Ngaba nawe ukhe ube noloyiko okanye ukungakhululeki okungaqhelekanga xa ubona abantwana abancinci? Ngaba yi-Ephebiphobia?

Ngaba wakha waphawula ukuba abanye abantu abadala baneentloni kwaye bayaxakeka xa bebona abantu abaselula, oko kukuthi, abantu abadala? Mhlawumbi nawe ukhe waba namava anjalo. Oku akusiyonto nje yokungathandi, ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba yinto enzulu ngaphezu koko. Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngemeko enjalo.

Ngoko ke yintoni i-Ephebiphobia?

Ngamafutshane, i-Ephebiphobia luloyiko olugqithisileyo nolungaqhelekanga kubantu abancinci, ngesiqhelo abakwishumi elivisayo, abaphakathi kweminyaka eli-13 neli-19 ubudala. Olu asiloloyiko nje oluncinci, kwabanye abantu olu loyiko lunzima kangangokuba lunokuba nefuthe elikhulu kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla.

Igama elithi "ephebiphobia" lenziwe ngamagama amabini esiGrike. Igama elithi "ephebos" lithetha "ubutsha" okanye "ubutsha" kwaye elithi "phobos" lithetha "uloyiko." Ngoko ke xa ezi zimbini zidityanisiwe, lithetha "uloyiko lwabantu abancinci."

Yintoni enokuba ngunobangela wolu loyiko?

Umntu one-ephebiphobia unokuba noloyiko lwento enxulumene nabantwana abancinci. Oku kuthetha ukuba uloyiko lunokuphakama nokuba ubona abantwana abancinci ubuso ngobuso, kwi-intanethi, okanye kwiTV. Cinga ngoku kulandelayo:

• Ii-Arcades
• Iipaki zokuzonwabisa
• Izikolo ezineeklasi ezinkulu kancinci, oko kuthetha izikolo zamabanga aphantsi okanye aphakamileyo
• Iibhayoskopu
• Iivenkile ezinkulu
• Iidrama zeTV okanye iimuvi ezibonisa abantwana abancinci

Usenokuba ucinga, "Owu, ngubani ongayithandi indawo enjalo?" Kodwa oku akusiyonto yokungathandi nje kuphela. Olu luloyiko olukhulu.

Yintoni kanye kanye i-phobia?

Sihlala sisiva igama elithi "Phobia". I-phobia luloyiko olugqithisileyo, olungaqhelekanga nolungenangqiqo ngento ethile, umntu, isilwanyana, indawo okanye imeko. Le yimeko yengqondo ewela phantsi koluhlu lweengxaki zokuxhalaba . Into ebalulekileyo kukuba into ebangela olu loyiko ayisoloko iyingozi kakhulu. Kodwa kumntu onoloyiko, luvakala ngathi luyisongelo olukhulu.

Ixhaphake kangakanani le meko? Ngubani onokuba nayo kakhulu?

Enyanisweni, ii-phobias zinokuchaphazela nabani na, ukususela kubantwana ukuya kulutsha ukuya kubantu abadala. Uphando lubonisa ukuba malunga nomntu omnye kwabalishumi abadala baseMelika uza kuba nesifo esithile se-phobia ngaxa lithile ebomini bakhe. Nangona kunjalo, akukho zibalo zichanekileyo malunga nokuba bangaphi abantu abadala abane-ephebiphobia ngokukodwa.

Oogqirha abakakwazi ukutsho ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kutheni abanye abantu beba neentloni ngokukhawuleza kunabanye. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntu kusapho lwakho uneentloni okanye ezinye iimeko ezinxulumene nokuxhalaba, usenokuba namathuba amaninzi okuba nazo.

Rhoqo kubakho i-phobiaIndibaniselwano yeempembelelo zakho zemfuza (oko kukuthi, izinto ezivela kwiimfuza zakho) kunye neempembelelo zendawo ohlala kuyo. Usenokuba nethuba elikhulu lokufumana i-ephebiphobia ngenxa yezi zizathu zilandelayo:

• Ukuba sibona, sifunda, size sive iindaba ezimbi ngabantu abaselula nezenzo zabo ngalo lonke ixesha, khawucinge ukuba amaphephandaba ebesoloko epapasha amabali amakhulu malunga neempazamo ezenziwa ngabantu abaselula, nokuba iTV ibibonisa ezo zinto.
• Ukuba uhlala ubona izinto kwi-social media ezibonisa abantwana abancinci ngendlela embi nengachanekanga.
• Ukuba wakha waba lixhoba lolwaphulo-mthetho okanye ukuxhatshazwa ngumntu oselula okanye iqela labantu abaselula.
• Ukuba kukho iingxelo ezingaphezulu zezenzo zobundlobongela kunye neziganeko ezinzulu ezenziwe lulutsha kwindawo ohlala kuyo.

Amava anje angenza umfanekiso ombi ngabantu abaselula. Ungaqala ukucinga, "Wonke umntu omtsha unje."

Ngaba zikho ezinye iintlobo zoloyiko ezinxulumene noloyiko lwabantu abaselula?

Ewe, akuqhelekanga ukuba neentloni ezingaphezu kwesinye. Kuqhelekile ukuba neentloni ezininzi ezinxulumeneyo kunye. Umntu owoyika abantu abaselula usenokuba nezinye iintloni, ezinje:

• I-Pedophobia (ekwaziwa ngokuba yiPediaphobia): Ukoyika iintsana nabantwana abancinci.
• I-Gerontophobia: Ukoyika abantu abadala.

Zithini iimpawu zomntu one-Ephebiphobia?

Abantu abane-phobia efana ne-ephebiphobia badla ngokuyazi ukuba uloyiko lwabo aluqhelekanga kwaye alunangqondo. Nangona kunjalo, banengxaki yokulawula indlela imizimba yabo esabela ngayo xa bebona okanye becinga ngento abayoyikayo.

Ezi mpawu zinokuvela xa ukufutshane nabantwana abancinci, xa ubona imifanekiso yabo, okanye xa ucinga ngabantwana abancinci. Nazi ezinye zazo:

• Ukuziva unesizungu (vertigo) .
• Umlomo owomileyo .
• Ukuziva uloyiko olukhulu kunye nexhala.
• Ukuziva unesicaphucaphu , mhlawumbi unesifo sorhudo.
• Ukubila kakhulu .
• Ukuphefumla ngokukhawuleza kunye nesantya sentliziyo .
• Ukungcangcazela okanye ukungcangcazela .

Ezi mpawu zinokuvela ngequbuliso, zibangele ixhala, ukubila, kunye nobunzima bokuphefumla. Sikwabiza oku ngokuba luhlaselo loloyiko .

Uyibona njani ngokuchanekileyo le nto njenge-phobia?

I-American Psychiatric Association ayilubeki ngokusemthethweni uloyiko oluthile njengoloyiko oluthile kwincwadi yayo yokuxilonga, i-DSM-5 . Nangona kunjalo, ugqirha wengqondo okanye omnye umntu oqeqeshiweyo wezempilo unokuvavanya iimpawu zakho aze afumanise ukuba unayo na.I-phobia ethile ikwabizwa ngokuba yi-"phobia ethile".

Usenokukrokrela ukuba une-phobia ethile ukuba ufumana nayiphi na kwezi zilandelayo:

• Ukuba uziva uxhalabile kakhulu xa ucinga ngabantwana abancinci.
• Ukuba uziva uboyika abantwana abancinci phantse yonke imihla, kwaye ukuba oko kuqhubeka ubuncinane iinyanga ezintandathu .
• Ukuba ezi mpawu zikhankanyiweyo apha ngasentla zibonakala phantse ngalo lonke ixesha ucinga okanye ubona abantwana abancinci.
• Ukuba indlela oziphatha ngayo itshintshile, umzekelo, ukuba uyaziphepha iindawo apho abantwana abancinci bechitha ixesha khona.
• Ukuba olu loyiko lunciphise umgangatho wobomi bakho, oko kuthetha ukuba lube ngumqobo kwindlela okwazi ngayo ukwenza imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla kwaye wonwabe.

Zithini iindlela zonyango zesi sifo? Simele senze ntoni?

Ungaziqhelanisa neendlela zokuphumla ukuze zikuncede ulawule uloyiko oluvayo xa ubona okanye ucinga ngabantwana abancinci. Umzekelo, ungenza izinto ezifana neyoga, ukucamngca, kunye nokuphefumla nzulu. Ezi zinokukunceda ukunciphisa ixhala lakho kunye nezinye iimpawu.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba le yimeko enzima ngakumbi, kungcono ukufuna uncedo kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo . Baza kukunceda woyise olu loyiko. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zonyango eziphambili:

Unyango lokuthetha (Unyango lokuziphatha ngokwengqondo - CBT)

I-CBT luhlobo lwe-psychotherapy. Ibandakanya ukuthetha nogqirha wengqondo malunga noloyiko lwakho kunye neemeko ezilubangelayo. Oku kukunceda uqonde ukuba kutheni uvakalelwa ngendlela ovakalelwa ngayo. Ukusebenzisa olo lwazi, ungatshintsha indlela osabela ngayo kulutsha. Ngamafutshane, kubandakanya ukutshintsha iindlela zakho zokucinga, kwaye ngaloo ndlela, ukutshintsha indlela oziphatha ngayo.

Unyango lokuvezwa

Olu luhlobo lwe-psychotherapy. Kule nto, ingcali yakho yezonyango iya kukutyhila kancinci nangokucwangcisiweyo kwimifanekiso nakwiimeko ezibandakanya abantwana abancinci. Okokuqala, ungaboniswa umfanekiso womntwana omncinci, uze emva koko uboniswe ividiyo, uze emva koko umntwana omncinci ukude. Kancinci kancinci, uya kukhululeka ngakumbi kwezi zinto. Njengoko utyhileka ngale ndlela, uloyiko lwakho luya kuncipha kancinci kancinci. Ekugqibeleni, uya kukwazi ukuzilungiselela ukuya kwiindawo apho kukho abantwana abancinci, njengeevenkile ezinkulu. Olu nyango kuthiwa luphumelele kwi-90% yabantu abane-phobia ethile.

Unyango lwe-hypnotherapy

Kwi-hypnotherapy, ingcali yakho yezonyango ikubeka kwimeko ye-hypnotic. Kule meko ye-hypnotic, bakunceda ufumane iinkumbulo ezifihlakeleyo, iingcinga, kunye neemvakalelo (ingakumbi ezo zinxulumene noloyiko malunga nabantu abancinci). Ngelixa ukwi-hypnosis, ungatshintsha iindlela zakho zokucinga kwaye uxoxe ngezi zinto zifunyenweyo kamva kwiiseshoni ze-psychotherapy eziqhelekileyo.

Amayeza

Ngelixa usenza unyango olukhankanyiweyo apha ngasentla, ugqirha wakho unokukunika amayeza okulwa noxinzelelo okanye amayeza okudakumba . La mayeza anokukunceda ukulawula iimpawu zakho zokuxhalaba. Kusenokungafuneki uqhubeke nokusebenzisa la mayeza emva kokuba unyango lwakho luphelile.

Zeziphi iingxaki ezinokwenzeka ukuba azinyangwa?

Olu loyiko ngolutsha lunokukwenza uphephe iindawo apho ulutsha luchitha ixesha khona, kwaye uphephe iimeko apho lukhoyo. Usenokuphepha neenkqubo zeTV, iimuvi, kunye neendaba zoluntu ezibonisa ulutsha. Xa uphepha yonke into ngale ndlela, ungaphoswa zizinto ekufuneka uzenze ebomini, kwanezinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzenze.

Iimeko ze-Phobic nazo zonyusa umngcipheko wezi zinto zilandelayo:

• Uxinzelelo, ukuzenza ikheswa, iingcinga zokuzibulala.
• Ukuhlaselwa luloyiko kunye nengxaki yoloyiko.
• Ingxaki yokusebenzisa iziyobisi.

Ngoko ke ukuba unemeko efana nale, akulunganga ukuyityeshela. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumana uncedo.

Ndifanele ndibonane nogqirha nini?

Ukuba ufumana nayiphi na kwezi zinto, qiniseka ukuba ubona ugqirha:

• Ukuba usoloko uhlaselwa luloyiko .
• Ukuba unexhala elingapheliyo eliphazamisana nobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla kunye nokulala kwakho.
• Ukuba ubonisa iimpawu zokudakumba , okanye ukuba uziva ngathi uguqukela kwiziyobisi okanye utywala.

Yeyiphi imibuzo ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyibuze ugqirha?

Xa usiya kugqirha, kungcono ukubuza imibuzo efana nale:

• Kutheni ndine-phobia enjalo?
• Yeyiphi indlela yonyango engcono kum?
• Ngaba kufuneka ndizame unyango lokubona umntu ebonakala engaphandle?
• Kuza kufuneka ndifumane unyango ixesha elingakanani?
• Ndingafumana uncedo kumayeza?
• Ngaba kufuneka ndikhathazeke ngezinye iingxaki ezinokuvela ngenxa yale meko?

Okokugqibela, izinto ekufuneka uzikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

I-Ephebiphobia, uloyiko lwabantu abaselula, inokukwenza woyike ukuphuma, udibane nabantu, kwaye uye kwiindawo apho kukho abantu abaselula. Usenokubajonga bonke abantu abaselula njengabantu abaziphatha kakubi nabanobundlobongela. Olu loyiko lunokubangelwa ngamava amabi owakhe wawafumana nomntu oselula, okanye ngokuhlala ubona izinto ezimbi ngolutsha kwiindaba.

Eyona nto ilungileyo kukuba, le ayiyonto ekufuneka uyidlule wedwa. Umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo angakunceda woyise olu loyiko esebenzisa izinto ezifana nonyango lokuthetha kunye nonyango lokubona umntu echaphazeleka. Awuwedwa, kwaye ungoyiki ukucela uncedo.

I- Ephebiphobia, Uloyiko lwabantu abancinci, I-Phobia, Ixhala, Impilo yengqondo, Unyango