Ese umwana wawe arakazwa kenshi kurusha uko byari byitezwe kubera utuntu duto? Cyangwa ahita yishima cyane kandi akagorwa no kugenzura ibyishimo bye? Hari igihe ushobora kwibaza uti "Kuki umwana wanjye ari mubi cyane? Ese ntazi kugenzura amarangamutima ye?" Ibi si ukuba injiji cyangwa kwinangira gusa. Iyi ndwara ni ikintu dukunda kubona mu bana bafite indwara yo kudatekereza neza/indwara yo guhangayika cyane (ADHD) . Biyumvamo amarangamutima nk'abandi bose, nko kubabara, ibyishimo, uburakari, n'ubwoba. Itandukaniro ni uko bumva ayo marangamutima cyane, kenshi, kandi bifata igihe kirekire kuyarenga. Reka tuvuge uburyo bwo kubyumva no gufasha umwana wawe.
Kuki bigora kugenzura amarangamutima yabo?
Muri make, ibi biterwa n'impinduka nto mu buryo ubwonko bwabo bukora. Iyo bakiri bato, abana benshi bakora ibintu bahubutse, cyangwa bakagira ingorane zo gutuza iyo bishimye cyane. Ariko uko bagenda bakura, biga kugenzura amarangamutima yabo. Ubu bushobozi kandi bwitwa kwigenzura .
Tekereza kuri thermostat iri muri AC yacu mu rugo. Iyo ubushyuhe bwo mu cyumba buzamutse burenga ubushyuhe busanzwe, thermostat irafungura ikongera gukonjesha icyumba. Muri ubwo buryo, iyo "ubushyuhe" bw'amarangamutima yacu bwiyongera, ubwonko bwacu nabwo bufite uburyo nk'ubw'imashini ibugenzura. Ariko ku bana bafite ADHD, ubwo bushobozi bwitwa kwigenzura, ni ukuvuga iyo thermostat, buba butoroshye gato. Rero iyo amarangamutima yabo ashyushye cyane, birabagora cyane "gukonjesha" kongera gukonjesha, ni ukuvuga gutuza.
Igikuru ni ukumenya ko umwana atari gukora ibi bintu nkana . Si ikosa rye. Bashobora gukenera umwanya n'ubufasha burenze ubwo abandi bana kugira ngo bige kugenzura iyo myitwarire .
Uburyo abana bafite ADHD bagaragaza amarangamutima yabo
Abana bose bafite ADHD ntibitwara kimwe iyo badashobora kugenzura amarangamutima yabo. Hari abana batakaza ubushobozi bwo kwifata burundu iyo barakaye. Abandi, iyo basabwe gukora ikintu badashaka gukora, nta nyungu cyangwa impamvu baba bafite.
Ariko, hari ibimenyetso bimwe na bimwe ukwiye kumenya.
| Ikiranga gikunze kugaragara | Ibisobanuro byoroshye |
|---|---|
| Kurakazwa cyangwa kurakazwa n'ikintu gito cyane | Nubwo bishobora kuba ibisanzwe ku bandi, babyumva nk'ikibazo gikomeye. Bakomeza gutekereza ku byabaye kandi ntibashobora kubyikuramo, bigatera stress nyinshi mu mutwe. |
| Bifata igihe kirekire kugira ngo umuntu atuze | Bibatwara igihe kirekire kurusha abandi kugira ngo bakire kandi batuze nyuma y'ikintu kibabaza kibabayeho. Bashobora kugumana uburakari amasaha menshi, ndetse n'iminsi. |
| Kubona n'ikirego gito nk'igitero gikomeye | Nubwo waba uvuze ufite intego nziza uti “Mwana wanjye, ibi si ko bimeze, bikore utya,” bumva ko ubatuka, nk’aho wakoze ikosa rikomeye. |
| Kutagira kwihangana n'ibikenewe byihutirwa | Iyo bumva bakeneye ikintu, baracyifuza ako kanya. Birabagora kwihanganira kubwirwa ngo "tegereza gato." |
Nanone, witondere ibyishimo bikabije. Abana bafite ADHD rimwe na rimwe bashobora kurengerwa n'amarangamutima nk'ibyishimo n'ibyishimo, maze bagakora ibintu bidakurikije amategeko.
Ni gute wafasha umwana wawe kugenzura amarangamutima ye?
Gufasha umwana ufite ADHD gucunga amarangamutima ye bishobora kugorana gato, ariko ntabwo ari ibidashoboka. Dore bimwe mu bintu bishobora kugufasha.
Wubahe ibyiyumvo by'umwana.
Iyo umwana wawe avuze iby'amarangamutima ye, ntukayasuzugure uvuga ibintu nk'ibi ngo "Ntacyo bitwaye," cyangwa ngo "Ntukabitekerezeho cyane." Ahubwo, shyiraho urubuga rutekanye kugira ngo umwana wawe agaragaze ibiri mu mutima we. Tega amatwi kurusha uko ubaza ibibazo. Gerageza gutekereza ukurikije uko umwana wawe abibona. Wibuke ko nubwo bisa nkaho bitagufitiye akamaro, icyo ibyiyumvo ni ikintu umwana wawe yumva koko .
Hitamo ingeso nziza
- Ijoro ryiza :Menya neza ko umwana wawe aryamye bihagije. Turarakara iyo tudaryamye bihagije, ndetse n'abana bacu bararakara.
- Ibiryo byiza: Tanga ibiryo bifite intungamubiri. Biragoye cyane kugenzura amarangamutima iyo ushonje.
- Imyitozo ngororamubiri: Shishikariza umwana wawe gukina no gukora imyitozo ngororamubiri nibura isaha imwe ku munsi. Ingufu z'inyongera zisohoka mu mubiri zizatuza ubwonko.
Iyo uganiriye na muganga wawe kuri ibi, ashobora kukwohereza uburyo bukwiye bwo kuvura umwana wawe, bibaye ngombwa. Hari igihe uburyo nka Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) cyangwa Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) bushobora gufasha cyane.
Kora urutonde rw'uburyo bwo gutuza ubwenge bwawe (Ubuhanga bwo guhangana n'ibibazo)
Mu gihe wumva ufite stress cyangwa uburakari, andika urutonde rw'uburyo bwo gutuza umwana wawe utiriwe wikomeretsa cyangwa ngo ugire ingaruka mbi ku bandi. Bumwe mu buryo bushobora gukorwa mu rugo, ubundi bugakorwa hanze, ku ishuri.
Dore ibintu bike ushobora kugerageza:
- Guhumeka cyane (uburyo bworoshye nko guhumeka inshuro enye, gufata umwuka wawe inshuro ndwi, no guhumeka buhoro buhoro inshuro umunani).
- Kumva indirimbo.
- Gushushanya ibiri mu mutwe wawe mu ishusho.
- Kwandika ibiri mu mutima wawe mu ikaye.
- Kwiruka no gukina.
- Kuganira ku byo utekereza n'umuntu wizeye (mama, papa, inshuti).
Tekereza no ku buzima bwawe bwo mu mutwe.
Ibi ni ingenzi cyane. Kugira ngo ufashe umwana wawe, ugomba kubanza kugira ubuzima bwiza. Biragoye guhangana n'amarangamutima y'umwana wawe iyo ufite stress n'uburakari. Ni nko kuvuga mu gihe cy'impanuka uri mu ndege uti "Mbere yo gufasha abandi, ambara agapfukamunwa kawe k'umwuka wa ogisijeni."
Kora urutonde rw'uburyo bwo gutuza mu gihe wumva ufite stress. Saba ubufasha ku muryango n'inshuti mu gihe ubikeneye. Niba ushobora kujya mu matsinda y'abaterankunga ku babyeyi bafite abana barwaye ADHD, ibyo nabyo bizagufasha cyane. Nanone, ntukibagirwe kuvugana na muganga wawe kuri ibi akakugira inama.
Ubutumwa bwo kujyana mu rugo
- Abana bafite ADHD bagorwa no kugenzura amarangamutima yabo, atari ukubera ko ari imyitwarire mibi, ahubwo ni ukubera ko ari bamwe mu bagize indwara ubwayo. Ntabwo babikora nkana.
- Wubahe ibyiyumvo by'umwana wawe. Ubyumve utabyirengagije kandi ubaze uti "Ibyo ni ibiki?"
- Gusinzira neza, ibiryo byuzuye intungamubiri, no gukora imyitozo ngororamubiri ni ingenzi kugira ngo umwana agire imitekerereze myiza.
- Shaka hamwe ubuhanga bworoshye bwo guhangana n'ibibazo bushobora gufasha umwana wawe gutuza iyo arakaye cyangwa afite stress.
- Kugira ngo ufashe umwana wawe, ugomba kubanza kwita ku buzima bwawe bwo mu mutwe.
- Niba ufite impungenge kuri ibi, ntugakomereke wenyine, ahubwo gisha inama muganga w'umuryango wawe.
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