Umntu osebenza naye eofisini ebekhohlela kangangeentsuku, amehlo akhe abomvu, nempumlo yakhe iyavuza... kodwa xa umbuza, uthi, "Hayi, hayi, ngumkhuhlane nje, kulungile." Okanye ngaba wakha wambona umntu ehleli ecaleni kwakho kwinqwelo-moya esela ipilisi ngokufihlakeleyo? Sonke siye saba namava anje. Ngamanye amaxesha, senze into efana nale, nokuba siyazi okanye asiyazi. Oko kuthetha ukufihla isifo somzimba okanye isifo esosulelayo kwabanye.
Enyanisweni, uphando lwakutshanje lufumanise ukuba abantu abathathu kwabane (malunga nama-75%) bakhe bafihla isifo esosulelayo ngaxa lithile. Okumangalisayo kukuba, abasebenzi bezempilo abathandathu kwabalishumi nabo bavumile ukuba bafihla isifo ngale ndlela.
Kutheni ke abantu besenza oku? Zithini iziphumo ezinokubakho zoku? Singazikhusela njani thina kunye nabantu esibathandayo kule meko? Makhe sithethe ngokunzulu ngakumbi namhlanje.
Kutheni abantu befihla ukugula kwabo?
Akukho sizathu sinye sale nto, kodwa zininzi. Ezinye zazo sinokuziqonda, ngelixa ezinye zinokubonakala ngathi zinobugovu. Ezi zezinye zezizathu eziphambili ezifunyenwe luphando.
| Isizathu sokufihla ukugula | Kalula nje... |
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| Ukungafuni ukutsiba imicimbi yoluntu | "Owu, ngumtshato womhlobo wam namhlanje, andinakuphoswa yiyo ngenxa yale flu incinci." Okanye ukungafuni ukurhoxisa izinto ezifana nohambo okanye idethi endiyicwangcise ixesha elide. |
| Uxinzelelo olunxulumene nomsebenzi okanye imfundo | Ukungakwazi ukuthatha ikhefu ngenxa yentlanganiso ebalulekileyo eofisini, umhla wokugqibela weprojekthi, okanye uviwo lwaseyunivesithi. Uloyiko lokuba "ukuba andiyi kule nto, kuya kubakho ingxaki enkulu." |
| Ukuthandabuza ukukhathaza abanye | Ukufihla isifo, ecinga, "Ukuba ndingathi ndiyagula, usapho lwam kunye nabahlobo bam baya koyika kwaye oko kuya kubabangela ingxaki nabo." |
| Ukubona njengehlazo okanye ubuthathaka | Abanye abantu babona ukugula njengobuthathaka, njengokusempilweni kunabanye. Bafihla ukugula kwabo besoyika ukuba abanye baza kucinga ukuba "bahlala begula." |
| Ukuphepha ukuhlolwa | Ukuxoka ngeempawu xa ubuzwa ngazo emsebenzini okanye ngaphambi kokungena kwiiyunivesithi, njengoko kwakunjalo ngexesha lobhubhane we-COVID-19 . Kolunye uphando, ama-41% abafundi baseyunivesithi bazama ukufihla isifo ngale ndlela. |
Kukho iindlela ezimbini zokucinga xa uphilile kunye neendlela ezimbini zokucinga xa ugula!
Eyona ngxaki inkulu apha yile. Asikuko indlela esicinga ngayo xa siphilile kwaye silumkile, kodwa yindlela esicinga ngayo xa sigula. Cinga ngale ndlela. Usempilweni entle namhlanje. Ukuba umntu ebekubuza athi, "Ubungenza ntoni ukuba unomkhuhlane osulelayo kakhulu?" ubungathi, "Ewe bendingahlala ekhaya, bendingayi kosulela mntu." Yinto elungileyo leyo, kwaye yindlela esicinga ngayo sonke.
Kodwa... xa unomkhuhlane kwaye umzimba wakho ubuhlungu, ingqondo yakho inokutshintsha. Nazi ezinye izinto eziza engqondweni:
- "Ayiyonto inkulu le..."
- "Ukuba awukwenzi oko, yonke into iya kuba yingxubakaxaka..."
- "Ndiza kulumka xa ndibuyela umva..."
Izifundo zibonisa ukuba
xa abantu begula, abavavanyi ngokuchanekileyo ukuba basulelana kangakanani kwaye isifo abanokusibangela sibi kangakanani komnye umntu . Ngelo xesha, iingqondo zethu zigxile ekufezekiseni iinjongo zethu zangoku. Ukucinga ngeengozi zempilo kwabanye kuyaba yinto engathandekiyo.
Impembelelo kwimpilo yoluntu
Le ndlela yokuziphatha inokuba nefuthe elikhulu kuluntu ngokubanzi. Khawucinge nje, ukuba umntu omnye ebenokuhamba ngenqwelo-moya, ngebhasi, okanye eofisini enesifo esosulelayo, bangaphi abantu abanokosulelwa sisifo eso? Ukuba kukho umntu omdala, umfazi okhulelweyo, umntwana omncinci, okanye umntu onezinye izifo (umzekelo, isifo seswekile okanye isifo sentliziyo), nokuba lo '
mkhuhlane omncinci' unokuba yingozi kubo.
Ngoko ke senza ntoni? Sizikhusela njani?
Eli bali linamacala amabini. Elinye kukuzikhusela kwabanye. Elinye kukuziphatha kakuhle xa sigula.
1. Ukukhuselwa kwabanye
- Musa ukukholelwa nje kumazwi:Ukuba ubona umntu ebonakala egula (ekhohlela, ethimla, amehlo abomvu), kodwa athi "Ndiphilile," musa ukukholelwa ngokupheleleyo.
- Gcina umgama wakho: Gcina umgama omncinci kangangoko kunokwenzeka kumntu onjalo.
- Hlamba izandla zakho: Hlamba izandla zakho kakuhle ngesepha namanzi rhoqo, ingakumbi emva kokutyelela iindawo zikawonke-wonke.
- Nxiba imaski: Kukhuselekile kakhulu ukunxiba imaski xa ukwindawo enabantu abaninzi, okanye ukuba kukho umntu okungqongileyo obonakala egula.
2. Ziphathe kakuhle xa ugula
Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Siyibiza ngokuba 'ngumthetho wegolide'.
Ukuba awufuni abanye bagule, musa ukuvumela abanye bagule.
- Hlala ekhaya: Ukuba uzive ungaphilanga okanye uneempawu zesifo esosulelayo (umkhuhlane, ukukhohlela, ukuphefumla kancinci , iintlungu zomzimba ), nceda uhlale ekhaya. Impilo yabanye ibaluleke ngaphezu komsebenzi wakho okanye izicwangciso zakho zentlalo.
- Bona ugqirha: Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngento onayo, ungaqashi, bona ugqirha wakho ukuze akunike icebiso. Ngale ndlela, uya kwazi ukuba kufuneka uphumle ixesha elingakanani kwaye uhlale kude nabanye abantu.
- Yazisa abanye: Ukuba unesifo esosulelayo, luxanduva lwakho ukuxelela abo usandul’ ukudibana nabo ukuze nabo bakwazi ukujonga iimpawu.
Ukuba sonke sicinga kancinci size sizincame kancinci, singenza lukhulu ekulawuleni ukusasazeka kwezifo ezinje.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Abantu abaninzi (mhlawumbi kuquka nathi) bayalingeka ukuba bafihle into yokuba banesifo esosulelayo kwabanye ngenxa yezizathu zentlalo, zomsebenzi, okanye zobuqu.
- Sisenokungakhathali kangako ngeengozi ezinokubakho kwabanye xa sigula kunaxa sisempilweni, nto leyo esenza ukuba senze izigqibo ezingafanelekanga.
- Ukuze uzikhusele kwabanye, lumka xa umntu ebonakala egula, nokuba uthi "uphilile." Thatha amanyathelo okhuseleko afana nokugcina umgama kunye nokuhlamba izandla zakho .
- Ukuba uziva ugula, nceda uziphathe kakuhle. Ngokuhlala ekhaya nokulandela icebiso likagqirha wakho, ukhusela abanye, ingakumbi abo basengozini.
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