Ukuba namawele liphupha elihle kwabaninzi. Ngubani ongathandi ukubona abantwana ababini abafanayo, benxibe iimpahla ezifanayo kwaye bedlala kunye? Kodwa asisoloko sicinga ngenyani esemva kweli phupha, iindleko ezifunekayo, kunye nokuzincama ekufuneka kwenziwe ngenxa yalo. Namhlanje sithetha ngomama ogama linguLeslie owadlula kumava anjalo. Ibali lakhe liza kuba libaluleke kakhulu kwabaninzi kwilizwe lethu, ingakumbi abo bahlupheka ngenxa yokungabi nabantwana kwaye bacinga ngeendlela ezifana ne-'(IVF)'.
Ibali likaLeslie: Ukususela kusizi lokungabi nabantwana ukuya kuvuyo lwamawele
ULeslie ngumama oneminyaka engama-33 ubudala. Yena nomyeni wakhe, uHeath, sele benonyana oneminyaka emi-5 ubudala. Wakhulelwa ngendlela yendalo, ngaphandle konyango olukhethekileyo. Kodwa ke uLeslie waba nomceli mngeni omkhulu wokuba nomntwana. Wakhulelwa izihlandlo ezininzi ngaphandle kokukhulelwa , nto leyo eyingozi kakhulu. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, oogqirha bacebisa uLeslie noHeath ukuba bangazami ukuba nabantwana ngendlela yendalo kwakhona.
Ngoko ke, befuna omnye umntwana, bagqiba ekubeni basebenzise i-IVF. Ngamafutshane, i-IVF - In Vitro Fertilization yinkqubo apho iqanda likamama kunye nesidoda sikatata zidityaniswe ngaphandle komzimba kwilebhu ukuze kudalwe i-embryo, emva koko ifakwe kwisibeleko sikamama. Oku kwakubonakala ngathi lithuba lokugqibela lokuba babe nabantwana abaninzi.
Iindleko kunye neeMvakalelo: Ukukhetha unyango lwe-IVF
ULeslie noHeath bachithe i-$22,000 kolu nyango , oluyimali engamakhulu amawaka eedola kwilizwe lethu. Le yimali eninzi kakhulu. Yiyo loo nto babecinga ukuba, endaweni yokuchitha imali eninzi kangaka, baza kuba namawele ukuba kunokwenzeka. Ngokutsho kukaLeslie, "Asizange siye kugqirha sathi sifuna amawele. Sathi, 'Asinakuba nabantwana, sidinga uncedo lwakho, le yindlela kuphela esinayo. Ngoko ke bekuya kuba ngcono nangakumbi ukuba besinawo amawele.'" Kuba ixabiso liyafana nokuba sinomntwana omnye okanye ababini. Ngoko ke ukuba eli lithuba lokugqibela, bacinga ukuba kungcono ukugqiba usapho.
Eli bali alibalisayo lichukumisa kakhulu.
"Andicingi ukuba ungabeka ixabiso kusapho lwakho. Indlela endijonga ngayo, ndinethamsanqa lokuba nabantwana bam... ndiyalila xa ndicinga ngayo. Eyona nto inzima kukuba ibiza kakhulu. Elinye icala kukwamkelwa, okubiza kakhulu."
Oku kubonisa ukuba ixabiso lomntwana alinakulinganiswa ngemali. Abazali abacingi kabini ngokuzincama ngenxa yoko.
Ingcebiso kagqirha kunye nezigqibo ezibalulekileyo
Ngaphambi konyango lwe-IVF, ugqirha kaLeslie waqinisekisa ukuba baya kwingcebiso yokuzala. Eli yayilinyathelo elibaluleke kakhulu kuba ngeli xesha lenkqubo, kwakufuneka bajongane nemiba emininzi engenakucingelwa. Umzekelo, into ekufuneka bayenze ngeembumba ezishiyekileyo emva konyango, ngubani oza kuba ngumnini weembumba ukuba esi sibini siyaqhawula umtshato, kunye nendlela yokujongana nomceli mngeni wokuba namawele xa sele enomntwana omnye.
Ekuqaleni uLeslie wayefuna ukuba kufakwe iimbumba ezintathu esibelekweni sakhe. Isizathu soku yayikukufumana okuninzi kwimali awayeyichithile. Wayenethemba lokuba ubuncinane enye iya kuphumelela, kwaye ukuba kunokwenzeka, ezimbini. Kodwa ugqirha wakhe wayengayithandi loo nto konke konke. Wathi, "Akunjalo." Oku kubonisa uxanduva loogqirha. Injongo yabo ephambili asikokudala amawele, kodwa kukunceda ekuziseni umntwana omnye ophilileyo emhlabeni.
Ekugqibeleni, bagqiba ekubeni badlulisele iimbumba ezimbini. Ngethamsanqa, zombini zaphumelela!
Amawele: Iphupha liyazaliseka kwaye inyaniso inzima
Iintombi zikaLeslie ezingamawele, uBella noMaddie, ziphilile namhlanje. Kodwa ukukhulelwa kwakungelula kuLeslie. Kwakufuneka achithe iiveki ezintandathu elele ebhedini. Uchaza unyaka wokuqala emva kokuzalwa kwabantwana bakhe njengo "nzima kakhulu." Esinye isizathu soko kukuba unyana wakhe omkhulu, uGarrett, wayeneminyaka emibini kuphela ubudala ngelo xesha.
Xa uLeslie ephuma nabantwana bakhe, abantu abaninzi babeza kuye bathi, "Owu, ndifuna ukuba namawele nam." Umele ukuba wahleka yedwa ngelo xesha.
"Lumka. Akulula. Ubungayi kufuna ukuyitshintsha, kodwa ayingomdlalo."
Into ekufuneka siyiqonde kweli bali kukuba inyani inokwahluka kumfanekiso omhle obonakala ngaphandle. Kodwa uLeslie ubalisa ibali elihle kakhulu ekupheleni. "Nangona loo nyaka wokuqala wawunzima, wawufanelekile. Ngowuphi unyaka okanye emibini enzima ekuhambeni kwexesha ? Ndiza kuba nomnye unyaka okanye emibini enzima, xa besebancinci."
| Izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe | Imizekelo evela kumava kaLeslie |
|---|---|
| Ixabiso lemali | Unyango oluphindwe kathathu lubiza i-$22,000. Olu lutyalo-mali olungenasiqinisekiso sempumelelo. |
| Ukulungiselela ngengqondo nangokomzimba | Ukuphumla ebhedini iiveki ezi-6 ngexesha lokukhulelwa kunzima kakhulu. Unyaka wokuqala emva kokuba nabantwana. |
| Ukubaluleka kokubonisana nogqirha | Kufuneka wenze izigqibo ezinzima, njengokuba zingaphi iimbumba ekufuneka zidluliselwe kunye nento ekufuneka yenziwe ngeembumba eziseleyo. Isikhokelo sikagqirha sibalulekile. |
| Impembelelo kwamanye amalungu osapho | Lo mceli mngeni uphindaphindwa kabini xa kuzalwa amawele, njengoko umntwana omdala eneminyaka emibini kuphela ubudala. |
Ibali likaLeslie lisenza sicacelwe ukuba i-IVF ayisiyonyango nje kuphela, kodwa luhambo oluntsonkothileyo olubandakanya imali, iimvakalelo, amathemba, kunye nemingeni emininzi.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Unyango lokuzala olufana ne-IVF lunokuba yinkqubo ebiza kakhulu nebangela uxinzelelo ngokweemvakalelo.
- Ukuba namawele kunzima kakhulu kunokuba kubonakala, ingakumbi ngexesha lokukhulelwa kunye nonyaka wokuqala okanye emibini emva kokuba nabantwana.
- Ixabiso lomntwana alinakulinganiswa ngemali, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqwalasela ngononophelo imiba yezemali ngaphambi kokuba usebenzise unyango.
- Ngaphambi kokuba wenze naziphi na izigqibo ezinjalo, kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngazo zonke izinto ngokukhululekileyo nogqirha wakho . Isikhokelo sabo siya kukunceda wenze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
- Ekupheleni komngeni ngamnye, khumbula ukuba ulonwabo nothando olufumana kubantwana bakho lubaluleke ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye into.
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