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Ungamelana njani nentlungu emva kokuphuma kwesisu? (Intlungu Emva kokuphuma kwesisu)

Creator: Dr. Priya Sammani
Published: 2026-07-15T22:50:43.000Z

Dr. Priya Sammani, MBBS, PG Dip. FMMedical Verification

Phakathi kwezinto umfazi adlula kuzo ebomini bakhe, ukukhulelwa kwesisu yinto ebuhlungu kakhulu abantu abaninzi abangayiqondi ngokupheleleyo. Xa uziva unesithukuthezi esinganyamezelekiyo, unokuziva uwedwa kakhulu kuba nabo basondeleyo kuwe abayiqondi intlungu odlula kuyo. Nokuba bazama ukukunceda, basenokungakwazi ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo iimvakalelo zakho kuba abazange bayibone. Basenokungayiqondi indlela eyinyani ngayo loo themba entliziyweni yakho, loo mntwana. Ngoko ke, namhlanje siza kuthetha ngentlungu ephakamayo emva kokukhulelwa kwesisu kunye nendlela yokuphola kancinci kancinci kuloo ntlungu.

Masiqaphele intlungu eyenzeka emva kokuphuma kwesisu.

Amaxesha amaninzi, xa kuphuma isisu, abafazi bazibeka ityala. Bahlala bezibuza, "Ngaba le yinto endiyenzileyo ingalunganga?" Kodwa inyani yile, uninzi lwezisu eziphunyeziweyo zenzeka ngezizathu ezingaphaya kwamandla akho . Ngoko ke, musa ukuzibeka ityala kwaye ubandezeleke ngakumbi.

Xa ulahlekelwa ngumntwana ngenxa yokuphuphuma kwesisu, udinga ixesha lokuphiliswa, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Kuqhelekile. Awuzililelanga umntwana olahlekelwe ngumntwana kuphela, kodwa namaphupha amaninzi owawunawo ngaloo mntwana.

Asinguye wonke umntu ovakalelwa ngale ntlungu ngendlela efanayo. Usenokuvakalelwa ngolu hlobo:

Uvakalelo oluvayo	Kalula nje...
Umsindo	"Kutheni oku kwenzeke kum?" Ndiziva ndinomsindo ngehlabathi.
Ubulolo	Ndivakalelwa ngathi akukho mntu uyiqondayo le ntlungu.
Ukuziva unetyala	Ndizibeka ityala ngale nto, ndisithi ndim obangela le nto.
Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kuyo nayiphi na into	Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwizinto obukade uzonwabela.
Ukungakwazi ukugxila	Ukuphazamiseka kangangokuba awukwazi nokwenza imisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla ngokufanelekileyo.

Okwexeshana, ungakufumanisa kunzima ukujonga iintsapho ezinabantwana abancinci okanye ukuba phakathi kwazo. Nokuba ucinga ukuba uphilile ngoku, ngamanye amaxesha usizi lunokubuya ngaphandle kwesizathu. Cinga ngako, njengoko umhla wokuzalwa komntwana wakho usondela, ngoSuku looMama, okanye ukuba ukhulelwa kwakhona, olo sizi lwakudala lunokubuya luze lukukhathaze.

Ukuba ixesha olilayo lide kangakanani kwaye linzulu kangakanani kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi. Umzekelo, ukuba uphunyelwe sisisu kamva ekukhulelweni kwakho, intlungu yakho inokuba nkulu ngakumbi kuba ubunamathele kumntwana ixesha elide. Ukuba wenze izinto ezifana nokubiza umntwana igama kunye nokulungisa igumbi, intlungu yakho inokuba nzulu ngakumbi kwaye ithathe ixesha elide ukuphola.

Masifumane uncedo nenkxaso.

Kuqhelekile ukuziva uwedwa xa uziva ulusizi kangaka. Kodwa zama ukufumana inkxaso oyifunayo ngoku nakwixesha elizayo.

Xhasanani.

Umyeni okanye iqabane lakho lisenokuba nalo livakalelwa yile ntlungu. Kodwa indlela abonakalisa ngayo isenokuba yahlukile kweyakho. Mhlawumbi xa unomsindo, usenokungaziva nto. Xa ufuna ukuthetha ngayo, usenokungakwazi ukuchaza iimvakalelo zakhe. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba olu lwazi alukho phakathi kwenu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufuna uncedo lomcebisi oqeqeshwe ngokukodwa kwezi zinto. Emva koko nobabini ninokuqondana kwaye nisebenzele eli xesha linzima kunye.

Cinga ngeqela elisebenzisanayo

Kungathuthuzela kakhulu ukujoyina iqela lenkxaso kunye nabanye abaye badlula kumava afanayo nawe. Ungacela ulwazi kwisibhedlele sakho okanye kugqirha wakho malunga neqela elinjalo.

Fumana okukulungeleyo.

Olu sizi luza kuhlala ixesha elide kunokuba ucinga. Kufuneka ulunike ixesha. Alunakukhawuleziswa. Ungathetha nabahlobo kunye nosapho abakuqondayo. Ungatyala umthi ukukhumbula umntwana olahlekileyo, unikele kwintlangano yokunceda, okanye ugcine inkumbulo ngenye indlela. Abanye abafazi bazama ukukhulelwa kwakhona emva nje kokuphuma kwesisu. Abanye banceda abanye abaye badlula kumava afanayo nabo. Ukuba unobubele kuwe kwaye ugcina ingqondo yakho ikhululekile, uya kukwazi ukufumana indlela esebenza kakuhle kuwe.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuzinyamekela. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uqinisekise nabani na ukuba "yonke into ilungile." Akunyanzelekanga ukuba unike nabani na ingcaciso ende yokuba kutheni okanye njani oku kwenzeke.

Ndingabaxelela njani abanye ngale nto?

Akukho ndlela 'ichanekileyo' yokuxelela abanye ezi ndaba zibuhlungu. Khumbula ukuba usapho lwakho kunye nabahlobo bakho basenokuba neemvakalelo zabo ngezi ndaba. Usenokufuna ukutshintsha indlela ozithetha ngayo kuxhomekeke ekubeni uzixelela bani.

Indlela	Inkcazo
Ukuthi ndlelantle	Ungaxelela abantu obathandayo ubuso ngobuso ukuba uyabathemba ukuba baza kukwanga baze bakuthuthuzele.
Ukubhala/Ukuthumela ii-imeyile	Usenokufumanisa kulula ukuxelela usapho, abahlobo, okanye abantu osebenza nabo ngeleta okanye umyalezo obhaliweyo. Cacisa ngokufutshane okwenzekileyo kunye nohlobo lwenkxaso olufunayo.
Ukufunda nomhlobo	Enye indlela kukuvumela omnye umntu akuxelele iindaba. Mhlawumbi umhlobo othembekileyo emsebenzini angakuxelela. Umama okanye udadewenu angakuxelela amanye amalungu osapho.

Xa uxelela abantwana...

Ukuba unabanye abantwana, oku kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukubaxelela. Ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yabo, kunokuba nzima kubo ukuqonda okwenzekileyo. Sebenzisa amagama alula nanyanisekileyo. Ungatsho into efana nale, "Usana alukhulanga kakuhle." Ukutsho izinto ezifana nokuthi, "Umama ulahlekelwe ngumntwana" okanye " Usana lulele" kunokumdida umntwana omncinci.

Abantwana basenokuba lusizi, kodwa abazi ukuba bangenza njani ukuze banyamezele. Nika ingqalelo kutshintsho kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo, bakhuthaze ukuba babuze imibuzo, kwaye ubaqinisekise ukuba akukho nto ingalunganga.

Masilungiselele iimpendulo ezahlukeneyo.

Ungalindela iimpendulo ezahlukeneyo kubantu abathetha oku. Abanye abantu bayazi kakuhle into abafanele bayithethe nebafanele bayenze, kodwa abanye abazi. Ngoko ke kungcono ukulungiselela ingqondo yakho kwangaphambili.

Ukungabikho kwempendulo: Abanye abantu basenokuthula kuba bengazi ukuba bathini. Banokoyika ukuthetha into eza kukwenza uzive ungonwabanga. Qaphela ukuba bakukhathalele, kodwa bathule.
Amagama esintu athuthuzelayo: "Kuza kuba ngcono kwixesha elizayo" okanye "Ndiyayiqonda intlungu yakho" anokukwenza uzive ngathi abanandaba nentlungu yakho. Uninzi lwabantu alutsho loo nto ukuze lukuvise ubuhlungu.

Basenokungaqondi ukuba bekuya kwanele ukuba ubuthethe into elula, enyanisekileyo, efana nokuthi, "Ndiyaxolisa kakhulu ngento eyenzekileyo kuwe."

Ukungayinaki intlungu yakho: Wonke umntu ujamelana nentlungu ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Asinguye wonke umntu oyiqondayo impembelelo yokuphuphuma kwesisu. Thetha inyaniso ngendlela oziva ngayo. Ukuba abaqondi, funa inkxaso kubantu abakuqondayo.

Njengoko uqhubeka nolu hambo, hlala uvulekile engqondweni. Unokufumana inkxaso ebantwini nakwiindawo ongazilindelanga. Ukuba unemibuzo okanye iinkxalabo, ungaze ungathandabuzi ukuthetha nogqirha wakho.

Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya

Kuqhelekile ukuba buhlungu emva kokuphunyelwa sisisu. Zivumele ukuba uzive ezo mvakalelo.

Ukuphuma kwezisu kudla ngokubangelwa zizizathu ezingaphaya kwamandla akho, ngoko ke kuphephe ukuzibeka ityala.

Thetha neqabane lakho. Nobabini niyaxhasana ngeli xesha linzima.

Musa ukoyika ukuthetha nogqirha wakho, umcebisi, okanye umhlobo othembekileyo. Ukucela uncedo luphawu lwamandla.

Zinike ixesha lokuphola. Akukho xesha limiselweyo loku. Yiba nobubele kuwe.

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