Iyo tutekereje kuri ADHD ( Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder ), abenshi muri twe dutekereza ku myitwarire mibi y'abana bato, kudashobora kwicara neza, cyangwa ingorane zabo zo kwita ku kazi k'ishuri. Ariko se wari uzi ko ADHD ishobora no kugira ingaruka zikomeye ku mibanire y'abantu bakuru, cyane cyane ubuzima bwabo bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina? Nubwo iki ari ikibazo kigoye kuganiraho, ni ngombwa ko wowe n'umukunzi wawe mubimenya. Reka tubiganireho tweruye uyu munsi.
Ni iyihe sano iri hagati ya ADHD n'ibibazo by'imibonano mpuzabitsina?
Ubushakashatsi bwerekana ko abagore n'abagabo bagera kuri 40% bafite ADHD bahura n'ikibazo cyo kudakora neza mu mibonano mpuzabitsina. Hari impamvu nyinshi zishobora kuba zibitera. Ibintu by'ingenzi biranga ADHD nabyo bigira uruhare muri iki kibazo.
Igikuru ni uko, iyi si ikosa ryawe. Ni kimwe mu bigize indwara ubwayo. Kandi, hari byinshi ushobora gukora kugira ngo uhangane nayo.
Reka turebe ibibazo bisanzwe bishobora guterwa na ADHD mu buzima bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina.
| Ikibazo gishoboka mu buzima bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina | Bigenda bite? Biroroshye. |
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| Kubura ubushobozi bwo gutekereza cyane mu gihe cy'imibonano mpuzabitsina | Ikimenyetso nyamukuru cya ADHD ni ukugorwa no gukomeza kwita ku bandi. Rero, mu gihe cy'imibonano mpuzabitsina, guhoberana, cyangwa gukina mbere y'abandi, ubwenge bwawe bushobora guhita bujya mu bindi bintu (urugero: akazi ko mu biro, icyo ugomba gukora ejo). Ibi bishobora gutuma umukunzi wawe yumva ko utamwitayeho cyangwa ko utamukunda. Hari igihe uku kubura kwitabwaho bishobora gutuma bigorana kugera ku ndunduro. |
| Kwiyongera cyangwa kugabanuka gutunguranye k'ubushake bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina (Libido) | Bamwe mu bantu bafite ADHD bashobora kugira irari ryinshi ry’imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ibi birangwa no gutekereza ku mibonano mpuzabitsina igihe cyose no kugerageza gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina igihe cyose. Nanone, imiti imwe n’imwe ivura ADHD, cyane cyane iyo ikoreshwa mu kuvura ihungabana, ishobora kugabanya irari ry’imibonano mpuzabitsina. |
| Impinduka zitunguranye mu byiyumvo n'ibyifuzo | Abantu bafite ADHD bakunze kugira ihindagurika ry’amarangamutima no kumva badakunze kugira icyo bavuga. Ibi bivuze ko gukorakora ku muntu urwaye ADHD bishobora kumuremerera. Kubera iyo mpamvu, ikintu ukunda umunsi umwe gishobora kuba kitakubereye icyo ukunda mu wundi munsi. Icyo ushobora gukunda gukomanga uyu munsi gishobora kumera nk'ikibangamiye umunsi ukurikiyeho. Ibi bishobora kugora umukunzi wawe kubyumva. |
| Gukurura abantu mu mibonano mpuzabitsina iteje akaga | Abantu bafite ADHD bagira impinduka mu rugero rw'ibinyabutabire byitwa neurotransmitters mu bwonko bwabo. Ibi ni ibinyabutabire bigenzura amarangamutima n'ibikorwa byacu. Urugero ruto rw'ibi binyabutabire rushobora gutuma umuntu agira imyitwarire itunguranye. Ibi bishobora gutuma bamwe mu bantu bagira imyitwarire ishobora kubateza akaga, nko gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina idakingiye (urugero, kudakoresha agakingirizo). |
| Kwirinda imibonano mpuzabitsina bitewe n'uburakari n'irungu | ADHD ishobora gutera kumva ufite stress, uburakari, ndetse n'irungu, bishobora kunaniza umubiri ndetse n'ubwenge. Ibi bishobora gutuma utakaza burundu ubushake bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina. Nanone, ibintu nko kwirangaza mu gihe muganira cyangwa kutumvira mu gihe cyo gutongana bishobora guteza ibibazo mu mibanire yawe, ibyo bikaba byanagira ingaruka ku buzima bwawe bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina. |
None se, ubigenza ute kuri ibi?
Ibi bibazo byose bishobora gusa n'aho biteye ubwoba. Ariko inkuru nziza ni uko ushobora guhangana n'ibi bibazo neza ukoresheje uburyo bwo guhangana n'ibimenyetso bya ADHD. Dore bimwe mu bintu ushobora gukora.
1. Fata umuti neza neza nk'uko muganga yabigutegetse.
Imiti myinshi ivura ADHD ntabwo yangiza ubushake bwawe bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina. Mu by'ukuri, mu by'ukuri ikora ibinyuranye n'ibyo. Ituma urushaho kwita ku bintu neza.Ibi bizagufasha kwishimira imibonano mpuzabitsina cyane. Bishobora kandi kugufasha kugenzura imyitwarire y’imibonano mpuzabitsina ishobora guteza akaga. Hari abantu bavuga ko gufata imiti mbere gato y’imibonano mpuzabitsina byoroshye kwibanda ku bintu. Vugana na muganga wawe kuri ibi.
2. Niba ufite ikibazo kijyanye n'imiti yawe, vugana na muganga wawe.
Niba ufite ibibazo by'imibonano mpuzabitsina kandi ukaba ubona ko impamvu ari umuti urimo gufata, menya neza ko wabibwiye muganga wawe. Ntugahagarike gufata imiti yawe cyangwa ngo uhindure ingano yawe ubwawe. Muganga wawe ashobora kukugira inama yo guhindura undi muti cyangwa akakugira inama yo kuwukoresha.
3. Imyitozo ngororamubiri
Gukomeza gukora siporo buri munsi, bivuze ko bifasha mu kongera ubushobozi bwawe bwo gutekereza, ndetse binafasha kongera urugero rw'imiti itera ubwonko mu bwonko twavuze mbere. Ibi ntibigufasha gusa kwishimira ubuzima bwawe bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina, ahubwo binagufasha kugabanya imyitwarire ishobora kuguteza akaga.
4. Menyesha umukunzi wawe.
Iki ni cyo kintu cy'ingenzi kurusha ibindi. Ganira n'umukunzi wawe kuri ibi mu buryo bweruye. Sobanura ko niba urangaye mu gihe cy'imibonano mpuzabitsina, atari ukubera ko umurambiwe, ahubwo ari ukubera ko ari ikimenyetso cya ADHD. Iyo mufite ubwo bwumvikane hagati yanyu, ibibazo byinshi bishobora gukemuka.
5. Shaka uburyo bwo kuvura indwara zo mu mutwe (Talk Therapy)
Ubushakashatsi bwagaragaje ko uburyo bwo kuvura indwara zo mu mutwe, cyangwa ubuvuzi bwo mu mutwe , bushobora kugabanya ingaruka za ADHD ku buzima bwawe bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina. Umuganga w'umuhanga ashobora kugufasha gucunga amarangamutima yawe no kukwigisha uburyo bwo kuvugana neza n'umukunzi wawe, haba mu buriri no mu nzira yo kuva mu buriri.
6. Garagaza amarangamutima yawe mu gihe cy'imibonano mpuzabitsina.
Vuga neza uko wifuza ko bagukoraho n'uko wiyumva. Kuvuga amagambo nk'aya ngo "Nakwishimira ko bagukoraho muri ubwo buryo kuruta uko bimeze," bishobora gufasha gukumira ubwumvikane buke n'intonganya. Nanone, niba utari witeguye gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina icyo gihe, sobanura ibyo mu buryo bwuje urukundo.
7. Gabanya ibintu bikurangaza
Niba ukunda kwirangaza byoroshye, kora imibonano mpuzabitsina ahantu hadatuma ibintu bikurangaza cyane. Urugero, gabanya amatara mu cyumba hanyuma uzimye televiziyo na telefoni. Ibi bizagufasha kwibanda ku mukunzi wawe muri ako kanya.
Ubutumwa bwo kujyana mu rugo
- ADHD ni indwara ishobora kugira ingaruka ku buzima bwawe bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina. Si ikosa ryawe, si n'ikosa ry'uwo mwashakanye.
- Ni ngombwa kuganira kuri ibi mu buryo bweruye kandi mu kuri n'umukunzi wawe. Guhangana n'ibi hamwe bishobora gutuma umubano wanyu ukomera.
- Niba ufite ikibazo kijyanye n'imiti yawe, ntugahagarike kuyifata wenyine. Menya neza ko uganira na muganga wawe kugira ngo akugire inama.
- Ushobora kubona impumuro nziza mu myitozo ngororamubiri, ubuvuzi, no guhindura imibereho yoroheje.
- Ntabwo uri wenyine. Hari abantu benshi bahura n'ibibazo nk'ibi. Ntutinye gusaba ubufasha.
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