Kodi tsiku lanu likuyenda bwanji? Tengani kamphindi kuti muyime kaye ndikuganizira zomwe mwakumana nazo lero. Ngati mungathe, tengani cholembera ndi pepala ndikulemba zochitika zingapo zosaiwalika. Tiyeni tiwone zomwe mwalemba.
Kodi munali ndi maganizo otani? Kodi tsiku lanu linali lodzaza ndi nthawi zabwino kwambiri? Mwina china chake chonga, “Lero linali labwino kwambiri! Agogo anaphika pittu yokoma ya kadzutsa, ndinali ndi nthawi ndi anzanga kusukulu, ndipo nthawi ya Chingerezi inali yosangalatsa!” Kapena kodi munaganizira kwambiri zinthu zomwe sizinayende bwino? Monga, “Kuphika kwa agogo kunandipangitsa kuchedwa, ndinasowa basi, ndipo anzanga ankangokhalira kukambirana za pulogalamu ya pa TV yosasangalatsa panthawi yamasana. Komanso, tinali ndi Chingerezi! Sindikonda Lachinayi!” Momwe mumatanthauzira zochitikazi zimakhala ndi tanthauzo lalikulu.
Kodi tikutanthauza chiyani ndi Chiyembekezo ndi Kutaya Mtima?
Mwachidule, kukhala ndi chiyembekezo ndi kusowa chiyembekezo ndi njira ziwiri zosiyana zodziwira ndi kuganizira za dziko lapansi. Ndi malingaliro osiyana kwambiri.
Munthu woganiza bwino nthawi zonse amafufuza mbali yabwino ya zinthu. Amayembekezera zotsatira zabwino ndipo amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi luso komanso mphamvu zowongolera zochitika kuti zikhale zabwino. Pali lingaliro lakuti, "Ndingathe kuthana ndi izi," munjira yawo.
Kumbali ina, anthu omwe amakonda kuyang'ana kwambiri zolakwika kapena kuona chilichonse mwa njira yolakwika ndi omwe timawatcha "osasangalala." Munthu amene sasangalala nthawi zambiri amayembekezera kuti zinthu zisayende bwino ndipo amaganizira kwambiri zolephera kapena zopinga. Lingaliro losalekeza lakuti "izi sizingayende bwino" nthawi zambiri limakhala m'maganizo mwake.
Komabe, ndikofunikira kuzindikira kuti palibe amene amakhala ndi chiyembekezo kapena chiyembekezo nthawi zonse. Tonsefe timagwera penapake pamlingo winawake. Nkhani yabwino kwambiri ndi yakuti ngakhale mutayamba kuganiza kuti zinthu sizikuyenda bwino, simuyenera kukhala pamenepo! Tonsefe tingaphunzire kusintha maganizo athu ndikukhala ndi chiyembekezo. Ndi luso lophunzirira.
N’chifukwa chiyani kuganiza bwino n’kopindulitsa kwambiri kwa inu?
Ofufuza ndi asayansi akhala akuphunzira za anthu oyembekezera zinthu zabwino kwa zaka zambiri. Malinga ndi zomwe apeza, kukhala ndi maganizo abwino kumakuthandizani kukhala osangalala , kuchita bwino pa moyo, komanso kukhala ndi thanzi labwino.
Taganizirani ubwino uwu wa kuganiza bwino:
- Thanzi la Maganizo : Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo kumagwira ntchito ngati chishango chomwe chingakutetezeni ku matenda monga kuvutika maganizo . Ngakhale mutakhala ndi vuto lotere, kukhala ndi chiyembekezo kungakuthandizeni kwambiri.
- Kupirira Kupsinjika Maganizo: Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo kumakupatsani mphamvu zopirira mavuto a moyo, kapena kupsinjika maganizo . Vuto likabuka, m'malo mochita mantha, maganizo anu amapeza njira ina yowonera vutoli.
- Moyo Wautali: Mungadabwe, koma kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti kuganiza bwino kungathandizenso kukhala ndi moyo wautali. Ndi chida chabwino kwambiri chokhala ndi moyo wathanzi komanso wachimwemwe.
- Ndi Luso Lophunzirira: Chabwino kwambiri, ngakhale kuti malingaliro anu akhala opanda chiyembekezo m'mbiri, chiyembekezo ndi chinthu chomwe mungaphunzire ndikuchiphunzitsa nokha.
"Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo si njira yongoganizira chabe; ndi chinsinsi cha moyo wathanzi."
Kodi anthu okhulupirira zinthu zabwino komanso osakhulupirira zinthu zabwino amaona bwanji zochitika?
Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo sikungokhudza kuona mbali yabwino kapena kuyembekezera zotsatira zabwino, koma kumakhudza momwe timachitira ndi kutanthauzira zochitika zomwe zachitika kale.
Taganizirani izi motere: Pamene chinthu chabwino chichitika, anthu okonda zabwino amanena kuti izi zimachitika chifukwa cha khama lawo komanso luso lawo. Amaona mphamvu zawo ngati zinthu zokhazikika komanso zosatha. Amaganiziranso momwe kupambana kumeneku kungatsegule zitseko zopezera zotsatira zabwino. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mutapambana mayeso, munthu wokonda zabwino angaganize kuti, "Ndapambana chifukwa ndinagwira ntchito mwakhama. Ndikhoza kukwaniritsa zinthuzi, ndipo izi zidzandithandiza kupeza ntchito yabwino mtsogolo."
Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, zinthu zikayenda monga momwe anakonzera , anthu amachita zinthu mosiyana. Anthu okonda zabwino sadziimba mlandu okha. Amaona kuti zinthu zikayenda molakwika ngati zakanthawi . Munthu wokonda zabwino akalakwitsa, amalumikiza zinthuzo ndi vuto linalake osati kulephera kwa munthu payekha. Chifukwa saganizira za mavuto amenewa, amakhala bwino kwambiri akakhumudwa kuposa anthu okonda kutaya mtima.
Taganizirani chitsanzo ichi: Nimal ndi Supun onse akuyesera kusewera mu timu ya basketball ya kusukulu. Palibe amene apambana. Onse akhumudwa, koma mayankho awo amasiyana.
Nimal ndi munthu woganiza bwino. Iye akuganiza kuti: "Panali anthu ambiri aluso pa mayeso, ndipo panali malo ochepa okha. Ndinachita masewera olimbitsa thupi mwakhama ndipo ndinamva ngati ndasewera bwino! Mphunzitsiyo anandipatsa ndemanga zabwino. Ndigwira ntchito pa madera omwe adatchula ndikuwonera masewera aliwonse nyengo ino. Zimenezo zindipatsa mwayi wabwino chaka chamawa."
Mwaona zimenezo? Nimal akuyang'ana kwambiri pa mkhalidwe weniweni, osati kufunika kwake. Sakuona izi ngati boma lokhazikika. Akuyembekeza kulowa mu timuyi chaka chamawa ndipo akukonzekera kale momwe angachitire.
Supun amakonda kukhala ndi maganizo oipa. Amaganiza kuti: “Sizodabwitsa kuti sindinapambane—ndinali wosewera woipa kwambiri pa mayeso, ndipo mphunzitsi mwina sakundikonda. Palibe chomwe chimandiyendera bwino. Ndingovomereza kuti sindili wosewera wabwino.” Mosiyana ndi Nimal, Supun amatenga vutolo payekha. Amadziimba mlandu ndipo amamva ngati mphamvu zakunja (mphunzitsi, moyo) zikumutsutsa. Choyipa kwambiri n’chakuti, chochitika chimodzichi chimamupangitsa kukayikira luso lake lonse la masewera.
Tsopano, mundiuze: ndani amene angakhalebe wokhumudwa kwa nthawi yayitali? Ndani amene angaphunzire ndikuyeseranso? Ndipo ndani amene angasiye? Yankho lake ndi lomveka bwino, sichoncho?
Kodi kuganiza bwino kungakuthandizeni bwanji kukhala olimba mtima ?
Kuganiza bwino kumatithandiza kuona zochitika zokhumudwitsa ngati zochitika zakanthawi kochepa , zomwe zimatipatsa chikhulupiriro chakuti tingathe kuzigonjetsa. Izi zimalimbitsa kutsimikiza mtima kwathu kuti tiyesenso m'malo mosiya. Zimasunga zolinga ndi maloto athu amoyo ndipo zimatipatsa mphamvu zolimbikira. Zotsatira zake, anthu oyembekezera zinthu zabwino amamva kuti ali ndi mphamvu zambiri pazochitika zawo, ndipo kudzidalira kwawo kumakhala kwakukulu kwambiri. Amakhala ndi chikhulupiriro chenicheni.
Kumbali ina, kuganiza mopanda chiyembekezo kumatipangitsa kuti tiziona zokhumudwitsa ndi kukanidwa ngati zinthu zomwe takumana nazo. Kumachititsa kuti ziwoneke ngati zinthu zosatha osati zochitika zosayembekezereka. Kuganiza mopanda chiyembekezo kumawonjezera zinthu zoipa zomwe zikuchitika, nthawi zambiri kumaphimba zinthu zabwino zilizonse. Zinthu zikayenda momwe timayembekezera, malingaliro amenewa amachititsa kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri kuthana nazo.
Kodi chiyembekezo chimangowona chilichonse kudzera m'magalasi a pinki? (Chiyembekezo Chowona)
Ayi, sichoncho tanthauzo lake. Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo sikutanthauza kuwona chilichonse pogwiritsa ntchito magalasi a pinki kapena kunyengezera moyo ndi nthano chabe. Anthu oganiza bwino sanyalanyaza mavuto a moyo, komanso samadzionetsera kuti chilichonse chili bwino. M'malo mwake, amaganizira kwambiri za kuzindikira zabwino pazochitika zilizonse ndikuzindikira njira zomwe angatenge kuti akonze zinthu.
Anthu okonda zabwino amakhala ndi chidaliro chenicheni , chomwe chimachokera ku kukonzekera. Amamvetsetsa kuti kupambana mayeso ovuta kumafuna kuphunzira mwakhama, monga momwe amadziwira kuti kupanga timu ya basketball kumafuna kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi.
Mwachidule, chiyembekezo chimadalira pa zochita. Chimakhudza kupeza mgwirizano wabwino pakati pa kuganiza bwino ndi zenizeni.
Kodi kuoneka ngati munthu wotaya mtima n’kofunikadi?
Ngakhale kuganiza mopanda chiyembekezo kungakulepheretseni—ndipo ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti mungathe kusintha maganizo amenewo—sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuchotsa maganizo onse oipa.
Nthawi zina, kufunsa kuti “Chavuta ndi chiyani?” kumatithandiza kuzindikira vuto molondola. Kuganizira zoopsa zomwe zingachitike kungakutetezeni ku mavuto osafunikira.
Taganizirani izi motere: Mchimwene wanu akukutumizirani mauthenga akukuyendetsani kwinakwake. Chilakolako chanu choipa, chochenjeza chikukuchenjezani kuti: “Izi sizili bwino!” Kenako mukumupempha kuti ayime, osati chifukwa cha chitetezo chake chokha, komanso chifukwa cha chitetezo chanu. Pakadali pano, mukuphatikiza lingaliro losasangalatsa ("Ngati akutumizirana mauthenga akuyendetsa galimoto, tikhoza kuchita ngozi") ndi kuchitapo kanthu kolimbikitsa ("Ndikudziwa kuti pali chomwe ndingachite kuti ndisiye izi.")
Tonsefe timakumana ndi zovuta pamene palibe chomwe chikuwoneka kuti chikuyenda bwino. Mukakhumudwa, zimathandiza kuzindikira momwe mukumvera ndikukambirana zomwe zili zolakwika. Kulankhula ndi munthu amene mumamukhulupirira kungakuthandizeni kuchepetsa nkhawa zanu ndikukuthandizani kuganiziranso za mwayi wabwino. Chofunika kwambiri ndichakuti musamangoganizira za vuto lenilenilo. Ngati mutathetsa vutoli, ngakhale kuganiza molakwika kungakuthandizeni kupita patsogolo.
Kodi mungakhale bwanji ndi chiyembekezo?
Ngati mwachibadwa mumadziona kuti ndinu wopanda chiyembekezo, mutha kudziphunzitsa kuona zabwino zake. Nazi zinthu zingapo zomwe mungayesere:
- Zindikirani ndi kuyamikira zinthu zabwino. Pamapeto pa tsiku lililonse, tengani mphindi 10 kuti muganizire ndikupeza zinthu zingapo zomwe mumayamikira. Zilembeni mu dayale kapena gwiritsani ntchito pulogalamu yolimbikitsa pafoni kapena pa piritsi yanu. Ngakhale zinthu zazing'ono zimawerengedwa—monga munthu amene akukumwetulirani lero.
- Phunzitsani maganizo anu kuti akhulupirire kuti mungathe kusintha zotsatira zabwino. Yesetsani kudziuza nokha zochita zomwe mungachite kuti mupambane. Mwachitsanzo: “Ngati ndiphunzira, nditha kupeza giredi yabwino.” “Ngati ndichita, ndidzachita bwino pa konsati.” “Ngati ndilowa nawo gulu lodzipereka, ndikumana ndi anzanga atsopano.”
- Musadziimbe mlandu zinthu zikavuta. Zinthu zikavuta monga momwe munakonzera, mverani mawu anu amkati. M'malo moganiza kuti, "Ndalephera mayeso chifukwa sindili bwino pa masamu," yesani kunena kuti, "Ndalephera chifukwa sindinaphunzire mokwanira. Sindidzalola kuti zimenezo zichitikenso." M'malo moganiza kuti, "Anandisiya chifukwa ndine wopanda pake," yesani kuti: "Ndikumvetsa chifukwa chake kusudzulana kumeneku kumandipweteka, koma kukhala ndi nthawi ndi anzanga kudzandithandiza kumva bwino."
- Ngati chinachake chikuyenda bwino, dzipatseni ulemu. Ganizirani zomwe mwachita kuti mupeze zotsatira zabwino. Kodi mwakonzekera bwino? Kodi mwachita maphunziro odzipereka? Dziwani mphamvu zanu komanso momwe zakuthandizirani kuti mupambane. Musaope kunena kuti, “Ndinachita izi!”
- Dzikumbutseni kuti zopinga ndi zakanthawi. Ngati chinachake chalakwika, dzikumbutseni kuti chidzatha—ndipo pangani dongosolo loti zimenezo zitheke. Mwachitsanzo: “Zotsatira za mayeso anga sizinali zomwe ndimayembekezera, koma nditha kuphunzira molimbika ndikulembanso mayeso.”
- Onani momwe ena amalankhulira za iwo eni. Kodi anzanu ndi abale anu ali ndi chiyembekezo kapena ali ndi chiyembekezo? Mwachitsanzo, kodi abambo anu amati, “Ndatentha ma hot dog, ndine wophika woipa kwambiri!” kapena amati, “Ndatentha ma hot dog chifukwa ndinasokonezeka ndikuona galu akuthamangitsa gologolo!”
Yesani kugwiritsa ntchito zizolowezi zimenezi m'moyo wanu. Zingamveke zovuta poyamba, koma mukachita masewero olimbitsa thupi, mudzayamba kuona kusiyana kwake.
Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba
Monga mukuonera, chiyembekezo ndi malingaliro omwe angaphunziridwe. Izi zikutanthauzanso kuti kusowa chiyembekezo ndi chinthu chomwe mungachisiye !
Izi zimatenga nthawi, choncho musataye mtima. Mukayamba kuzindikira bwino njira ziwirizi zoganizira, mudzapeza njira zambiri zolimbikitsira kukhala ndi chiyembekezo. Pitirizani kudziuza kuti, "Ndikhoza kukhala ndi chiyembekezo, ndipo ndipitiliza kuchita zinthu!"
Kumbukirani, gawo lililonse laling'ono limafunika. Khama lililonse lomwe mumachita kuti musinthe malingaliro anu limakubweretsani pafupi ndi moyo wachimwemwe, chipambano, komanso moyo wabwino . Ndiye, kodi tiyambe ulendo wabwinowu lero? Mwapeza izi!
