Uvuyo lokuzisa umntwana ekhaya alunakuchazwa, akunjalo? Elo vumba litsha, ezo zandla neenyawo ezincinci... Ubomi bumalunga nokuvuselelwa. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, kunye nolo vuyo, ungaziva usizi oluninzi, umthwalo, isizungu, nomsindo. "Kutheni oku kusenzeka kum? Andingomama olungileyo?" Ngaba wakha wazibuza? Ukuba uziva ngaloo ndlela, qala ukhumbule ukuba awuwedwa. Namhlanje, sithetha ngale meko ichaphazela oomama abaninzi kwihlabathi liphela, njengani, nina ningoomama abatsha, kodwa kungathethwa kakhulu ngayo kuluntu lwethu.
Yintoni i-Postpartum Depression?
Ngamafutshane, ukudakumba emva kokuzalwa (PPD) luhlobo lokudakumba oluncinci, oluhlala ixesha elide, nolunzima oluvela emva kokubeleka. Ngoku usenokuba ucinga, "Wonke umntu unengxaki emva kokuba nomntwana. Bayakhala, badiniwe, oko kuqhelekile, akunjalo?" Ewe, yinyani.
Oomama abaninzi baziva belusizi, becaphukile, kwaye belila kwiiveki ezimbini zokuqala emva kokuba benomntwana. Oku sikubiza ngokuba yi "baby blues." Le yimeko eqhelekileyo ebangelwa kukutshintsha kweehomoni, ukudinwa, kunye nokungalali. Ihlala iphela yodwa kwiiveki ezimbini.
Kodwa ukudakumba emva kokubeleka (PPD) yinto eyahlukileyo. Ezi mvakalelo zihlala ngaphezu kweeveki ezimbini, ziya ziba mandundu imihla ngemihla, kwaye ziphazamisana nobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla kangangokuba awukwazi nokusebenza kakuhle. Malunga nomnye kumama abasixhenxe abatsha unokufumana le meko. Ngamanye amaxesha, ezi mpawu zinokuqala ngexesha lokukhulelwa.
Ziziphi iimpawu eziphambili zokudakumba emva kokubeleka?
Jonga ukuze ubone ukuba wena okanye umama osandul’ ukuzalwa omaziyo unazo na ezi mpawu. Ukuba unenye okanye ngaphezulu kwezi mpawu zilandelelana, kubalulekile ukuba unikele ingqalelo.
| Uphawu | Ithetha ntoni le nto? |
|---|---|
| Usizi olungapheliyo | Ukuba usaziva ulusizi, ungenathemba, kwaye udandatheka ngakumbi emva kweeveki ezimbini zokuqala, oko kungaphezulu nje kokuba "usana ludandathekile" oluqhelekileyo. |
| Ndihlala ndiziva ndilusizi kwaye ndinetyala | Ukuba ukhala iiyure ezininzi ngenxa yezinto ezincinci, kwaye ingqondo yakho izaliswe ziingcinga ezifana nokuthi "Andingomama olungileyo" kunye nokuthi "Ndibangela ingxaki kumntwana," oko kungaba luphawu lwe-PPD. |
| Oko bendikuthanda ukukwenza ngoku kuyadinisa. | Ngaba uphelelwe ngumdla okanye umnqweno wokwenza izinto obuzithanda ngaphambi kokuba ube nomntwana (ukubukela iTV, ukuthetha nomhlobo, ukufunda incwadi)? |
| Ubunzima bokwenza izigqibo nokugxila | Ngaba uziva uphazamisekile kangangokuba awukwazi nokwenza izigqibo ezilula ezifana nokuba uvuke ebhedini okanye hayi, nokuba uhlambe okanye hayi, okanye nokuba utshintshe inabukeni yomntwana wakho? |
| Utshintsho olukhulu ekutyeni nasekulaleleni | Ngaba awukwazi ukulala nokuba umntwana ulele? Okanye ulele imini yonke? Awufuni kutya konke konke? Okanye utya kakhulu? Ezi zinto zahlukile ekudinweni okuqhelekileyo. |
| Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kumntwana | Ngaba ukufumanisa kunzima ukusondelelana nomntwana wakho? Ngaba uphelelwe ngumdla wokunyamekela umntwana wakho okanye ukudlala naye? Usenokuziva ngathi "lo asingomntwana wam." |
| Iingcinga zokuzilimaza wena okanye umntwana wakho | Le yimeko enzima kakhulu nengxamisekileyo. Ukuba ucinga ngokuzibulala, ukuzenzakalisa, okanye ukwenzakalisa umntwana wakho, isenokuba yimeko enzima ye-PPD okanye imeko embi ngakumbi ebizwa ngokuba yi-postpartum psychosis . |
Kuthekani ukuba uziva ufuna ukuzilimaza okanye ukonzakalisa umntwana wakho?
Le yingxamiseko yezonyango engafanele ilibaziseki. Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo unezi ngcinga, ncedaYiya kwigumbi likaxakeka lesibhedlele elikufutshane (ETU) okanye utsalele umnxeba ugqirha wakho ngokukhawuleza. Oku akunanto yakwenza neentloni, yimeko yezonyango. Ukufumana uncedo ngokukhawuleza kunokusindisa ubomi bakho nobomntwana wakho.
Ndingalufumana njani uncedo kule meko?
Eyona nto ilungileyo kukuba, le yimeko enokunyangeka ngokupheleleyo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ulwe nayo wedwa.
Ngokwesiqhelo uza kuhlolwa ngugqirha wakho phakathi kweeveki ezi-2 nezi-6 emva kokuba umntwana wakho ezelwe. Ngelo xesha, ugqirha uza kukubuza imibuzo malunga nokuphila kakuhle komzimba nengqondo yakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba unyaniseke kugqirha wakho malunga neemvakalelo zakho, ungafihli nto.
Ukuba unezi mpawu, qiniseka ukuba ubona ugqirha:
- Ukuba iimvakalelo zakho ezibuhlungu zihlala ngaphezu kweeveki ezimbini .
- Ukuba ezo mvakalelo zibonakala zisiba mandundu imihla ngemihla.
- Ukuba ukunyamekela umntwana kube ngumthwalo omkhulu kuwe.
- Ukuba ukufumanisa kunzima ukwenza nemisebenzi yasekhaya yemihla ngemihla .
- Ukuba unokucinga nokuzenzakalisa okanye ukwenzakalisa umntwana wakho (le yimeko engxamisekileyo!).
Ugqirha wakho uza kuvavanya imeko yakho aze amisele eyona ndlela ilungileyo yonyango. Oku kungabandakanya:
- Unyango Lokuthetha: Ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho nomcebisi okanye ingcali yezengqondo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu.
- Amayeza: Ngamanye amaxesha amayeza anokufuneka ukulinganisela iikhemikhali zobuchopho. Ezi zinokubandakanya amayeza okudakumba okanye amayeza okulwa nokuxhalaba . Kukho amayeza akhuselekileyo nakumama oncancisayo.
- Amaqela eNkxaso: Ukuthetha nabanye oomama abaye baba namava afanayo kunokukunceda uzive ngathi awuwedwa.
Ziziphi izinto ezibangela uxinezeleko emva kokubeleka?
Nangona le meko inokwenzeka nakubani na, abanye abantu basengozini enkulu.
- Ukuba wena okanye umntu kusapho lwakho ukhe waba noxinzelelo ngaphambili.
- Ukuba kukho iingxaki emtshatweni okanye kubudlelwane bakho.
- Ukuba uwedwa kungekho mntu ukukuncedayo okanye othetha naye.
- Ukuba ubuneemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo (zombini zovuyo nezibuhlungu) malunga nokukhulelwa kwakho.
- Ukuba ukukhulelwa bekunzima (umzekelo, ukuba ufumene izifo ezahlukeneyo, okanye ukuba ubelethe ngaphambi kwexesha).
- Ukuba umntwana uneengxaki zempilo.
- Ukuba ngumama ongatshatanga okanye ukuba ngumama usemncinci, ungaphantsi kweminyaka engama-20.
- Ukuba unabantwana abaninzi ngaxeshanye, njengamawele okanye amawele amathathu.
Ukuba unazo ezi zinto zinobungozi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uzazi kwangethuba kwaye ulungele ukucela uncedo xa lufuneka.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukudakumba emva kokubeleka akubangelwa bubuthathaka okanye ukungafaneleki kwakho, yimeko yempilo ekufuneka inyangwe.
- Usizi oluqhelekileyo oluza nomntwana kwiiveki ezimbini zokuqala ("usana olune-blues") kunye ne-PPD zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Ukuba usizi okanye umsindo uhlala ixesha elingaphezu kweeveki ezimbini, xhalaba.
- Thetha neqabane lakho, usapho, okanye umhlobo othembekileyo malunga neemvakalelo zakho, ingakumbi malunga nosizi kunye nokuba wedwa ozivayo. Ngamandla amakhulu.
- Ungaze ube neentloni zokuthetha ngale nto. Musa ukulibazisa ucele uncedo kugqirha wakho. Okukhona uqala unyango ngokukhawuleza, kokukhona ungaphola ngokukhawuleza.
- Ukuba uneengcinga zokuzilimaza okanye zokuzilimaza umntwana wakho, yingxamiseko yezonyango leyo. Yiya kwi -ETU yesibhedlele (iYunithi yoNyango oluNgxamisekileyo) ngoko nangoko.
- Awuwedwa. Baninzi abantu abanokukunceda, kwaye ngonyango olufanelekileyo, ungabuyela ebomini bakho obuqhelekileyo kwaye wonwabe nomntwana wakho.
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