Xa oogqirha befumanisa ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo unomhlaza webele , kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva uxinezelekile kwaye unemibuzo emininzi. "Ndenze ntoni ngoku?", "Ndiza kujongana njani nalo mhlaza?", "Luza kuba nzima kangakanani unyango?", njalo njalo, kunokufika engqondweni yakho amaxesha amaninzi. Ngexesha elinje, ukufunda incwadi elungileyo equka amava abanye abaye badlula kuhambo olufanayo kunye neengcebiso zoogqirha kunokukunika amandla amakhulu, ulwazi, kunye noxolo lwengqondo. Namhlanje, sithetha ngeencwadi ezixabisekileyo kakhulu kwabo balwa nolu hlobo lomhlaza kunye neentsapho zabo.
Iincwadi ezikunceda uqonde amava akho
Xa ndifunda iincwadi ezithetha ngendlela yokwenyani yokuphila nomhlaza, usizi, uvuyo, kunye noloyiko oluhamba nawo, ndiziva ndikhululekile kakhulu kuba andingomntu ndedwa oziva ezi zinto.
"Iiblues zePink Ribbon" nguGayle Sulik
Le ncwadi imalunga noNancy Stodahl, owafunyaniswa enomhlaza webele wesigaba se-IIB ngo-2010. Uthi le ncwadi yamvula amehlo. Le ncwadi ingena nzulu kwinkcubeko engasemva "kweribhoni epinki" esiyibona kuyo yonke indawo, nendlela ngamanye amaxesha efihla ngayo imiba yokwenyani yempilo ejongene nabasetyhini.
"Umhlaza wawungesiso isipho kwaye awuzange undenze ndibe ngumntu ongcono" nguNancy Stordahl
Le yincwadi ebhalwe nguNancy Stodahl. Umama wakhe wayenomhlaza webele osasazekayo . Ngoko ke, ubhale ngokunyaniseka ngamava akhe njengomnakekeli kamama wakhe nanjengesigulana somhlaza ngokwakhe. Utsho ngokucacileyo ukuba umhlaza awulobali lobugorha, ngamava anzima kakhulu, ayinyani. Ikwaqulethe izinto ekufuneka uzazi ngaphambi kokuba ufumane unyango lwe-chemotherapy , kunye nendlela yokoyisa uloyiko lwakho ngayo.
"Indawo Ephakathi" nguKelly Corrigan
Xa uKelly efunyaniswa ukuba unomhlaza webele, uyise naye unomhlaza kwaye kufuneka amnyamekele. Ubhala kule ncwadi ngovelwano olukhulu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ehlekisa ngaloo "phakathi" kokunyamekela uyise esengumntwana nokulwa nesifo sakhe njengomama.
Khumbula, iimvakalelo zakho ziyasebenza ngexesha lohambo lwakho lomhlaza. Uloyiko, usizi, umsindo, kunye nethemba zonke ziyinxalenye yolu hambo.
Yiba namandla kusapho lwakho nakubahlobo bakho.
Xa uxelelwa ukuba unomhlaza, kuba yinto eyoyikisayo kubantu obathandayo abakungqongileyo. Bafuna ukukunceda , kodwa basenokungazi ukuba bangakwenza njani. Ezi ncwadi ziya kuba luncedo olukhulu kubo.
"Umzali wam unomhlaza kwaye uyandicaphukisa ngokwenene" nguMaya noMarc Silver
UBarbara Jacoby, osinde kabini kumhlaza webele, ucebisa le ncwadi. Uthi, "Ngelixa unyangwa, ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, nokufunda incwadi kunokuba nzima kumguli. Kodwa kufuneka sicinge nangeentsapho zethu." Le ncwadi yabhalwa nguMaya noyise. UMaya wayeneminyaka eli-15 ubudala xa umama wakhe wafunyaniswa ukuba unomhlaza webele. Ngoko ke, inika iingcebiso ezisebenzayo malunga nendlela yokujonga eli thuba ngokwembono yomntwana omncinci, kunye nendlela yokunceda abantwana ngamaxesha anjalo.
"Ukuphepha iiDandelions" nguRon Richards
Le yincwadi ekhethekileyo kakhulu. Kuba ibhalwe yindoda yomfazi owalahlekelwa ngumhlaza. Yingxelo ebukhali yembono yomyeni ngohambo lomfazi wakhe lomhlaza, intlungu, ithemba, kunye nokulahlekelwa awakufumanayo. Le ncwadi iya kuba luncedo olukhulu kwiqabane lakho ekukuqondeni.
"Mhlobo Othandekayo: Iileta Zokukhuthaza, Ukuhlekisa, Nothando Kubafazi Abanomhlaza Webele" nguGina Mulligan
Le ncwadi iyamangalisa. Yingqokelela yeeleta ezibhalwe ngabafazi ababenomhlaza webele , kunye nabanye abafazi abasandula ukuxilongwa. Kukho uthando, inkalipho, kwanoburharha kwiileta. Kuyakhuthaza kakhulu ukuva, "Awuwedwa, nathi sidlule koku."
Ukuze ufumane iingcebiso ezisebenzayo kunye nokuphefumlelwa
Ngamanye amaxesha asidingi amava kuphela, kodwa neengcebiso ezisebenzayo ukuze olu hambo lube lula.
"Ikhitshi Elilwa Nomhlaza" nguRebecca Katz
U-Anna Krolman, owafunyaniswa enomhlaza eneminyaka engama-27 ubudala, ngumbhali wale ncwadi. Kuqhelekile ukuba nemiphumo emibi efana nokulahlekelwa ngumdla wokutya, isicaphucaphu, ukudinwa, kunye nokunciphisa umzimba ngexesha lonyango. Le ncwadi iqulethe iiresiphi ezimnandi ezingaphezu kwe-100 ezilula ukuzenza kwaye ziya kunceda ukunciphisa le miphumo emibi, zonyuse umdla wokutya, kwaye zikuncede uzive ugcwele ixesha elide.
"Phakathi Kweentsuku: Isikhumbuzo Ngokuphila Nomhlaza" nguTeva Harrison
Le ncwadi yahlukile kwezinye kuba ikwimo yenoveli enemifanekiso. Kulula kakhulu ukuyifunda. UTewa, owafunyaniswa enomhlaza webele osasazekileyo kwiminyaka yakhe yamashumi amathathu, uchaza amava akhe ngemizobo namanqaku amafutshane. Yintetho echukumisayo nenamandla kakhulu.
| Isihloko sencwadi | Umbhali | Eyona Ilungele Obani? |
|---|---|---|
| I-Pink Ribbon Blues | UGayle Sulik | Kwabo bafuna ukwazi inyani yenkcubeko yomhlaza. |
| Umzali wam uneCancer kwaye ayimnandi ngokwenene | UMaya kunye noMarc Silver | Kubantwana abancinci nabazali kwiintsapho zabantu abanesifo somhlaza. |
| Ikhitshi Elilwa Nomhlaza | URebecca Katz | Kubantu abagulayo kunye nabanakekeli babo abafuna ukufunda ngokutya okunesondlo ngexesha lonyango. |
| Umhlaza wawungesiso isipho... | UNancy Stordahl | Kwabo bafuna ukuqonda ngokunyanisekileyo inyani ebuhlungu yomhlaza. |
Ezi ncwadi ziza kukwenza uzive ngathi ubambe isandla somnye umntu njengoko uhamba olu hambo lunzima. Kodwa khumbula, emva kokufunda ezi ncwadi, umntu ofanelekileyo onokuthetha naye ngayo nayiphi na ingxaki yezonyango onayo, naziphi na iinkxalabo onazo malunga nonyango, naluphi na uloyiko onalo, ngugqirha wakho . Ungaze woyike ukuthetha naye ngayo yonke into ngokukhululekileyo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Xa ufunyaniswa ukuba unomhlaza webele, yazi ukuba awuwedwa. Kukho amawakawaka abanye abafazi kwihlabathi liphela abaye badlula kolu hambo kwaye basaqhubeka nalo.
- Ukufunda amava kunye neembali zabanye abantu kunokukunika amandla amakhulu engqondo nolwazi olusebenzayo.
- Olu lwazi lunzima kusapho lwakho, ebantwaneni, nakwiqabane lakho. Ungalibali ukuba kukho iincwadi ezinokubanceda baqonde le meko.
- Ukunika ingqalelo kwizinto ezisebenzayo ezifana nesondlo ngexesha lonyango kubaluleke kakhulu ukulawula iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga.
- Nangona ukufunda ezi ncwadi kunokuba luncedo kakhulu, soloko uqhagamshelana nogqirha wakho ngaphambi kokuba wenze izigqibo malunga neengxaki zakho zempilo kunye nonyango.
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