Mukuganiza bwanji mukamva mawu oti 'wolimbana ndi khansa ya m'mawere'? (Khansa ya m'mawere) - Tiyeni tikambirane za malingaliro awa

Ngati mukulimbana ndi khansa ya m'mawere , mwina mwamvapo zinthu monga, "Ndiwe wankhondo," ndi "Khalani olimba mtima ndipo menyani nkhondoyi." Mwina mwawonapo mawu awa pa malaya ndi zolemba zapaintaneti zokhala ndi riboni wa pinki. Cholinga chake ndi kukupatsani mphamvu ndi kulimba mtima. Koma kodi mumaganiza chiyani mukamva ndi kuwona mawu awa? Kodi aliyense amakonda dzina lakuti "wankhondo"? Tiyeni tikambirane za izi momasuka.

Lingaliro labwino kumbuyo kwa liwu lakuti "womenya nkhondo"

Choyamba, tiyenera kumvetsetsa kuti munthu akamati "msilikali," nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi cholinga chabwino. Amadziwa momwe zimakhalira zovuta kukhala ndi khansa. Choncho amagwiritsa ntchito mawu awa kuti akulimbikitseni, akulimbikitseni, komanso kuti akukumbutseni kuti simuli nokha.

Taganizirani izi, mukayang'ana mapulogalamu odziwitsa anthu za khansa, mawu oti "nkhondo" amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri. "Nkhondo Yolimbana ndi Khansa" ndi "Tiyeni Timenyane" amayesa kuchotsa mantha ndi kusowa chochita komwe kumakhudzana ndi matendawa ndipo m'malo mwake amapanga malingaliro amphamvu komanso abwino. Kwa anthu ena, izi ndi zolimbikitsa kwambiri. Mukamadziona ngati "womenya nkhondo," zimakupatsani mphamvu zambiri kuti muthane ndi chithandizo ndikudutsa masiku ovuta. Palibe cholakwika ndi zimenezo.

Koma ... bwanji aliyense sakonda chizindikiro ichi cha 'nkhondo'?

Apa pali mbali ina ya nkhaniyi. Si aliyense amene ali ndi khansa ya m'mawere amene amakonda lingaliro la kukhala "womenya nkhondo." Pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe zimapangitsa zimenezo.

• Kukakamizidwa kuti nthawi zonse mukhale olimba mtima: Ngati ndinu "womenya nkhondo," anthu amayembekezera kuti mukhale olimba mtima komanso otsimikiza nthawi zonse. Koma kodi zimenezo n'zoona m'moyo weniweni? Pali masiku omwe mumakhala achisoni, amantha, komanso amafuna kulira. Chithandizo (`Pali masiku ena pamene thupi limakhala lotopa kwambiri chifukwa cha mankhwala a chemotherapy . Ngati mukumva kufooka pa tsiku limodzi mwa masiku amenewo, kodi zikutanthauza kuti "mukulephera"? Kupanikizika kumeneku kungakhale katundu waukulu nthawi zina.

• Iyi si nkhondo yomwe tinasankha: Nkhondo nthawi zambiri imakhala chinthu chomwe munthu amalowa mwa kufuna kwake. Koma khansa si choncho. Si chinthu chomwe aliyense amafuna kupeza; ndi matenda omwe amapezeka m'thupi. Chifukwa chake kwa ena, akamanena kuti iyi ndi "nkhondo," amamva ngati alowetsedwa kunkhondo motsutsana ndi chifuniro chawo.

• Lingaliro la “kupambana” ndi “kutayika”: Mawu akuti “nkhondo” amabwera ndi mawu akuti “kupambana” ndi “kutayika.” Ngati khansa yachiritsidwa, munthuyo akuti “wapambana nkhondoyo.” Ndiye, ngati munthu wafa ndi khansa, kodi zikutanthauza kuti munthuyo “wataya nkhondoyo”? Kodi “sanamenye bwino nkhondoyo”? Ili ndi lingaliro lopanda chilungamo komanso lopweteka kwambiri. Moyo wa munthu umadalira zinthu zachipatala monga momwe chithandizocho chilili bwino komanso mtundu wa khansayo, osati “mzimu wankhondo” wa munthuyo.

• Kuchepetsa zomwe zachitika: Ulendo wa khansa ndi wovuta. Pali zinthu zambiri zoti muganizire, kuphatikizapo ululu, opaleshoni (monga opaleshoni ya mastectomy), zotsatirapo za chithandizo, mavuto azachuma, momwe banja limakhudzira, komanso kusokonekera kwa malingaliro. Mukamaliza zonsezi, "nkhondo," anthu ena amaona kuti kuzama kwa zomwe zachitikazo kwatayika.

Ngati iyi si "nkhondo", ndiye iyi ndi chiyani?

Ngati simukukonda mawu akuti "militant," mungagwiritse ntchito mawu ena pofotokoza zomwe mwakumana nazo. Ichi ndi chisankho chanu chokha. Anthu ena amaona zomwe zawachitikira motere.

Lolani malingaliro anu akhale - ndicho chinthu chofunikira kwambiri.

Chinthu chachikulu chomwe tiyenera kumvetsetsa kuchokera munkhaniyi yonse ndichakuti palibe njira yoyenera kapena yolakwika yofotokozera malingaliro anu.

• Ngati mumadzimva ngati “womenya nkhondo,” ngati kumva kumeneko kukupatsani mphamvu, ndi bwino kwambiri. Pitirizani ulendo wanu ndi mphamvu zimenezo.
• Ngati mukumvabe kukwiya mukamva mawu amenewo, ngati mukumva chisoni, kumva kumeneko kuli koyenera 100%. Muli ndi ufulu wonse womva choncho.

Lankhulani ndi mnzanu wapamtima, wachibale wanu, kapena dokotala za momwe mukumvera. Nthawi zina, zingakhale zothandiza kupeza thandizo la akatswiri kuchokera kwa alangizi. Chofunika sikuyenera kukhala ndi dzina lodziwika bwino, koma kupeza njira yokuthandizani panthawi yovutayi.

Kodi ife, monga anthu otizungulira, tiyenera kuthandiza bwanji?

Ngati wachibale kapena mnzanu ali ndi khansa ya m'mawere, mutha kumuthandiza. Koma muyenera kuchita izi m'njira yomwe ingamuyenerere.

• Musananene kuti, “Ndiwe wankhondo,” mufunseni momwe akumvera. Mvetserani momwe akumvera.
• M'malo molimbikitsa ndi mawu , thandizani mwa kuchita . Funsani zinthu monga, “Kodi ndingakupangireni chakudya?”, “Kodi ndingabwere nanu kuchipatala?”, “Kodi mukufuna thandizo pa ntchito zapakhomo?” Izi ndi zofunika kwambiri kuposa mawu opanda pake.
• Siyani kunena kuti, “Limbani mtima,” ndipo nenani kuti, “Sikovuta kumva chisoni, ndili nanu.” Aloleni kuti amve malingaliro awo onse.

Pamapeto pake, ulendowu ndi wanu. Mumasankha dzina lomwe mukufuna kuupatsa. Ikhoza kukhala "nkhondo," ingakhale "ulendo," kapena chilichonse. Zonse zili bwino.