Ukukunceda uhlale usempilweni njengoko ukhula: Ngubani ugqirha wezifo zabantwana?

Ukwaluphala yinto eqhelekileyo kuthi sonke. Njengoko sikhula, imizimba neengqondo zethu zitshintsha ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kwaye izifo ezintsha zinokuvela. Ngoko ke, ngamaxesha anje, bekuya kuba luncedo kangakanani ukuba nogqirha ogxila kwiingxaki zempilo zabantu abadala? Lolo hlobo lwengcali esiza kuthetha ngayo namhlanje , 'uGqirha weeNgcali' .

Ngubani kanye kanye ugqirha wezifo zabantwana?

Ngamafutshane, ingcali yezonyango zabantu abadala ngugqirha ofumene uqeqesho olukhethekileyo kwimpilo yabantu abadala, oko kukuthi, oomama bethu, ootata bethu, ootatomkhulu noomakhulu, njl. Ngamanye amaxesha babizwa ngokuba 'ngooGqirha bezonyango zabantu abadala'. Baxilonga kwaye banyange iintlobo ngeentlobo zezifo ezenzeka njengoko sikhula. Bakwakunceda ucwangcise isicwangciso sonyango esikusebenzela kakuhle, ngokuthetha ngeemfuno zakho, izinto ozithandayo, nezinto ongazithandiyo. Akulunganga oko?

Aba gqirha balupheleyo ngoogqirha abafumene uqeqesho olusisiseko njengoogqirha abaqhelekileyo (`Iyeza Langaphakathi`) okanye oogqirha bosapho (`Iyeza Losapho`), baze emva koko bafumana uqeqesho olongezelelweyo kwicandelo lezonyango zabantu abadala (`Iyeza Labalupheleyo`). Basenokusebenza njengenxalenye yesibhedlele ``Iziko Lezonyango Lwabalupheleyo``, okanye banokusebenza kwiziko lezonyango labucala. Abanye basebenza nabantu abadala ``kwiindawo zokhathalelo lwexesha elide`` okanye ``izibonelelo zokuvuselela``. Kukwakho nelinye iqela elibizwa ngokuba yi``Iingcali Zonyango Lwabalupheleyo``, elikwasebenza nentlalo-ntle yabantu abadala, kodwa ugqirha wabadala naye ungugqirha. Uyawuqonda umahluko?

Ingcali yezempilo ingakunceda njani?

Ugqirha wezifo zabantwana ubona wena njengomntu opheleleyo . Oku kuthetha ukuba uyayiqwalasela iimfuno zakho zomzimba, zengqondo, zengqondo, nezentlalo. Usebenzisa lonke olu lwazi ukukunika unyango kunye neengcebiso. Nazi ezinye zezinto ugqirha wezifo zabantwana angakwenzela zona:

• Ukuxilongwa kwesifo: Sifumanisa ukuba zeziphi izifo ezahlukeneyo onazo.
• Ukunika amayeza kunye nolunye unyango: Ukunika amayeza afunekayo, iivithamini, kunye nolunye unyango olufanelekileyo.
• Jonga iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zamayeza: Soloko ujonga ukuba amayeza owasebenzisayo abangela naziphi na iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga. Ukuba zikhona, unokutshintsha umyalelo weyeza.
• Ukuthetha ngezinto ezilungileyo nezingalunganga zonyango: Xa usenza unyango olukhulu olufana notyando, uya kwaziswa ngokucacileyo ngezinto ezilungileyo nezingalunganga kunye neengozi.
• Ukusebenzisana nabanye ababoneleli ngeenkonzo zempilo: Siza kulungiselela ukuba ufumane iinkonzo ezikhethekileyo ozifunayo, umzekelo, ingcali yomhlaza okanye ingcali yemithambo-luvo.
• Ukuxoxa ngemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla: Siza kuxoxa ngesakhono sakho sokwenza imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla size sikunike iingcebiso ngotshintsho kwindlela yokuphila ukuba kuyimfuneko. Umzekelo, ukuba akusekho khuselekile ukuqhuba imoto wedwa okanye ukuba kuyingozi ukuhlala wedwa ekhaya, siza kuxoxa ngale micimbi size sikuncede uthathe amanyathelo afanelekileyo.
• Ucwangciso Olucwangcisiweyo Ngaphambi Konyango: Olu ludaba olunobuzaza, kodwa lubaluleke kakhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha sisenokungakwazi ukwenza izigqibo malunga nempilo yethu kwixesha elizayo. Kwimeko enjalo, singakukhokela wena nosapho lwakho ekucwangciseni kwangaphambili indlela ofuna unyango lwakho lwenziwe ngayo, ngokweminqweno yakho.

Iingcali zoogqirha babantwana abalupheleyo ziyazi ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu ofana nawe. Khawuthelekelele ukuba omnye umntu unesifo esifana nesakho, kodwa unyango abalukhethayo kunye nendlela abaphila ngayo isenokuhluka kakhulu kweyakho. Kwabanye, ukuzimela kwabo kubaluleke kakhulu kunayo nayiphi na enye into. Abanye bakhetha ukuba nomntu ohlala nabo iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku ukuze abancede. Abanye bazama ukunciphisa amayeza abo kwaye baphephe utyando kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Abanye bafuna ukuzama lonke unyango olunokwenzeka.

"Ugqirha wezifo zabantu abadala uza kuthetha nawe aze akuncede uqonde eyona nto uyifunayo kakhulu kunye nendlela onokuzifikelela ngayo ezo njongo . Baza kukuchazela nokuba zeziphi ezinye iindlela ezikhoyo ukuba iminqweno yakho esisiseko ayinakufezekiswa, okanye ukuba iyingozi kuwe. Baza kubandakanya nabantu obathandayo kuyo yonke le nto, beqinisekisa ukuba ukhululekile kwaye wonwabile kangangoko malunga nesicwangciso sakho sonyango."

Yintoni 'iQela loNyango lwabantu abadala'?

Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. ' Iqela leNkathalelo yabaGcinileyo' liqela leengcali zonyango lwabaGcinileyo kunye nabanye abasebenzi bezempilo abasebenza kunye ukunyamekela abantu abadala. Bavavanya iimfuno zakho kwaye banyange naziphi na iimeko zempilo ezinokuchaphazela umzimba nengqondo yakho.

Ukongeza koogqirha beminyaka yobudala, eli qela lingabandakanya nabanye. Umzekelo:

• Iingcali zokutya: Abantu abakunika iingcebiso malunga nokutya kwakho.
• Iingcali zabahlengikazi: Abo babonelela ngononophelo ngokunceda oogqirha.
• Iingcali zonyango lomsebenzi: Abantu abanceda abantu ukuba benze imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla ngokulula.
• Iingcali zeKhemesti: Abantu abakunika iingcebiso malunga namayeza owasebenzisayo kunye nokusebenzisana kwawo.
• Iingcali zokuNyanga: Abo banyanga iingxaki ezinxulumene nokuzilolonga, amalungu kunye nemisipha.
• Abancedisi booGqirha: Abo babona izigulana phantsi kweliso loogqirha.
• Iingcali zengqondo kunye neengcali zengqondo:Abo banika iingcebiso kunye nonyango lweengxaki zempilo yengqondo.
• Abasebenzi beNtlalontle: Abantu abanceda ngeengxaki zentlalo nezoqoqosho baze babakhokelele kwizixhobo abazidingayo.
• Iingcali Zokuthetha Nokuva: Abantu abanceda ngeengxaki zokuthetha okanye zokuva.

Inyaniso kukuba, ayinguye wonke umntu onokumfumana lula ugqirha wezifo zabantu abadala okanye iqela elinjalo lokhathalelo. Kuyahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwindawo ohlala kuyo, isicwangciso sakho se-inshurensi yezempilo, njl. Kwimeko ezinjalo, ungasebenza nogqirha wakho wosapho (`uMboneleli weNkathalelo ePhambili`), onoqeqesho olukhethekileyo lokunyamekela abantu abadala.

Ufanele uye kugqirha wezifo zabantwana xa uneminyaka emingaphi?

Uninzi lwabantu luqala ukubona ugqirha wezifo zabantwana abalupheleyo emva kweminyaka engama-65 , ingakumbi emva kweminyaka engama-75. Kodwa oko kunokwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwimbali yakho yempilo kunye neemfuno zakho. Amanye amaZiko ezonyango zabantu abalupheleyo (i-CGM) ngoku aqala ukunceda abantu abakwiminyaka engama-50. Oku kunokubonakala ngathi kusekutsha kancinci. Ewe, ndiyaqonda, iminyaka engama-50 isesemncinci kwabanye abantu. Nangona kunjalo, ukujongana nemiba yezempilo eza nokwaluphala kwangethuba kunokukunceda ukulawula izinto ezikubangela umngcipheko kwaye uthintele izifo ezininzi ezingapheliyo.

Cinga ngoku: Abantu abangaphezu kwama-50% abaneminyaka engama-65 nangaphezulu baneemeko ezintathu ubuncinane ezifuna ukujongwa okanye ukunyangwa. Xa uneemeko zempilo ezingaphezu kwesinye, unyango lwakho luba nzima ngakumbi. Kulapho ke uncedo logqirha wabantu abadala luba luncedo khona.

Umzekelo, ukuba uthatha amayeza amaninzi kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, ingcali yezolupheleyo inokuqinisekisa ukuba amayeza akhuselekile ukuwasebenzisa ngaphandle kokusebenzisana okuyingozi. Ngokufanayo, xa kusenziwa unyango olufana notyando, bayawalinganisa amathuba kunye neengxaki. Kuba iingozi zotyando xa uneminyaka engama-70 zinokuba phezulu kunezo zineminyaka engama-40.

Kakade ke, oogqirha bezonyango zangaphakathi kunye noogqirha beentsapho nabo banikezela ngolu hlobo loncedo kakhulu. Nokuba uqhagamshelana nogqirha wezifo zabantwana abalupheleyo, kubalulekile ukuqhubeka nokugcina ubudlelwane nogqirha wakho weentsapho. Nangona kunjalo, oogqirha bezifo zabantwana abalupheleyo bongeza ulwazi olongezelelweyo kunye nobuchule ekunyamekeleni kwakho. Baqeqeshwe ngokukodwa ukunyamekela abantu abadala, ingakumbi abo baneengxaki zempilo ezinzima. Oku kuquka izifo zomzimba kunye neengxaki zempilo yengqondo. Ngoko ke, kuba bebone uninzi lwezi meko, bakulungele ukunceda, nokuba imeko yakho injani na.

Ngaba umntu endimthandayo kufuneka aye kugqirha wabantu abadala?

Ukuba umntu omthandayo, njengomama, utata, umakhulu, okanye utatomkhulu, ukwimeko enjalo, kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ukufuna ingcebiso kugqirha wezifo zabantu abadala:

• Ukuhlala uneengxaki zempilo ezahlukeneyo
• Ukuba usela amayeza amaninzi ngaxeshanye.
• Ukuba uneengxaki zenkumbulo, ezifana nokulahlekelwa yinkumbulo okanye ukulibala.
• Ukuba unengxaki yokujongana nezihlandlo zokudibana kunye nonyango,
• Ukuba ukhe walala esibhedlele okanye uyalulama emva kokuhlala esibhedlele. (Usesibhedlele okanye uyalulama emva kokuhlala esibhedlele)

Ukuba ungumnakekeli wabo oyintloko, unokubona utshintsho oluncinci abanye abasenokungaluboni. Umntu omthandayo usenokungaluboni. Kwimeko ezinjalo, kusenokuba luxanduva lwakho ukubacebisa ukuba babonane nogqirha wabantu abadala. Banokumjonga umntu omthandayo kuzo zonke iindlela, kuquka impilo yakhe yengqondo kunye nentlalo-ntle yakhe, baze benze isicwangciso esihlangabezana neemfuno zakhe.

Ndingamfumana njani ugqirha wezifo zabantu abadala kufutshane nam?

ESri Lanka, ulwazi oluthe kratya ngoogqirha abalupheleyo alukasasazeki kangako. Nangona kunjalo, ungabuza ugqirha wakho wosapho ngale nto. Usenokukwazi ukucebisa umntu ofanelekileyo. Kunokubakho iikliniki ezikhethekileyo zabantu abadala kwizibhedlele ezinkulu zikarhulumente okanye kwizibhedlele zabucala. Ungafumana nolwazi kwiindawo ezinjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokwenzeka ukufumana ulwazi malunga noogqirha abakhethekileyo kwi-intanethi.

Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya

Kulungile, ngoko ke, bekungayi kuba kuhle na ukuba ukhumbule ezinye zezona zinto zibalulekileyo esithethe ngazo?

• Ugqirha onolwazi ngempilo yabantu abadala ngugqirha ogxile kwimpilo yabantu abadala. Banyamekela zonke iimfuno zakho zomzimba nezengqondo.
• Ukuba unezifo ezininzi, usela amayeza amaninzi, okanye uneengxaki zokukhumbula , uncedo logqirha wabantu abadala lubaluleke kakhulu.
• Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uhlolwe rhoqo ngugqirha (`ukuhlolwa rhoqo ngonyaka`) nokuba sele uneminyaka engama-50 ubudala. Oku kunokunceda ekuchongeni nasekulawuleni izifo ezininzi kwangethuba.
• Nokuba kunzima ukufumana ingcali yezolupheleyo, soloko unxibelelana nogqirha wosapho okhathaleleyo ngempilo yabantu abadala.
• Njengoko sikhula, sisenokungaziqondi ngokupheleleyo iinguqu kwimpilo yethu. Iingcali zoogqirha bezifo zabantwana ziingcali eziqondayo iinguqu eziza nokwaluphala. Zinokukunceda uhlale usempilweni kwaye wonwabile.

Ngoko ke, ukuba wena okanye umntu omthandayo uyaluphala, kufanelekile ukuqwalasela iinkonzo zogqirha wabantu abadala. Wonke umntu ufanelwe kukuphila ubomi obusempilweni nobonwabisayo, akunjalo?

Iingcali zokuguga, ingcali yezokuguga, impilo yabantu abadala, ukhathalelo lwabantu abadala, izifo ezingapheliyo, ingcebiso yezonyango, unyango