Akukho nto intle ngaphezu kokuphupha ngokuba ngumama okanye utata. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha uhambo lokufezekisa elo phupha lunokuba nzima kancinci. Ngethamsanqa, ngenxa yesayensi yezonyango yanamhlanje ephucukileyo, sinethuba lokufezekisa elo phupha ngonyango olufana ne-IVF ( In Vitro Fertilization ). Namhlanje sithetha ngomama onothando ogama linguAmanda owadlula kolu hambo. Ibali lakhe liza kusifundisa izifundo ezininzi ezixabisekileyo, ingakumbi koodade bethu nabahlobo abakhulelweyo amawele okanye abacinga ngokufumana unyango lwe-IVF.
Uhambo lwe-IVF kunye nokugqiba ukuba zingaphi iimbumba ekufuneka zidluliselwe
UAmanda nomyeni wakhe, uKenneth, bakhulelwa ngexesha lokuzama kwabo kokuqala i-IVF, kodwa baphunyelwa sisisu. Akufuneki ukuba nditsho, eli thuba lalibuhlungu kakhulu. Yiyo loo nto, xa babesiya kunyango lwabo lwesibini lwe-IVF, uAmanda wacinga, "Ngeli xesha, kufuneka sidlulisele zonke iimbumba ezintathu."
Kodwa njengoko esitsho, "Ugqirha wam othandekayo undichazele iingozi waza wandiqinisekisa ukuba ndidlulisele iimbumba ezimbini. Ekugqibeleni, sazala amawele. Ndiyavuya kakhulu namhlanje kuba asizange sidlulisele iimbumba ezintathu!"
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka siyiqonde apha kukuba oogqirha basoloko bezama ukuqinisekisa ukhuseleko oluphezulu kumama nomntwana ongekazalwa. Ingakumbi ukuba iimbumba ezimbini zidluliselwa ebuntwaneni, amathuba okuba namawele aphezulu ukuya kuma-60%. Nangona kuyinto evuyisayo ukuba nabantwana ababini okanye abathathu ngaxeshanye, kufuneka siqaphele neengozi zonyango ezihambisana noko.
Eyona nto ilumkileyo onokuyenza kukuthetha nogqirha wakho uze wenze isigqibo esinolwazi. Nokuba ucinga ukuba, "Ndifuna umntwana kungekudala, ndiza kudlulisela zonke iimbumba endinazo," kufuneka sicinge kabini ngento enokwenzeka.
Ukukhulelwa bekunzima ngaphezu kokuba bekulindelwe
UAmanda uthi ungumfazi oselula osempilweni kakhulu, okhathalayo ngokomelela komzimba. Yiyo loo nto wayecinga ukuba ukukhulelwa kuza kuba lula kakhulu. Kodwa ukuthwala amawele esibelekweni sakhe akubanga lula njengoko wayecinga.
Uthi, "Ndaya emsebenzini kwiinyanga ezintathu zokuqala. Kodwa ngequbuliso kwiiveki ezingama-20, ndaqala ukubeleka . Yayingummangaliso ngokwenene ukuba oogqirha bakwazile ukuyimisa kwaye ndakwazi ukuqhubeka nokuthwala abantwana."
Emva kwesi siganeko, uAmanda kwafuneka achithe iiveki ezili-11 esibhedlele elele. Ekugqibeleni, zombini ezi ntsana zazalwa kwiiveki ezisi-8 ngaphambi kwexesha, oko kuthetha ukuzalwa ngaphambi kwexesha.Yile ndlela endafika ngayo kweli hlabathi.
Ukuzalwa ngaphambi kwexesha yenye yezona ngxaki zinkulu abazali abajongene nazo. Endaweni yokuphupha ngokugcina umntwana wabo ekhaya kwangoko nje ukuba azalwe, kunzima kakhulu ukuthwala ingcamango yokuba kufuneka ujonge kwigunjana leglasi kwiYunithi yoKhathalelo oluNzulu lweZifo eziSandulelayo (i-NICU). Intlungu kunye noxinzelelo azinakuchazwa ngamazwi.
| Iingozi zokuzalwa kwabantwana abaninzi (amawele, amawele amathathu) |
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| - Ukuzalwa kwangaphambi kwexesha: Ukuzalwa komntwana kwiiveki ezimbalwa ngaphambi komhla wokuzalwa. |
| - Ubunzima obuphantsi bokuzalwa: Iintsana ezizelwe zinobunzima obuphantsi kakhulu zisengozini enkulu yokuba neengxaki zempilo. |
| - Iingozi kumama: Umngcipheko okhulayo wezifo ezifana noxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu kunye nesifo seswekile ngexesha lokukhulelwa. |
| - Iingxaki ezinokwenzeka ixesha elide ebantwaneni: iingxaki zophuhliso lwengqondo, imiphunga, kunye nezinye izitho zomzimba. |
Ungalibali impembelelo kwimpilo yengqondo
Ngaphandle kwentlungu yomzimba, yonke le nkqubo ikwadinisa ingqondo. UAmanda uyavuma ngokunyaniseka, "Ndandinesifo soxinzelelo emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu kunye noxinzelelo emva kokuzalwa kwabantwana bam. Nokuba uphilile kangakanani na, ukudlula kwinto efana nale kunokubangela intlungu engqondweni yakho."
Nangona umzimba ubuthathaka ngenxa yokuphumla ebhedini, unokuphinda ufumane amandla awo. Kodwa umonakalo engqondweni uthatha ixesha ukuze uphole. Udinga inkxaso. Kwimeko efana nale, kubalulekile ukuthetha nomyeni wakho, usapho, ingakumbi ugqirha wakho . Akukho sizathu sokuba neentloni okanye ukubandezeleka wedwa.
Ubomi namawele: imingeni kunye novuyo
Ngenxa yokuba bengakhuli kakuhle, abantwana baka-Amanda bashiyeke kancinci kwezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo ekukhuleni, ingakumbi izakhono zokunyakaza. "Njengabazali, sihlala sixhalabile ukuba baza kuba neengxaki ezithile eziza kuthatha ixesha elide," utshilo u-Amanda.
Kukwakho nemingeni ebonakalayo ekunyamekeleni amawele.
“Kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi koko umama onomntwana omnye ebenokukuthetha ‘ukuhlala ubusuku bonke’ noko ndikutshoyo ngaloo nto,” utshilo uAmanda ehleka. “Bavuka kabini okanye kathathu ebusuku. Nditsho ukuthi, ndilale iyure enye kuphela izolo ebusuku!”
Izinto ezifana nokuncancisa abantwana ababini ngaxeshanye, ukuziva ungenakunceda xa bobabini bekhala ngaxeshanye, nokungakwazi ukwabelana ngazo kunzima kakhulu kwiintsuku zokuqala.
"Kodwa ke inyani kukuba, njengoko bekhula, izinto ziya zisiba lula kancinci. Kuba badlala omnye nomnye. Ngoko ke kukho izinto ezilungileyo nezingalunganga zokuba namawele."
Ekugqibeleni, uAmanda ubalisa ibali elibaluleke kakhulu. "Nangona konke oku, ndingacebisa nabani na ocinga nge-( IVF )`. Ngaphandle kwe-`(IVF)` besingenakuba nabantwana bethu. Nangona sibuhlungu, ukuba bendinokufumana ithuba kwakhona, bendingayi kutshintsha nto."
Eyona sifundo sikhulu esinokusifunda kwibali lakhe kukuba siqaphele kwaye silungiselele. Ndiza kujongana nale nto, kwaye xa ndiqala uhambo lwam ndixhotyiswe ngolwazi kwaye ndilungele ukuba into efana nale yenzeke, ndiziva ndinamandla okujongana nezinto ezingalindelekanga.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Yenza izigqibo ezinolwazi: Thetha nogqirha wakho malunga nonyango olufana ne-IVF, ingakumbi malunga nokuba zingaphi iimbumba ekufuneka zidluliselwe. Qonda iingozi zokuzalwa kwabantwana abaninzi.
- Lungiselela ukuzalwa ngaphambi kwexesha: Kukho umngcipheko omkhulu wokuzalwa ngaphambi kwexesha kwiwele okanye ukukhulelwa kwabantwana abaninzi. Kubalulekile ukulungiselela oku ngengqondo nangokomzimba.
- Impilo yakho yengqondo ibalulekile: Ukukhulelwa kunye nexesha emva kokuzalwa kunokuba kukudinisa ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba uziva uxinezelekile, uxhalabile, okanye uneempawu zokudakumba, thetha nogqirha wakho okanye nomntu omdala omthembileyo ngoko nangoko.
- Uhambo ngalunye lwahlukile: Musa ukuzithelekisa namava abanye abantu. Uhambo lwakho luhlukile kuwe. Funa amandla nenkxaso yokujongana nemingeni.
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