Kuqhelekile ukuba umama omtsha, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha utata, azive etshintsha kakhulu, ediniwe, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha edakumbile xa esamkela umntwana wakhe ekhaya. Ukufunda ukunyamekela usana olusandul’ ukuzalwa kutshintsha kakhulu ebomini. Kodwa ngaba le yinto enokuthi ithathwe njengento 'ebuhlungu nje kancinci'? Nangona kungengabo bonke abantu abathetha ngayo, ukudakumba emva kokuzalwa (PPD) kuxhaphake kakhulu kunokuba sicinga. Namhlanje, siza kuthetha ngezinye zeengcamango eziphosakeleyo ezikhoyo kuluntu malunga noku. Kubalulekile ukuba wena nosapho lwakho nizazi ezi zinto.
Ingcamango Engachanekanga 1: "Le yintlungu nje encinci ebizwa ngokuba yi-'Baby Blues'"
Kulapho abantu abaninzi badideka khona. Kuqhelekile ukuba umama azive enomsindo, elusizi, kwaye ekhala kwiiveki ezimbini ukuya kwezintathu zokuqala emva kokuba nomntwana. Oku sikubiza ngokuba yi-'Baby Blues'. Oku kubangelwa kukutshintsha kweehomoni kwaye kuphele ngokwako emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa.
Nangona kunjalo, i-Postpartum Depression yimeko embi kakhulu nehlala ixesha elide.
- Ukuba ubuziva ulusizi kakhulu, uxhalabile, okanye ungenathemba kangangeeveki, mhlawumbi iinyanga...
- Ukuba awusenamdla kwizinto obukade uzonwabela ukuzenza...
- Ukuba uziva ungakhululekanga kangangokuba awufuni nokumkhathalela umntwana wakho...
Inokuba yinto engaphezulu nje kokuba 'usana ludandathekile'. Ngoko ke ukuba unale mpawu, musa ukuzithatha njengezinto eziqhelekileyo. Qiniseka ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho ngayo.
Ingcamango ephosakeleyo 2: "Oku kwenzeka koomama kuphela"
Hayi, oku akulunganga kwaphela. Uphando lufumanise ukuba malunga ne-10% yootata abatsha, okanye malunga nomnye kwabalishumi, banokuhlangabezana nale meko. Le ngozi iphezulu kakhulu kootata abaphakathi kweenyanga ezi-3 nezi-6 emva kokuba nomntwana.
Khawucinge nje, xa umama ehlaselwa yile meko, nayo inempembelelo enkulu kwiqabane lakhe ekhaya. Ukuba umfazi une-Postpartum Depression, umyeni naye unokuba nayo. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuqonda oku njengengxaki echaphazela lonke usapho.
Ingcamango Engachanekanga 3: "Oku kuza kuba ngcono ngokwakho, kuza kulunga wakuba wenze isigqibo sakho"
Ubani usenokuba ukuxelele izinto ezinje, "Musa ukuba lusizi kakhulu," "Yomelela," kunye "Yonwaba nomntwana wakho." Kodwa ukudakumba emva kokuzalwa akuyonto ephucukayo ngokuba nethemba.
Le yimeko yezonyango ekufuneka inyangwe.
Ukuchaneka, le yimeko ebangelwa kukungalingani kweekhemikhali (ii-neurotransmitters) engqondweni yakho. Ngenxa yoko, kunzima ukuchacha kule meko ngaphandle koncedo lobuchwephesha. Ukuba iimpawu zakho ziya zisiba mandundu, okanye ukuba ukunyamekela umntwana wakho kuba ngumthwalo kuwe, kungcono ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo ngeemvakalelo zakho nogqirha wakho ngaphandle kokulibazisa.
Ugqirha wakho unokucebisa oku kulandelayo:
- Amayeza okudakumba: Ukuba uncancisa, qiniseka ukuba uxelele ugqirha wakho. Kukho amayeza amaninzi akhuselekileyo eentsana.
- Unyango lwengqondo: Ukuthetha nomcebisi wezempilo yengqondo nokufunda ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho kunokuba luncedo kakhulu.
- Iinkqubo zokuzilolonga nezondlo: Ukutya okunesondlo esifanelekileyo kunye nokuzilolonga okulula kunokunceda ukulawula iimpawu.
Ingcamango Engachanekanga 4: "Ndiyabona kwaye ndiyaziva izinto ezingekhoyo"
Le yingcamango ephosakeleyo neyiyingozi kakhulu. Ukubona izinto ezingekhoyo (imibono engabonakaliyo), ukuva izinto ezingekhoyo (iimbono ezingaqondakaliyo), okanye ukurhanela abanye ngendlela engaqhelekanga (i-paranoia) akuzompawu zokudandatheka emva kokuzalwa.
Ezi ziimpawu zesifo esingaqhelekanga kodwa esibi kakhulu esibizwa ngokuba yi-postpartum psychosis . Esi sifo sifuna unyango olukhawulezileyo. Le theyibhile ingezantsi iza kukunceda uqonde umahluko phakathi kwezi meko zintathu.
| Uphawu | 'Iiblues zomntwana' | Uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka (PPD) | Ingqondo Yasemva Kokubeleka |
|---|---|---|---|
| Ukuqheleka | Ixhaphake kakhulu | Okuqhelekileyo | Inqabile kakhulu kwaye inzulu |
| Iimpawu eziphambili | Ukuziva unomsindo, ulusizi, okanye ulila (ngaphantsi kweeveki ezi-2) | Usizi olukhulu, ukuphelelwa lithemba, ukulahlekelwa luvuyo kuyo nayiphi na into, ukucinga ukuba ungumzali ombi (uhlala iiveki ezingaphezu kwezimbini) | Ukubona/ukuva izinto ezingekhoyo (imibono), ukukhohlisa, ukudideka okukhulu, iingcinga zokuzilimaza okanye zokuzilimaza umntwana |
| Kwenziwe ntoni | Ukuphumla kunye nenkxaso yosapho. Iya kuphola ngokwayo. | Ngokuqinisekileyo bonana nogqirha. Uyaludinga unyango. | Le yingxamiseko yezonyango! Yiya kwiSebe lezeMpilo eziNgxamisekileyo (ETU) lesibhedlele ngoko nangoko. |
Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo uneengcinga zokuzilimaza yena okanye umntwana wakhe, musa ukukufihla oko. Yimeko engxamisekileyo yezonyango . Nceda uye kwiSebe lezeMpilo eziNgxamisekileyo lesibhedlele esikufutshane (ETU) ngoko nangoko.
Ingcamango Engachanekanga 5: "Oku kukwenza ube ngumzali ombi"
Le yingcamango engafanelekanga eza kukubangela intlungu enkulu, kodwa ekufuneka uyilibale ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ukudakumba emva kokubeletha akulobuthathaka bakho, kwaye akulophawu lokuba ungumama/tata ombi. Sisifo. Njengesifo seswekile okanye uxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu, yimeko ekufuneka inyangwe. Awuzange uzenzele oku.
Enyanisweni, ukucinga, "Ndingumntu osileleyo," "Andingomzali olungileyo," luphawu lwesi sifo. Ngoko ke musa ukuvumela ezo ngcinga zikulawule. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba ngumzali olungileyo kukuqonda ukuba udinga uncedo uze ulucele. Thetha nogqirha wakho, iqabane lakho, okanye umntu omthembayo ngento esengqondweni yakho. Awuwedwa.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Kukho iimeko ezimbini ezibizwa ngokuba yi-'baby blues', usizi lwexeshana, kunye noxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka (i-PPD). I-PPD ngokuqinisekileyo ifuna ingcebiso kagqirha.
- Le meko inokwenzeka kubo bobabini oomama nootata.
- I-PPD ayisiyonto inokunyangeka ngokutshintsha nje ingqondo yakho. Yimeko yezonyango enokunyangeka.
- Oku akulotyala lakho okanye luphawu lokuba ungumzali ombi. Yinxalenye yesi sifo. Musa ukoyika ukucela uncedo.
- Ukuba unengcinga zokuzilimaza okanye zokuzilimaza umntwana wakho, oko kungaba luphawu lwemeko embi ebizwa ngokuba yiPostpartum Psychosis. Le yingxamiseko yezonyango kwaye kufuneka uye kwiSebe leeNgxamiseko lesibhedlele (ETU) ngoko nangoko.
💬 Comments (0)
Akukho zimvo zithunyelweyo okwangoku. Faka uluvo lwakho apha okokuqala.
Faka uluvo lwakho