō tākuta whānau te tuku i a koe ki tētahi e tika ana māu.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Ehara te raruraru oranga i te mate. He tauira whakaaro e puta ake ana mō ngā take hohonu o te ao.
- He āhuatanga noa tēnei ka pā ki te tangata i ngā wā o ngā huringa nui o te ao.
- Ahakoa he rerekē tēnei i te pouri, i te manukanuka rānei, ka taea tonu te puta tahi me aua āhuatanga.
- Ka taea e koe te whakatau i tēnei āhuatanga mā te kōrero ki tētahi tangata pono, te whakaaro pai, te whakaaroaro, me te pupuri i tētahi pukapuka tuhi.
- Ki te mea he nui rawa atu ēnei whakaaro e kore e taea e koe te whakahaere, kaua e mangere ki te kōrero ki tō tākuta, ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro whai tohu rānei. Ehara i te ngoikore, engari he kaha.
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