Ngamanye amaxesha sibona abantu ababonakala bonwabile kwaye bephumelela ngaphandle, kodwa ngaphakathi bafihla usizi noxinzelelo oluninzi. Mhlawumbi nawe ukhe waziva ngendlela efanayo. Olu hlobo lokuzibamba usizi nokuzenza ngathi wonwabile ngaphandle lunokuba luphawu lwesifo esibizwa ngokuba kukudandatheka.
Yintoni kanye kanye ingcinezelo?
Ngamafutshane, ukudakumba akuyonto nje yokuziva ulusizi. Akuyonto ephela emva kwexesha elithile. Ukudakumba yimeko yezonyango echaphazela ikhemikhali yengqondo yethu kwaye ifuna unyango . Njengesifo seswekile okanye uxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu, kunokuchaphazela nabani na, nokuba uneminyaka emingaphi, isini, umsebenzi, okanye imeko yakhe yentlalo.
Khawucinge nje, umntu onamandla, onesibindi njengepolisa. Uzinikela kuyo yonke imisebenzi, unceda abanye. Ubonakala ngathi ngumntu onamandla kakhulu ngaphandle. Kodwa xa efika ekhaya, ulwa naye kakhulu. Uziva ngathi akaphumeleli, ucaphuka kusapho lwakhe ngaphandle kwesizathu, aze akhale iiyure ezininzi eyedwa. Abantu abaninzi abazenza ngathi banamandla, ingakumbi amadoda, baneentloni kwaye bayoyika ukuthetha ngosizi noxinzelelo abaluvayo. Bacinga ukuba luphawu lobuthathaka.
Kodwa inyani yile, ukubandezeleka kukudandatheka akubobuthathaka. Eyona nto iyingozi kukungathethi ngako okanye ukucela uncedo. Ngamanye amaxesha, xa le meko inzima, iingcinga zokuzibulala zinokuvela.
Ngaba ezi mpawu uyaziqhelanisa nawe?
Kukho iimpawu ezininzi eziqhelekileyo ezihambisana nokudakumba. Ukuba unempawu enye okanye ezingaphezulu kwezi ezihlala ixesha elingaphezulu kweeveki ezimbini, kubalulekile ukuba uzihlole.
| Uphawu | Ingcaciso elula |
|---|---|
| Utshintsho ekutyeni | Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla wokutya okanye ukutya kakhulu. Oku kunokukhokelela ekwehleni okanye ekunyukeni kobunzima ngengozi. |
| Iingxaki zokulala | Ukungalali okanye ukozela emini kunye nokulala kakhulu. |
| Ukudinwa kakhulu kunye nokudinwa | Ukuziva udiniwe kakhulu nangona ungenzi msebenzi, uzive ngathi awunawo amandla okwenza nantoni na. |
| Ukungazoli nokucaphuka | Ndiziva ndingakhululekanga, ndicaphuka ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yezinto ezincinci. |
| Ukuziva ungento yanto ngawe | Ukuba neengcinga ezinje ngokuthi "Andinamsebenzi", "Akukho mntu undikhathaleleyo", nokuzibeka ityala ngezinto ezingeyomfuneko. |
| Ubunzima bokugxila | Ubunzima bokucinga ngento ethile, ukwenza izigqibo, okanye ukugxila kumsebenzi othile. |
| Ukudana bubomi kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala | Ukuba neengcinga zokuzibulala okanye ukuzama ukuzibulala. Le yimeko eyingozi kakhulu kwaye ifuna unyango olukhawulezileyo. |
Le meko iyichaphazela njani indawo yokusebenza?
Ukuba ungumntu osebenzayo, ukudakumba kunokuchaphazela nomsebenzi wakho.
- Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla wokuya emsebenzini, ukuya emsebenzini emva kwexesha.
- Ukulahlekelwa luvuyo emsebenzini wakho.
- Ukungakwazi ukwenza umsebenzi ngokufanelekileyo, ukunciphisa ukusebenza kakuhle.
- Ukuziva ulele ngelixa usebenza.
- Ukuzama ukuhlala kude nabanye abantu nokuba wedwa.
Musa ukoyika ukufumana uncedo: Simele senze ntoni?
Ukuba ucinga ukuba unale mpawu, nceda ungabi wedwa. Ukucela uncedo kuyakunika amandla. Nazi ezinye zezinto onokuzenza.
1. Bona ugqirha wakho kuqala.
Eli lelona nyathelo libalulekileyo nelokuqala. Iimpawu ozibonayo zinokubangelwa yenye imeko yomzimba. Umzekelo, iimeko ezifana neengxaki ze-thyroid okanye iswekile ephantsi yegazi (i-hypoglycemia) nazo zinokubangela iimpawu ezifana nokudakumba. Ke ngoko, qala ngokuqhagamshelana nogqirha wakho wosapho.Yenza uhlolo olupheleleyo. Angafumanisa ukuba unantoni na aze akunike ulwalathiso olufanelekileyo.
2. Ukudluliselwa kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo
Ukuba ugqirha wakho uyakuxilonga aze akrokre ukuba unesifo sokudakumba, uza kukuthumela kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo (Psychiatrist) . Okanye, angakucebisa ukuba ubone ingcali yezengqondo. Akukho sizathu sokoyika oku. Ngabantu abafumene uqeqesho olukhethekileyo kweli candelo.
- Unyango: Kukho unyango olusebenzayo kakhulu lokudakumba. Amayeza (Amayeza okudakumba), unyango lwengqondo kunye nonyango (iPsychotherapy kunye neCounseling) zezona ziphambili. Kwezinye iimeko ezinzima, ezinye iindlela zonyango ezifana ne-ECT (i-Electroconvulsive Therapy) nazo zingasetyenziswa. Ezi ngoku ziindlela zonyango ezikhuselekileyo kakhulu, ezenziwa phantsi kobuchwepheshe banamhlanje.
3. Gcina indlela yokuphila esempilweni
Ngelixa usenza unyango, ukwenza utshintsho oluncinci kwindlela ophila ngayo kunokunceda kakhulu kwinkqubo yokuphiliswa.
- Yitya ukutya okunesondlo .
- Zilolonge yonke imihla kangangoko unako. Nokuba uhamba nje imizuzu engama-30 yinto enkulu.
- Nokuba uziva unesizungu kangakanani na, zama ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo kunye nosapho . Ukuba nentlalontle kulungile kuwe. Ukuba uzinyanzela ukuba uphume, uza kuqala ukuziva ungcono kungekudala.
Khumbula, ukuchacha kwingxaki yokudakumba kuthatha ixesha. Kuza kubakho iintsuku ezilungileyo nezimbi endleleni. Kodwa ungayeki. Ngonyango olufanelekileyo kunye nenkxaso yabantu obathandayo, ngokuqinisekileyo ungachacha kule meko.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukudakumba akubobuthathaka, yimeko enokunyangeka ngokupheleleyo ngonyango.
- Musa ukugcina intlungu yakho noxinzelelo lwakho kuwe. Thetha nomhlobo othembekileyo, ilungu losapho, okanye ugqirha wakho ngale nto.
- Ukuba uneempawu ezichazwe kweli nqaku, qiniseka ukuba ubonana nogqirha.
- Ngonyango olufanelekileyo, ingcebiso, kunye nemizamo yakho, ungoyisa le meko kwaye uphile ngolonwabo kwakhona.
- Awuwedwa konke konke. Ukucela uncedo akulophawu lokoyiswa, luphawu lwamandla.
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