Ese hari n'ibintu bimwe na bimwe utinya bitari ngombwa? Reka tuvuge kuri ubu bwoba!

Twese dufite ubwoba gato ku kintu runaka, sibyo? Wenda ni igitagangurirwa, wenda ni uburebure, wenda ni urushinge. Ni ibisanzwe cyane. Ariko, tekereza, byagenda bite niba ubwo bwoba burenze imipaka isanzwe kandi bukaba bunini ku buryo bugira ingaruka ku buzima bwawe bwa buri munsi, ku kintu cyose ukora? Ni bwo tubyita 'phobia'. Bishobora kugutwara ibyishimo n'ubwisanzure mu buzima, bigatuma wumva udafite icyo ushoboye.

Ubwoba ni iki?

Mu magambo make, phobia ni ubwoba bukomeye, budashobora kugenzurwa cyangwa guhangayika ku kintu runaka - bishobora kuba ikintu, inyamaswa, imimerere, ahantu, ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose. Ubwoba burakomeye cyane ku buryo bubangamira ubuzima bwawe busanzwe, imibanire yawe, n'ibyishimo byawe mu buryo budashobora kwihanganira. Phobia mu by'ukuri ni indwara yo guhangayika . Inyinshi muri izi phobia zifite indwara imwe: Phobia yihariye . Ariko hari ubwoko bumwe bwa phobia bufite indwara yihariye, ari bwo Agoraphobia . Reka tubiganireho. Tekereza, iyo udahuye n'icyo kintu giteye ubwoba, ushobora kubona uti: "Oh, ubu bwoba burakabije cyane, nta kintu cyo gutinya." Ariko no kumenya ibyo, ibyiyumvo wumva icyo gihe, iyo ibyiyumvo, ntibihinduka. Niba uhuye n'ikintu giteye ubwoba gitunguranye, uzumva ufite ubwoba bwinshi, uhangayitse, kandi wifuza guhunga. Ushobora kuba ushobora kwirinda ubwenge bwawe muri icyo gihe, ariko biragoye cyane, kandi bisaba ubutwari bwinshi.

Hari ubwoko bungana iki bw'ubwoba?

Ubwoba, cyangwa se ibyiyumvo by'ubwoba n'imihangayiko bitera, biratandukanye cyane bitewe n'umuntu ku wundi. Icyo umuntu atinya gishobora kuba atari cyo undi muntu atinya. Kubwibyo, biragoye gutanga urutonde rw'"ubwoko bw'ubwoba buhari." Ariko, abaganga n'inzobere bagabanyije ubwo bwoba mu byiciro bitanu by'ingenzi.

Ubwoko busanzwe bw'ubwoba

Dore zimwe mu mpungenge zikunze kugaragara muri izo ngeri n'izijyanye nazo: 1. Inyamaswa:

• Arachnophobia (ubwoba bukabije bw'ibitagangurirwa)
• Cynophobia (ubwoba bukabije bwimbwa)
• Entomophobia (ubwoba bukabije bw'udukoko)
• Ophidiophobia (ubwoba bukabije bw'inzoka)

2. Ku bijyanye n'ibidukikije karemano:

• Acrophobia (ubwoba bukabije bwo kureba imisozi miremire)
• Ubwoba bwo gutinyuka ahantu hafunguye cyangwa hahurira abantu benshi, ahantu hahurira abantu benshi, ndetse rimwe na rimwe no gutinya kuva mu rugo wenyine (Agoraphobia) (ibi bifatwa nk'indwara yihariye)
• Aquaphobia (ubwoba bukabije bw'amazi)
• Astraphobia (ubwoba bukabije bw'inkuba n'imirabyo)

3. Ku bijyanye n'amaraso, uburyo bwo kuvurwa cyangwa ibikomere:

• Algophobia (ubwoba bukabije bwo gutinya ububabare)
• Ubwoba bw'amenyo (Dentophobia) (ubwoba bukabije bw'abaganga b'amenyo cyangwa uburyo bwo kuvurwa amenyo)
• Hemophobia (ubwoba bukabije bw'amaraso)
• Ubwoba bukabije bw'inshinge (Trypanophobia)

4. Ku bijyanye n'imanza zihariye:

• Ubwoba bukabije bwo kuguruka mu ndege (Aerophobia)
• Amaxophobia (ubwoba bukabije bwo gutwara imodoka)
• Ubwoba bwo gutinya claustrophobia: Ubwoba bwo gutinya ahantu hato kandi hafunze (urugero: ascenseur, ibyumba bito)
• Nyctophobia (ubwoba bukabije bw'umwijima)

5. Ibindi:

• Ugutinya abantu bakina urwenya (Coulrophobia)
• Emetophobia (ubwoba bwo kuruka cyangwa kubona abandi baruka)
• Ubwoba bukabije bw'umuriro (pyrophobia)
• Trypophobia (ubwoba bukabije bw'umwobo muto mu matsinda cyangwa imiterere)

By'umwihariko ku bijyanye na Agoraphobia

Agoraphobia ifatwa nk'indwara itandukanye kuko hari ibintu byinshi bishobora kuyitera. Kugira ngo umuntu amenye agoraphobia, agomba kugira ubwoba/impungenge z'ubwoko butandukanye bw'ibintu bitera bifitanye isano n'ahantu hahurira abantu benshi cyangwa ahantu hahurira abantu benshi.

Ni mu rugero rungana iki iterabwoba rikunze kugaragara?

Kuba tuvuga amagambo nka "Oh, ndatinya inzoka cyane" cyangwa "Simbona ahantu hirengeye, numva ndi mu mutwe," ntibivuze ko ari ubwoba buri gihe. Mu by'ukuri, ubwoba ntibugira ingaruka ku kigero kinini cy'abatuye isi. Ubwoba bwihariye: Indwara y'iki kibazo ishobora gutandukana bitewe n'imyaka. Ariko, ku bantu benshi, izi ndwara zibaho mbere y'imyaka 10.

• Muri rusange: Muri Leta Zunze Ubumwe za Amerika, hagati ya 8% na 12% by'abaturage bivugwa ko bafite ``Specific Phobia``. Mu bindi bihugu byo ku isi, iyi mibare iri hagati ya 2% na 6%.
• Abana: Ku isi yose, hagati ya 3% na 9% by'abana bujuje ibisabwa byo kugira `Phobia yihariye`. Muri Leta Zunze Ubumwe za Amerika, hafi 16% by'abana bato (bari hagati y'imyaka 13-17) bafite iyi ndwara.
• Abantu bakuru (abafite imyaka 65 kuzamura): Umubare w'abantu barwaye `Specific Phobia` ugabanuka uko imyaka igenda ishira. Biteganyijwe ko iri hagati ya 3% na 5% mu bantu bafite imyaka 65 kuzamura.

By’umwihariko, ubushakashatsi bwerekana ko abagore bafite amahirwe abiri yo kugira `Specific Phobia` kurusha abagabo .

Ni ibihe bimenyetso by'ubwoba?

Ibimenyetso bishobora kubaho kuri `Specific Phobia` na `Agoraphobia` birasa cyane. Ariko, uko bigaragara, imimerere cyangwa ahantu bibaho bishobora gutandukana. Iyo uhuye n'ikintu, inyamaswa, ahantu cyangwa imimerere utinya, cyangwa se utekereza gusa ku kintu runaka, inyamaswa, ahantu cyangwa imimerere utinya, ushobora kugira ikimenyetso kimwe cyangwa byinshi ku mubiri, mu mutwe no mu myitwarire. Ibimenyetso byo mu mutwe (ibintu bigira ingaruka ku buryo utekereza n'uko wumva):

• Ukumva ubwoba bukomeye kandi budashobora kwihanganirwa .
• Ubwoba, kumva ko ugomba guhunga.
• Kumva uri mu kaga ako kanya.
• Kumva uri kure y'umubiri wawe (depersonalization) cyangwa utari mu bidukikije (derealization).

Ibimenyetso by'umubiri (ibintu bigira ingaruka ku mubiri wawe):

• Umutima utera cyane, ukumva igituza cyawe kirimo gutera cyane.
• Kubira ibyuya , kumva ubushyuhe cyangwa ubukonje, gushyuha.
• Umubiri uhinda umushyitsi .
• Isesemi , kumva igifu cyawe kimeze nk'aho kirimo guhinduka, ububabare mu nda .
• Kubabara mu gituza cyangwa kubabara.
• Kugorwa no guhumeka , kumva uhumeka nabi.
• Kuzunguruka , kumva umutwe uzunguruka, n'amaso y'ubururu.
• Wenda gucika intege.
• Isura yera (nk'aho amaraso yakusanyije).
• Kubona nabi (nk'aho ureba unyuze mu muyoboro - `kureba mu muyoboro`).

Ibimenyetso by'imyitwarire (uburyo imibereho yawe, gahunda yawe, cyangwa ingeso zawe bihinduka):

• Ugerageza cyane cyane kwirinda ibintu bishobora gutera indwara. Urugero, ushobora gutinya inshinge (Trypanophobia), bityo ukirinda nkana kujya kwisuzumisha kwa muganga buri gihe cyangwa kujya kwa muganga w'amenyo.
• Urahindura ubuzima bwawe kugira ngo wirinde ibintu bigutera ubwoba. Urugero, ushobora kwimuka ukareka gutura mu gace kari ku nkombe z'inyanja kubera gutinya inkubi z'umuyaga.
• Birinda n'impinduka nziza mu buzima kuko batinya ko bazahura n'ikintu batinya. Urugero, gutinya amazi, koga, cyangwa kurohama, bibabuza kugura inzu cyangwa gukora akazi ahantu hateganye n'umugezi, ikiyaga cyangwa inyanja.

Ibimenyetso by'ubwoba mu bana bato

Abana bato bashobora kandi kugira `Specific Phobia`. Bashobora kugaragaza ibimenyetso bitandukanye n'iby'abantu bakuru. Bimwe muri byo birimo:

• Kurira cyane.
• Guhangayika.
• Gukonjesha (guhagarara gusa nk'aho bikonjeshejwe ahantu habi).
• Gukomera ku muntu wumva ufite umutekano, ntukigere utandukana n'uwo muntu.

Ni izihe mpamvu zitera phobia?

Ubwoba ni indwara ubwonko bwawe bugira ubwoba n'imihangayiko bikabije kandi bitagenzurwa. Mu bihe bisanzwe, ibyo byiyumvo birarinda kandi birafasha. Ni bwo buryo ubwonko bwawe bukoresha mu kuguburira ko hari ikintu kitagenda neza, ko ushobora kuba uri mu kaga cyangwa usanzwe uri mu kaga. Ariko abahanga ntibarasobanukirwa neza impamvu ibyo byiyumvo bihinduka ubwoba. Ariko, hari ibintu byinshi n'inzira zishobora gutuma umuntu agira ubwoba. Muri byo harimo:

• Ibintu bibabaza: Ibi bishobora kuba ibintu wahuye na byo wowe ubwawe, cyangwa ikintu wiboneye kibaye ku wundi muntu. Urugero, gutinya imbwa bishobora guterwa no kurumwa n'imbwa akiri umwana.
• Ingirabuzimafatizo: Hari ubwoko bumwe na bumwe bw'ubwoba bukunze kugaragara mu miryango iyo hari umuntu wo mu muryango ufite ubwo bwoko bw'ubwoba. Ubwoba buterwa n'inyamaswa, amaraso/ubuvuzi/ibikomere, n'ibindi bibazo bikunze kugaragara cyane mu bagize umuryango.
• Gukwirakwiza amakuru: Hari ubwoba bushobora guterwa no kumenya ikintu runaka, cyangwa se no kuba ukomeza kubona cyangwa kumva ibintu bibaho. Urugero, iyo wumvise amakuru ku mpanuka z'indege, hari abantu bashobora gutinya kuguruka.
• Ubwoba bwizewe: Kwiga ku bwoba bw'abandi bantu cyangwa ubwoba bwabo bishobora gutuma bamwe bagira ubwo bwoba nk'ubwo. Iyi ishobora kuba imwe mu mpamvu zituma abana bamwe bashobora kugira ubwo bwoba bwihariye iyo ababyeyi babo babarinda cyane.

Ni izihe ngorane zishobora guterwa n'ubwoba?

Ubwoba bushobora kugira ingaruka z'igihe kirekire ku buzima bwawe bwo mu mutwe no ku mubiri, cyane cyane iyo uhora uhura n'ibintu utinya cyangwa niba ibimenyetso byawe bikomeye. Abantu bafite `Specific Phobia` na `Agoraphobia` bari mu kaga ko kurwara indwara zimwe na zimwe zo mu mutwe. Nubwo phobia idatera izi ndwara, akenshi ibanziriza izindi ndwara kandi ikazitera. Indwara zo mu mutwe zisanzwe abantu bafite phobia bashobora guhura nazo zirimo:

• Izindi ndwara zo guhangayika
• Indwara ya Bipolar
• Indwara zo kwiheba
• Indwara z'imico (cyane cyane indwara y'imico iterwa n'umuntu)
• Indwara zo gukoresha ibiyobyabwenge
• Indwara z'ibimenyetso byo mu mutwe

Indwara z'ubuzima bw'umubiri zikunze kugaragara mu gihe umuntu afite phobia cyangwa zishobora kwiyongera bitewe n'ibimenyetso bya phobia harimo:

• Indwara z'umutima
• Indwara y'ibihaha idakira (COPD)
• Indwara ya Parkinson
• Ibimenyetso bijyanye no kuringaniza no kuzungera (bishobora gutera kugwa no gukomereka bitewe no kugwa)
• Indwara zo mu bwonko zigenda zigabanuka ndetse n'ibimenyetso by'indwara yo kwibagirwa

Ni gute wamenya phobia?

Inzobere mu by’ubuzima bwo mu mutwe, nk’inzobere mu by’indwara zo mu mutwe cyangwa inzobere mu by’imitekerereze y’abantu, ishobora kukuvugisha ikakubaza ibibazo kugira ngo imenye niba ufite ubwoba runaka cyangwa agoraphobia. Izi ndwara ntizisaba ibizamini byo muri laboratwari, ibizamini byo gufata amashusho (urugero: scan), cyangwa ibindi bizamini byihariye byo gusuzuma indwara. Ibibazo babaza bishobora kuba bishingiye ku bibazo byihariye byagenewe gufasha gusuzuma ubwoba. Bimwe mu bibazo bashobora kubaza birimo:

• Ni ibihe bintu uzi bigutera ubwoba?
• Ni ibihe bimenyetso uri kubona, kandi ni ibihe bikomeye?
• Imibereho yawe n'ibikorwa byawe bya buri munsi bimeze bite, kandi se ibimenyetso by'ubwoba bwawe birabigiraho ingaruka?
• Ibi bimenyetso byatangiye ryari?
• Ese wahuye n'ikintu giteye ishozi, cyangwa hari ibindi bintu mu buzima bwawe bishobora gutera ubwoba?

Muganga wawe abaza ibi bibazo kuko ibimenyetso byawe bigomba kuba bihuye n'ibipimo runaka kugira ngo hamenyekane niba ufite ``Specific Phobia`` cyangwa ``Agoraphobia``.

Ibipimo ngenderwaho byo gusuzuma `Phobia yihariye`

• Ugira ubwoba bwinshi cyangwa impungenge ku kintu cyangwa imimerere runaka.
• Iyo umuntu ahuye n'ikibazo cyo gutinya , ubwoba, guhangayika, cyangwa byombi bihita bivuka.
• Wirinda ibintu bigutera ubwoba, cyangwa niba udashobora kubyirinda, uzagira ubwoba bwinshi, imihangayiko, cyangwa byombi iyo uhuye nabyo.
• Ubwoba cyangwa impungenge wumva biruta cyane ibyo byagombye guterwa nabyo .
• Ugomba kuba waragize ubwo bwoba/impungenge byibuze amezi atandatu .
• Kwirinda ibintu bitera ubwo bwoba, guhangayika, cyangwa ubwoba bitera ihungabana cyangwa ubumuga mu gice kimwe cy'ubuzima bwawe (nk'akazi, imibanire n'abandi, uburezi).
• Ibimenyetso ubona ntibishobora gusobanurwa neza n'indi ndwara yo mu mutwe (urugero: Indwara yo guhangayika nyuma yo guhungabana (PTSD) cyangwa Indwara yo gucika intege).

Ese ubwoba buvurwa bute? Ese bushobora gukira?

Indwara ya phobia ishobora kuvurwa hakoreshejwe uburyo bwo kuvura indwara zo mu mutwe (ijambo abaganga bakoresha ni "Psychotherapy" ), imiti imwe n'imwe, cyangwa byombi bivanze. Ubwoko bw'ubuvuzi uhabwa buterwa n'ibintu byinshi, harimo ubwoko bw'ubwoba ufite, uburemere bw'ibimenyetso byawe, imibereho yawe, ingeso zawe, n'ibyo ukunda. Muganga ashobora kukubwira byinshi ku buryo bwo kuvura bushobora kugufasha, ikikubereye, n'icyo bagusaba.Uburyo bw'ingenzi bwo kuvura iterabwoba ni ukugufasha guhindura ibitekerezo n'imyitwarire bikikije ubwoba bwawe. Ubuvuzi bw'imitekerereze ni uburyo bw'ingirakamaro cyane bwo kubikora. Ubuvuzi bw'imyitwarire yo mu mutwe (CBT) ni uburyo bukunze gukoreshwa. Uko igihe kigenda gihita, ubu buvuzi bugufasha guhangana neza n'ubwoba n'imihangayiko uhura na byo. Ubundi buryo bwo kuvura ni ubuvuzi bwo mu maso. Bushobora gukorwa mu buryo bubiri bw'ingenzi:

• Gucika intege mu buryo busanzwe / Gushyirwa mu byiciro: Ibi bikubiyemo kwishyira mu mwanya w’ibintu utinya buhoro buhoro. Uko igihe kigenda gihita, umuvuzi wawe azagufasha gutsinda buhoro buhoro ibice by’ubwoba bwawe, kuva ku bito cyane kugeza ku bikubabaza cyane. Binagufasha kandi kwiga guhindura ibitekerezo byawe n’imyitwarire yawe kugira ngo ugenzure ibyiyumvo byawe by’ubwoba n’imihangayiko.
• Gutemba: Ubu buryo busa na Systematic Desensitization, ariko burimo kwishyira mu kaga ibintu bitera ubwoba bwawe icyarimwe, aho kubushyira mu kaga gahoro gahoro. Ibi bigufasha kumenyera ibyo bintu no kugenzura imihangayiko yawe. Nubwo idakoreshwa cyane, ishobora gufasha bamwe mu bafite ubwoba (nubwo abaganga benshi bakugira inama yo kubukoresha witonze).

Ubuvuzi bwo kwihisha umuntu bushobora gukorwa mu bundi buryo bubiri:

• Mu buzima: Ijambo rikomoka ku kilatini, muri uru rwego risobanura "mu buzima busanzwe." Guhangana n'ubwoba bwawe mu buzima busanzwe ni bumwe mu buryo bwo kugufasha kubutsinda.
• Ishusho: Muri ibi, umuvuzi wawe azagufasha kwiyumvisha ubwoba bwawe no kubukemura. Ubu bushobora kuba bwo buryo bwonyine bwo gukoresha uburyo bwo kuvura indwara zimwe na zimwe zo gutinya (cyane cyane iterabwoba aho kugaragara mu buzima busanzwe byaba ari akaga).

Imiti Hari ubwo imiti imwe n'imwe ishobora kugufasha mu bihe by'ubwoba. Iyi ni imiti igabanya ubukana bw'imihangayiko cyangwa imiti igabanya ubwoba. Kubera ko hari imiti myinshi ishobora kugufasha mu bihe by'ubwoba, muganga wawe ni we muntu mwiza wo gusobanura amahitamo yawe n'ibyo agusaba. Bashobora kandi kukubwira ingaruka mbi zishobora kubaho, ingorane, n'andi makuru ukeneye kumenya.

Ese ubwoba bushobora kwirindwa?

Ubwoba bushobora kubaho mu buryo butunguranye kandi bushobora gutandukana cyane bitewe n'umuntu ku wundi. Impamvu imwe ibitera ni uko buri muntu agira ubwoba butandukanye. Kubwibyo, nta buryo bwihariye bwo gukumira ubwo bwoba. Kandi nta buryo buzwi bwo kugabanya ibyago byo kuburwara.

Bigenda bite iyo mfite ubwoba?

Gutinya bishobora kugira ingaruka zikomeye ku buzima bwawe bwo mu mutwe no ku mibereho yawe myiza, cyane cyane iyo bifitanye isano n'ikintu uhura nacyo kenshi. Bivugwa ko abantu bagera kuri 75% bafite `Specific Phobia` bafite ubwoko burenze bumwe bw'ubwoba , bityo iyi ndwara ishobora kubangamira ubuzima cyane.

Iyo batavuwe, uko igihe kigenda gihita, bamwe bashobora kugabanya ubuzima bwabo cyane. Batangira kwirinda gukora ibintu bishimira, gusabana n'abandi, no kugira ubunararibonye bushya.

Ubwoba bushobora kumara igihe kingana iki? Uko igihe kigenda gihita, ubwoba runaka bushobora kurangira. Ariko, birashoboka ko bitabaho hatabayeho kuvurwa. Ubwoba butangira mu bwana bushobora kurangira vuba. Ariko, ubwoba butangira mu bwana bugakomeza kugeza mu bukuru bushobora kumara imyaka myinshi, ndetse n'imyaka ibarirwa muri za mirongo. Ni iki giteganijwe ku bwoba? Igitekerezo cyiza ku bwoba runaka ni ukuvurwa, cyane cyane iyo ubuvuzi butangiye hakiri kare. Iyo utavuwe, izi ndwara zishobora kugira ingaruka zikomeye ku buzima bwawe bwo mu mutwe n'uburyo ubayeho. Kuvurwa hakiri kare ibimenyetso bya bwoba bishobora kugira itandukaniro rinini , nubwo waba umaze amezi atandatu udafite ibimenyetso kandi utarasuzumwa ku mugaragaro ko ufite ubwo bwoba. Ibi ni ukuri uko imyaka yawe yaba iri kose cyangwa ubwoko bw'ubwoba ufite.

Nakwiyitaho nte mu gihe mfite ubwoba?

Niba utekereza ko ufite phobia, ibintu by'ingenzi ushobora gukora ni ibi bikurikira:

• Shaka ubufasha. Shaka ubufasha ukimara kubona ko ibimenyetso by'ubwoba bwawe bibangamira ubuzima bwawe. Guhabwa ubufasha hakiri kare bishobora kugira uruhare runini mu gukira kwawe.
• Kurikiza amabwiriza yawe yo kuvurwa. Yaba muganga wawe yakwandikiye imiti cyangwa akakubwira kujya kwa muganga wita ku buzima bwo mu mutwe buri gihe, kuyakurikiza bizatuma ubuvuzi bwawe burushaho kugira akamaro kandi bigufashe gukira vuba.
• Ntugasuzugure akamaro ko guhindura imibereho. Gukomeza gukora cyane, kurya indyo yuzuye, gusinzira bihagije, kwirinda inzoga n'imiti idasaba muganga, no gucunga imihangayiko yawe n'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe byose bishobora kugufasha mu gihe ugerageza guhangana cyangwa gutsinda ubwoba.

Ni ryari nkwiye kujya mu ishami rishinzwe ubuvuzi bwihutirwa (ETU) ?

Gutinya bishobora kugushyira mu kaga ko kurwara izindi ndwara zo mu mutwe, nko guhangayika no kwiheba. Izi ndwara zishobora kugushyira mu kaga ko gutekereza kwiyahura cyangwa kwiyahura. Niba ufite ibitekerezo byo kwiyahura, cyangwa niba ukeka ko hari umuntu uzi uri mu kaga, shaka ubufasha ako kanya.Muri Sri Lanka, ushobora guhamagara umurongo w’ubutabazi bw’ubuzima bwo mu mutwe ku murongo wa 1926. Ubundi buryo, jya mu ishami rishinzwe ubutabazi bw’ibanze ry’ibitaro biri hafi yawe. Niba ubona ko wowe (cyangwa undi muntu uzi) uri mu kaga ko kwiyahura cyangwa kwiyahura, hamagara nomero ya polisi y’ubutabazi bw’ibanze 119.

Ushobora gutekereza ko kugira ubwoba ari inenge ikomeye cyangwa intege nke, ariko si ko biri. Ubwoba bukunze kugaragara cyane, kandi bushobora kugira ingaruka ku muntu uwo ari we wese, hatitawe ku myaka cyangwa aho akomoka. Nk'uko nta kibi kiri mu gushaka ubuvuzi bw'ukuguru kwavunitse cyangwa ubwandu bw'ugutwi, nta kibi kiri mu gushaka ubufasha ku bwoba no kubonana n'umujyanama mu by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe .

Niba ufite ubwoba, cyangwa utekereza ko ushobora kubugira, vugana n'umujyanama mu by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe . Mu kuvura, ushobora kubona uburyo bwo guhangana n'ubwoba bwawe - ndetse wenda no kubutsinda. Hanyuma, ntuzahangayikishwa no "ni iki nzahura nacyo uyu munsi?" igihe cyose usohotse mu muryango.

Amaherezo, ibuka

Ukurikije ibyo twaganiriyeho, urabona ko ubwoba butari ubworoshye kandi bushobora kugira ingaruka zikomeye ku buzima bw'umuntu. Ariko, ikiruta byose, ubwoba buravurwa.

• Ntabwo uri wenyine. Si wowe wenyine uhanganye n'ubwoba nk'ubu.
• Ntugatinye cyangwa ngo ugire isoni zo gusaba ubufasha. Ni ikimenyetso cy'imbaraga.
• Iyo ubonye ubufasha n'ubuvuzi bukwiye vuba, ushobora gutsinda ubwo bwoba bukomeye, wongera kugenzura ubuzima bwawe, kandi ukabaho ubuzima bwiza kandi burangwa n'ubuntu.
• Wibuke ko ubuzima bwo mu mutwe bwawe ari ingenzi kimwe n'ubuzima bwawe bw'umubiri. Ni inshingano zawe kubyitaho.

Niba ufite gushidikanya na gato ku kintu nk'iki, nyamuneka reba umuganga wujuje ibisabwa cyangwa umujyanama mu by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe . Ubwo ntuzakenera gukora uru rugendo wenyine.