Ngaba uziva ngathi ungancama ukutya okuthandayo, isiselo, kunye nokuphumla namhlanje, ucinga ngento eza kwenzeka kwiminyaka engama-20 okanye engama-30 ezayo? Kunzima kakhulu, akunjalo? Sonke sithanda ukucinga namhlanje. Kodwa ubusazi na ukuba, ngokumangalisayo, ukucinga nje ngekamva lakho kunokutshintsha imikhwa yakho yempilo ibe ngcono namhlanje? Olu asilohlobo oluthile lomlingo, kodwa yingcamango enomdla kakhulu esekelwe kwingqondo. Makhe sithethe ngale nto namhlanje.
Kutheni kunzima kangaka kuthi ukucinga ngekamva lethu?
Lo ngumbuzo ongaqhelekanga kakhulu. Enyanisweni, iingqondo zethu zibona ikamva lethu ngokungathi ngomnye umntu. Oku kwacaciswa kuphando lukaHal Hershfield, uprofesa kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia. Usebenzise iskeni ekhethekileyo enokulinganisa umsebenzi wobuchopho (`fMRI` - i-functional magnetic resonance imaging) waza wacela abantu ukuba bacinge ngobomi babo kwiminyaka eli-10 ezayo.
Okumangalisayo kukuba, loo nxalenye inye yobuchopho babo yayisebenza xa becinga ngomntu abangamaziyo. Oko kukuthi, ubuchopho bethu bubona ikamva lethu ngokungathi bujonge umntu abangamaziyo.
Oku koko ingqondo yengqondo ikubiza ngokuba kukungabikho 'kokuzigcina uphila kwixesha elizayo' . Kalula nje, kuthetha ukuba uziva ungadibani kangako ngokweemvakalelo, ungasondelelananga kangako, 'nawe' kwixesha elizayo. Ngenxa yokuba loo 'mna kwixesha elizayo' uvakala njengomntu owahlukileyo, asifuni kuncama ulonwabo lwethu lwangoku ngenxa yaloo mntu. Cinga ngako, ubuya kucamngca kabini ngokunceda umntu ongamaziyo kunomhlobo, akunjalo? Yiloo nto eyenzekayo apha.
Zithini iingenelo zokunxulumana 'nomntu wakho wexesha elizayo'?
Kulungile, ngoku uyayiqonda ingxaki yokucinga ngekamva. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba besinokoyisa lo mqobo size sakhe unxibelelwano oluqinileyo nekamva lethu? Iingenelo zinkulu kakhulu. Uphando lubonise ukuba abantu abacinga ngekamva labo kwaye banokulibona ngokucacileyo banamathuba amaninzi okwenza izigqibo ezisempilweni nezilumkileyo namhlanje.
"Ukuba ndiziva ndinxibelelene ngokweemvakalelo, ndisondelelene, nekamva lam, akuyonto inkulu kum ukwenza izinto namhlanje eziya kumnceda loo mntu kwixesha elizayo," utshilo uNjingalwazi Hershfield.
Jonga itheyibhile engezantsi ukuze ufumane iingenelo ezisebenzisekayo eziziswa lolu lwalamano ebomini bethu.
| Icandelo lobomi | Iingenelo eziboniswa luphando |
|---|---|
| Ukonga imali | Bagcina imali eninzi kwixesha elizayo. Bazama ukwandisa izinto zabo. |
| Indlela zokutya | Nciphisa ukutya okuneswekile namafutha kwaye utye ukutya okunempilo okufana neziqhamo nemifuno. |
| Ukutshaya | Uphononongo olwenziwe e-Austria lubonise ukuba aba bantu batshaya kancinci. |
| Impilo iyonke | Iintlungu ezingapheliyo azikho. Ubunzima obuncinci kwimisebenzi elula efana nokunyuka izinyuko. Yiya kutyelelo lwezonyango ngokufanelekileyo. |
Le ngcamango iluncedo kakhulu kwabo bangonelisekanga yimizimba yabo. Uphando lubonise ukuba abantu abaxhalabele imizimba yabo kodwa abanolwalamano oluhle nekamva labo banamathuba amaninzi okwamkela imikhwa enempilo , njengokutya ukutya okunesondlo kunye nokuzilolonga.
Uqhagamshelana njani 'nomntu wakho wexesha elizayo'?
Ezi ziindaba ezimnandi! Ulwalamano lwakho nobuntu bakho bexesha elizayo aluyonto imiselwe ngokuqinileyo. Yinto esinokuyiphuhlisa size siyiqinise. Nazi iindlela ezimbini ezilula, ezixhaswa luphando zokukunceda.
1. Zibhalele iileta.
Oku kusenokuvakala kungaqhelekanga, kodwa yindlela enamandla kakhulu. Khawuthelekelele ukuba uzibhalela ileta kwiminyaka engama-20 ezayo. Amathemba akho, amaphupha akho, ucinga ukuba uza kuba ngumntu onjani ngelo xesha, ungamnika cebiso lini loo 'mna ozayo'... Bhala konke oku. Emva koko, zicinge njengo 'wena' weminyaka engama-20 ezayo, uze ubhale impendulo yakho namhlanje. Isenokuba yinto efana nale, "Enkosi ngeminikelo oyenzileyo namhlanje, yiyo loo nto ndisempilweni namhlanje."
Abo batshintshiselana iileta ngolu hlobo, kwiintsuku ezizayoOlunye uphando lufumanise ukuba banamathuba angama-43% okwenza umthambo. Oko kuthetha ukuba bachitha malunga nemizuzu engama-25 eyongezelelweyo yokwenza umthambo ngeveki.
2. Jonga ifoto yakho njengoko ukhula.
Le yeyona ndlela ilula nethandwa kakhulu ekhoyo namhlanje. Sebenzisa usetyenziso olufana ne-'FaceApp' okanye i-'Oldify' kwifowuni yakho uze ubone ukuba uza kujongeka njani xa sele ukhulile. Xa ujonga loo foto, ucinga nje, "Owu, ndim lo. Ukuba lo mntu ufuna ukuba sempilweni, kufuneka ndiqale ukunyamekela impilo yam namhlanje."
Kolunye uphando, xa abantu abaselula baboniswa indlela ababonakala bebadala ngayo besebenzisa usetyenziso olufana nolu, babenokukhetha uhlobo lwesonka olusempilweni (isonka sengqolowa epheleleyo) kunedonathi xa benikwe ukhetho lokutya. Ukubona uphawu olufana nolu kunceda ukuqinisa le ngcamango.
Zihlala ixesha elingakanani ezi ndlela? Kunzima ukuqiniseka. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ezi ziziphumo zexesha elifutshane. Kodwa oko akuyongxaki. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba into encinci efana nale iya kukunika amandla amakhulu okuqala umkhwa omhle . Mhlawumbi uza kubhalisela ijimu okanye uqale ukuhambahamba ngokuhlwa. Oko kuqalisa yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Ungazama ezi zivivinyo rhoqo.
Ekugqibeleni, konke oku kumalunga nendlela utshintsho oluncinci kwindlela esicinga ngayo olunokuba nefuthe elihle ebomini bethu. Ngoko ke, ukuqala namhlanje, thetha kancinci ngekamva lakho, cinga ngaye. Kuya kuba namandla amakhulu kwizigqibo zempilo ozenzayo namhlanje.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukucinga ngekamva lakho kunye nokunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo naloo mntu (ukuzigcina kwakho) luncedo olukhulu ekwenzeni izigqibo eziphilileyo namhlanje.
- Iingqondo zethu ngokwemvelo zizibona njengabantu esingabaziyo kwixesha elizayo, ngoko ke kufuneka senze umgudu wokwakha olo nxibelelwano.
- Ungaluqinisa olu nxibelelwano ngeendlela ezilula ezifana nokubhala ileta eya kuwe kwixesha elizayo okanye ukujonga ifoto yokukhula.
- Nangona ukhuthazo oluvela kwezi ndlela lufutshane, lithuba elihle lokuqala imikhwa emihle efana nokuzilolonga nokutya ukutya okunempilo.
- Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nemikhwa yakho yempilo okanye ngaphambi kokuba wenze naluphi na utshintsho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha nogqirha wakho.
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