Ngaba ulindele amawele? Okanye ucinga ngako? Amawele ayintsikelelo ephindwe kabini efika ekhayeni lakho ngaxeshanye. Kodwa ngaba sithetha ngemingeni kunye nobunzima obuhambisana nolo vuyo? Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngebali lomama ogama linguMaureen owajongana namava anjalo. Ngebali lakhe, siza kuzama ukuqonda ukuba ubomi bunjani na ngamawele .
Ibali likaMaureen: Amawele emva kwe-IVF
UMaureen Downey nomyeni wakhe uBo Emerson babesele benabantwana ababini. Babecinga ngomntwana wesithathu, kodwa uMaureen waphuphuma izisu izihlandlo ezininzi. Ngoko ke bagqiba ekubeni basebenzise unyango olutsha lokuzala, i-IVF (In-Vitro Fertilization), ukuze babe nomntwana.
UMaureen wayeneminyaka engama-42 ngelo xesha. Oogqirha bafaka iimbumba ezimbini esibelekweni sakhe. Babengafuni amawele, kodwa babecinga ukuba kuya kuba kuhle ukuba babefuna. "Kumntu ongazange abe nabantwana ngaphambili, kuyaqondakala ukuba angathanda amawele kuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba lithuba lakhe kuphela," utshilo uMaureen. "Kodwa besifuna umntwana wesithathu kuphela. Ngoko ke bendingacingi ukuba ndifuna amawele. Kodwa bendinethemba lokuba zombini iimbumba ziya kulunga."
Ingaba ukukhulelwa ngamawele kwahlukile kunoko bekulindelwe?
UMaureen uthi ukukhulelwa kwakhe kuhambe kakuhle, ngaphandle kweengxaki ezinkulu. Oko kuthetha ukuba bekungafuneki ahlale ebhedini. Nangona kunjalo, kwafuneka ayeke umsebenzi wakhe kwangethuba kunakwimibele yakhe emibini yangaphambili. Kwakhona kwafuneka ajongane nezinto ezininzi ezintsha angazange azibone ngaphambili.
"Ndandinesitshiso sentliziyo endandingazange ndisibone ngaphambili. Okokuqala ngqa oko kwenzeka, ndandicinga ukuba ndinesifo sentliziyo. Sasibi kakhulu. Ndaneentlungu ezininzi emzimbeni wam. Ukuba ndithetha inyani, inyanga enesiqingatha yokugqibela yokukhulelwa yayidinisa kakhulu kwaye idinisa. Andizange ndizive ngolu hlobo xa ndandizala abantwana bam ababini bokuqala."
Ngokwesiqhelo, xa uneamawele, isibeleko siyakhula, sibeka uxinzelelo olungakumbi kwizitho zesisu. Oku kunokubangela iintlungu esifubeni, ubunzima bokuphefumla, kunye neentlungu zomzimba. Ukuba ufumana ezi mpawu, kungcono ukuthetha nogqirha wakho ngazo.
Kwenzeka ntoni emva kokuba abantwana bezelwe?
Kwiiveki ezingama-39, ezimalunga nokuphela kwexesha lokuzala, uMaureen wayecwangciselwe ukwenziwa utyando.URebecca noJoey bazalwa ngotyando olucwangcisiweyo. Nangona yonke into yayibonakala ihamba kakuhle, uMaureen wajongana neengxaki ezingaphezulu kunokuba wayelindele emva kokuzalwa.
Isibeleko sakhe sasinganciphi kakuhle, ngoko ke waqala ukopha kakhulu. Le meko ibizwa ngokuba yi- Postpartum Hemorrhage .
"Izinto emva kokuba abantwana bezelwe zazinzima kakhulu kunokuba bendilindele. Ndicinga ukuba ndilahlekelwe malunga nesithathu segazi emzimbeni wam. Ndaya ekhaya ndibuthathaka kakhulu ukuba ndingahamba, kwaye ndine-anemia enzima kakhulu."
Olu hlobo lokopha kakhulu lungxamiseko lwezonyango. ESri Lanka, kwiimeko ezinjalo, isigulana singeniswa kwiYunithi yoNyango oluNgxamisekileyo (ETU) ngoko nangoko size sinikwe unyango olufunekayo.
UMaureen uthi kwamthatha unyaka wonke ukuba aphinde abe namandla nempilo entle, nto leyo ekunika umbono wokuba wayebuthathaka kangakanani.
Unyaka wokuqala: ixesha elinzima kunokuba bekulindelwe
UMaureen uthi akangomntu usanda kuqala ukukhulisa abantwana. Ekubeni ebekhulise abantwana ababini ngaphambili, wayelungiselele yonke into ngaphambi kokuba eze namawele ekhaya. Igumbi lomntwana, iimpahla, nezinye izinto ezifunekayo zonke zazilungile.
"Ngobusuku bokuqala sibuya esibhedlele, sasicinga ukuba sinayo yonke into esiyidingayo. Iimpahla ezicocekileyo zazilungiswe kakuhle kwiidrowa. Kodwa ngobo busuku bokuqala, iintsana zazimanzi kakhulu kwaye zihlanza amaxesha amaninzi kangangokuba kwafuneka sikrazule amathegi kwiimpahla ezintsha ezikwiibhokisi size sizinxibe. Sasingakulungelanga konke konke oko."
Yayingummangaliso omkhulu kuMaureen. Uthi, "Kwakufuneka ndinyuse umgangatho wam kakhulu xa kuthelekiswa nokuba lo msebenzi wawunzima kangakanani."
"Loo nyaka wokuqala ufana nephupha endilikhumbulayo. Kwelinye icala, bekungekho mntu undincedayo. Kwelinye icala, yayiyinto eyoyikisayo kakhulu emzimbeni wam, owawulahlekelwe ligazi elininzi kwaye ubuthathaka. Ngaphezu koko, kwakudinisa kakhulu ngelo xesha, sincancisa sobabini."
| Ithuba lokufumana amava | Amava kaMaureen (ngamawele) |
|---|---|
| Ixesha lokukhulelwa | Iintlungu zesifuba ezingazange zibonwe ngaphambili kunye neentlungu zomzimba. Zidinisa kakhulu kunokukhulelwa kube kanye. |
| Emva kokubeleka | Ukulahlekelwa yi-1/3 yegazi lomzimba ngenxa yokopha kakhulu (ukopha kakhulu) kunye ne-anemia enzima. |
| Ixesha elithathiweyo ukuze umzimba uphile | Kwathabatha unyaka wonke ukufumana amandla kwakhona. |
| Amava onyaka wokuqala | Ngumsebenzi ophindwe kabini kunokuba ucinga. Lixesha elidinisayo ngokupheleleyo elingenabuthongo, akukho mntu wokumnceda, kwaye akukho mntu unokubhenela kuye. |
Ingaba ubomi namawele bufana 'nesekisi'?
UMaureen uthi uyayithanda indawo enomsindo nengazolanga.
"Ukuba ucinga ukuba usapho lwakho luncedwa ngcono ngumntwana omnye kuphela, amawele angaba lutshintsho olukhulu kuwe. Afana 'nesekisi' yawo encinci yokuhambahambayo ."
"Bayaxokozela kakhulu. Yonke into iyinkimbinkimbi. Ingakumbi xa iintsana zisencinci, kunzima kakhulu ukuya evenkileni, ukubeka ezimbini kwizihlalo zeemoto, ukuze sihlale sobabini emotweni. Mna nomyeni wam sobabini siqhelene nengxolo. Kodwa xa umhlobo onomntwana omnye kuphela efika endlwini yam, ndibabonile betsiba. Ndicinga ukuba kungenxa yokuba sinabantwana abane ekhaya. Kodwa uninzi lwengxolo luvela kumawele."
Ibali likaMaureen lisibonisa ukuba amawele ayintsikelelo kwaye angumceli mngeni ovavanya umonde, amandla kunye nenkxaso yabazali omnye komnye ngokupheleleyo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukuba ukhulelwe amawele, ukukhulelwa kunokuba nzima kakhulu emzimbeni kunokuba ukhulelwe umntwana omnye. Zilungiselele ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba ngenxa yoko.
- Kukho umngcipheko weengxaki ezinje ngokopha kakhulu emva kokubeleka. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukulandela imiyalelo yezonyango ngokuchanekileyo nokwazisa ugqirha ngazo naziphi na iimpawu ezingaqhelekanga.
- Unyaka wokuqala wokukhulisa amawele unokuba nzima kakhulu kunokuba ucinga. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, kuya kuba luncedo kakhulu ukuba nenkxaso evela kusapho okanye umntu onokukunceda.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba wena neqabane lakho nixhasane, nibe nomonde, kwaye niqondane ngeli xesha. Oku kufana nomdlalo weqela.
- Amava onke ahlukile. Amava kaMaureen ayindlela enye. Amava akho anokuba yindlela eyahlukileyo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukwazi loo mingeni kwangaphambili.
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