Kodi mukuona chilichonse mwachiyembekezo? Kapena mwachiyembekezo? Tiyeni tikambirane za izi (Chiyembekezo)!

Muli bwanji lero? Tengani kamphindi kuti musiye kuwerenga nkhaniyi ndi kuganizira zina mwa zinthu zomwe zakuchitikirani lero. Ngati n'kotheka, tengani cholembera ndi pepala ndikulemba zochitika zapadera zomwe mukukumbukira. Tiyeni tiwone zomwe mwalemba.

Kodi munaganiza bwanji? Kodi tsiku lanu linali lodzaza ndi zinthu zabwino kwambiri? Chinachake monga, “Lero linali tsiku labwino kwambiri! Agogo anaphika chakudya cham'mawa. Ndinali ndi anzanga kusukulu, ndipo nthawi ya Chingerezi ya lero inali yoipa kwambiri!” Kapena kodi maganizo anu anayendayenda kupita kumalo olakwika? Chinachake monga, “Agogo anaphika chakudya cham'mawa ndipo ine ndinachedwa, ndipo ndinasowa basi. Anzanga anathera nthawi ya nkhomaliro akuwerenga za pulogalamu yomweyo ya pa TV yosasangalatsa. Lero linali Chingerezi! Sindikonda Lachinayi konse!”? Pali nzeru zambiri poganiza motere.

Kodi chiyembekezo ndi kusowa chiyembekezo n’chiyani?

Mwachidule, kukhala ndi chiyembekezo ndi kusowa chiyembekezo ndi njira ziwiri zowonera zinthu ndi kuganiza. Maganizo athu awiri.

Munthu woganiza bwino nthawi zonse amaona mbali yabwino ya zinthu. Amayembekezera kuti chilichonse chiyende bwino. Amakhulupiriranso kuti ali ndi luso komanso kuthekera kopangitsa zinthu zabwino kuchitika. Nthawi zonse amakhala ndi lingaliro lakuti, "O, nditha kukonza izi."

Kumbali ina, timatcha anthu omwe amapeza zolakwika pa chilichonse, omwe amaona chilichonse mwakuda ndi choyera, kuti "osakhulupirira." Munthu amene sakhulupirira nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti zinthu zidzalakwika, kapena kuti nthawi zonse amaganiza za zinthu zomwe sizinayende bwino. Angakhale ndi lingaliro lakuti, "Izi sizingayende bwino."

Koma apa pali nkhani. Palibe aliyense wa ife amene nthawi zonse amakhala ndi chiyembekezo kapena nthawi zonse amakhala ndi chiyembekezo. Komabe, tonsefe timakonda kutsamira kwambiri pa imodzi mwa njira ziwirizi zoganizira. Nkhani yabwino ndi yakuti ngakhale mutakhala ndi chiyembekezo pang'ono, simuyenera kukhala choncho nthawi zonse! Tonsefe tingasinthe momwe timaonera zinthu pang'ono ndikukhala ndi chiyembekezo pang'ono. Ndi chinthu chomwe tingaphunzire.

N’chifukwa chiyani kuganiza bwino kuli bwino kwa inu?

Ofufuza, kutanthauza asayansi, akhala akuphunzira za anthu omwe ali ndi chiyembekezo kwa nthawi yayitali. Amati kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino kumatithandiza kukhala osangalala , opambana pa moyo, komanso athanzi.

Tangoganizirani, kuganiza bwino kumakupatsani ubwino uwu:

• Thanzi la maganizo : Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo ndi kuvutika maganizo , ndiko kuti, ``( kuvutika maganizoZili ngati chishango chomwe chingakutetezeni ku zochitika monga ``(Depression)```. Mwina muli pachiwopsezo chotenga ``(Depression)```, koma kuganiza bwino kungathandize kupewa vutoli.
• Kupirira Kupsinjika Maganizo: Mukakhala ndi chiyembekezo, mumapeza mphamvu zambiri zopirira zovuta za moyo, zomwe ndi "Kupsinjika Maganizo." Vuto likabuka, simuchita mantha, koma mumaliona mosiyana.
• Moyo Wautali: Musadabwe, zapezeka kuti kuganiza bwino kungathandize anthu kukhala ndi moyo wautali komanso kuwathandiza kukhala ndi moyo wautali. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ndi chinsinsi chokhala ndi moyo wathanzi komanso wachimwemwe.
• Kuphunzira kukhala ndi maganizo abwino: Gawo labwino kwambiri pa zonsezi ndilakuti mutha kuphunzira kuganiza bwino, ngakhale kuti maganizo anu amakonda kutengera maganizo oipa. Ndi chinthu chomwe chingaphunzitsidwe.

"Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo si njira yongoganizira chabe, ndi chinsinsi cha moyo wathanzi."

Kodi anthu okhulupirira zinthu zabwino komanso osakhulupirira zinthu zabwino amaona bwanji zochitika?

Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo sikungokhudza kuona mbali yabwino ya zinthu, kapena kuyembekezera zinthu zabwino. Ndi njira yoganizira, kutanthauzira, chinthu chomwe chachitika kale.

Ganizirani motere. Chinthu chabwino chikachitika , anthu okhulupirira chiyembekezo amaganizira zomwe adachita kuti chikhale chabwino kwambiri. Amaona luso lawo ngati zinthu zosatha komanso zokhazikika. Amaganiziranso momwe zinthu zabwinozi zimathandizira kuti zinthu zina zabwino zichitike. Mwachitsanzo, ngati apambana mayeso bwino, munthu wokhulupirira chiyembekezo angaganize kuti, "Ndapambana chifukwa ndinaphunzira molimbika. Ndikhoza kuchita zinthuzi. Izi zindithandiza kupeza ntchito yabwino."

Koma, zinthu zikayenda monga momwe anakonzera , palinso mbali ina. Anthu okonda zabwino sadziimba mlandu okha. Amaona kuti zinthu sizikuyenda bwino ngati zakanthawi . Anthu okonda zabwino akalakwitsa, amaganiza kuti izi zimachitika chifukwa cha vuto linalake, osati chifukwa cha luso lawo. Chifukwa saona kuti zinthu sizikuyenda bwino ngati zofooka zawo, anthu okonda zabwino amakhala okonzeka kubwerera m'mbuyo akakhumudwa kuposa anthu okonda zabwino.

Nayi chitsanzo chaching'ono. Onse Nimala ndi Supunu amapita kukayesa kuti alowe mu timu ya basketball ya kusukulu. Palibe aliyense wa iwo amene angathe kulowa mu timuyi. Onse awiri ali achisoni, koma amakumana ndi vutoli mosiyana.

Nimal ndi munthu woganiza bwino. Akuganiza kuti: "Panali osewera ambiri aluso pa mayeso, ndipo panali malo ochepa okha mu timuyi. Chifukwa chake ndidachita masewera olimbitsa thupi momwe ndingathere, ndipo ndikumva ngati ndasewera bwino! Mphunzitsiyo adandipatsa ndemanga zabwino. Ndigwira ntchito pa zomwe adanena ndikuwonera masewera aliwonse nyengo ino. Kenako ndidzakhala ndi mwayi wabwino chaka chamawa."

Mukuona? Nimal akuyang'ana kwambiri pa vuto lenilenilo, osati pa zofooka zake. Sakuona vutoli ngati lokhalitsa. Akuyembekeza mokwanira kuti azitha kulowa mu timuyi chaka chamawa, ndipo akuganizira kale zomwe ayenera kuchita kuti akwaniritse.

Supun ali ndi maganizo oipa pang'ono. Akuganiza kuti: "N'zosadabwitsa kuti ndamvedwa molakwika - ndinali munthu wofooka kwambiri pa mayeso, ndipo mphunzitsi sakuwoneka kuti amandikonda kwambiri. Palibe chomwe chingandiyendere bwino. Ndiyenera kuvomereza, sindili wosewera wabwino kwambiri." Mosiyana ndi Nimal, Supun amatenga vutoli payekha. Amadziimba mlandu, ndipo akuganiza kuti zinthu zakunja (aphunzitsi, moyo) zikumutsutsa. Choyipa kwambiri n'chakuti, chochitika ichi chamupangitsa kukayikira luso lake la masewera.

Tsopano ganizirani nokha, ndani mwa awiriwa amene angakhumudwe kwambiri kwa nthawi yayitali? Ndani amene angayesenso kuchita zinthu zambiri? Ndani amene angasiye? Yankho lake ndi lodziwikiratu, sichoncho?

Kodi kuganiza bwino kumalimbitsa bwanji kulimba mtima kwanu?

Kuganiza bwino kumatithandiza kuona zinthu zokhumudwitsa ngati zakanthawi , zomwe zikutanthauza kuti tingathe kuzichira. Kumatilimbikitsa kuti tiyesenso m'malo mosiya. Kumatithandiza kukumbukira zolinga ndi maloto athu, ndikugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti tikwaniritse zolingazo. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, anthu oyembekezera zinthu zabwino amamva kuti akulamulira bwino mavuto awo, komanso amadzidalira kwambiri. Amadziona kuti ndi ofunika komanso odzidalira .

Kumbali ina, kuganiza mopanda chiyembekezo kumatipangitsa kuti tiziona zokhumudwitsa ndi kukanidwa ngati zathu. Kumachititsanso kuti ziwoneke ngati zosatha kuposa momwe zilili. Tikakhala ndi malingaliro ofooka, timakonda kuyang'ana kwambiri mbali zoyipa za mkhalidwe, ndipo mbali zabwino zilizonse zimaphimbidwa. Zinthu zikapanda kuyenda momwe tinakonzera, kuganiza mopanda chiyembekezo kumapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuthana nazo.

Kodi chiyembekezo ichi ndi chokhudza kuona chilichonse m'njira yokongola? (Chiyembekezo Chowona)

Ayi, sichoncho. Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo sikutanthauza kuti chilichonse ndi nthano chabe, sikutanthauza kuona chilichonse m'njira yabwino. Anthu okonda chiyembekezo sanyalanyaza mavuto kapena kunamizira kuti chilichonse m'moyo ndi changwiro. Amaganizira kwambiri zabwino zomwe zili pamavuto ndi zomwe angachite kuti zinthu zikhale bwino.

Anthu okonda zabwino amakhala ndi chidaliro chenicheni . Izi zili choncho chifukwa amakhala okonzeka. Amadziwa kuti ayenera kuphunzira mwakhama kuti apambane mayeso ovuta. Amadziwa kuti sangalowe mu timu ya basketball popanda kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi.

Mwachidule, kukhala ndi chiyembekezo kumatanthauza kuchitapo kanthu. Kumafuna kupeza mgwirizano wabwino pakati pa kuganiza bwino ndi kuganiza moyenera.

Kodi mukufuna maganizo olakwika pang'ono?

Kuganiza mopanda chiyembekezo kungatibweretsere mavuto - kotero ndibwino kudziwa kuti maganizo oipa angasinthidwe. Koma sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuchotsa maganizo onse oipa.

Nthawi zina, lingaliro lakuti “Chabwino n’chiyani?” limatithandiza kuzindikira vuto. Kuganizira zomwe zingachitike molakwika kungatithandize kupewa zoopsa zosafunikira.

Taganizirani izi motere. Mchimwene wanu akukutumizirani uthenga pamene mukuyendetsa galimoto. Maganizo anu oipa akukuchenjezani kuti: “Hei, izi sizili bwino!” Kotero mukumuuza kuti ayime, makamaka chifukwa cha chitetezo chake, komanso chanu. Pachifukwa ichi, mumaphatikiza lingaliro loipa (“Ngati nditatumiza uthenga ndikuyendetsa galimoto, nditha kuchita ngozi!”) ndi kuchitapo kanthu koyenera (“Ndikudziwa kuti ndingachitepo kanthu kuti ndiletse izi.”).

Tonsefe timakumana ndi mavuto nthawi zina. Zingamveke ngati palibe chomwe chikuyenda bwino. Tikakhumudwa, ndi bwino kuvomereza momwe tikumvera ndikukambirana za cholakwika. Kulankhulana ndi munthu amene mumamukhulupirira kungakuthandizeni kumva bwino ndikukukumbutsani za kuthekera kwanu kwabwino. Chofunika ndichakuti musamavutike ndi cholakwika. Ngati mutero, ngakhale malingaliro oipa angakuthandizeni kupita patsogolo.

Kodi tingakhale bwanji ndi chiyembekezo chowonjezereka?

Ngati nthawi zambiri mumakhala ndi maganizo oipa, mungakhale waluso poona zabwino zake. Nazi zinthu zina zomwe mungayesere:

• Zinthu zabwino zikachitika, zizindikireni ndipo muziyamikira. Pamapeto pa tsiku lililonse, tengani mphindi 10 kuti muganizire za tsikulo ndikupeza zinthu zingapo zomwe mumayamikira. Zilembeni mu dayale kapena mu pulogalamu yolimbikitsa pafoni kapena pa piritsi yanu. Sizikukhudza ngati ndi chinthu chaching'ono, monga, "Winawake wandimwetulira lero."
• Phunzitsani maganizo anu kukhulupirira kuti mungathe kupangitsa zinthu zabwino kuchitika m'moyo wanu. Yesetsani kudziuza zinthu zenizeni zomwe mungachite kuti mupambane. Mwachitsanzo: “Ngati nditaphunzira, nditha kupeza magiredi abwino.” “Ngati ndichita, ndidzachita bwino pa sewero limenelo.” “Ngati ndipita ku pulogalamu yodzipereka imeneyo, ndipanga mabwenzi atsopano.”
• Musadziimbe mlandu zinthu zikasokonekera. Kodi mawu omwe ali m'mutu mwanu amanena chiyani zinthu zikasokonekera monga momwe mumayembekezera? "Ndalephera mayeso a masamu chifukwa sindili bwino pa masamu."M'malo moganiza kuti, "Ndalephera mayeso amenewo chifukwa sindinaphunzire mokwanira. Sindidzalola kuti zimenezo zichitikenso!" M'malo moganiza kuti, "Anuradha wandisiya chifukwa ndilibe phindu," ganizani kuti, "Tsopano ndikumvetsa chifukwa chake kusudzulana kumakhala kowawa kwambiri, koma kukhala ndi anzanga kumandipangitsa kumva bwino."
• Ngati chinthu chabwino chichitika, dzipatseni ulemu. Ganizirani zomwe mudachita kuti mupeze zotsatira zabwino. Kodi mudakonzekera bwino mayeso? Kodi mudachita khama? Ganizirani za mphamvu zomwe mudagwiritsa ntchito komanso momwe zidakuthandizireni kupambana. Musaope kuganiza kuti, "Ndinachita izi!"
• Dzikumbutseni kuti zopinga ndi zakanthawi. Kamodzi vuto likangochitika, dzikumbutseni kuti lidzatha - ndipo pangani dongosolo loti lichitike. Mwachitsanzo: "Zotsatira zanga za A-level sizinali zabwino monga momwe ndimayembekezera, koma nditha kuphunzira zambiri ndikulembanso mayeso."
• Yang'anirani momwe ena amalankhulira za iwo eni. Kodi anzanu ndi banja lanu ali ndi zabwino kapena zoipa? Mwachitsanzo, kodi abambo anu amati, "Ndinaphika ma hot dog, ndine wophika woipa kwambiri!" Kapena amati, "Ndinaphika ma hot dog chifukwa ndinasokonezedwa ndi kuonera galu akuthamangitsa gologolo!"

Yesani kugwiritsa ntchito zizolowezi zimenezi pang'onopang'ono. Poyamba zingamveke zovuta, koma pakapita nthawi, mudzazindikira kusiyana kwake.

Kotero, uthenga womaliza wopita nawo kunyumba:

Tsopano mwamvetsa kuti kukhala ndi chiyembekezo ndi njira yophunzirira yoganizira . Izi zikutanthauza kuti kusowa chiyembekezo ndi chinthu chomwe tingathenso kuchisiya !

Izi zingatenge nthawi, choncho musataye mtima. Pamene mukuyamba kuzindikira bwino njira ziwirizi zoganizira, pang'onopang'ono mudzawona njira zambiri zokhalira ndi chiyembekezo. Pitirizani kudziuza kuti, "Ndikhoza kukhala ndi chiyembekezo, ndipitiriza kuchita izi!"

Kumbukirani, gawo lililonse laling'ono limafunika. Khama lililonse lomwe mumachita kuti musinthe momwe mumaganizira limakubweretsani pafupi ndi chimwemwe, chipambano, ndi thanzi . Chifukwa chake, tiyeni tiyambe ulendo wabwinowu lero! Zabwino zonse!