Mhlawumbi uyamazi uMelissa Joan Hart, umdlali weqonga odumileyo waseHollywood. Akangomdlali weqonga onetalente nje kuphela, kodwa ukwangumama onothando wabantwana ababini. Kutshanje unike iindaba ezimnandi zokuba ulindele umntwana wakhe wesithathu. Ngoko ke, uziva njani umntu osele engumama ukujongana nale meko okwesithathu? Ngaba olu hambo lwahlukile kwixesha lokuqala nelesibini? Masithethe kancinci ngokukhulelwa, ingakumbi ukuba kunjani ukuba ngumama kwakhona.
Ingaba ixesha lesithathu lahlukile kwixesha lokuqala?
"Ndandisoyika kakhulu xa ndandikhulelwe abantwana bam bokuqala ababini. Kodwa ngeli xesha andiziva ndisoyika, nto leyo endenza ndikhululeke kakhulu. Ndonwabile kakhulu. Ndinokholo lokuba singayinyamekela le nto nangona kunjalo," utshilo uMelissa.
Oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngokwenene. Xa uba ngumama okokuqala, yonke into intsha. Usenokuba noloyiko kwaye ungathandabuzi malunga nendlela yokunyamekela umntwana, indlela yokujongana nokuzala, indlela yokujongana notshintsho lweehomoni. Kodwa ngexesha lesibini okanye lesithathu, uba namava amahle. Uyazi ukuba ulindele ntoni kwaye ulungiselele ntoni. Ngoko endaweni yokoyika, uziva uzithembile kwaye uzolile . Akufani nokuqhuba imoto okokuqala, kufana nokuzithemba okufumanayo emva kokuba uyiqhube kakuhle.
Ukungonwabi kunye notshintsho emzimbeni ngexesha lokukhulelwa
UMelissa uthi ebeziva engonwabanga ngakumbi kolu kukhulelwa. "Andiguli kakhulu, kuba bendisempilweni yonke imihla yokukhulelwa kwam. Kodwa ndiziva ndingonwabanga kakhulu. Kubonakala ngathi iihomoni zinamandla ngakumbi ngeli xesha. Bendinesicaphucaphu kakhulu ekuqaleni. Isisu sam naso sakhula ngokukhawuleza. Kwinyanga yesithathu, kwavakala ngathi ziinyanga ezisithoba."
Oku kukwayinto eqhelekileyo koomama abaninzi.
- Ukukhula ngokukhawuleza kwesisu: Ekubeni izihlunu zesisu kunye nesibeleko ziye zanwebeka kancinci emva kokukhulelwa kokuqala, isisu siza kuqala ukuphuma ngokukhawuleza ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwesibini okanye kwesithathu njengoko umntwana ekhula. Oku kuqhelekile.
- Ukungonwabi okwandayo: Ekubeni umzimba sele ukhulelwe kabini, unokufumana iintlungu zomqolo kunye nokudinwa ngakumbi ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwesithathu.
- Iziphumo zehomoni: Abanye abantu banokuba nesicaphucaphu, ukuhlanza, kunye nokutshintsha kweemvakalelo ngeli xesha, okubangelwa kukutshintsha kweehomoni.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba, nangona uninzi lwezi ntlungu ziqhelekile, ukuba unentlungu enganyamezelekiyo, ukopha kakhulu, okanye naziphi na ezinye iimpawu ezingaqhelekanga, bonana nogqirha wakho ngoko nangoko.Sukulibala.
Ngaba ufuna ukwazi isini somntwana kwangaphambili?
"Hayi, ngeli xesha sigqibe ekubeni siyigcine iyimfihlo. Bendisoloko ndifuna ukwenza loo nto," utshilo uMelissa.
Ukuba abazali baya kufumanisa okanye abafuni ukufumanisa isini somntwana kwangethuba nge-ultrasound scan, sisigqibo sabo sobuqu. Kukho iingenelo kunye neengxaki.
- Iingenelo zokwazi kwangaphambili: Oku kukunceda ukulungiselela igumbi, ukuthenga impahla, nokukhetha igama lomntwana. Kunokunceda nabanye abantwana endlwini ukuba balungiselele ukufika "kodade omtsha" okanye "umzalwana omtsha."
- Iingenelo zokuyigcina iyimfihlo: Ukumangaliswa novuyo lokuzalwa komntwana alunakuthelekiswa nanto. Kukunceda ugxile koko umntwana wakho akudingayo, endaweni yokubotshelelwa sisini somntwana.
Ekugqibeleni, olu lukhetho lwakho kunye nolweqabane lakho. Nokuba ugqiba kwentoni na, kulungile.
Ungathanda ukumzala njani umntwana wakho?
UMelissa uthi ngamava akhe amabini: "Ukuzalwa kokuqala kwancediswa kakhulu ngamayeza. Bandinike amayeza okubangela ukuba ndibeleke (iPitocin) kunye ne-epidural yokunciphisa iintlungu. Kodwa okwesibini kwakungokwemvelo kakhulu. Andizange ndixhunywe kumatshini. Ndahlala ekhaya kangangeeyure ezili-10 ndaza ndaya esibhedlele. Ndinethemba lokwenza okufanayo ngeli xesha."
Kule mava mabini, singafunda ngeendlela ezimbini eziphambili zokuzala. Masizijonge ngokusondeleyo.
| Indlela yokuzala | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Ukuzalwa ngoncedo lwezonyango | Kule meko, ukuzala kwenzeka esibhedlele, phantsi kweliso likagqirha. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, kunikwa amayeza anjengePitocin ukuqala okanye ukukhawulezisa ukudumba. Izithomalalisi zentlungu ezifana ne -epidural, inaliti emgogodleni, zisetyenziselwa ukulawula iintlungu. |
| Ukuzalwa Kwendalo | Oku kuquka ukunciphisa ukungenelela kwezonyango kangangoko kunokwenzeka nokuvumela umzimba ukuba uphilise ngokwendalo. Abanye abantu bachitha ixesha elithile ekhaya emva kokuba iintlungu zokubeleka ziqalile baze baye esibhedlele. Endaweni yamayeza, basebenzisa umthambo wokuphefumla kunye nokuhlamba okufudumeleyo ukulawula iintlungu. |
Kubalulekile: Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela oyikhethayo, ukhuseleko lwakho nolomntwana wakho kufuneka luze kuqala . Ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba unethemba lokubeleka ngendlela yendalo, ukungenelela kwezonyango kunokufuneka xa kukho imeko engxamisekileyo. Ke ngoko, kububulumko ukuxoxa ngale nto nogqirha wakho uze ugqibe ngendlela efanelekileyo kwimpilo yakho neyomntwana wakho.
Ngaba abanye abantwana bakulungele usana olutsha?
“Oonyana bethu ababini bonwabile kakhulu. Baqale bathi bafuna udade, ngoku bathi bafuna umnakwabo,” utshilo uMelissa encumile.
Xa ilungu elitsha lijoyina usapho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukulungiselela abanye abantwana endlwini ukuba bakulungele oko.
- Thetha nabantwana bakho kwangethuba: Baxelele ukuba ulindele umntwana. Bafundise ngendlela isisu esikhula ngayo kunye nento eyenziwa ngumntwana ngaphakathi esibelekweni.
- Babandakanye emsebenzini wokulungiselela: bancede bakhethe iimpahla zomntwana kwaye ulungiselele amathoyizi. Oku kuya kubenza bazive ngathi nabo benza indima yabo.
- Nika ukuzithemba: Yazisa abantwana bakho ukuba uthando lwabo ngawe aluyi kuncipha emva kokuzalwa komntwana omtsha. Zibekele ixesha lokuba wedwa nabo emva kokuzalwa komntwana.
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana babe nezimvo ezahlukeneyo. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukubabandakanya ngothando kolu hambo lutsha.
Kuthekani ngokunqwenela ukutya okungaqhelekanga ngexesha lokukhulelwa?
Ngexesha lokukhulelwa, abanye abantu baba neminqweno engaqhelekanga yokutya. Oku sikubiza ngokuba "yindlala." Abanye bathi luphawu oluvela emzimbeni ukuze ufumane izondlo ozifunayo.
Kodwa iingcali zithi, "Isizathu sesayensi esibangela ezi nkanuko zokutya asikaziwa." Kusenokwenzeka ukuba kungenxa yotshintsho kwindlela yokunambitha kunye nevumba olubangelwa kukutshintsha kwamahomoni.
Ngoko ke, ukuba unqwenela into efana nemango, i-pickle, okanye i-ayisikhrim, kulungile ukuyitya ngokulinganisela . Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukutya ukutya okunesondlo kunye nokutya okunempilo . Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unqwenela izinto ezingatyiwayo, njengothuli, itshokhwe, okanye isepha (imeko ebizwa ngokuba yiPica), kunokuba yingozi. Kwimeko enjalo, funa ingcebiso kagqirha ngoko nangoko .
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukukhulelwa ngakunye kuhlukile, kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kuqhelekile ukuziva uzithembile kwaye ungoyiki kakhulu xa ukhulelwe okwesibini okanye okwesithathu kunexesha lokuqala.
- Ukudinwa, isicaphucaphu, kunye nokungonwabi ngexesha lokukhulelwa kuqhelekile. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uneempawu ezikukhathazayo okanye oziva ngathi zinzima, thetha nogqirha wakho.
- Xa uthatha isigqibo ngendlela yokubeleka (ngokwemvelo okanye ngoncedo lwezonyango), cinga ngokhuseleko lwakho nolomntwana wakho kwaye uxoxe ngalo nogqirha wakho ukuze wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo.
- Xa kufika usana olutsha kusapho, lungiselela abanye abantwana endlwini ngothando kwaye ubenze babe yinxalenye yovuyo.
- Nangona ukunqwenela ukutya kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngexesha lokukhulelwa, soloko ubeka phambili ukutya okunesondlo nokulinganiselayo.
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